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Men who affirm TW

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Holdmeclosertinydancer2018 · 05/03/2026 13:22

This is something I've wondered for a while and a post from a woman on FB asking/stating the same thing prompted me to ask everyone's opinions on this.

I have noticed a large proportion of Trans Idealogues on both FB and Reddit go absolutely berserk when someone points out that TW are not, in fact women, but oddly, a large proportion of them are men.

Now I completely understand the women that have bought into this notion as women generally speaking tend to be more empathetic for their fellow human so are more likely to go along with 'be kind'. But what about the swathes of seemingly normal, gender conforming men that support it? I don't know a single man other than one in real life (who's daughter is apparently now a 'she') that support the idea that TW are women. What is their motive for this?

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Helleofabore · 05/03/2026 22:21

WarrenTofficier · 05/03/2026 21:58

Some who thinks gender critical people want genitals to 'dictate appearance, personality', someone who uses the term 'intersex' and thinks its a separate category to male and female and someone who says they won't enter into debate on any of their points.

Nothing remarkable here, just the same old, same old. We are nasty old meanies who won't let the poor sad men have whatever that want.

Well yeah.

Also it was a great opportunity to tell us all that a group has demanded that language be changed just for them, and that anyone rejecting that forced language change is denying a person’s very existence.

All the time forgetting that having a transgender identity is based on someone’s philosophical belief about themselves and their personal subjective reality, that that demand has to be considered everyone’s material reality.

Greyskybluesky · 05/03/2026 22:14

I would love these discussions NOT to be dominated by a single POV @helenwaspushed. I've been open to hearing a rational well-founded argument from the TWAW side for years.

But there just isn't one. As you have clearly shown. Your points are weak and your language is emotive. There is nothing of any substance there.

solerolover · 05/03/2026 22:05

Why? What do women have in common with these men that they don't have in common with other men?

@TheKeatingFive Spinny skirts and laydee brains, DUH!!🙄

solerolover · 05/03/2026 22:04

What the heck are you talking about @helenwaspushed ?

Trans identified men, including some who have posted on this site, are constantly talking about how their ingestion of cross sex hormones, their extreme body modifications and overall adoption of female social sex stereotypes, actually makes them the opposite sex. There was also that big- jawed lawyer on Channel 4, who complained about the Supreme Court decision saying that every 'cell in his body has become feminised', so because of that, he shouldn't be excluded from female spaces.

I was just reading a comment from a self proclaimed "transsexual woman" activist, on a substack article regarding the paused puberty trials, who asserted multiple times that sex is mutable because children who are given exogenous cross sex hormones early enough, will grow up to be the opposite sex. Here's part of their comment: "An MtF ends up a sterile female, from molecular biology up to phenotype. For example."

During the recent Sandie Peggie employment tribunal, the transwoman doctor Theodore "Beth" Upton, described himself as a "biological woman" who would impose himself on female patients in the event that they requested a female doctor for intimate care.

Here's an excellent article with multiple examples of trans-identified men, including prominent activists, describing themselves as "biological women."
https://speakingplainly.substack.com/p/is-it-really-true-that-no-ones-denying

This quote is really apt:

"Is it really true that “no one's denying the reality of biological sex”? There seems to be a lot of people doing that thing that "no one" is doing"

Is it really true that “no one's denying the reality of biological sex”?

There seems to be a lot of people doing that thing that "no one" is doing

https://speakingplainly.substack.com/p/is-it-really-true-that-no-ones-denying

WarrenTofficier · 05/03/2026 21:58

Helleofabore · 05/03/2026 21:44

What is remarkable is we are being told how wrong we and that we should shove people into boxes or whatever by someone who has just treated people with transgender identities as a group with homogenous beliefs. They have just shoved them all into the same box.

Some who thinks gender critical people want genitals to 'dictate appearance, personality', someone who uses the term 'intersex' and thinks its a separate category to male and female and someone who says they won't enter into debate on any of their points.

Nothing remarkable here, just the same old, same old. We are nasty old meanies who won't let the poor sad men have whatever that want.

TheKeatingFive · 05/03/2026 21:57

helenwaspushed · 05/03/2026 18:39

To be honest, woman will never have a consensus on this.

I am repelled by GC arguments which seem to lack love and care for fellow humans who they don't necessarily agree with.

There is no concern for trans people's needs. The solution doesn't have to be transwomen in all women's spaces no matter what. But I think we should be able to create women + transwomen friendly spaces/groups. As long as it's disclosed, I don't get the argument against this. GC would like to exclude TW from ALL things for women. I won't ever agree with that because above all, they are human and deserve to have their needs taken into consideration.

I know several trans people and the mental and physical health implications of not receiving proper treatment can be great. GC people seem unconcerned with this entirely and just want trans people to conform to their own desires. Their health will continue to be a concern for those of us with friends and family going through it. Right now, transition is the most effective treatment.

GC continue to use language that denies the existence of trans people. They do exist. We have a word for it. Transwoman is a specific label for a biological male who chooses to present as a woman. Continuing to deny their existence won't make inroads with those of us who care for our trans friends and family.

GC people also completely misunderstand the argument about sex and gender. No one (who is thinking logically and understands science) thinks you can change your biological sex which is determined by chromosomes. Gender is considered more culturally influenced and fluid. Strong sex based norms are the reason why gender is considered different than sex. As long as we expect genitals alone to dictate appearance, personality, and access to services this will not change. People do not do well shoved into a box they don't fit.

Sex: male, female, intersex. Gender: Cis man, Cis woman, non binary, transman, transwoman. They are different categories. I can see an objection with calling a transwoman female, but women is a gender term.

The propaganda about dangerous transwoman is so exaggerated and obviously political. I have never felt in danger around a transwoman. Single examples are overblown. Exposure bias. Look it up.

Also the claim that people can always tell when someone is trans just denies basic logic. How would you identify the people who "pass"? You would see them, perceive them as a woman because you don't have X-ray vision, and dismiss them. It's basic logic that you don't know what you don't know.

I won't be debating any of my points. I wanted to offer my perspective since these discussions are always dominated by a single POV

But I think we should be able to create women + transwomen friendly spaces/groups.

Why? What do women have in common with these men that they don't have in common with other men?

I won't be debating any of my points.

Well there's a surprise 😭😭😭

Helleofabore · 05/03/2026 21:44

WarrenTofficier · 05/03/2026 21:36

Willoughby and their cervix will be surprised to hear they haven't changed sex!

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What is remarkable is we are being told how wrong we and that we should shove people into boxes or whatever by someone who has just treated people with transgender identities as a group with homogenous beliefs. They have just shoved them all into the same box.

WarrenTofficier · 05/03/2026 21:36

Helleofabore · 05/03/2026 21:33

People with transgender are not saying that they are the opposite sex? That they haven’t changed sex?

well now, there will be a few of male posters with transgender identities who have been posting here recently that would probably like to explain to the poster who is making such a declaration that they are wrong. Goodness knows how many pages of threads we have had these discussions on lately.

But apparently, we are being told what people with transgender identities believe by someone who considers themself an ally.

Willoughby and their cervix will be surprised to hear they haven't changed sex!

Helleofabore · 05/03/2026 21:33

People with transgender are not saying that they are the opposite sex? That they haven’t changed sex?

well now, there will be a few of male posters with transgender identities who have been posting here recently that would probably like to explain to the poster who is making such a declaration that they are wrong. Goodness knows how many pages of threads we have had these discussions on lately.

But apparently, we are being told what people with transgender identities believe by someone who considers themself an ally.

WarrenTofficier · 05/03/2026 20:37

helenwaspushed · 05/03/2026 18:39

To be honest, woman will never have a consensus on this.

I am repelled by GC arguments which seem to lack love and care for fellow humans who they don't necessarily agree with.

There is no concern for trans people's needs. The solution doesn't have to be transwomen in all women's spaces no matter what. But I think we should be able to create women + transwomen friendly spaces/groups. As long as it's disclosed, I don't get the argument against this. GC would like to exclude TW from ALL things for women. I won't ever agree with that because above all, they are human and deserve to have their needs taken into consideration.

I know several trans people and the mental and physical health implications of not receiving proper treatment can be great. GC people seem unconcerned with this entirely and just want trans people to conform to their own desires. Their health will continue to be a concern for those of us with friends and family going through it. Right now, transition is the most effective treatment.

GC continue to use language that denies the existence of trans people. They do exist. We have a word for it. Transwoman is a specific label for a biological male who chooses to present as a woman. Continuing to deny their existence won't make inroads with those of us who care for our trans friends and family.

GC people also completely misunderstand the argument about sex and gender. No one (who is thinking logically and understands science) thinks you can change your biological sex which is determined by chromosomes. Gender is considered more culturally influenced and fluid. Strong sex based norms are the reason why gender is considered different than sex. As long as we expect genitals alone to dictate appearance, personality, and access to services this will not change. People do not do well shoved into a box they don't fit.

Sex: male, female, intersex. Gender: Cis man, Cis woman, non binary, transman, transwoman. They are different categories. I can see an objection with calling a transwoman female, but women is a gender term.

The propaganda about dangerous transwoman is so exaggerated and obviously political. I have never felt in danger around a transwoman. Single examples are overblown. Exposure bias. Look it up.

Also the claim that people can always tell when someone is trans just denies basic logic. How would you identify the people who "pass"? You would see them, perceive them as a woman because you don't have X-ray vision, and dismiss them. It's basic logic that you don't know what you don't know.

I won't be debating any of my points. I wanted to offer my perspective since these discussions are always dominated by a single POV

If woman is a 'gender word' what is the equivalent 'sex word' please? Because female doesn't necessarily mean human or adult so if we are giving 'woman' away to anyone who wants it we need a way to describe people of the female sex feeling a way to define that category for sports, medicine, prisons etc where sex really does matter. If we can't campaign for cervical screening for women because woman now includes some male people what word can we use? There are times and places where biological categories are very important (boxing rings, prison cells, cancer screening programmes) so why do you believe it is more important to co-opt a word to cover an indefinable group based on a combination of biology and feelings? Why is it OK to leave female people who don't have a gender identity without a word to describe themselves? Why do the needs of women who can't or won't be shoved into a category with some male people not matter to you? Are they not human and needing their feelings taken into account? Why does be kind only flow one way?

Waitwhat23 · 05/03/2026 20:21

The TRA's who are now desperately claiming that 'no one has ever claimed they can actually change sex!!!' and that women are the ones who don't understand sex/gender are either unaware of the very public claims of India, Katy et al or are trying to do a determined backpedal on the 'sex is a spectrum, clownfish/fungi, 'it's more complicated than GCSE biology!!!' line because they've finally realised it's unhinged and want to present themselves as a 'reasonable' voice.

I'm putting my money on a huge reverse ferret...

ferret GIF
Pingponghavoc · 05/03/2026 20:20

Lots of men think in terms of women spaces and forget that these spaces are for girls, too.

This idea that some men pass as women, sex and gender are different, men have always wanted to be women, are never used to justify why these men should be using changing rooms and toilets with young girls.

Why is it important for eddie izzard to use the same spaces as girls?

lottiegarbanzo · 05/03/2026 20:19

VoltaireMittyDream · 05/03/2026 15:56

It’s one of many - but to feel that way makes me ableist as well, apparently.

Lucky it’s not up to him how you feel or what you think eh?

5128gap · 05/03/2026 19:55

helenwaspushed · 05/03/2026 18:39

To be honest, woman will never have a consensus on this.

I am repelled by GC arguments which seem to lack love and care for fellow humans who they don't necessarily agree with.

There is no concern for trans people's needs. The solution doesn't have to be transwomen in all women's spaces no matter what. But I think we should be able to create women + transwomen friendly spaces/groups. As long as it's disclosed, I don't get the argument against this. GC would like to exclude TW from ALL things for women. I won't ever agree with that because above all, they are human and deserve to have their needs taken into consideration.

I know several trans people and the mental and physical health implications of not receiving proper treatment can be great. GC people seem unconcerned with this entirely and just want trans people to conform to their own desires. Their health will continue to be a concern for those of us with friends and family going through it. Right now, transition is the most effective treatment.

GC continue to use language that denies the existence of trans people. They do exist. We have a word for it. Transwoman is a specific label for a biological male who chooses to present as a woman. Continuing to deny their existence won't make inroads with those of us who care for our trans friends and family.

GC people also completely misunderstand the argument about sex and gender. No one (who is thinking logically and understands science) thinks you can change your biological sex which is determined by chromosomes. Gender is considered more culturally influenced and fluid. Strong sex based norms are the reason why gender is considered different than sex. As long as we expect genitals alone to dictate appearance, personality, and access to services this will not change. People do not do well shoved into a box they don't fit.

Sex: male, female, intersex. Gender: Cis man, Cis woman, non binary, transman, transwoman. They are different categories. I can see an objection with calling a transwoman female, but women is a gender term.

The propaganda about dangerous transwoman is so exaggerated and obviously political. I have never felt in danger around a transwoman. Single examples are overblown. Exposure bias. Look it up.

Also the claim that people can always tell when someone is trans just denies basic logic. How would you identify the people who "pass"? You would see them, perceive them as a woman because you don't have X-ray vision, and dismiss them. It's basic logic that you don't know what you don't know.

I won't be debating any of my points. I wanted to offer my perspective since these discussions are always dominated by a single POV

I'm not sure your views are entirely in alignment with those of the trans community.
Many 'transwomen' (they like a space BTW rather than all one word) do indeed believe that the medications they take and the surgeries they undergo change their sex. They disagree with you on the importance of chromosomes, believing they are a small part of what dictates sex. They increasingly reject (regret) the idea that 'gender' is seperate from sex (since it became clear that rights depend on sex not gender) and believe they are as much a woman as you are.
Either you believe this, that TWAW, in which case, what is your logic for excluding them from some women's spaces?
Or you believe that TW are men. In which case, what is your logic for including them in any women's spaces?
Because there is no grey meet in the middle compromise here. Either TWAW or TW are men.

Holdmeclosertinydancer2018 · 05/03/2026 19:52

CapacityBrown · 05/03/2026 19:30

Generally interested if anyone has experienced these opinions with men IRL, and not just on social media where virtue signalling is the utmost priority.

Men in the public eye will virtue signal, but that's no different to the climate change activism that sees celebrities use private jets to inform the world about CO2 emissions.

Excellent question. Only one, the brother of one of my oldest friends who stated that 'TWAW and this is the hill he is willing to die on'.

He turned up at my friends house two weeks ago while I was there having a wine noght , marveling at his 'daughter', using the word 'she' and 'her' whilst his 19 year old son sat next to me in a skirt, tights, a hoody, sporting a humongous beard.

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CapacityBrown · 05/03/2026 19:30

Generally interested if anyone has experienced these opinions with men IRL, and not just on social media where virtue signalling is the utmost priority.

Men in the public eye will virtue signal, but that's no different to the climate change activism that sees celebrities use private jets to inform the world about CO2 emissions.

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 05/03/2026 19:27

@helenwaspushed Do you believe the women who have been attacked by TW and the children they have abused?

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 05/03/2026 19:24

Its a fun new way to attack and abuse women on line imo - they don't give a shit about TW at all!

Theeyeballsinthesky · 05/03/2026 19:24

Waitwhat23 · 05/03/2026 18:44

It's almost impressive how many you managed to hit!

Bonus points for 'I'm not debating this' - 'no debate' continues unabated!

It was a lot of words to say "beeee kiiiiind" wasn't it

Holdmeclosertinydancer2018 · 05/03/2026 18:47

Also, we don't see them as a woman at all. Even the more 'passable' ones don't pass because women instinctively pick up on things like male structure, posture, gait etc. Granted there have been times when I've had to double take, but I've only done so because my gut was screaming at me, INSTINCTIVELY that something was not quite right with that 'woman'.

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Holdmeclosertinydancer2018 · 05/03/2026 18:47

helenwaspushed · 05/03/2026 18:39

To be honest, woman will never have a consensus on this.

I am repelled by GC arguments which seem to lack love and care for fellow humans who they don't necessarily agree with.

There is no concern for trans people's needs. The solution doesn't have to be transwomen in all women's spaces no matter what. But I think we should be able to create women + transwomen friendly spaces/groups. As long as it's disclosed, I don't get the argument against this. GC would like to exclude TW from ALL things for women. I won't ever agree with that because above all, they are human and deserve to have their needs taken into consideration.

I know several trans people and the mental and physical health implications of not receiving proper treatment can be great. GC people seem unconcerned with this entirely and just want trans people to conform to their own desires. Their health will continue to be a concern for those of us with friends and family going through it. Right now, transition is the most effective treatment.

GC continue to use language that denies the existence of trans people. They do exist. We have a word for it. Transwoman is a specific label for a biological male who chooses to present as a woman. Continuing to deny their existence won't make inroads with those of us who care for our trans friends and family.

GC people also completely misunderstand the argument about sex and gender. No one (who is thinking logically and understands science) thinks you can change your biological sex which is determined by chromosomes. Gender is considered more culturally influenced and fluid. Strong sex based norms are the reason why gender is considered different than sex. As long as we expect genitals alone to dictate appearance, personality, and access to services this will not change. People do not do well shoved into a box they don't fit.

Sex: male, female, intersex. Gender: Cis man, Cis woman, non binary, transman, transwoman. They are different categories. I can see an objection with calling a transwoman female, but women is a gender term.

The propaganda about dangerous transwoman is so exaggerated and obviously political. I have never felt in danger around a transwoman. Single examples are overblown. Exposure bias. Look it up.

Also the claim that people can always tell when someone is trans just denies basic logic. How would you identify the people who "pass"? You would see them, perceive them as a woman because you don't have X-ray vision, and dismiss them. It's basic logic that you don't know what you don't know.

I won't be debating any of my points. I wanted to offer my perspective since these discussions are always dominated by a single POV

Also, we don't see them as a woman at all. Even the more 'passable' ones don't pass because women instinctively pick up on things like male structure, posture, gait etc. Granted there have been times when I've had to double take, but I've only done so because my gut was screaming at me, INSTINCTIVELY that something was not quite right with that 'woman'.

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Waitwhat23 · 05/03/2026 18:44

helenwaspushed · 05/03/2026 18:39

To be honest, woman will never have a consensus on this.

I am repelled by GC arguments which seem to lack love and care for fellow humans who they don't necessarily agree with.

There is no concern for trans people's needs. The solution doesn't have to be transwomen in all women's spaces no matter what. But I think we should be able to create women + transwomen friendly spaces/groups. As long as it's disclosed, I don't get the argument against this. GC would like to exclude TW from ALL things for women. I won't ever agree with that because above all, they are human and deserve to have their needs taken into consideration.

I know several trans people and the mental and physical health implications of not receiving proper treatment can be great. GC people seem unconcerned with this entirely and just want trans people to conform to their own desires. Their health will continue to be a concern for those of us with friends and family going through it. Right now, transition is the most effective treatment.

GC continue to use language that denies the existence of trans people. They do exist. We have a word for it. Transwoman is a specific label for a biological male who chooses to present as a woman. Continuing to deny their existence won't make inroads with those of us who care for our trans friends and family.

GC people also completely misunderstand the argument about sex and gender. No one (who is thinking logically and understands science) thinks you can change your biological sex which is determined by chromosomes. Gender is considered more culturally influenced and fluid. Strong sex based norms are the reason why gender is considered different than sex. As long as we expect genitals alone to dictate appearance, personality, and access to services this will not change. People do not do well shoved into a box they don't fit.

Sex: male, female, intersex. Gender: Cis man, Cis woman, non binary, transman, transwoman. They are different categories. I can see an objection with calling a transwoman female, but women is a gender term.

The propaganda about dangerous transwoman is so exaggerated and obviously political. I have never felt in danger around a transwoman. Single examples are overblown. Exposure bias. Look it up.

Also the claim that people can always tell when someone is trans just denies basic logic. How would you identify the people who "pass"? You would see them, perceive them as a woman because you don't have X-ray vision, and dismiss them. It's basic logic that you don't know what you don't know.

I won't be debating any of my points. I wanted to offer my perspective since these discussions are always dominated by a single POV

It's almost impressive how many you managed to hit!

Bonus points for 'I'm not debating this' - 'no debate' continues unabated!

Men who affirm TW
Holdmeclosertinydancer2018 · 05/03/2026 18:44

helenwaspushed · 05/03/2026 18:39

To be honest, woman will never have a consensus on this.

I am repelled by GC arguments which seem to lack love and care for fellow humans who they don't necessarily agree with.

There is no concern for trans people's needs. The solution doesn't have to be transwomen in all women's spaces no matter what. But I think we should be able to create women + transwomen friendly spaces/groups. As long as it's disclosed, I don't get the argument against this. GC would like to exclude TW from ALL things for women. I won't ever agree with that because above all, they are human and deserve to have their needs taken into consideration.

I know several trans people and the mental and physical health implications of not receiving proper treatment can be great. GC people seem unconcerned with this entirely and just want trans people to conform to their own desires. Their health will continue to be a concern for those of us with friends and family going through it. Right now, transition is the most effective treatment.

GC continue to use language that denies the existence of trans people. They do exist. We have a word for it. Transwoman is a specific label for a biological male who chooses to present as a woman. Continuing to deny their existence won't make inroads with those of us who care for our trans friends and family.

GC people also completely misunderstand the argument about sex and gender. No one (who is thinking logically and understands science) thinks you can change your biological sex which is determined by chromosomes. Gender is considered more culturally influenced and fluid. Strong sex based norms are the reason why gender is considered different than sex. As long as we expect genitals alone to dictate appearance, personality, and access to services this will not change. People do not do well shoved into a box they don't fit.

Sex: male, female, intersex. Gender: Cis man, Cis woman, non binary, transman, transwoman. They are different categories. I can see an objection with calling a transwoman female, but women is a gender term.

The propaganda about dangerous transwoman is so exaggerated and obviously political. I have never felt in danger around a transwoman. Single examples are overblown. Exposure bias. Look it up.

Also the claim that people can always tell when someone is trans just denies basic logic. How would you identify the people who "pass"? You would see them, perceive them as a woman because you don't have X-ray vision, and dismiss them. It's basic logic that you don't know what you don't know.

I won't be debating any of my points. I wanted to offer my perspective since these discussions are always dominated by a single POV

"They are human and deserve to have those needs taken into consideration"
I am not denying they are human, but they are make human and have male human needs.

"A biological male who chooses to present as a woman". So Transvestites/crossdressers then. Also male.

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helenwaspushed · 05/03/2026 18:39

To be honest, woman will never have a consensus on this.

I am repelled by GC arguments which seem to lack love and care for fellow humans who they don't necessarily agree with.

There is no concern for trans people's needs. The solution doesn't have to be transwomen in all women's spaces no matter what. But I think we should be able to create women + transwomen friendly spaces/groups. As long as it's disclosed, I don't get the argument against this. GC would like to exclude TW from ALL things for women. I won't ever agree with that because above all, they are human and deserve to have their needs taken into consideration.

I know several trans people and the mental and physical health implications of not receiving proper treatment can be great. GC people seem unconcerned with this entirely and just want trans people to conform to their own desires. Their health will continue to be a concern for those of us with friends and family going through it. Right now, transition is the most effective treatment.

GC continue to use language that denies the existence of trans people. They do exist. We have a word for it. Transwoman is a specific label for a biological male who chooses to present as a woman. Continuing to deny their existence won't make inroads with those of us who care for our trans friends and family.

GC people also completely misunderstand the argument about sex and gender. No one (who is thinking logically and understands science) thinks you can change your biological sex which is determined by chromosomes. Gender is considered more culturally influenced and fluid. Strong sex based norms are the reason why gender is considered different than sex. As long as we expect genitals alone to dictate appearance, personality, and access to services this will not change. People do not do well shoved into a box they don't fit.

Sex: male, female, intersex. Gender: Cis man, Cis woman, non binary, transman, transwoman. They are different categories. I can see an objection with calling a transwoman female, but women is a gender term.

The propaganda about dangerous transwoman is so exaggerated and obviously political. I have never felt in danger around a transwoman. Single examples are overblown. Exposure bias. Look it up.

Also the claim that people can always tell when someone is trans just denies basic logic. How would you identify the people who "pass"? You would see them, perceive them as a woman because you don't have X-ray vision, and dismiss them. It's basic logic that you don't know what you don't know.

I won't be debating any of my points. I wanted to offer my perspective since these discussions are always dominated by a single POV

WifeOfTiresias · 05/03/2026 18:37

potpourree · 05/03/2026 13:28

Also, it gives them an excuse to threaten violence to women who disagree.

Yep, just another handy stick to beat uppity women with.