FAQ

If only people would come with questions. It tends to be more arriving with a brave and stunning speech prepared about what horrible bastards we all are and how lovely and good and kind they are, and then us having to politely ask what makes them think we are hysterical bitches from hell who should stfu.

Bit weird, really.

I do actually think this was part of the problem. Her supervisor had suggested posting her survey on mumsnet, and I think the student hasn’t known what she was signing up to.

Well yeah, but surely the aim is to safeguard women and girls is it not?

Well yeah, but surely the aim is to safeguard women and girls is it not?

I mean ffs, we are not running a coddling and naiceness service.

We're just here to.discuss stuff.

The young woman who posted about asking for help with her masters survey asked questions and replied in a polite and friendly, patient way. People took offence at her language, which she politely apologised for and asked for clarification of, and she was attacked and bombarded with the same questions for her to answer over and over.

She was mocked with “eye rolling” comments, had her grammar ripped apart for really minor mistakes (especially for someone with dyslexia) and people despaired that she didn’t know the answers to the questions she asked, without actually helping her out. She was told to do her research, but was doxxed because she went to Reddit with her questions.

The women who were using her full name in responses were clearly only doing so to be sinister and threatening; there is no other reason to full name someone in a post other than to hint that there is a risk. Which then materialised when an email address to an ethics committee was provided for people to report her to. There was zero concern for safeguarding a young woman at all, and it was deeply disturbing.

So yeah, I wonder why more people don’t come asking questions?

You’ll never make me think that they weren’t being anything other than intimidating by using her full name. Nor do I believe they were reporting it and then needing to have their own posts removed for using her name. I think anyone who is ever doxxed will be because they’ve given too much information about themselves either naively, stupidly, or accidentally, or because they have a job in the public eye, and I don’t think it’s fair to blame them for how people react maliciously to that information.

If people don’t want to do the survey, that’s fine. They could click past without all the nastiness. I filled it in mostly due to having university aged DC and knowing how difficult it can be to get data.

If the silly woman made her full name known, people may have used it back to point out what she'd done. It would have been better to report the post as a danger, and get it closed down, but maybe they tried that and didn't get a response.

I dunno, I long ago and in another job decided I was not going to do student's jobs for them by answering their half baked surveys. See also sales and marketting bods' half baked surveys.

Yes, her name was on the survey. Why would anyone start using her full name though, when you could use her username? To make repeated replies using both her first name and surname is surely a veiled threat? A reminder that she isn’t anonymous? Why else would someone honestly do that? And to encourage to report her and threaten her masters is also spiteful. I don’t think I’m exaggerating. She was very naive, I agree, but those people using her name were doing it for nefarious reasons and knew better.

As far as I remember, and I didn’t post on the thread, just read it, she posted her own email address to someone which was in her name. So no “doxxing” took place, she freely gave her name and apparently it was on the survey too. I think she got a bit of a hard time FWIW but there’s no need to exaggerate. And it wasn’t particularly nice or professional of her to post on Reddit, a deeply misogynistic space, about the women on MN she was talking to. I realise she probably wasn’t aware of that though.

The young woman who posted about asking for help with her masters survey asked questions and replied in a polite and friendly, patient way. People took offence at her language, which she politely apologised for and asked for clarification of, and she was attacked and bombarded with the same questions for her to answer over and over.

She was mocked with “eye rolling” comments, had her grammar ripped apart for really minor mistakes (especially for someone with dyslexia) and people despaired that she didn’t know the answers to the questions she asked, without actually helping her out. She was told to do her research, but was doxxed because she went to Reddit with her questions.

The women who were using her full name in responses were clearly only doing so to be sinister and threatening; there is no other reason to full name someone in a post other than to hint that there is a risk. Which then materialised when an email address to an ethics committee was provided for people to report her to. There was zero concern for safeguarding a young woman at all, and it was deeply disturbing.

So yeah, I wonder why more people don’t come asking questions?

I had a look around, it was on the non member requests board a few days ago. Survey about children's clothing. Most people would not have seen it, or answered if they did, and I don't know why this board is being singled out for criticism. Unless everywhere is getting scoldy posts, maybe they are.

The young woman who posted about asking for help with her masters survey asked questions and replied in a polite and friendly, patient way. People took offence at her language, which she politely apologised for and asked for clarification of, and she was attacked and bombarded with the same questions for her to answer over and over.

She was mocked with “eye rolling” comments, had her grammar ripped apart for really minor mistakes (especially for someone with dyslexia) and people despaired that she didn’t know the answers to the questions she asked, without actually helping her out. She was told to do her research, but was doxxed because she went to Reddit with her questions.

The women who were using her full name in responses were clearly only doing so to be sinister and threatening; there is no other reason to full name someone in a post other than to hint that there is a risk. Which then materialised when an email address to an ethics committee was provided for people to report her to. There was zero concern for safeguarding a young woman at all, and it was deeply disturbing.

So yeah, I wonder why more people don’t come asking questions?