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To what extent are we allowed to discuss parallels between cults and gender ideology?

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WitchyWitcherson · 15/04/2026 12:48

Although harrowing and upsetting, I find cult documentaries fascinating. There are a couple that stand out to me as having really strong parallels to gender ideological beliefs.

Notably (on Netflix if anyone else wants to watch them!):

  • Docs on Fundamentalist Latter Day Saints (FLDS) such as Keep Sweet. The phrase and purpose of "Keep Sweet" as used by the Jeffs patriarchs has a lot of similarities with the "Be Kind" narrative that has been peddled to keep people from questioning things.
  • The Programme: Cons, Cults and Kidnappings - Episode 2 in particular on vulnerability of desperate parents to looking for easy solutions, then subsequent denial/minimisation of the damages done to their children.
  • Twin Flames: They coerce people into medical transition because of a belief in a male or female spirit.

Anyway, these parallels to me are stark, but over the years I've noticed post deletions where people describe gender ideology as cult-like (incidentally in the "The Programme" doc, there was an online forum for parents with kids in the 'school' that deleted all posts criticising the programme...! Talk about more parallels...). So I ask... to what extent are we allowed to discuss these parallels without posts being deleted?

To caveat: I understand not all trans-identified people have homogenous beliefs on sex and gender, and I'm not saying all trans-identified people are part of some cult conspiracy, just that there are aspects to gender ideology and some of the people who are proponents of said ideology adhering to similar behaviours to people who are within cults (shutting down discussion, holding onto beliefs in the face of clear facts and harms, claiming special/"other" status, offering a solution to people's suffering etc. etc.).

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CassOle · 15/04/2026 17:20

Waitwhat23 · 15/04/2026 17:03

Oh, I think I remember that one. Was it one of those youth groups with a worryingly large age range, possibly in Scotland?

I think the one I read was American, but it would not surprise me if that dynamic was within these groups across the world.

ChequerToRed · 15/04/2026 17:20

This is probably a good point to drop in the Zizians.
Aggregation of reports on the violent Zizian cult

The trans aspect was downplayed quite a bit by some media outlets at the time, but it was obviously integral.

Zizians | The Record

The best criminal justice reporting tagged with "Zizians," curated by The Marshall Project.

https://www.themarshallproject.org/records/18692-zizians

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 17:18

soupycustard · 15/04/2026 17:00

Yes. It's one of the reasons that it is so frustrating trying to 'debate' with TRAs, because their language lacks clarity and their premiss lacks logic. It's like trying to talk sensibly and rationally with an overstimulated teen (or toddler). Except that with the latter, sleep or food or listening to loud music for a while has a good chance of bringing them back to rationality.
I don't know what can be done about this realistically though, in a society dominated by a social-media-led emotional disregulation.

I think its the same with extremists of any kind. One of the things that make them extremists is that behaviour. The inability to accept new information or even process information objectively.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 17:16

Shortshriftandlethal · 15/04/2026 17:01

I think Critical Race Theory is one of the three American campus originated theories which under-pin the american 'progressive' vision of society. All three have become blunt instruments that presuppose victimhood and oppression as the main articles of faith...with every societal grouping being perceived to be in a fixed and systemic hierarchy of 'oppressor' and 'oppressed'.

i think it has become a form of ideological group think and does not permit alternative perspectives. Alternative perspectives tend to be themselves positioned with the framework of oppressive constructs that are supposedly meant to disguise the true nature of oppression and exploitation. So, even mathmatics, for example, can become a form of 'white supremacy'. And 'people of colour' who may disagree with any of the edicts are 'coconuts' suffering from false consciousness.

I think certain brands of feminism fall into this group think tendency too....... in which everything comes down to oppression and 'the patriarchy'.

Edited

Ok.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 17:15

SylvanMoon · 15/04/2026 16:57

Do you not perceive that transwomen's needs (i.e. men's) are privileged and considered much more than transmen's (i.e. women's)? They are practically absent from most of the debates (apart from when SexMatters brings up to the SC about their rights when pregnant!).

No tbh. I think they demand equal acknowledgement of their chosen gender identity etc. I dont see TM saying that they don't mind if you think they are women for example.

I know they had a massive go at some of the Lomdon gay clubs who wouldn't let them in. I think TM just annoy some people less but IMO, they are as vocal as TW.

CrystalSingerFan · 15/04/2026 17:15

Shedmistress · 15/04/2026 17:05

Gennies as in 'genuine women'.

Thanks for the explanation. I was trying to search through the possible explanations and failing. AI had nothing to say about it. Interesting.

Shedmistress · 15/04/2026 17:05

Waitwhat23 · 15/04/2026 16:57

Well, yeah. Shows how far back the hatred of actual women by men pretending to be women goes. We see it still today where women are told that men pretending to be women are better at womaning than them. It's the patriarchy at it's most bat shit. Men are best at everything, don't you know?

I can't remember if the term is gennies or jennies or similar but it's a disparaging term for actual women and IIRC, the article talks about how actual women will eventually become obsolete (apart from breeding purposes of course).

Gennies as in 'genuine women'.

Waitwhat23 · 15/04/2026 17:03

CassOle · 15/04/2026 16:59

I can remember reading a piece by a woman who identified as a transman (I can't remember if she detransitioned or not) who discussed the dynamics in their local trans group and how the men who identified as transwomen were controlling of the (often much younger) female members.

The men who identified as transwomen were 'oppressed' and the women who identified as transman were 'oppressors'. Therefore, the females always had to give way to the males. The males' behaviour was described as very predatory, and there was sexual abuse by these older males of the younger females.

I have a feeling that this was all after the cotton ceiling debacle, and that the bloke who wrote about the cotton ceiling was one of the males that the author had known. Morgan something, maybe?

Oh, I think I remember that one. Was it one of those youth groups with a worryingly large age range, possibly in Scotland?

Shortshriftandlethal · 15/04/2026 17:01

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:52

Can I just establish... are you anti CRT? Intersectionalism was originally about understanding that White Feminism isn't helpful or relevant, but is harmful to many non-white women. Is this something you contradict or oppose?

I think Critical Race Theory is one of the three American campus originated theories which under-pin the american 'progressive' vision of society. All three have become blunt instruments that presuppose victimhood and oppression as the main articles of faith...with every societal grouping being perceived to be in a fixed and systemic hierarchy of 'oppressor' and 'oppressed'.

i think it has become a form of ideological group think and does not permit alternative perspectives. Alternative perspectives tend to be themselves positioned with the framework of oppressive constructs that are supposedly meant to disguise the true nature of oppression and exploitation. So, even mathmatics, for example, can become a form of 'white supremacy'. And 'people of colour' who may disagree with any of the edicts are 'coconuts' suffering from false consciousness.

I think certain brands of feminism fall into this group think tendency too....... in which everything comes down to oppression and 'the patriarchy'.

soupycustard · 15/04/2026 17:00

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:45

No it doesnt mean that emotion always blinds you to rationality. This why reading and understanding words is so important in discussions. I said it can. "Can" means that there is the potential for something to occur, but it doesn't mean it will always occur.

Learning to communicate about things that you feel emotional about without letting that emotion lead your interactions is a skill one learns with practice. You have to understand why it is important and keep company who insist on those standards for it to be a priority for you though.

Yes. It's one of the reasons that it is so frustrating trying to 'debate' with TRAs, because their language lacks clarity and their premiss lacks logic. It's like trying to talk sensibly and rationally with an overstimulated teen (or toddler). Except that with the latter, sleep or food or listening to loud music for a while has a good chance of bringing them back to rationality.
I don't know what can be done about this realistically though, in a society dominated by a social-media-led emotional disregulation.

CassOle · 15/04/2026 16:59

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 15/04/2026 16:38

It's not 'trans' IDing women who are pissing on statues in protest against women who say no, threatening dissenting women with 'splintered rolling pins', demanding access to women's spaces. It's 'trans' IDing men who are obsessed with control and oppressive in their treatment of women.

I can remember reading a piece by a woman who identified as a transman (I can't remember if she detransitioned or not) who discussed the dynamics in their local trans group and how the men who identified as transwomen were controlling of the (often much younger) female members.

The men who identified as transwomen were 'oppressed' and the women who identified as transman were 'oppressors'. Therefore, the females always had to give way to the males. The males' behaviour was described as very predatory, and there was sexual abuse by these older males of the younger females.

I have a feeling that this was all after the cotton ceiling debacle, and that the bloke who wrote about the cotton ceiling was one of the males that the author had known. Morgan something, maybe?

SylvanMoon · 15/04/2026 16:57

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:31

"Most had a patriarchal hierarchy that accorded men higher status than women; men’s sense of power was given a boost if the organisation’s patriarchal ideology supported male privilege, giving them permission to be obsessed with control and oppressive in their treatment of women (Bromley and Buschi)"

How is this present in the trans movement if we are expected to accept both trans men and women as their chosen identity?

Do you not perceive that transwomen's needs (i.e. men's) are privileged and considered much more than transmen's (i.e. women's)? They are practically absent from most of the debates (apart from when SexMatters brings up to the SC about their rights when pregnant!).

Waitwhat23 · 15/04/2026 16:57

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:46

So youre talking about the 70s? 50 odd years ago?
What is a Gennie?

Well, yeah. Shows how far back the hatred of actual women by men pretending to be women goes. We see it still today where women are told that men pretending to be women are better at womaning than them. It's the patriarchy at it's most bat shit. Men are best at everything, don't you know?

I can't remember if the term is gennies or jennies or similar but it's a disparaging term for actual women and IIRC, the article talks about how actual women will eventually become obsolete (apart from breeding purposes of course).

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 15/04/2026 16:57

CRT is part of the postmodern hydra, it's all a counterfactual narrative that seeks to undermine and destroy the modern world (postmodern) so as to bring about a pie-in-the-sky Utopian world.

It's all as bogus as a human being changing their sex.

mardirousse · 15/04/2026 16:54

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 13:13

Some of the ones I report are deleted. Many are not. That's my point... the only ones that are ever deleted have personal attacks so obvious, the moderators cant allow it to stand and still act as if they guidelines mean anything. You have to say something really quite extreme about trans people for that post to be deleted. Far worse than you could ever say about a racial group, for instance.

Comparing some of the movement to how cults operate will not get you deleted. You will have to say considerably more than that.

One of my posts was deleted for summarising what two posters had said and commenting that they were "sickeningly self absorbed".
This was because their contributions on whether there should be concern for young people harmed by gender affirming care were centered on themselves (one's access to medication/how the other was accepted as a woman).

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:52

Shortshriftandlethal · 15/04/2026 16:50

Contemporary 'progressive' politics constitute a form of ideological group think. I'd say. There is a high degree of uniformity of perspective across a range of issues ( which form what is now referred to as the 'omnicause').The american university campus originated theories, namely 'Intersectionalism', 'Queer Theory' and 'Critical Race Theory' form the foundations of this contemporary type of group think.

Group Think perpetuates itself through use of mantras and slogans which are repeated endlessly in order to embed the message. Think of the Labour party just a few years ago with the repetition of the mantras 'TWAW' and 'No Debate' - and those demonstrations we have become accustomed to seeing in which one person chants a message/slogan/mantra and then the assembled crowd repeats it over and over. Repetition acts as a form of brainwashing and thought control.

Furthermore, members of the group:

  • Believe in Inherent Morality: The group ignores the ethical or moral consequences of their decisions, believing their cause is righteous.
  • Rationalization: Members collectively discount warnings or negative feedback or alternative perspectives that might challenge their assumptions, convincing themselves their decision is correct.
  • Direct Pressure on Dissenters: Members are pressured not to express arguments against the group's view, often portrayed as disloyalty.
  • Self-Censorship: Individuals suppress their own doubts or counterarguments.
  • Illusion of Unanimity: The silence of members and refusal to critique is interpreted as agreement, creating a false sense of complete consensus.

In all tight knit groups, whether they be religious or political, a high degree of conformity tends to follow, as people prioritise belonging and the feelings of emotional and social security that conformity brings. Doubts, questions,alternative readings are suppressed.

Edited

Can I just establish... are you anti CRT? Intersectionalism was originally about understanding that White Feminism isn't helpful or relevant, but is harmful to many non-white women. Is this something you contradict or oppose?

Shortshriftandlethal · 15/04/2026 16:50

Contemporary 'progressive' politics constitute a form of ideological group think. I'd say. There is a high degree of uniformity of perspective across a range of issues ( which form what is now referred to as the 'omnicause').The american university campus originated theories, namely 'Intersectionalism', 'Queer Theory' and 'Critical Race Theory' form the foundations of this contemporary type of group think.

Group Think perpetuates itself through use of mantras and slogans which are repeated endlessly in order to embed the message. Think of the Labour party just a few years ago with the repetition of the mantras 'TWAW' and 'No Debate' - and those demonstrations we have become accustomed to seeing in which one person chants a message/slogan/mantra and then the assembled crowd repeats it over and over. Repetition acts as a form of brainwashing and thought control.

Furthermore, members of the group:

  • Believe in Inherent Morality: The group ignores the ethical or moral consequences of their decisions, believing their cause is righteous.
  • Rationalization: Members collectively discount warnings or negative feedback or alternative perspectives that might challenge their assumptions, convincing themselves their decision is correct.
  • Direct Pressure on Dissenters: Members are pressured not to express arguments against the group's view, often portrayed as disloyalty.
  • Self-Censorship: Individuals suppress their own doubts or counterarguments.
  • Illusion of Unanimity: The silence of members and refusal to critique is interpreted as agreement, creating a false sense of complete consensus.

In all tight knit groups, whether they be religious or political, a high degree of conformity tends to follow, as people prioritise belonging and the feelings of emotional and social security that conformity brings. Doubts, questions,alternative readings are suppressed.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:46

Waitwhat23 · 15/04/2026 16:44

Has anyone got a link to that odious piece from the 70's which talks about 'gennies' and how men pretending to be women are superior to them?

So youre talking about the 70s? 50 odd years ago?
What is a Gennie?

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:45

MyAmpleSheep · 15/04/2026 16:38

That's such a boring trope though, isn't it? If you're emotional you're not rational so your strong feelings can be ignored. Hysterical women and all that.

Find me the rationality in believing a man becomes a woman because he says so. Maybe the search for logic and reason should begin there.

Edited

No it doesnt mean that emotion always blinds you to rationality. This why reading and understanding words is so important in discussions. I said it can. "Can" means that there is the potential for something to occur, but it doesn't mean it will always occur.

Learning to communicate about things that you feel emotional about without letting that emotion lead your interactions is a skill one learns with practice. You have to understand why it is important and keep company who insist on those standards for it to be a priority for you though.

Waitwhat23 · 15/04/2026 16:44

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:31

"Most had a patriarchal hierarchy that accorded men higher status than women; men’s sense of power was given a boost if the organisation’s patriarchal ideology supported male privilege, giving them permission to be obsessed with control and oppressive in their treatment of women (Bromley and Buschi)"

How is this present in the trans movement if we are expected to accept both trans men and women as their chosen identity?

Has anyone got a link to that odious piece from the 70's which talks about 'gennies' and how men pretending to be women are superior to them?

MyAmpleSheep · 15/04/2026 16:38

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:32

Yes emotion can blind you to rationality.

That's such a boring trope though, isn't it? If you're emotional you're not rational so your strong feelings can be ignored. Hysterical women and all that.

Find me the rationality in believing a man becomes a woman because he says so. Maybe the search for logic and reason should begin there.

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 15/04/2026 16:38

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:31

"Most had a patriarchal hierarchy that accorded men higher status than women; men’s sense of power was given a boost if the organisation’s patriarchal ideology supported male privilege, giving them permission to be obsessed with control and oppressive in their treatment of women (Bromley and Buschi)"

How is this present in the trans movement if we are expected to accept both trans men and women as their chosen identity?

It's not 'trans' IDing women who are pissing on statues in protest against women who say no, threatening dissenting women with 'splintered rolling pins', demanding access to women's spaces. It's 'trans' IDing men who are obsessed with control and oppressive in their treatment of women.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:32

MyAmpleSheep · 15/04/2026 16:30

Oh absolutely: all the ones who are too "emotional" about the subject. If people could be less emotional then everything would be clear to them.

Too much heat, not enough light. People just need to calm down. I don't see why this is such a big deal. It's an emotive issue, for both sides. Everyone just needs to take a step back. We all need to get along. Etc.

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Yes emotion can blind you to rationality.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 15/04/2026 16:31

SylvanMoon · 15/04/2026 16:16

My PhD research studied the exit narratives of former cult members (what are also called "total institutions" in that people who join them have invested their entire life in them and believe that they will remain in them for life, that “this is IT”).

Some of the parallels that I can see between my research and the current trans movement are:

  • Most hold world transformational views; In addition to a sense that the members of these total institutions were saving the world, they also felt they “were preparing something new and [. . .] dazzling” (Ayers 2001, 71), revisioning how society would work in the future.
  • In the 1960s development, most members were “white, middle class, and of college age” 10 (Jacobs 1987; Roszak 1969); members of 1960s/1970s alternative movements were drawn principally from “the educated, privileged children of the American dream, who found their society flawed and failing” (Daner 1976, 7)
  • Members of total institutions were usually dependent on the institution for their friendships.
  • Adaptation to the total institutional norms generally involved a process of change. Often members were asked to renounce their personal possessions and/or alter their appearances, in order to become divested of the “identity kit” (Goffman 1961, 20) they had within the norms of the “outside” society.
  • Members often adopted new names
  • Members used an in-group language; the use of in-group jargon reinforces group identity, allowing members to feel “privy to momentous revelations” (Levine 1984, 89) or otherwise “in the know”.
  • Most had a patriarchal hierarchy that accorded men higher status than women; men’s sense of power was given a boost if the organisation’s patriarchal ideology supported male privilege, giving them permission to be obsessed with control and oppressive in their treatment of women (Bromley and Busching 1988; Johnson 2005)
  • All members of total institutions – men and women alike – adhered to common ideological norms concerning behaviour. Women, however, were disproportionately marginalised in these organisations, with control over many aspects of their lives “abdicated” to male authority (Jacobs 1984, 166). This made for a very unequal exchange in terms of who had power and what status was accorded various members in these total institutions.

The things that are generally present in “cults” but not necessarily (at least on my reading of it) present in the trans movement are:

  • Members usually lived communally
  • Total institutions typically have a strong authoritarian structure, generally with a charismatic leader at the top, a middle-level group directly responsible to the leader, and a larger membership of low-status “ordinary” followers. Thus, information and power flowed from the top downwards; the immediate authorities controlled the day-to-day activities of members, engaging them in full-time organisational tasks (Goffman 1961; Daner 1976; Bromley 1991a; Jacobs 1987, 1984; Bromley and Shupe 1980; Eister 1972).
  • each total institution would have a set of rules that members agreed to obey (Fuller and Martin 2003)
  • Members of total institutions were usually dependent on the institution for their livelihood
  • Authorities typically restricted members’ participation in conventional social institutions to only those activities that were deemed absolutely necessary (Bromley and Shupe 1980; Bucher 1983).
  • most of these institutions were evangelistic, necessitating the memoirists living in several different places across their institutions; Some of these total institutions kept dyadic partners separated, by engaging them in organisational fundraising and recruitment activities to such an extent that little time was left for the relationship. This both weakened the non-institutional nature of the relationships, and ensured that institutional goals took precedence over anything else (Wright 1986).
  • A common feature in total institutions is the need to control exclusive relationships, with various prohibitions against emotional intimacy, and how controls over exclusive bonds of dyadic relationships are implemented by those in authority. This is a group self-protective measure, lest energies get drained away from institutional obligations (Wright 1986; Simmel 1950; Slater 1963; Kanter 1968, 1973b).

"Most had a patriarchal hierarchy that accorded men higher status than women; men’s sense of power was given a boost if the organisation’s patriarchal ideology supported male privilege, giving them permission to be obsessed with control and oppressive in their treatment of women (Bromley and Buschi)"

How is this present in the trans movement if we are expected to accept both trans men and women as their chosen identity?