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Company wide Teams call, one of the presenters had a very sexual picture, think Jessica rabbit style, inappropriate for work; starts speaking, all becomes clear...

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AstonsGerbil · 26/03/2026 22:33

So, will have to change some details so that it's not completely outing.

Someone I know closely was in a Teams call recently, a big company wide one, works for a big UK company, private company, very well known.

Slides to be presented in the call include pictures of the presenters and one of the pictures is extremely sexual: of pretty much a bombshell of a woman, Jessica Rabbit type, completely inappropriate in a working environment and especially inappropriate as the picture chosen for a business presentation.

Person I know thinks, hmm that's not right, why has no one pulled her up about this? Highly inappropriate to use this picture.

Then...this presenter comes on the screen to talk, it all becomes clear, extremely deep male voice and despite the Teams filters on their IRL video, it's obviously a male person. Their name as well is fairly obviously like a porn star name. Think like a 'Chantelle' or 'Chastity' type name.

But we get told on this board over and over again it's not a sexual fetish, no no, it's not, uh uh, they are just 'being true to themselves'.

Just to be clear, if an actual woman did this she'd be told to change the avatar and tone it down. 100%. Ugh. Indulging this at the highest level of this company is so gross.

Anyway, I'm sure I'll get all the usual suspects coming out to tell me I'm being a big old meanie blah blah blah but tbh, I'm just glad I don't work there. Total ick.

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DramaAndBullshit · 27/03/2026 08:48

Oh yes, the hyper ‘feminine’ hyper sexualised drag look, with the flouncy porny name.

but it’s not a fetish.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 27/03/2026 08:44

Completely off topic (apologies OP), but this thread has been a reminder that it took me took me bloody ages to work out why Jessica Rabbit didn't look like a rabbit 🤣

Shedmistress · 27/03/2026 08:37

AstonsGerbil · 26/03/2026 22:40

Ugh that's awful. Did he start using the women's toilets? Hopefully not but if so, how horrible for you and all the other women working there.

Does anyone remember that thread ages ago about that woman whose boss (it was a small business) hired someone like that who caused no end of problems? Jenny was it? It was one of the first threads I read on here and it was so creepy. I think the last update from the op was she was looking for a new job and at least three of her male colleagues had quit too.

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No he didn't in the time I was there.

I remember him telling me that he'd had the go ahead for his op a year or so later and he said 'So I can be a proper girlie'. I replied 'yeah but without all the shit' before I even knew what I was saying. And he agreed with me.

He'd already left by then anyway. He is now in a role in another organisation that would usually appear on their publicity and he never is so that tells its own story.

ahagwearsapointybonnet · 27/03/2026 00:49

Pleasantsort2 · 26/03/2026 22:49

YANBU My DH has a colleague (M) who turns up to work being "her true self" in the very dull civil service with a basque top, leather skirt , fish nets and high heels... You know what , most female civil servants turn up in for a day at the office.(Not) Oh and fake tit thingys. Ridiculous.

Think I've heard of this person. Choker and top hat too, right?

Batties · 27/03/2026 00:05

It absolutely is a fetish

I worked in a male-dominated, engineering type industry until a few years ago.

Without exception, all of the women wore practical clothing, trousers, flat shoes, etc. One day a male engineer in his early sixties turned up with a little clutch handbag, and wearing a short skirt, fishnets and very high stilettos, and began using a female name. That continued for about a year until one day he suddenly left.

Lobsterteapot · 26/03/2026 22:53

It’s definitely a fetish! No normal woman wakes up in the morning and thinks hmm red pvc thigh boots, fishnets and micro skirt this morning!

Pleasantsort2 · 26/03/2026 22:49

YANBU My DH has a colleague (M) who turns up to work being "her true self" in the very dull civil service with a basque top, leather skirt , fish nets and high heels... You know what , most female civil servants turn up in for a day at the office.(Not) Oh and fake tit thingys. Ridiculous.

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AstonsGerbil · 26/03/2026 22:40

Shedmistress · 26/03/2026 22:36

My male colleague in his 50s turned up at work dressed as little bo peep about 12 years ago. Grim, very grim.

So no I won't tell you that you are a big old meanie.

Ugh that's awful. Did he start using the women's toilets? Hopefully not but if so, how horrible for you and all the other women working there.

Does anyone remember that thread ages ago about that woman whose boss (it was a small business) hired someone like that who caused no end of problems? Jenny was it? It was one of the first threads I read on here and it was so creepy. I think the last update from the op was she was looking for a new job and at least three of her male colleagues had quit too.

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Shedmistress · 26/03/2026 22:36

My male colleague in his 50s turned up at work dressed as little bo peep about 12 years ago. Grim, very grim.

So no I won't tell you that you are a big old meanie.