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Woman dies by euthanasia after becoming paraplegic trying to commit suicide after gang rape

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AComplicatedWoman · 27/03/2026 01:29

This is one of the most heartbreaking news stories I have come across.

Noelia Castillo had a difficult childhood and spent much of it in care homes. She was sexually assaulted by her ex-boyfriend of four years after she had taken sleeping pills to help her sleep, and was assaulted on another occasion by several men in a nightclub. She attempted suicide in October 2022, and it left her unable to use her legs and in a wheelchair. Noelia conducted a long legal battle with her father for the right to end her life and she died by euthanasia on Thursday.

RIP Noelia. I am so sorry that your life was destroyed by these abhorrent abusive men.

www.independent.co.uk/news/world/noelia-castillo-euthanasia-law-spain-b2946671.html

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ArabellaScott · 31/03/2026 09:13

I had thought those were hypothetical extremes.

Age of 12, in the Netherlands.

www.government.nl/topics/euthanasia/is-euthanasia-allowed#anker-3-euthanasia-and-minors

ArabellaScott · 31/03/2026 09:09

We can use extreme hypotheticals - should a toddler shouting that they hate themselves and want to die be put down? Because they have had a traumatic if short life? No? Teenagers? How many teenagers are depressed, self harm, go through very difficult times? Act impulsively, take risks, fail to consider consequences?

So - move on to young adults. At what age does a suffering young person gain the capacity and awareness to know that their suffering is temporary, and suicide is a permanent solution?

How common is suucidal ideation among teens and young people and at what point do we grant the right to death? Logically, to any person who asks for it at any time?

ArabellaScott · 31/03/2026 09:04

The argument seems to place some people's suffering above others. Those who demand the 'right' to be killed by the state against those who will be killed when they do not have capacity to give consent.

ArabellaScott · 31/03/2026 08:35

circularcircles · 31/03/2026 08:32

I think forced fits when there is an alternative option that you are denied despite your wishes.

There are always alternative options. People can kill themselves at any point.

The state killing people on request is crossing several lines that we need to look at very, very carefully.

circularcircles · 31/03/2026 08:32

ArabellaScott · 31/03/2026 08:26

'Force to carry on living' is a strange way of putting it.

You mean 'refusing a request to kill'.

I think forced fits when there is an alternative option that you are denied despite your wishes.

ArabellaScott · 31/03/2026 08:30

I guess it depends how much people trust the state, its mechanisms, policies, rationale, procedures, as to whether bureaucratic systems are capable of making the right choices. Or whether its acceptable that some 'mistakes' will be made.

I dont believe the death penalty is a good idea for broadly similar reasons.

ArabellaScott · 31/03/2026 08:26

ReleaseTheDucksOfWar · 30/03/2026 23:51

Should be, should be, should be. But we don't.

I think it's a horror that people would force a woman living in unbearable physical and mental pain to carry on, instead of respecting her stated (and prrviously acted on) wishes.

Yes, Canada's got it very wrong but there should be a measured and kind and reasoned approach, as there is in the Netherlands. Canada's gone far too far one way; to say self-chosen euthanasia should never be permitted is just as cruel the other way.

'Force to carry on living' is a strange way of putting it.

You mean 'refusing a request to kill'.

guinnessguzzler · 31/03/2026 07:40

I would support a 'measured and kind and reasoned' approach @ReleaseTheDucksOfWar but I'm not sure there are (m)any offerings from the state that currently meet that description consistently so I'm not convinced we're capable of it just now. I think we need to do a lot more work on ourselves as a society before we can even contemplate putting something like this in place.

OldCrone · 31/03/2026 00:11

ReleaseTheDucksOfWar · 30/03/2026 23:51

Should be, should be, should be. But we don't.

I think it's a horror that people would force a woman living in unbearable physical and mental pain to carry on, instead of respecting her stated (and prrviously acted on) wishes.

Yes, Canada's got it very wrong but there should be a measured and kind and reasoned approach, as there is in the Netherlands. Canada's gone far too far one way; to say self-chosen euthanasia should never be permitted is just as cruel the other way.

Are you sure they've got it right in the Netherlands?

https://archive.ph/g6am1

https://archive.ph/VzQNJ

ReleaseTheDucksOfWar · 30/03/2026 23:51

WittyLimeBiscuit · 29/03/2026 10:27

This is such a heartbreaking story. She was failed at every turn.
We should be fixing society, not offering death to people who have been broken by it.

Should be, should be, should be. But we don't.

I think it's a horror that people would force a woman living in unbearable physical and mental pain to carry on, instead of respecting her stated (and prrviously acted on) wishes.

Yes, Canada's got it very wrong but there should be a measured and kind and reasoned approach, as there is in the Netherlands. Canada's gone far too far one way; to say self-chosen euthanasia should never be permitted is just as cruel the other way.

WashTheWindows · 29/03/2026 10:40

Absolutely horrific, that poor young girl. Yet, Keir promised Ester he bring in assisted dying here 😡🤬

WittyLimeBiscuit · 29/03/2026 10:27

This is such a heartbreaking story. She was failed at every turn.
We should be fixing society, not offering death to people who have been broken by it.

Turtlesgottaturtle · 28/03/2026 23:18

SomedayIllBeSaturdayNight · 27/03/2026 07:54

This poor woman was tragically abused, and then instead of helping her, the state killed her.
I guess it would save a lot of money, no need to make care homes safe and supportive, save the money and just make them so awful that the inhabitants decide to kill themselves instead.

She was apparently permanently in pain due to the suicide attempt (throwing herself off a 5 storey building).

ohdelay · 28/03/2026 20:03

It is worrying the number of people wanting to give the state the right to kill them when certain boxes are ticked. Has everyone forgotten the brief window during Covid where patients with learning disabilities, Down Syndrome, Autism etc were mysteriously triaged as Do not attempt to resuscitate? This was by health care professionals following murky unquestioned orders on triage rules. It all got reverted and everyone was very sorry but that happened. Once you let the "it's okay to kill me" genie out of the box scope creep and misinterpretation is inevitable. Upthread someone wanted it because they couldn't get a job, Imagine going to the job centre and they're like sort your affairs out and we'll see you in a fortnight for some existence affirming care.

EdithStourton · 28/03/2026 20:01

@GenderlessVoid
As a disabled person, it worries me that so many buy into the idea that our lives are worth so little, are hopeless, are dismal, aren't worth living, etc. [....] I really hate seeing how people think that if you're disabled and 'not contributing", it's ok to kill you as long as you're psychologically vulnerable and willing to go along with it. Then justify it as doing you a favor because your life was so sad.
I've noticed for a long time - primed by the experience of knowing the wheelchair user I mentioned upthread - that films and novels often seem to have a real problem with dealing with disabled characters, who often act out their part and are then bumped off. I assume that this is because the author can't imagine that they might just have proper lives like other people. I think (hope) it's got better over the years.

Having known a disabled person who was very clever and very funny, with a full and rounded life, I've been massively pissed off by many of the portrayals of 'disability' that I've come across over the years.

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 28/03/2026 19:45

And the kind of people in the position of power to enact the laws that allow state killing are the kind of successful people who think pretty much every person with a significant disability must be in pain and have miserable lives, whereas the disabled person I'm closest to has an amazing life, despite their chronic pain and inability to walk.

I don't think that the benefits to a few of being able to have state assisted death outweigh the risks that large numbers of people, including the disabled, will be murdered by the state because it's cheaper than providing meaningful support to live.

GenderlessVoid · 28/03/2026 19:35

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 28/03/2026 18:41

Who gets to decide is always the big question isn't it. Because some people basically think all disabled people and everyone who doesn't make oodles of money and perhaps takes more out than they put in should be 'put down' like animals. It'll be dressed up as 'putting them out of their misery' but of course it won't really be this.

People will be coerced into agreeing to die.

And it will be the people with power making the decisions, not the people being euthanized, in reality because that's human nature and the way the world works. And it's already happened plenty of times, Canada being the cautionary tale. It sounds like, from the case of the elderly woman who wanted palliative care but was murdered instead against her explicit wishes, that they're not even really pretending any more.

It'll be dressed up as 'putting them out of their misery' but of course it won't really be this.

You see it in this thread. Quite a few people have justified this by saying that she'd never be happy, she'd never get better, etc. but there is no way to know that and it's likely to be wrong. But it makes people feel less guilty about thinking that Spain was right to kill her.

As a disabled person, it worries me that so many buy into the idea that our lives are worth so little, are hopeless, are dismal, aren't worth living, etc. She wanted to die now but almost all of us have wanted to die at some points. So few seem to ask if she realized that it takes a long to time adjust to a new disability or to accept one's rape. If she knew that almost everyone struggles for years with this - they feel hopeless - but eventually adjust and lead good lives. That there are promising new treatments for paraplegia and chronic pain. There are no guarantees but it was likely that her life would improve with support and treatment.

I really hate seeing how people think that if you're disabled and 'not contributing", it's ok to kill you as long as you're psychologically vulnerable and willing to go along with it. Then justify it as doing you a favor because your life was so sad.

likelysuspect · 28/03/2026 18:52

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 28/03/2026 18:41

Who gets to decide is always the big question isn't it. Because some people basically think all disabled people and everyone who doesn't make oodles of money and perhaps takes more out than they put in should be 'put down' like animals. It'll be dressed up as 'putting them out of their misery' but of course it won't really be this.

People will be coerced into agreeing to die.

And it will be the people with power making the decisions, not the people being euthanized, in reality because that's human nature and the way the world works. And it's already happened plenty of times, Canada being the cautionary tale. It sounds like, from the case of the elderly woman who wanted palliative care but was murdered instead against her explicit wishes, that they're not even really pretending any more.

Exactly

And what a coincidence that it costs much less to put someone down than to support them with social, medical, psychological and financial interventions for the rest of their life.

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 28/03/2026 18:41

likelysuspect · 28/03/2026 11:56

Good god. I cannot believe Im reading that

Who gets to decide is always the big question isn't it. Because some people basically think all disabled people and everyone who doesn't make oodles of money and perhaps takes more out than they put in should be 'put down' like animals. It'll be dressed up as 'putting them out of their misery' but of course it won't really be this.

People will be coerced into agreeing to die.

And it will be the people with power making the decisions, not the people being euthanized, in reality because that's human nature and the way the world works. And it's already happened plenty of times, Canada being the cautionary tale. It sounds like, from the case of the elderly woman who wanted palliative care but was murdered instead against her explicit wishes, that they're not even really pretending any more.

GenderlessVoid · 28/03/2026 15:27

user7538796538 · 28/03/2026 12:34

I just think if someone is in severe pain be that physical or emotional it should be an option open to them. Why shouldn’t they, just because it offends you. It’s their life to do as they wish with is it not?
Why should people have to endure extra years of misery on the chance that it might get better. I can’t see the Spanish girls paralysis improving can you?

I can’t see the Spanish girls paralysis improving can you?

I think it's likely that her paraplegia would improve with new treatments. Here's an article about stem cell therapy, which is very promising for those of us with spinal cord injuries

https://abcnews.com/GMA/Wellness/paralyzed-man-walk-shows-potential-benefit-stem-cell/story?id=108709237

Researchers are also trying to find new treatments for pain.

To me, this is one of the things that makes Noelia's case so tragic.

Paralyzed man who can walk again shows potential benefit of stem cell therapy

A Mayo Clinic study used a patient's own stem cells to help repair the spinal cord.

https://abcnews.com/GMA/Wellness/paralyzed-man-walk-shows-potential-benefit-stem-cell/story?id=108709237

likelysuspect · 28/03/2026 14:12

ApplebyArrows · 28/03/2026 14:08

We should be suspicious of the argument that she only wanted to die because of the physical pain. She wanted to die - and tried to - before becoming disabled. Did the pre-existing mental health issues just evaporate afterwards?

Good point

I suppose it gave her more ammunition, which is why the thresholds and the criteria is so dangerous then

So going back to the people Ive worked with over the years who have removed their own limbs, obviously they were significantly mentally ill prior to that, hence the attempts

Its normal to see her suicide attempt as a reaction to the rapes, but equally we dont know (although lots of posters have made assumptions on here without backing up with evidence) what her mental state was from years before that. She started recieving psychiatric interventions at 13, around the time she came into care. Its easy to assume it was about her care entry, but was it?

ApplebyArrows · 28/03/2026 14:08

We should be suspicious of the argument that she only wanted to die because of the physical pain. She wanted to die - and tried to - before becoming disabled. Did the pre-existing mental health issues just evaporate afterwards?

circularcircles · 28/03/2026 13:43

RatWrangler · 28/03/2026 12:15

I am someone who has had lifelong mental health issues. Had a breakdown at 14, sectioned at 16. Never finished school or had a job, Hardly ever leave my home. I didn't start to improve at all until my late 20s. Like I have said in other posts I'm still not a happy person. But I find little pockets of pleasure here and there that keep me going. Food, music, video games etc. Unless someone is terminal then yes, there is always a possibility for improvement, even if it seems unlikely. I don't mean that they will be cured of their illness, but they may eventually find that life isn't 24/7 misery. There are still days when I think I don't want to exist anymore, and others that I'm glad that I was around to experience some of the moments I have. I'm going to guess you're in the U.S. if someone with depression and learning difficulties wouldn't qualify for disability/state benefits? If that is the case, then THAT is what needs to be fought for. Rather than saying that such people should just be put out of their misery. More help is needed for people who are not physically disabled but have other struggles that prevent them from living productive lives. I haven't had much help with my mental health, but I do thankfully at least get benefits that allow me to stay house and fed.

I wasn’t just saying such people should be put out of their misery I was saying that’s my wish and I don’t want to suffer anymore. I feel I should have a choice instead of trying to somehow get through each day.
I am glad you have managed to find support and benefits, maybe that does change things for people.