Biggus Titus of Oxford University

The positioning of that child's face - it's disgusting.

I could happily support him wearing the dress and makeup. They’re just window dressing. But the fake boobs? No way. He should keep his fetish at home. I agree with pp’s assertion that he’s involving everyone in his kink. A bit of a laugh for men. But intimidating, demeaning and intrusive for women. Mission accomplished.

I'm starting to think you know, its not enough to laugh and fume at these dickheads on Mumsnet, even though it feels satisfying. We need to be sending postcards, cards, letters etc to the decision makers. Can we all buy a stash of "get well" cards and postage stamps, and communicate our fury? Please! Let's let Oxford know they are a laughing stock. How else will they know? They sure as hell don't read Mumsnet.

Yes.

So true. And I think it was an event for a children’s charity, if I remember correctly.

It's eye level for children

With respect, there is a vast difference between being awkward/geeky/too bright and looking odd (a category many of us would fit into) and co-opting unconsenting women and children in your sexual fetish. If this guy were the former (carrying satchel in to work, carefully lining up books) I would agree this is bullying - and frankly he’d fit right in in Oxford. It isn’t. This is something very very different and this man is getting an absolute blast from flaunting insanely large fake boobs in public.

That is why this is not bullying and why posters are saying you need better boundaries. The people to feel sorry for here are the women and children this man forces his fetish on.

He’s been doing this for a while - was picked up on Threads last summer.

“Saying no becomes right wing bigotry.”

And for some people, they get a sense of power and righteousness in making the allegations that anyone they don’t agree with must be ‘right wing’ or ‘bigots’.

To me, those people are as credible as the man yelling ‘stop murdering children’ and ‘stop killing us’ at a group of women having to be protected from that man and his supporters by police when women and girls are simply standing around chatting while getting ready to protest to have the government table guidance for law created and passed over a decade and a half ago.

I am sure those people feel ever so good making ridiculous allegations but all it does it show that they are not even bothering to get informed about who the women are who are raising the alarm and are perpetuating misogyny designed to silence women and girls.

Nope, people (men) need to leave their fetishises at home. Or take them out to a fetish club or similar where they can hang out with like-minded consenting people.

Nobody here is pointing and laughing. We’re aghast and horrified at yet another example of women’s boundaries being trampled over.

@Lady1576

If you are doing research, I recommend you research the people who have been considered the founders of queer theory such as Foucault. And understand what motivated them.

Including the political influence that Foucault had on the people considered the intellectuals of France who successfully campaigned to have the age of consent lowered. If I find some of the French women and men who over the past ten years have recounted their child sex abuse that was allowed and perpetrated by the very men who declared that children were sexual beings too and took ‘lovers’ that were children, sometimes their intellectual friend’s children and were celebrated at the time.

This was considered progressive and was normalised. The mess that was the laws around sexual consent there also then impacted on the ability of women in France to get justice for rape. Even children.

All because people who raised the alarms about behaviour that should have been red flags for safeguarding children and women were denounced as not progressive and not understanding the theories of modern behaviour.

John Money is another man that has been influential. But there are others too. Read about just what behaviours they advocate as wanting normalised and then think about how those people have shaped the current thinking about that word ‘queer’. Normalising paraphilias where a man can wear large prosthetic breasts to work, or where men are led down the street with a dog collar and lead while they are wearing a dog mask, or men walking through an IKEA restaurant with dog tail butt plugs and a dog mask.

Here is an article about the Rainbow dildo adorned monkey child entertainment sponsored by a council.

https://www.spiked-online.com/2021/07/13/the-rainbow-dildo-butt-monkey-is-no-laughing-matter/

There is a reason these men have sought to normalised their paraphilic behaviours. It is not a bug, so to speak, it is a feature.

Understanding autogynephilia is hard when one group of male people with transgender identities don’t want it to be recognised because that would significantly weaken their claim to be female in anyway and another group of male people with transgender identities are very open about how they are aroused by not only thinking of themselves as being female (including sissy porn and to a degree transmaxxing), but who also are sexually aroused by other people treating them as if they are female. This latter point includes female people who are forced to do so due to policies and social pressure to do so.

The issue is all brought together though about power. Power to do what they want that transgresses other people’s personal boundaries around sexualised behaviour.

And doing so in plain sight of society and being celebrated for it.

You've obviously never heard of AGP.

These men not only cross boundaries to make people they encounter uncomfortable, it is the very uncomfortableness demonstrated by the women and girls that encounter him that are the feeling he is wanting in order to satisfy the need.

So for example, if there were female toilets that no women entered they wouldn't bother. It is the women and their uncomfortableness that they are after, not 'somewhere to pee'. Men after all, can pee in any corner of any road or by a hedge. It is why they go out of their way to use the 'ladies' rather than just use the mixed sex toilets right in front of them. It is knowing that the women and girls in the toilets and who know that they are in a confined space with a potential danger that is the point.

@Lady1576 have you see Grayson Perry and his codpiece?
Would that be ok to wear, as a lecturer?
What if a trans identifying woman wore it?

I mean it’s below waist level, so less eye catching.
I haven’t been able to attach the image, I’m sure someone can, and to be fair to Perry it’s much less obtrusive than this man’s plastic breasts.

There's a reason men like this choose a university - or even schools as we saw with the Canadian boob fetish guy. There's a special thrill in targeting the young. Watching their unease and how they try to hide their repulsion while encouraging them to fawn and offer insincere adultation to prove they're not bigots or "pearl clutchers"

It's all part of a sustained attempt to erode the boundaries of what is acceptable in society. If you gaslight and groom children and young people to accept the unacceptable then they become open targets. Unable to say no to predatory behaviour as they've leant from allegedly responsible adults that there are no limits, there are no boundaries and anything goes.

Saying no becomes right wing bigotry. Along with safeguarding children.

I guess the OP forgot that real women have to ‘be kind’, otherwise we’re horrible bullies/bigots. But men don’t have to be kind, they can make the women around them feel mocked, belittled or uncomfortable.

Aside from that, I honestly cannot believe any man doing this is NOT looking for attention or trying to provoke a reaction. Unless he has prosthetic dysmorphia??

Don’t tell his supporter. She wouldn't want to think herself gullible 🤫

The worst thing to happen since WW2 was the Left gaining control of the universities. They have attacked and undermined the literary canon, promoted dangerous loons like Foucault, and now we have nonsense like this.

‘But people wear all sorts of things at work’

i’m getting a bit old now. I’ve worked in a lot of offices. Far far too many honestly. Lots of different industries as well and I would say no, people don’t wear all sorts of things at work.
most places I have worked have an expectation of smartness, even if business casual. There is a minimum standard of formal dress. Even in industries where it is more casual, everyone still had to dress to a minimum standard. No one could turn up dressed for the beach. Even when I worked in an industry where there was a lot of gender non conformity and it was definitely a bit ‘out there’ at times, there’s no way on earth that this person would have been allowed to dress like that.

Does he have a protected characteristic? Because that’s what he would argue, alongside academic freedom. And Oxford is so risk averse that they would never let it get to tribunal. So they won’t do anything. The students and other staff will suffer, and this man will get his thrills.

They are cowards if they think they can't do anything. Bringing the company/entity in to disrepute is written in to almost every contract.

I agree, its just too weird. The massive plastic breasts and the zz top beard combo 😂😂😂

It has to be satire surely?

Thank you. I saw. I'm following, so will probably hypocritically post again at some point having said I won't! I do think that image shows where so much of the distrust and anger comes from. Many people aren't even aware of this facet of the ideology. It's not what it ALL is - my goodness, what's going on is SO complex! But...

I think the readiness to assume the worst, and directness in calling it out here, is in direct (inverse? I always get confused over what that means!) proportion to the overall societal tendency to ignore it currently - as this tendency is astonishingly inconsistent with the approaches taken to protecting other groups besides women.

The anger that Lady's beginning to understand reflects that imbalance, and the stronger posts here are a desperate, infuriated attempt to redress it.

Presumably you'd object to a person wearing a t shirt with a racist or sexist slogan on it to work, or making sexist or racist comments under the claim they are "just banter"?

This is exactly the same.

It's a sexist statement aimed at women's bodies. It's not ok, and I am very sorry you value women so little that you can't see that.

Well yes, he dehumanising women. As a white male, he is mocking an oppressed group just as much as if he wore blackface. Why the extremely large breasts? Why not a normal size?