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My WI group folded this week

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Mauvish1 · 26/03/2026 14:24

The vote in my WI group was 4:1 against signing the new WI declaration, which would have obliged us to sign that we agreed with the WI upholding the law on being single sex (well yes, obviously!) but also that we agreed that TWAW and should be allowed to join, if only the pesky lawmakers hadn't clarified biological sex for the hard of understanding.

The person from the NFWI who was there to oversee our suspension told us that it was obvious from our refusing to sign that we all had friends or loved ones who were trans! This produced a roar of dissent! She also told us that if we left the WI, we would each be a lone voice to whom no-one listened. The look on everyone's face as she patronised us was a sight to behold.

Comparisons were made with brownies, and some people felt that the WI and brownies should simply open doors to men and boys - but there are plenty of other mixed sex groups to join, and very few other female-only groups.

So, another WI group bites the dust, and it's not the only one in my area.

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BeSpoonyTurtle · 15/04/2026 11:09

EyesOpening · 10/04/2026 20:06

“The ballot box was immediately removed by our official visitor and she counted the votes in private, refusing anyone overseeing the count. (the manager of our meeting place, who is not a WI member, could have done this as an inpartial observer). She then told us that we'd voted out so our group was, as of that moment, no longer part of the WI, and neither was our healthy bank balance
.….

The room in which we met had been prepaid for several months in advance so we plan to carry on meeting there for the moment. But the national federation has decreed this an "inappropriate use of moneys" and has demanded we repay them the amount we've paid to advance book (as well as already having taken our money, which was of course stuff that we'd raised with our monthly raffle, cake sales etc as well as the subs).“

Wow, this all seems like rather suspect behaviour! Is it a lot of money they are asking to be repaid? If so, I would be thinking about seeking legal advice! And as for inappropriate use of money, well the irony is off the scale!

This is outrageous. The WI will destroy itself, and given recent behaviour, their demise can't come soon enough.

AnotherHormonalWoman · 14/04/2026 20:10

EyesOpening · 14/04/2026 19:32

“I'm appalled to read this.”

Do you mean what they’ve done rather than me saying I’d seek legal advice?

“If I were in your shoes, I'd probably ignore them. It won't be worth their while to try to pursue it with any legal action.”

Ah yes, the one time I phoned a solicitor’s about something, they advised me to wait until if/when the other party started legal proceedings against me (they didn’t) because even advice would cost me.

Yes, appalled to read what the WI have done to your group. Sorry for not being clearer.

I don't know which I'm more shocked about, the closed ballot counting or the demand for repayment of funds for a venue's hire.

EyesOpening · 14/04/2026 19:32

AnotherHormonalWoman · 14/04/2026 18:27

I'm appalled to read this.

If I were in your shoes, I'd probably ignore them. It won't be worth their while to try to pursue it with any legal action.


My local group closed with much public handwringing on their Facebook page about wanting to be inclusive and kind. A transwoman from nowhere near the area is on their facebook page thanking them for their solidarity. AFAIK they didn't have any trans identifying members in the first place. I think they are planning on starting up again outside of WI.

“I'm appalled to read this.”

Do you mean what they’ve done rather than me saying I’d seek legal advice?

“If I were in your shoes, I'd probably ignore them. It won't be worth their while to try to pursue it with any legal action.”

Ah yes, the one time I phoned a solicitor’s about something, they advised me to wait until if/when the other party started legal proceedings against me (they didn’t) because even advice would cost me.

AnotherHormonalWoman · 14/04/2026 18:27

EyesOpening · 10/04/2026 20:06

“The ballot box was immediately removed by our official visitor and she counted the votes in private, refusing anyone overseeing the count. (the manager of our meeting place, who is not a WI member, could have done this as an inpartial observer). She then told us that we'd voted out so our group was, as of that moment, no longer part of the WI, and neither was our healthy bank balance
.….

The room in which we met had been prepaid for several months in advance so we plan to carry on meeting there for the moment. But the national federation has decreed this an "inappropriate use of moneys" and has demanded we repay them the amount we've paid to advance book (as well as already having taken our money, which was of course stuff that we'd raised with our monthly raffle, cake sales etc as well as the subs).“

Wow, this all seems like rather suspect behaviour! Is it a lot of money they are asking to be repaid? If so, I would be thinking about seeking legal advice! And as for inappropriate use of money, well the irony is off the scale!

I'm appalled to read this.

If I were in your shoes, I'd probably ignore them. It won't be worth their while to try to pursue it with any legal action.


My local group closed with much public handwringing on their Facebook page about wanting to be inclusive and kind. A transwoman from nowhere near the area is on their facebook page thanking them for their solidarity. AFAIK they didn't have any trans identifying members in the first place. I think they are planning on starting up again outside of WI.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 11/04/2026 08:35

LlynTegid · 11/04/2026 07:29

No one forces you to be in a church or chapel, no one forces you to celebrate Christmas.

Very different from sharing a changing room with someone born male who still has a penis, which is what TWAW advocates. Very different from sharing an event about women's health which someone cannot possibly go through as they are not born female.

I agree, except that I don't see the relevance of "still has a penis". If someone took a knife to mine I would still be a man. And if they stitched it onto a "transman" it would not make it appropriate for her to share a changing room with men.

LlynTegid · 11/04/2026 07:29

FlirtsWithRhinos · 09/04/2026 13:18

Oh 100%. It's the rights impact that is the issue for me. It's not what people believe in their own heads or chapels, it's when society foreces everyone else to fit into the shapes that one belief puts them into.

No one forces you to be in a church or chapel, no one forces you to celebrate Christmas.

Very different from sharing a changing room with someone born male who still has a penis, which is what TWAW advocates. Very different from sharing an event about women's health which someone cannot possibly go through as they are not born female.

IwantToRetire · 10/04/2026 20:33

Slightly off topic, or rather related.

I wonder what Soroptimists International are doing in relation to membership. Or maybe they never strayed from the original intent and biological reality of being for women, ie biological females.

https://sigbi.org/get-involved/membership/

Membership of Soroptimist International Great Britain and Ireland

SIGBI : Membership : Join us become part of a organisation of women working to improve the lives of women and girls locally, nationally and internationally.

https://sigbi.org/get-involved/membership/

EyesOpening · 10/04/2026 20:06

“The ballot box was immediately removed by our official visitor and she counted the votes in private, refusing anyone overseeing the count. (the manager of our meeting place, who is not a WI member, could have done this as an inpartial observer). She then told us that we'd voted out so our group was, as of that moment, no longer part of the WI, and neither was our healthy bank balance
.….

The room in which we met had been prepaid for several months in advance so we plan to carry on meeting there for the moment. But the national federation has decreed this an "inappropriate use of moneys" and has demanded we repay them the amount we've paid to advance book (as well as already having taken our money, which was of course stuff that we'd raised with our monthly raffle, cake sales etc as well as the subs).“

Wow, this all seems like rather suspect behaviour! Is it a lot of money they are asking to be repaid? If so, I would be thinking about seeking legal advice! And as for inappropriate use of money, well the irony is off the scale!

IwantToRetire · 09/04/2026 21:19

CassOle · 09/04/2026 20:35

I'll have a search.

Thanks - I hadn't realised it had been on FWR!

Not that I am part of WI but do hope some women will contribute.

CassOle · 09/04/2026 20:35

IwantToRetire · 09/04/2026 20:31

Do you have the link to where on MN this is?

I'll have a search.

IwantToRetire · 09/04/2026 20:31

CassOle · 09/04/2026 20:27

Jenny Janet Murray has written a couple of articles about the WI.
IIRC, she also posted on this forum asking women in the WI to get in touch with her.

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Do you have the link to where on MN this is?

CassOle · 09/04/2026 20:27

Jenny Janet Murray has written a couple of articles about the WI.
IIRC, she also posted on this forum asking women in the WI to get in touch with her.

AgentPidge · 09/04/2026 19:59

Set up your own group. We have a women's group where I live that has monthly speakers, trips to NT houses, quizzes, etc. So pretty much like a WI but doesn't have to follow any silly rules. We meet in a local hall once a month.

IwantToRetire · 09/04/2026 19:52

tesseractor · 09/04/2026 19:19

There are unlikely to be any fees paid in advance at this point in the year - fees for the next year are due on 1 April, and they disbanded rather than sign the form which we have to sign to remain members and pay our fees.

Thanks, I was so enraged that I didn't think about the date etc..

Would have been worth it if each member had joined up on different days.

And they are getting the money you generated through your volunteer work.

senua · 09/04/2026 19:38

Has anybody tried getting investigative journalists interested in this?

tesseractor · 09/04/2026 19:19

IwantToRetire · 09/04/2026 19:01

But the national federation has decreed this an "inappropriate use of moneys" and has demanded we repay them the amount we've paid to advance book (as well as already having taken our money, which was of course stuff that we'd raised with our monthly raffle, cake sales etc as well as the subs).

Surely if some of that money membership fees for a year, and that are now telling those who have paid the membership fee you have to leave, they should re-imburse you based on how many months since they sent the money.

They have changed the rules on which you gave them money, and telling you you are no longer welcome they should pay a refund.

(Sorry, not necessarily something top most on your mind, but it all seems so arrogant and complacent. No expression of regrent that their mismanagement has created this situation.)

There are unlikely to be any fees paid in advance at this point in the year - fees for the next year are due on 1 April, and they disbanded rather than sign the form which we have to sign to remain members and pay our fees.

IwantToRetire · 09/04/2026 19:01

But the national federation has decreed this an "inappropriate use of moneys" and has demanded we repay them the amount we've paid to advance book (as well as already having taken our money, which was of course stuff that we'd raised with our monthly raffle, cake sales etc as well as the subs).

Surely if some of that money membership fees for a year, and that are now telling those who have paid the membership fee you have to leave, they should re-imburse you based on how many months since they sent the money.

They have changed the rules on which you gave them money, and telling you you are no longer welcome they should pay a refund.

(Sorry, not necessarily something top most on your mind, but it all seems so arrogant and complacent. No expression of regrent that their mismanagement has created this situation.)

NotAtMyAge · 09/04/2026 18:17

Mauvish1 · 09/04/2026 18:05

More details about the night we folded:

The woman who came from the upper echelons to oversee our vote knew in advance what the result was going to be, inasmuch as an informal vote via whatsapp amongst group members had been about 75:25 against signing the new declaration.

Some people who were unable to attend the formal meeting had submitted a vote in advanceto the chair, via email.

The rest of us - I think about 65% of the total membership - were there in person on the night and almost all voted. The ballot box was immediately removed by our official visitor and she counted the votes in private, refusing anyone overseeing the count. (the manager of our meeting place, who is not a WI member, could have done this as an inpartial observer). She then told us that we'd voted out so our group was, as of that moment, no longer part of the WI, and neither was our healthy bank balance.

She did NOT tell us the figures for the vote and having subsequently been formally asked for this info, has refused to give it. So we don't actually know the result of the vote, other than that we were out! We don't even know if the count was honest since she refused any second sets of eyes

The room in which we met had been prepaid for several months in advance so we plan to carry on meeting there for the moment. But the national federation has decreed this an "inappropriate use of moneys" and has demanded we repay them the amount we've paid to advance book (as well as already having taken our money, which was of course stuff that we'd raised with our monthly raffle, cake sales etc as well as the subs).

Yes, for many people the indecent haste in which the WI forced this change through was the last straw, and I believe that some who were prepared to accept TIM into meetings voted against continuing because of the shoddy way in which the WI has treated its members over this.

But I don't want to be included in any fake figures from the WI or any other organisaiont that suggests that we all left because we want to be transinclusive. It's simply not true.

The powers-that-be in the WI have behaved and are continuing to behave appallingly. The behaviour of the official visitor at your voting meeting comes across as shamingly childish and spiteful. That in itself would make me not want to be a member of the WI under its present leadership.

Mauvish1 · 09/04/2026 18:11

And Another Thing --

I'm sick to death of hearing how the WI wants to be inclusive for all women. It's an organisation that leans heavily towards an older, white demographic. If it wants to be so inclusive, it should look first towards trying to broaden its appeal to other demographics who just happen to be women. There are many women from many cultures who won't want to meet socially in a group that contains unknown men, never mind all those individual women who have their own good, valid, personal reasons to prefer wimmin-only spaces.

I'd love to know the number of TIM who have been "forced out" of the WI by the ruling. I'll bet the number is really small. The number of women to whom the WI could reach out to try to increase the organisation's inclusivity, on the other hand, may well be in the millions.

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Mauvish1 · 09/04/2026 18:05

More details about the night we folded:

The woman who came from the upper echelons to oversee our vote knew in advance what the result was going to be, inasmuch as an informal vote via whatsapp amongst group members had been about 75:25 against signing the new declaration.

Some people who were unable to attend the formal meeting had submitted a vote in advanceto the chair, via email.

The rest of us - I think about 65% of the total membership - were there in person on the night and almost all voted. The ballot box was immediately removed by our official visitor and she counted the votes in private, refusing anyone overseeing the count. (the manager of our meeting place, who is not a WI member, could have done this as an inpartial observer). She then told us that we'd voted out so our group was, as of that moment, no longer part of the WI, and neither was our healthy bank balance.

She did NOT tell us the figures for the vote and having subsequently been formally asked for this info, has refused to give it. So we don't actually know the result of the vote, other than that we were out! We don't even know if the count was honest since she refused any second sets of eyes

The room in which we met had been prepaid for several months in advance so we plan to carry on meeting there for the moment. But the national federation has decreed this an "inappropriate use of moneys" and has demanded we repay them the amount we've paid to advance book (as well as already having taken our money, which was of course stuff that we'd raised with our monthly raffle, cake sales etc as well as the subs).

Yes, for many people the indecent haste in which the WI forced this change through was the last straw, and I believe that some who were prepared to accept TIM into meetings voted against continuing because of the shoddy way in which the WI has treated its members over this.

But I don't want to be included in any fake figures from the WI or any other organisaiont that suggests that we all left because we want to be transinclusive. It's simply not true.

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IwantToRetire · 09/04/2026 18:04

Marmaladelover · 09/04/2026 12:13

I can answer this one ! In the case (Linda’s) Smith V Northumberland Police it was held that Gender Ideology was a partisan belief That is one that is not impartial. In the Edinburgh rape centre case it was said that believing TWAW and the reverse is on the extremes of gender ideology.

The WI constitution says it must be non religious and non sectarian. Sectarian is another word for extreme partisan.

so just like the Northumberland police (or any other police) could not be shown to be partisan ( due to an Act forbidding it ) by taking part in a parade , the wi cannot be , due to its constitution.

so one belief (GC ) is not partisan but mainstream and therefore permitted by the constitution.

in addition whether gender ideology be considered a belief under the equality act depends on whether it fulfills the test set out in the case Grainger PLC v Nicholson. These are

  1. The belief must be genuinely held.
  2. It must be a belief and not an opinion or viewpoint based on the present state of information available.
  3. It must be a belief as to a weighty and substantial aspect of human life and behaviour.
  4. It must attain a certain level of cogency, seriousness, cohesion and importance.
  5. It must be worthy of respect in a democratic society, be not incompatible with human dignity and not conflict with the fundamental rights of others

The last criteria makes it difficult for me to believe that GI could be considered a belief as it conflicts with the fundamental rights of others.

I don’t think it can be under 3 either - certain level of seriousness anyone . To me GI is akin to flat earthism and young earth creationism.

But I don’t think this has ever been tested in law.

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Whilst interesting that isn't the point here.

It is about trying to subvert something that can only be one thing.

The WI constitution says it is for women. The Supreme Court has ruled or rather reaffirmed that in relation to the EA sex=biology.

The WI constitution being for women only is making use of the protected characteristic of sex.

It has nothing to do with beliefs sets. It is a clear rule of law.

The issue is why, which I think has been confirmed, that WI HQ are asking members to confirm they are biological women, and then add a rider to that declaration that they agree TWAW.

If it is so important to WI HQ why aren't they just putting forward a motion of change the WI constitution, dressed up in some rainbow statement accepting that in the dim distance past befor women were educated that biology is the same as identity, to say open to biological females and men who identify as women. (Am I sure in the near future someong will work out how to write a constitution that allows for biological women and men who identify as women, and if not Labour will create a law that says it is okay.)

So it isn't about what beliefs or anything.

The question is why are so many women willing to ignore reality about women only being women only. Why are more WI members angry that with or without consultation WI HQ broke the law and their constitution.

We all have to accept that a large number of women are either too embarrased to admit they were taken for a ride (okay to include TW) or that they really do feel their rights as women aren't as important and being kind to TW.

MyAmpleSheep · 09/04/2026 17:15

BusyAzureTraybake · 09/04/2026 15:36

Of course the WI, post FWS, is trans-inclusive. Trans-identified females are welcome.
I think that pub might fold if FSU got involved.

And faster than you can say skirt-go-spinny.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 09/04/2026 15:53

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BusyAzureTraybake · 09/04/2026 15:36

witheringrowan · 08/04/2026 19:54

If my WI branch ends up not shutting down next week, we're going to have a venue problem, as the pub that currently hosts us says it won't allow an organisation that's not "trans-inclusive" to book a room.

Does anyone have any ideas on the legal position here - basically they are saying they won't host a single sex group. I've seen suggestions in other contexts (i.e refusing a booking for an all-female hen party) that this would count as indirect discrimination, is that correct?

Of course the WI, post FWS, is trans-inclusive. Trans-identified females are welcome.
I think that pub might fold if FSU got involved.