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Can't believe I'm writing this, but disappointed in JK today

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RobynMiller · 22/04/2026 21:22

I know she is just one person but her tweets today are really undermining the whole GC argument.

Link: https://x.com/jk_rowling/status/2046948644373274709

'Nothing's changed. I was being honest about how I feel about an individual trans woman I know, who was a gay man pre-transition, and who I met for the first time post-transition. Objectively speaking, she has physical characteristics that make it fairly obvious she wasn't born female, but she's a gentle, funny person I've never referred to as anything other than 'she' and 'her'. I find it perfectly easy to reconcile my fond feelings towards her, and my experience of her as someone with very female-coded energy, with a belief that she hasn't literally changed sex (and incidentally, she doesn't believe she's literally changed sex, either).'

Basically, someone asked her about the trans identified male she mentioned in her 2020 essay and this was her response.

Does she not realise there can be NO EXCEPTIONS? Give an inch they'll take a mile and all that. It doesn't matter that he is gentle and funny or that he has very female-coded energy whatever the hell that means.

This does make it seem like when she calls TIMs out she is now doing it maliciously as she is perfectly happy to play pretend if she likes them enough.

Just so frustrating as it basically says that 'we could all play along with TRAs just fine and are choosing not to because we're such meanies 😡'

J.K. Rowling (@jk_rowling) on X

@surreykiwi @tonymc39 @theglassfish13 Nothing's changed. I was being honest about how I feel about an individual trans woman I know, who was a gay man pre-transition, and who I met for the first time post-transition. Objectively speaking, she has physi...

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ItsNotOrwell · 25/04/2026 09:13

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 25/04/2026 07:04

It’s not about the friendliness of the woman. I mean, yes there’s no need for women to wear frills for the sake of small children. It isn’t the frills that make them safer to approach than a man.

Isn’t that what I was saying? In most cases, women are safer to approach than men, but not always. By “friendly”, I meant “not dangerous”.

Imdunfer · 25/04/2026 08:22

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 24/04/2026 22:10

Hormones don't change your skeleton. Your hips and shoulders and ribs and arm length don't change. Your gait doesn't change.

I've met a few "ladies" who made me think "that person looks really odd" and then the penny dropped. The things you can't alter give the game away and the mismatch between those and what you can alter cause an "uncanny valley" effect that makes you more noticable, to me at least, than if you were an unaltered man in a dress.

That study from 1993 has been confirmed by later work. Facial sexual dimorphism in humans is deemed scientific fact by everyone working in computer vision.

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Facial sexual dimorphism in humans is deemed scientific fact by everyone working in computer vision.

I'm sorry but it really isn't that categorical.

Most women will have feminine features. Most men will have masculine features. That's the only "fact".

Most is not all and there is a big overlap. There are women with very masculine faces and men with very feminine faces.

Every time women have this discussion I am frustrated by the fact that women cannot see how they are effectively stating that some of their fellow females are not feminine looking enough to be a real woman.

Imdunfer · 25/04/2026 08:09

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 25/04/2026 07:06

This thread’s descended into wittering bollox, what a shame. It started as a heated discussion about where the boundaries should be and how significant individual behaviour is. Private versus public.

Frankly some of it has become as bad as the non violent aspects of trans activism.

Imdunfer · 25/04/2026 08:06

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 24/04/2026 21:57

Humans can tell what sex you are extremely reliably sex based on face alone. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8474840/

Other clues include:

  • shoulder-to-waist ratio
  • waist-to-hip ratio
  • arm and leg length as a ratio of height
  • gait
  • voice
  • adam's apple
  • size and shape of hands
  • brow ridges
  • hair line
  • shape of rib cage
  • how you move when you breathe, because women's ribs are hinged differently from mens'.

Take all that together and either someone is clearly one sex, or you realise that something jars about that person and you look again to figure out what it is. There's been a few people I've been like "there's something really odd about that lady... ah, that's actually a man whose had feminising surgery" about.

"You can't tell if someone's trans" is pure copium. Cover Buck Angel's face from nose down and you can see from her isolated eyes and forehead that she's female. Brow ridges do not lie.

We're talking about 100%, not "extremely reliably". There is an overlap in every single one of the features that you mention.

Males cannot 100% be told from females in ordinary social interaction.

Anyone who thinks they can is simply blissfully unaware of the ones they couldn't.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 25/04/2026 07:06

This thread’s descended into wittering bollox, what a shame. It started as a heated discussion about where the boundaries should be and how significant individual behaviour is. Private versus public.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 25/04/2026 07:04

ItsNotOrwell · 25/04/2026 03:38

@logiccalls

We need to be able to tell a child to look for a lady, if they are lost. We need to look for a female, quickly discernable by appearance, if we ourselves are in trouble. All cultures at all times have differences between the clothing, hairstyle, face-paint, and so on, to enhance the ability of everyone to instantly identify the females from the males, at a glance and at a distance, for good reasons.

You believe the reason some women wear feminine clothing, style their hair long and apply make-up is so children can discern them from men when in trouble? You really can’t think of any other reasons? And what of those women who don’t do those things? Additionally, not all women are friendly.

It’s not about the friendliness of the woman. I mean, yes there’s no need for women to wear frills for the sake of small children. It isn’t the frills that make them safer to approach than a man.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 25/04/2026 07:03

MyAmpleSheep · 25/04/2026 00:35

Honestly, all you're successfully proving here is you have a bunch of deeply entrenched prejudices about trans people and some very weird assumptions about how they behave.

I don't think trans identifying people are monolithic in their beliefs or behaviour; but watching Upton swear under oath that he was a biological woman was quite an eye-opener. For me and I suspect mny others it made it very clear that some trans identifying people have some ideas so strange as definitely to call into question their individual suitability for certain kinds of employment.

If it helps - some non trans-identifying people did exactly the same: Isla Bumba is a name that comes to mind. I don't think I'd employ her to sex my chickens either.

That's a good question, isn't it? Given that she isn't trans-identifying, am I allowed to rule her out of a position because she thinks other people can change sex? Is that still disccrimination on the grounds of the PC of GR, when she doesn't hold that PC nor is thought to hold it?

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Beth Upton claimed he was a biological woman because he wasn’t a robot and was a woman. Totally disingenuous. He knew full well that he wasn’t a woman by any definition ever used.

He was only there in court because he was a man. Ridiculous. And I would not employ someone who lied to me and expected me to go along with it. Whatever the lie.

ItsNotOrwell · 25/04/2026 03:38

@logiccalls

We need to be able to tell a child to look for a lady, if they are lost. We need to look for a female, quickly discernable by appearance, if we ourselves are in trouble. All cultures at all times have differences between the clothing, hairstyle, face-paint, and so on, to enhance the ability of everyone to instantly identify the females from the males, at a glance and at a distance, for good reasons.

You believe the reason some women wear feminine clothing, style their hair long and apply make-up is so children can discern them from men when in trouble? You really can’t think of any other reasons? And what of those women who don’t do those things? Additionally, not all women are friendly.

Subaroo · 25/04/2026 01:03

BusyAzureTraybake · 24/04/2026 23:15

If someone pitches up for a job interview and comes across as a high-maintenance personality who won't be a team player then a reason will be found for not giving them the job (unless the role requires that sort of person😉)
That will apply to anyone, trans or otherwise.

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If I were doing the hiring I wouldn't need to ask the 6'2" person in a miniskirt who came clomping into my office any questions about their gender beliefs. It would be obvious, no?

dinodart · 25/04/2026 00:53

No, I get it. It's easy to say you will only use sex-based pronouns, but real life isn't so simple. I don't believe transwomen are women, and I don't think they should be treated as such in law. But having to actually interact with them in real life is different than interacting with random awful ones showing off their perversions online. I know a transwoman and I am simply not going to bring my personal ideological stance into our interactions.

MyAmpleSheep · 25/04/2026 00:35

ScaryFacess · 24/04/2026 23:36

@MyAmpleSheep If you asked Dr. Upton - a man who swore in court that he was now a biological female - to tell you how many females were in a cohort of chicks, would you trust the answer he gave? Or would he just say "I can't tell, I haven't asked them how they feel"?

I imagine she would simply tell you how many females there were, and I have no idea why you'd think she would do otherwise. Honestly, all you're successfully proving here is you have a bunch of deeply entrenched prejudices about trans people and some very weird assumptions about how they behave.

I hope for your sake you're not actually an employer, though I've got to admit it would be deeply satisfying to see some of your peculiar ideas about discrimination law tested in court.

Honestly, all you're successfully proving here is you have a bunch of deeply entrenched prejudices about trans people and some very weird assumptions about how they behave.

I don't think trans identifying people are monolithic in their beliefs or behaviour; but watching Upton swear under oath that he was a biological woman was quite an eye-opener. For me and I suspect mny others it made it very clear that some trans identifying people have some ideas so strange as definitely to call into question their individual suitability for certain kinds of employment.

If it helps - some non trans-identifying people did exactly the same: Isla Bumba is a name that comes to mind. I don't think I'd employ her to sex my chickens either.

That's a good question, isn't it? Given that she isn't trans-identifying, am I allowed to rule her out of a position because she thinks other people can change sex? Is that still disccrimination on the grounds of the PC of GR, when she doesn't hold that PC nor is thought to hold it?

MyAmpleSheep · 25/04/2026 00:26

ScaryFacess · 24/04/2026 23:46

As far as the law goes, EA2010 Schedule 9 Section 1(1) lists circumstances where it's reasonable to refuse to employ someone who holds the PC of GR, or who fails to hold a particular belief (such as the immutability of sex).

Oh dear. No. No, it doesn't. Schedule 9 allows you to apply a requirement to have a particular protected characteristic if it is a genuine occupational requirement (such as requiring a vicar to be Christian); the bar for it to be a genuine occupational requirement is high, and the onus is on the employer if challenged to prove it, and it specifically states this exception cannot be used for discriminatory purposes. This schedule absolutely does not justify refusing to employ a trans person because you have weird prejudiced ideas about how they might approach sexing chickens.

I can only say again, I hope for your sake you're not an employer.

EA2010 Schedule 9 Section 2 is about religious employment. I wasn't refering to that.

Schedule 9 Section 1 is more general. Schedule 9 section 1(3)(a) meas explicitly that people who hold the PC of GR can legally be refused employment for certain positions. What positions do you think those are? Parliament obviously had something in mind.

Going back to the belief of "I've changed sex", the same section 9(1) applies to other PC's, including belief. Are you quite quite sure it could never be a genuine occupational requirement to believe in the immutability of sex?

I note your concern about my status. The I hope for your sake trope often gets introduced into an argument by a side that's running out of ideas and wants to play the (wo)man instead of the argument. Let's not get personal.

Northermcharn · 25/04/2026 00:10

'with a belief that she hasn't literally changed sex (and incidentally, she doesn't believe she's literally changed sex, either).'

Well this is how it used to be isn't it? We'd all bumble along accepting each other , at the same time knowing a person can't change sex. Everyone knew and no one pretended. Until... the gender woo bollox, Stonewall disaster, trying to manipulate language, eradicating women's rights etc.

So it's sensible to keep to the way it should always have been, the way it should have stayed without these rampant male pattern violence TRAs, ruining it for everybody.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 25/04/2026 00:04

Do feel free to refute with anything other than that cheap shot though 🤷‍♀️

Ereshkigalangcleg · 25/04/2026 00:03

I know, sad times.

ScaryFacess · 25/04/2026 00:02

Ereshkigalangcleg · 24/04/2026 23:56

Mate, it’s all just blah blah blah and you know it. But well done on actually acknowledging what the Supreme Court said about what biological sex means, unlike virtually all of your reality-challenged peers.

Mate it's all just blah blah blah

Sorry to hear that you're struggling to follow the conversation.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 24/04/2026 23:59

ScaryFacess · 24/04/2026 23:46

As far as the law goes, EA2010 Schedule 9 Section 1(1) lists circumstances where it's reasonable to refuse to employ someone who holds the PC of GR, or who fails to hold a particular belief (such as the immutability of sex).

Oh dear. No. No, it doesn't. Schedule 9 allows you to apply a requirement to have a particular protected characteristic if it is a genuine occupational requirement (such as requiring a vicar to be Christian); the bar for it to be a genuine occupational requirement is high, and the onus is on the employer if challenged to prove it, and it specifically states this exception cannot be used for discriminatory purposes. This schedule absolutely does not justify refusing to employ a trans person because you have weird prejudiced ideas about how they might approach sexing chickens.

I can only say again, I hope for your sake you're not an employer.

What it does allow is for certain jobs to be sex based, which as you acknowledged, is based on biological sex, isn’t it?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 24/04/2026 23:56

ScaryFacess · 24/04/2026 23:20

You say: "the law recognises that trans people can undergo a process which reassigns their sex physiologically". It doesn't say that. It says "changing physical or other attributes" "for the purpose of" reassigning their sex. It purposefully avoids saying the sex has been actually been reassigned, and even if it did (as in the GRA) reassigning something that is immutable is merely a convenient legal fiction. Canute stood on the beach and reassigned the tide and lo, it was reassigned, and his courtiers clapped. But the water didn't actually move.

The wording is "for the purpose of reassigning the person's sex by changing physiological or other attributes of sex". That is a clear acknowledgement that physiological or other attributes of sex can be changed. If you said that Canute physiologically changed the attributes of the beach, then you are saying that he did change the beach. The water moved, whether you like it or not.

I wholly reject the idea that passage gives someone licence to "believe" they have actually changed sex in the meaning of the word as I (and others use it.)

You can wholly reject whatever you like, that doesn't change the law. As for the meaning of the word "sex" in this passage, FWS established in the Supreme Court that "sex" in the Equality Act 2010 always means "biological sex" so that's what it has to mean here. The law therefore acknowledges people with the protected characteristic of gender reassignment can undergo processes to change physiological attributes of their biological sex.

But if you're employing a developmental biologist to conduct some experiments on chicken embryos I think it would be reasonable to avoid a person who believed that their hormone treatment and surgery made them the opposite sex to the one in which they were born if they insisted that sex in that scenario meant the same as it does when referring to male and female chicken embryos in the experiements they were employed to conduct.

Again, the law is not on your side here. Unless their belief changed the way they did their work with the chicken embryos (again, behaviour, not belief), it is irrelevant. I personally think believing in an omnipotent God is incompatible with science, but some religious people are scientists, plenty of them are perfectly good scientists, and if I refused to employ someone to a scientific role because of their religious beliefs, it would be - guess what - discrimination.

And once again you are refusing to address how an employer would even know their trans employee's precise beliefs about their sex, without engaging in intrusive questioning (likely discriminatory) or making assumptions (also likely discriminatory).

Mate, it’s all just blah blah blah and you know it. But well done on actually acknowledging what the Supreme Court said about what biological sex means, unlike virtually all of your reality-challenged peers.

ScaryFacess · 24/04/2026 23:46

MyAmpleSheep · 24/04/2026 23:32

The wording is "for the purpose of reassigning the person's sex by changing physiological or other attributes of sex". That is a clear acknowledgement that physiological or other attributes of sex can be changed.

Tha attributes of sex can be changed is not in dispute; this law doesn't say that "sex" itself can be changed. The GRA sort-of says that, but again, as a legal fiction in certain circumstances (as FWS affirmed.)

None of that is relevant to changing biological sex and anyone who thinks they can actually change their biological sex is unhinged. Anyone who says they can is either lying or stupid.

I think it's reasonable that a creationist would never get a job as an experimental evolutionary biologist. You might feel otherwise.

As far as the law goes, EA2010 Schedule 9 Section 1(1) lists circumstances where it's reasonable to refuse to employ someone who holds the PC of GR, or who fails to hold a particular belief (such as the immutability of sex).

As far as the law goes, EA2010 Schedule 9 Section 1(1) lists circumstances where it's reasonable to refuse to employ someone who holds the PC of GR, or who fails to hold a particular belief (such as the immutability of sex).

Oh dear. No. No, it doesn't. Schedule 9 allows you to apply a requirement to have a particular protected characteristic if it is a genuine occupational requirement (such as requiring a vicar to be Christian); the bar for it to be a genuine occupational requirement is high, and the onus is on the employer if challenged to prove it, and it specifically states this exception cannot be used for discriminatory purposes. This schedule absolutely does not justify refusing to employ a trans person because you have weird prejudiced ideas about how they might approach sexing chickens.

I can only say again, I hope for your sake you're not an employer.

ScaryFacess · 24/04/2026 23:36

@MyAmpleSheep If you asked Dr. Upton - a man who swore in court that he was now a biological female - to tell you how many females were in a cohort of chicks, would you trust the answer he gave? Or would he just say "I can't tell, I haven't asked them how they feel"?

I imagine she would simply tell you how many females there were, and I have no idea why you'd think she would do otherwise. Honestly, all you're successfully proving here is you have a bunch of deeply entrenched prejudices about trans people and some very weird assumptions about how they behave.

I hope for your sake you're not actually an employer, though I've got to admit it would be deeply satisfying to see some of your peculiar ideas about discrimination law tested in court.

RedSeals · 24/04/2026 23:34

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 24/04/2026 23:07

If a trans person is treated worse than a non trans person of the same sex.

But if any other employee tried to force others to change their beliefs or rewrite the rules of English just for them, they wouldn't be employed for long.

And everyone else is described using sex based pronouns. So they're not being treated worse than anyone if they're subject to normal English pronoun usage also.

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Sex has nothing to do with comparators for gender reassignment discrimination. It would be like saying the comparator in a disability discrimination case must be someone of the same sex that isn’t disabled. It’s just not how the equality act is written.

MyAmpleSheep · 24/04/2026 23:32

The wording is "for the purpose of reassigning the person's sex by changing physiological or other attributes of sex". That is a clear acknowledgement that physiological or other attributes of sex can be changed.

Tha attributes of sex can be changed is not in dispute; this law doesn't say that "sex" itself can be changed. The GRA sort-of says that, but again, as a legal fiction in certain circumstances (as FWS affirmed.)

None of that is relevant to changing biological sex and anyone who thinks they can actually change their biological sex is unhinged. Anyone who says they can is either lying or stupid.

I think it's reasonable that a creationist would never get a job as an experimental evolutionary biologist. You might feel otherwise.

As far as the law goes, EA2010 Schedule 9 Section 1(1) lists circumstances where it's reasonable to refuse to employ someone who holds the PC of GR, or who fails to hold a particular belief (such as the immutability of sex).

ScaryFacess · 24/04/2026 23:20

MyAmpleSheep · 24/04/2026 22:55

You say: "the law recognises that trans people can undergo a process which reassigns their sex physiologically". It doesn't say that. It says "changing physical or other attributes" "for the purpose of" reassigning their sex. It purposefully avoids saying the sex has been actually been reassigned, and even if it did (as in the GRA) reassigning something that is immutable is merely a convenient legal fiction. Canute stood on the beach and reassigned the tide and lo, it was reassigned, and his courtiers clapped. But the water didn't actually move.

I wholly reject the idea that passage gives someone licence to "believe" they have actually changed sex in the meaning of the word as I (and others use it.) If a reasonable person takes from that passage they have actually "changed" to the other sex, then they and I are using the word sex in very different ways. They may however reasonably believe they have changed "legal sex" and, I see that meaning of sex is closely connected to the PC of GR.

I take your point about it likely only becomes a workplace issue as a matter of behaviour. But if you're employing a developmental biologist to conduct some experiments on chicken embryos I think it would be reasonable to avoid a person who believed that their hormone treatment and surgery made them the opposite sex to the one in which they were born if they insisted that sex in that scenario meant the same as it does when referring to male and female chicken embryos in the experiements they were employed to conduct.

If you asked Dr. Upton - a man who swore in court that he was now a biological female - to tell you how many females were in a cohort of chicks, would you trust the answer he gave? Or would he just say "I can't tell, I haven't asked them how they feel"?

Edited

You say: "the law recognises that trans people can undergo a process which reassigns their sex physiologically". It doesn't say that. It says "changing physical or other attributes" "for the purpose of" reassigning their sex. It purposefully avoids saying the sex has been actually been reassigned, and even if it did (as in the GRA) reassigning something that is immutable is merely a convenient legal fiction. Canute stood on the beach and reassigned the tide and lo, it was reassigned, and his courtiers clapped. But the water didn't actually move.

The wording is "for the purpose of reassigning the person's sex by changing physiological or other attributes of sex". That is a clear acknowledgement that physiological or other attributes of sex can be changed. If you said that Canute physiologically changed the attributes of the beach, then you are saying that he did change the beach. The water moved, whether you like it or not.

I wholly reject the idea that passage gives someone licence to "believe" they have actually changed sex in the meaning of the word as I (and others use it.)

You can wholly reject whatever you like, that doesn't change the law. As for the meaning of the word "sex" in this passage, FWS established in the Supreme Court that "sex" in the Equality Act 2010 always means "biological sex" so that's what it has to mean here. The law therefore acknowledges people with the protected characteristic of gender reassignment can undergo processes to change physiological attributes of their biological sex.

But if you're employing a developmental biologist to conduct some experiments on chicken embryos I think it would be reasonable to avoid a person who believed that their hormone treatment and surgery made them the opposite sex to the one in which they were born if they insisted that sex in that scenario meant the same as it does when referring to male and female chicken embryos in the experiements they were employed to conduct.

Again, the law is not on your side here. Unless their belief changed the way they did their work with the chicken embryos (again, behaviour, not belief), it is irrelevant. I personally think believing in an omnipotent God is incompatible with science, but some religious people are scientists, plenty of them are perfectly good scientists, and if I refused to employ someone to a scientific role because of their religious beliefs, it would be - guess what - discrimination.

And once again you are refusing to address how an employer would even know their trans employee's precise beliefs about their sex, without engaging in intrusive questioning (likely discriminatory) or making assumptions (also likely discriminatory).

BusyAzureTraybake · 24/04/2026 23:15

If someone pitches up for a job interview and comes across as a high-maintenance personality who won't be a team player then a reason will be found for not giving them the job (unless the role requires that sort of person😉)
That will apply to anyone, trans or otherwise.

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 24/04/2026 23:07

TOYL · 24/04/2026 20:37

You’re getting a little mixed up. The Supreme Court judgement clarified that a trans woman is considered a man under the Equality Act. But for a gender reassignment claim, the comparator is someone who doesn’t have the protected characteristic of gender reassignment. If a trans person is treated worse than a non-trans person in the same situation, it’s discrimination

If a trans person is treated worse than a non trans person of the same sex.

But if any other employee tried to force others to change their beliefs or rewrite the rules of English just for them, they wouldn't be employed for long.

And everyone else is described using sex based pronouns. So they're not being treated worse than anyone if they're subject to normal English pronoun usage also.

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