Late night surprise about reputation of FWR

They can also turn off tagging notifications. If they don't want to know if they're being replied to (either by quoting or tagging) they're at liberty to change their settings. They are also at liberty to ignore any replies / tags if they so desire.

There's nothing in the Talk Guidelines re tagging being rude. I'm pretty sure most people I've seen moaning about being tagged are complaining about the notification, not the tag itself.

Explicit tagging of contributors can be perceived as rude but the automatic notification of the author when a post is replied to is something that can only be switched off by that author not by the person replying to the post.

As Fluffy said, it was quoting/replying that the poster was complaining about, which is rather unreasonable.

I can only copy and paste about 1 time out of 5 attempts these days. I've no clue what's gone on with MN recently.

Quoting is regarding differently to @ tagging.

There is @ tagging going on.

Its the singling out that isn't always viewed favourably, but quoting has never been regarded as rude.

She was quoted, rather than tagged. That notifies as well I think. Given that it’s not easy to copy and paste any more, it would be difficult to respond to the posts any other way.

That poster actually meant replying, however, which also sends an email notification if you've not bothered to change your settings.

Falsely accusing someone of aggression because you're unable to work out how to turn notifications off is really not in the spirit of reasonable debate is it.

Nope. I did temper my post to not say exactly what I really think about people using such tactics. I didn't want a deletion! 🤣

Tagging can be perceived as rude on MN. Especially if you ask not to. But I wouldn't call it aggressive.

Quite incredible to see a poster frantically accusing someone of repeatedly "tagging her" when everyone can see that ThatBlackCat has done nothing of the sort.

Falsely accusing someone of aggression because you're unable to work out how to turn notifications off is really not in the spirit of reasonable debate is it.

Well when people are told words are violence, surely notify someone about saying some words is doubly violent, because you’ve got the words in the notification and the words themselves!

I’ve been welcomed with open arms. Maybe it’s the women not coming in here in good faith, and wanting to scold others that are getting challenged. If you’re used to the love ins on Reddit and bluesky, sure, the direct questions and disagreement can seem aggressive, but I was taught in high school, don’t say anything you can’t back up. Edited for spelling.

I'm not even sure it's the replying which is 'aggressive', it's the notifications from MN! If that's the case, people need to learn how to use MN settings and turn them off.

Blaming the responder for how MN works, unless settings are changed, is totally nonsensical.

Indeed 🎵 the last resort of people with zero argument.

The point is, @ItsNotOrwell is that some other people on this thread you are criticising don’t see these exchanges like you do, they think you’re biased. And you think the same about them. So I’m not sure what the point of constantly scolding people is. They simply don’t agree.

When people push back against being called “hysterical”, “aggressive” or “childish” for eg.

Oh sure, when people you agree with are rude it’s just “pushing back”, but not other people.

We of course they.

Who is stopping you post your point of view?

Ie. “No-one is allowed to push back or defend themselves robustly even a little bit or I will complain about it endlessly and inflate the claims far beyond the actual original comments. If this sounds abusive, that’s because it is.”

Gosh I do hope that the scolders are reporting all the transphobia they claim to be here as it's against the guidelines to be transphobic

though of course I expect what they really mean by transphobia is pointing out that no one can change sex, men are not women, women are allowed single sex spaces, that AGP is a thing et etc

🎵It ain’t what you do…..🎵

@DrBlackbird

First of all, what are those views that you’ve not changed one bit in 15 years?

Oddly, my views are fairly much the same as the majority of this board re: gender issues. They were that way when I found the board and have remained the same to this day.

As previously observed, the claims of “hostility” fall flat when you read some of the rude comments of the people complaining about it. IME the “aggression” is more than matched.

It’s an interesting @ThatBlackCat , there’s another poster in the FWR thread in site stuff also complaining about all the aggressive notifications from people replying to them. I’d never considered before the perspective that simply engaging with someone on a discussion forum could be seen as aggressive, but you live and learn.

And to answer the OP, I’m surprised that a regular MN user is unaware of the reputation of this particular board as a hell pit of nasty transphobia from posters who regard it as the naughty corner. Usually from the same people who say that JKR is evil but are unable to articulate why beyond she’s “not kind”.