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BBC preaches forgiveness for man who murders his partner.

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ArabellaScott · 15/03/2026 11:57

What the fuck, BBC?!

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cnv6ne1zqyro

We are told a story which could only have been recounted by a man who murdered his partner, which is accepted without question. And then preached at about forgiveness.

This mother can do and say what she wants, I wouldnt presume to censure her. But the BBC has effectively written an apologia for abuse, domestic violence, and murder.

A photo of a blonde woman looking at the camera

What my daughter's murder taught me about forgiveness

The mother of Ann Grosmaire, 19, who was shot dead by her boyfriend, explains why she chose restorative justice.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cnv6ne1zqyro

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ArabellaScott · 15/03/2026 12:14

I'm not judging her response. I'm judging the BBc's unquestioning and unchallenging acceptance of the narrative.

Why no questioning of his account of the murder? Or counter to the view that forgiveness and a shorter, easier sentence is a good idea?

I mean do challenge me, it will help me to word the complaint as robustly as possible.

VAWG isnt just an unfortunate accident, it happens partly because society excuses it.

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theilltemperedamateur · 15/03/2026 12:14

I don't have a problem with forgiveness, because it helps the person doing the forgiving. But I don't think that sentencing should be contingent on it in any way.

WaffleParty · 15/03/2026 12:12

What a sad story.
I don’t think it’s fair to say the BBC is preaching forgiveness though. I see this as an exploration of grief. This mother is navigating her grief and using forgiveness as a way of managing it. It seems incredible, but I think it’s tough to judge this response without walking in her shoes.
Undoubtedly a tragedy and a waste of a talented young woman’s life.

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ArabellaScott · 15/03/2026 12:04

"McBride acknowledges that he was physically and emotionally abusive. His thoughts of Ann are now a mix of fond memories and regrets.

"I was a lot more emotionally abusive than physically abusive," he said. "There were four instances of physical abuse, and it's funny, like, in the moment I never thought of myself as an abusive person, but looking back now, it's like, 'Yeah, I was,' "

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ArabellaScott · 15/03/2026 12:03

The BBC might have mentioned the man was, by his own admission, abusive and controlling.

eu.theledger.com/story/news/state/2016/09/25/convicted-murderer-lives-regret-searches-for-redemption/25362939007/

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ArabellaScott · 15/03/2026 11:58

Also note the article talks about grief but not one mention of rage. Its my over riding feeling. This poor girl was failed over and over.

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