Advice on speaking to MP about sex and gender policy

Oh, that women (in the original female sex-based sense) had the safety and freedom to move through the world with the arrogance and confidence of a young man! (In, obviously, the original male sex-based sense).

Every argument they make against us simply shows how little they understand what is is to be us.

You can see why they don't get why single sex supports, spaces and language are so important for women - these things solve for experiences that they simply never have even when they really genuinely believe they are living "as women".

We certainly can imagine anyone just... not caring about us. But that person is not you.

Today on Mumsnet, the "silent majority" are apparently too scared to raise their transphobic views with their own MP in case people realise they're transphobes

For something they insist is mainstream, common-sense, and protected in law, it seems to need a lot of hiding

Honestly, that gives me hope

https://bsky.app/profile/aidap.bsky.social/post/3miiknpbi7s2t

Well, he is homophobic enough to believe a male can be a lesbian

So you didn't hide it? From people who are not logged into Bluesky? And then there it was again, when I called you out?

Anyway, OP, as you can see they lurk here, no wonder you would want to keep yourself anonymous. Plenty of women have had their gender realist views weaponised against them. Luckily that time is passing.

"Do keep it up?" You can see time posted, your internet illiteracy is as amusing as your views :D

That's the one! Do leave it up this time, there's a dear. No need to hide it from us.

Honestly, do you think we were born yesterday 😄

https://bsky.app/profile/aidap.bsky.social/post/3miiknpbi7s2t this post?

Oddly, @AidaP has now deleted his Bluesky post about posting on this Mumsnet thread. What are the chances! Brave Aida. Not a hypocrite, at all.

ETA: Rookie error on my part 😄I should have taken a screenshot of his now-deleted Bluesky post. But he was all "Who are you all, hiding behind being anonymous!" on here, and I actually thought he might stand up for his values.

Sits on hands…bites tongue…. Remembers my mother’s mantra. So as well as being misogynist, the poster here “for fun” is also homophobic? Wow! And yet we are supposed to be the “baddies”?

Funnily enough, @AidaP is a proud "lesbian". Natch.

https://bsky.app/profile/aidap.bsky.social/post/3lqwxhihiy224

See also 'Lesbian'.

Some day I'll do a nice data visualisation of how terminology that comes from (and makes sense in the context of) gender critical analysis gets picked up by TRAs through a sort of subconscious "oooo that sounds like a bad thing and they are bad people so they must be it haha" osmosis and regurgitated back as a criticism of gender critical feminists in a way that makes no sense whatsoever.

Actually now I write it down, it's exactly what they do with the words "men" and "woman" isn't it? Disconnect them from their original meaning then throw them around as if their new hollowed out form still has significance and authority even though there is absolutely nothing behind it any more, just a free-floating word

Reading with interest. I emailed my MP about my concerns about the erosion of the rights of women and girls. All very reasonable. I received a page full of word salad template letter about how vulnerable trans people are and they must be protected. Since then she has not replied to two emails I've sent on different subjects. MPs have to wake up to the fact that they simply cannot wave away legitimate concerns by waving the transphobia flag. I'll be interested to hear if anyone is able to elicit a more constructive response.

I think you need a hook to hang it on. General "Men can't be women" stuff doesn't count with many in Labour. Do you have a local or personal example that is relevant?

And, kindly, you can forget an apology OP 😄The most we will get it a slow backing-into-the-bushes as the tide continues to turn.

This is @AidaP , by the way:

https://bsky.app/profile/aidap.bsky.social

And to ignore the entitled dude and get back to the OP.

Useful website to find out how your elected representives have voted on issues -

www.theyworkforyou.com/

The walls of gender ideology are a-crashing down. It's happening in real time.

I don't think tbere's an apology coming. Entitled, women hating men don't tend to do that. I'm just enjoying seeing the world wake up and men being told no.

Yes me too. I forgot alll my mother’s mantras about not mocking the afflicted. I think it would be much kinder if we did not engage.

Sorry @BlueLegume I hadnt seen your post. You're quite right. I'm usually more circumspect about engaging, but sometimes these clueless, self-absorbed toddlers really grind my gears! I shall make myself a cup of soothing tea!

The same reason women have always had to be scared, or at the very least cogniscent of the dangers from males and the society males have created. The same reason some women deal with it by internalising misogyny. Choosing fawning, instead of fight or flight. Patriarchal society. You wouldn't understand, being male.
The veneer of equality for females is very very thin, as is shown by trans ideology, which fundamentally is just pushing for men to gain even more rights than they have already.

Hi all, @AidaP attemps to derail threads similar to these on a regular basis. Best stick to giving each other sound advice and not respond.

Good luck @Tempanonymouse do let us know how things go. Someone else mentioned Sex Matters for resources. Genspect is also good and Nick Wallis the journalist has been running a blog on the subject.

https://genderblog.net/blog/

Another upcoming group is Thoughtful Therapists addressing ethical therapy and standing up the queer theory

https://www.thoughtfultherapists.org

I think that Aida has demonstrated exactly what the issue is. This is why we need the EA2010 as clarified to be adhered to. The guidance needs to be approved by Labour. The MP in question is Labour, so this is a good opportunity to bring that up.

There were some good points being made at the beginning of this thread before we (and I guess I’m in that group too, sorry) started listening to the man and going off track like Atalanta after the golden apples.

MPs are always being yelled at by people without much self regulation, so I agree they do tune out on that. A personal story, a couple of irrefutable facts, and a simple question to make them think about eg how would this work in practice, what are the problems, might be effective. You need something that they will engage with either emotionally or via a thought process, for a few moments, which means it needs to be immediate, simple, and memorable. And not too confrontational because they will just tune out, see above.

Every accusation is a confession.

Ah so you’re not that proud then of your opinions? I mean, surely if you were, you would put your full name as your user name? You can’t berate people for doing the exact same thing as you are doing without outing yourself as a sexist hypocrite. And if you’ve put enough info on the internet that you can be doxxed 5 times….. er…. Most councils do internet safety classes, have you thought about registering? And no, the guy offering you £400000000 is not a real Nigerian prince. Don’t send your bank details.