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Why is sex the only protected characteristic that people want to, or are ‘allowed’ to, self identify into? by

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SingleSexMattersInCharity · 27/03/2026 22:45

This has been something that I mull over. Why is sex the only PC that society allows people to self id into with very little checks and balances? You can get your marker on your driving licence changed very easily.

disability: yes, I realise that people can self identify as disabled but if they want benefits associated with disability there is, quite frankly, a horrendous procedure to go through in order get benefits.

Age: if someone wanted to be older to get pension they wouldn’t be accepted or alternatively if they wanted to attend nursery but were 20 they would not be allowed. Think of the Scottish case of the man who pretended to be younger to be in high school again.

maternity: women who fake pregnancy are absolutely derided.

race: we all think of the obvious case of the women who faked being black but I’m also thinking about when you want to change your citizenship and the expensive, complicated and time consuming process you have to go through to achieve a change of citizenship.

Campaigners have fought for easy, cheap and dignified changes to “changing sex” (not possible as we know) but other PCs have very expensive, complicated and dehumanising process.

why is the PC of sex different?

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Talkinpeace · 28/03/2026 14:27

Sex is the only protected characteristice that is immutable.

Age changes
Disability can change
Sexuality can change
Marital status can change
Pregnancy changes
Religion can change
Gender reassignment has never been explained
Race identity can vary
but
Sex is determined at conception and never changes

AssignedTERFatbirth · 28/03/2026 14:24

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:20

I’m not forcing my ideology onto you. I’m questioning your opinions that don’t match mine. I don’t understand why you need to be rude to me.
i think balancing the needs of vulnerable groups is an ethical minefield. I’m discussing it here. That’s not forcing my ideology onto you. Do you want an echo chamber or an actual discussion? Becuase it feels like you just want me to validate all your points without a real discussion.

You are incorrectly sexing lady boys and forcing your gender ideology onto them
by calling them trans women. That’s literal death to the trans lobby.

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 28/03/2026 14:19

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 14:07

Haha I lost that dignity both times I gave birth

I dont think there was a dr in the room when I gave birth.

Either way you said "to me if you have breasts and a vagina you look like a woman" and you don't actually know by looking if someone has a vagina.

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 14:07

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 28/03/2026 14:05

Not sure a dr has seen it TBH.

Haha I lost that dignity both times I gave birth

theilltemperedamateur · 28/03/2026 14:06

Self-ID is important because it affects perception of the individual by others.

So, a man who looks like a woman is entitled not to be discriminated against as to sex, both by people who know he's a man, and people who think he's a woman.

But he still can't go to a women's prison, because the Prisons Act requires them to be single-sex.

And he still can't use a Schedule 3 women's service, because the exemption from liability for sex-discrimination, provided by Schedule 3, only applies to single-sex services, and his presence stops the service from being single-sex.

Schedule 3 provides an exemption for perceptive sex-discrimination too. For instance you can exclude a transman for good reason (para 28 - eg her appearance will frighten other users).

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 28/03/2026 14:05

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:54

lol I’d never look but if you told me and a dr gave me a letter saying you had one and he’d seen it I’d take his word for it

Not sure a dr has seen it TBH.

GlasgowGal2014 · 28/03/2026 14:03

SingleSexMattersInCharity · 28/03/2026 13:22

i realise legal process around citizenship are completely separate to race. I explained it was the closest comparison I could find.

society is very against people identifying as a race they are not and yet it’s probably the most fluid thing of all. I have family with black heritage and family with Indian heritage. They all look white. Despite their heritage being close (grandparents). I know people would be horrified with them if they decided to claim to be black/Indian and would accuse them of “black/brown face” as they are so white BUT they are actually black/indian! My sister has promised to take her grandfather’s ashes to the Ganges one day.

But that's my original point - people self identify as different races all the time. Would your grandparents really be horrified if you or your siblings started to identify more strongly with their black or Indian heritage through the way they dress, talk, eat, the culture they consume etc? Because that would be unusual and most grandparents in that situation would be proud. You could also argue that with Black and Indian heritage by solely identifying with a white European identify your younger family members are self identifying their race. Black face is also less about self identification and more about mocking people with darker skin colours. Race is fluid, and our understanding of it is largely a social construct rather than a biological fact.

SternJoyousBeev2 · 28/03/2026 14:01

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:30

oh good lord. So you measure trans women by how they fit arguably peadophillic sexist beauty standards? Rather than if they’ve had surgery to have female parts? These are the ones I’m talking about.
I can’t find any ‘sexy’ trans women prisoners and I’m not googling it because it will take me to porn.

Transwomen do not have female parts. That's not something a surgeon can provide them with.

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:55

SternJoyousBeev2 · 28/03/2026 13:52

Our laws differentiate between penetration with a penis and penetration with other objects as well as non penetrative offences. It doesn’t make one act more serious or traumatic than the other.

I’ve started a thread please come and talk there, I don’t want to derail this thread

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:54

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 28/03/2026 13:53

How TF would you know if I have a vagina? You know, seeing as its inside my body. Gross.

lol I’d never look but if you told me and a dr gave me a letter saying you had one and he’d seen it I’d take his word for it

TakeTheCuntingQuichePatricia · 28/03/2026 13:53

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:45

Yes that answered your question, to me if you have breasts and a vagina you look like a woman.
this isn’t hard

How TF would you know if I have a vagina? You know, seeing as its inside my body. Gross.

SternJoyousBeev2 · 28/03/2026 13:52

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:15

That rape laws shouldn’t be limited to penises but instead focused on consent, with statutory rape laws like the US.

Our laws differentiate between penetration with a penis and penetration with other objects as well as non penetrative offences. It doesn’t make one act more serious or traumatic than the other.

ConstanzeMozart · 28/03/2026 13:47

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:45

Yes that answered your question, to me if you have breasts and a vagina you look like a woman.
this isn’t hard

Mate, men with boob jobs look like men with boob jobs.

ConstanzeMozart · 28/03/2026 13:46

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:42

Lots of women who were born women look like men. What’s your point??

Yeah no they don't.

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:45

Shedmistress · 28/03/2026 13:44

I asked 'Which male prisoners 'look like a woman'?'
You said 'The ones who’ve had surgery and call themselves women but you refuse to call women.

You can just check your own posts if you are confused about that as well

Yes that answered your question, to me if you have breasts and a vagina you look like a woman.
this isn’t hard

Shedmistress · 28/03/2026 13:44

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:41

I never said this. I said I’m ok with self identification labels and will use whatever pronoun I’m asked to

I asked 'Which male prisoners 'look like a woman'?'
You said 'The ones who’ve had surgery and call themselves women but you refuse to call women.

You can just check your own posts if you are confused about that as well

Jaxhog · 28/03/2026 13:42

I think this is the key point:

'Sex is different because it intersects with things that are sex-segregated:

  • Sport
  • Prisons
  • Refuges
  • Toilets
  • Changing rooms
  • Data collection
  • Healthcare
  • Single-sex charities and services

No other protected characteristic affects physical categories and single-sex spaces in the same way.'

There was a similar issue where there was/is racial segregation, as segregation was intended to deny one group the advantages of the other. But when a black person endeavoured to pass as white, they didn't argue that it was their right to 'feel' white and that everyone else should believe it, regardless of whether they 'looked' white or not. If they did, I doubt they would have got the same support and acceptance that Transwomen do now. So why is one acceptable, and one not?

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:42

ConstanzeMozart · 28/03/2026 13:35

I can’t find any ‘sexy’ trans women prisoners
In other words, you can’t find any trans women prisoners who don't continue to look unmistakably male.

Lots of women who were born women look like men. What’s your point??

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:41

Shedmistress · 28/03/2026 13:39

I don't I view all men as men.

I asked you because YOU seem to value men as women if they look like women.

I never said this. I said I’m ok with self identification labels and will use whatever pronoun I’m asked to

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:40

SwirlyGates · 28/03/2026 13:35

Engage with me or not, I don't care. I'm just disputing your claim that full genital surgery can either make a man into a woman, or make him look like a woman. And in the case of the fragrant Alan Barker, castration certainly hasn't made him behave like a woman.

I made the post about the legal definition of rape if you’re interested. Come and argue about this there!!

Shedmistress · 28/03/2026 13:39

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:30

oh good lord. So you measure trans women by how they fit arguably peadophillic sexist beauty standards? Rather than if they’ve had surgery to have female parts? These are the ones I’m talking about.
I can’t find any ‘sexy’ trans women prisoners and I’m not googling it because it will take me to porn.

I don't I view all men as men.

I asked you because YOU seem to value men as women if they look like women.

ConstanzeMozart · 28/03/2026 13:35

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:30

oh good lord. So you measure trans women by how they fit arguably peadophillic sexist beauty standards? Rather than if they’ve had surgery to have female parts? These are the ones I’m talking about.
I can’t find any ‘sexy’ trans women prisoners and I’m not googling it because it will take me to porn.

I can’t find any ‘sexy’ trans women prisoners
In other words, you can’t find any trans women prisoners who don't continue to look unmistakably male.

SwirlyGates · 28/03/2026 13:35

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:10

I’m not going to engage with you because I’m here for respectful discussion of a complex ethical issue and you are not.
im not a tra but im also not a terf. But also identify as a feminist. I’m here to have a discussion not abuse other people for how they look

Engage with me or not, I don't care. I'm just disputing your claim that full genital surgery can either make a man into a woman, or make him look like a woman. And in the case of the fragrant Alan Barker, castration certainly hasn't made him behave like a woman.

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:30

Shedmistress · 28/03/2026 13:27

Nope I did not.

I asked 'Which male prisoners 'look like a woman'?'

You said 'The ones who’ve had surgery and call themselves women but you refuse to call women.'

So I asked if you had any photos of these men, the prisoners who looked like women, which is who you say should be put into female jails.

And apparently your answer is 'instagram ladyboys'. So no you don't have any examples of male prisoners who 'look like women'.

oh good lord. So you measure trans women by how they fit arguably peadophillic sexist beauty standards? Rather than if they’ve had surgery to have female parts? These are the ones I’m talking about.
I can’t find any ‘sexy’ trans women prisoners and I’m not googling it because it will take me to porn.

Shedmistress · 28/03/2026 13:27

confusedbydating · 28/03/2026 13:22

You didn’t ask me that. You asked for conventionally attractive trans women. I sent you to a place where you’d find lots.

Nope I did not.

I asked 'Which male prisoners 'look like a woman'?'

You said 'The ones who’ve had surgery and call themselves women but you refuse to call women.'

So I asked if you had any photos of these men, the prisoners who looked like women, which is who you say should be put into female jails.

And apparently your answer is 'instagram ladyboys'. So no you don't have any examples of male prisoners who 'look like women'.