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John Davison BAFTA Tourette’s incident and competing rights

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slet · 24/02/2026 15:39

It’s interesting how this is being discussed atm. I see Ash Sarkar has framed it as an example of competing rights between disabled people and victims of racism, forgetting about intersectionality. But there is a struggle from those on the extreme left to see how women’s rights are compromised by ceding to TRAs.

not expressing myself very well but thought it had some interesting parallels with the sex and gender debate.

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RedToothBrush · 27/02/2026 00:14

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 21:02

So when you talk about the trauma response @Socrateswasrightaboutvoting do you mean that’s the same if a black person hears the N word:
from another black friend
in a song
from someone aggressively saying it as a racial slur
from a disabled person saying it becuase they’re disabled?

Because you seem to be saying that black people are unable to understand context or that this single word is traumatic whatever the context. And we know that can’t be true because there would be a huge outcry from the black community every time the word is used in a song or in a film.

I’m not denying the word is horrible. But context is important.

This is what I mean about 'muddying the waters'. However you cut this, its problematic.

In terms of what I say above - and i did say it - was it was one where individual needs absoluetely do matter BUT the use of the word in our language isn't banned. It isn't illegal. In certain contexts its viewed as trendy / edgy not traumatic. That actually does matter. It is played on radio. Its played in public places. If you are in a shop or leisure facilities and a song comes on with the N word can you take legal action for exposure to the word because it triggers trauma? Why hasn't this been done to date? Honest question because again we are back to why what happened the other night matters when these other occasions don't merit social media storms and calls for cancellation and mass outrage...

It IS an important point thats being dismissed as automatically racist because it creates an inconvenience to the argument. It can't be avoided because its exactly the type of defence that would be presented in a court about quantifying harms and damages in any legal case. This might suck absoluete donkey balls to those required to do so but it still is going to be there.

And as I say, the court cases recently have made a point of saying there isn't a legal right not to be offended - just because transpeople don't like somethings people are saying they can't necessarily stop them saying them. We are back to freedom of speech and issues over intent again. You can't say certain things if they are targetted and constitute abuse and harassment but you can say other things in other ways and other contexts which people might be offended by which are not legally prohibited or impinge rights. And yes there are human rights about dignity and being protected from degrading treatment, but again we have context and intent to contend with. Tourettes falls into a space where it raises questions about where a tic with a racist word might fall in these legal terms and what rights have actually been violated. This is an unavoidable point in UK law.

You can rage all you fucking like about me spelling this out. There is a continued determination to catergorise what JD as racist abuse on the same level as criminal racial hatred - I really just do not believe it is because of various context. And I really really don't think a court would either.

In terms of the BBC broadcast, what are we talking about? Failures in meeting broadcast standards? Criminality? Are we going to see claims for individuals affected? Yes absoluetely failures in standards here (which in the BBC's case may foul of their remit). All absoluetely and completely valid. But beyond that....?

And then theres practical considerations of where you may or may not apply protections / exclusions for the purposes of legitimate aims and who this is aimed at and the MASSIVE point about proportionality.

Is someone on the street shouting the N word doing something that others need protection from? If they do the same thing in a hospital? Or a theatre? Whats the deal here? Genuinely do you think you can be protected from being exposed to someone having a Tourettes Tic in ALL situations? They are all going to be different aren't they? It will depend on stuff like vulnerability and ability to leave. Someone in a hospital bed who can't leave that situation and is repeatedly exposed to it on numerous occasions will have vastly more rights in this area than someone passing in the street for good fucking legal reason. Just like settings which have an aim to protect in various ways for specific issues women have higher and different rules to general public access.

In terms of employment issues it would come down to impact and the degrees of it. So yes, context and situations are going to come into it. As does the severity of the person with Tourettes. And no I do not realistically think that all black people will have a case here for protections in all situations. There are plenty of scenarios in which people are exposed to words which are trauma inducing that you wouldn't have a case to make because no intentional or quantifable harm has been meant. It has to be about specific situations for specific reasons with a specific vulnerability where there is an identifiable disadvantage. Remembering of course as part of this that the tics JD had were absolutely not exclusive to the subject of race. He did a good job of ticking all kinds of offensive stuff to a range of people.

In the case last week - broadcasting one tic but not the others DOES create problems - but thats a BBC issue not a conflict of rights between a person with Tourettes and two people on stage. And there's issues over broadcast standards - which may be legal issues under the BBC's remit. But these might not apply to a whole host of other media outlets in the same way though.

The question that still comes up is are you going to be looking at chasing after with Tourettes if you happen to come across them in your life and they happen to say the wrong thing. You and everyone else who might come into their orbit every single day in their life.

So no its NOT bloody about a boot on the neck of anyone. Again despite the absoluete determination to make it about that. There is a constant misrepresentation on this. Its about practical realities and definable harms and protections in real world scenarios. Not just a really simplist N word = bad and triggering to me. Cos that really hasn't proved sufficient for either women or transwomen when its come down to it - you have to demonstrate and explain rather more than that. Yes thats more than saying about 'generational trauma' unfortunately. Again, this isn't pleasant to say, but yeah it does matter.

It is about LEGAL ISSUES and how they apply and where they don't apply. Its about how you quantify harm as admissible or where you might class it as 'accidental or unintended hurt' which isn't actionable. And that applies to a number of DIFFERENT groups, because offensive ticks are not exclusive to being directed at black people. Indeed, how do you deal with the bloke with Tourettes who is black? Does he get treated differently to JD for doing the exact some thing because he is 'allowed' to say the word due to his colour and it somehow causes less offense????! Is one racist but the other not? It matters. Cos otherwise you are back to suggesting JD has more agency and greater culpability than someone with a different skin colour doing the same thing which neither can control. Yes it is a frustrating reality that has circular arguments.

However you feel about this, it has to be with consideration with the law rather than because you don't like certain words and find them triggering. Just like other subjects.

I feel sure I'll get another good kicking but its about this reoccurring issue with definitions, intent and context. This IS an upsetting subject. It doesn't mean these points aren't ones we shouldn't be talking about though.

I say time and time again on MN on so many bloody subjects, theorectical and real grievances and idealistic wishes all have to pass the wall of reality challenge in terms of the limit and limitations of law - we can't always have what we want the way we want it. I've been here for Brexit. I've been here for the issues of gender / sex. It ran through Covid in various ways. Its Trump's achilles heel and bane of his life. All for similar bloody reasons. I don't really expect the point to land this time either.

TomPinch · 27/02/2026 00:04

@ThreeWordHarpy posted this earlier.

I find it very interesting that the BBC managed to edit out all of John’s other tics that evening, and we’re not discussing instead, for example, the homophobic “abuse” of Alan Cummings when John ticked “paedo” or the misogynistic “abuse” of women on stage with a tic of “slag”.

I haven't seen the footage (I don't live in the UK, not a massive TV watcher). Anyone care to comment on this?

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 26/02/2026 23:38

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 22:03

But you literally explained that the context in which you hear the word has a direct impact on your emotional reaction. Which was exactly my point.

You may have meant to make a totally different point but those weren’t the words you typed.

Context kicks in after the trauma response.

Chatgpt

Here’s a simple, layman’s way to explain it:
Your brain has two main “safety systems”.
The amygdala is the fast one.
The rational brain (the thinking part) is the slow one.
The amygdala’s job is to keep you alive. It scans constantly for danger using past experience. When it spots something that might be a threat, it doesn’t stop to think — it acts.
It hits the alarm.
That’s when you feel:
heart racing
muscles tense
on edge
This is fight - flight - freeze.
Only after that does the rational part of your brain step in.
The rational brain asks:
Is this actually dangerous?
Was that a real threat?
Am I safe?
Sometimes it says:
False alarm.
But by then, the body has already reacted.
Think of it like this:
The amygdala is the smoke alarm.
The rational brain is the person checking whether it’s toast or a fire.
The alarm goes off first to keep you safe.
You figure out the truth after.

CorporealCarrot · 26/02/2026 23:33

The whole thing reminds me so much of the plot of I Swear - it's like the film he made it now playing out in real life

CorporealCarrot · 26/02/2026 23:26

MyThreeWords · 24/02/2026 16:47

I haven't seen any comments that indicate that "some think DEI is just for black people". (I'm sure there are some on social media because, ... well, ... social media. I mean comments from people involved.)

As for 'segregation', well that's a loaded word but I do think that a risk assessment should have been carried out and that - possibly - in such a high-profile and stressful event it might have been better to arrange the seating arrangements differently. After all, the person who is likely to have suffered most from this is the guy with Tourette's himself. A period on stage and then attendance via a video link set up in another room might have been a possibility. Obviously that isn't something that would be acceptable in most situations, but this was a very unusual one.

What I'm thinking is that the organisers were in a complacent self-congratulatory mindset. They had in mind a prettified version of the disability that they were using to demonstrate their inclusiveness. Tourette's has become a fashionable cause and it is oh-so-easy to virtue signal by being open to its 'safer' manifestations. I expect they were hoping to look edgy and cool when he shouted something like 'fuck'.The whole thing feels exploitative to me.

I'm sure he said pretty much this himself didn't he? I think he said it was a mistake to put a microphone so close to him so anything he said got amplified.

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 26/02/2026 23:23

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 21:55

Yes. Because as a woman with a history of male violence, I understand exactly what you mean. Thank you for making my point for me. While we may react to words we find distressing, context is everything.

It exactly like @OtterlyAstounding describes.

For both of you, male violence is something your lived experience has taught your amygdala - the brain’s threat detector - to scan for. Once triggered, your body floods with stress hormones - racing heart, sweating, hypervigilance. Even when the rational brain kicks in, it can take hours to settle.

For me - and for many Black people - hearing the N word unexpectedly can trigger that same response. It doesn’t have to be shouted as a threat. Historically, it has often gone hand in hand with violence. That’s how triggers work - involuntary, fast, and lingering beyond the moment when the rational brain catches up.

You asked about music. If I'm listening to certain genres of music where the word is expected, it won’t produce the same response. I am doing something I choose - likely somewhere I am relaxed - and my brain isn’t scanning for threats.

This doesn’t mean I couldn’t coexist with someone with Tourette’s. If I work with someone whose tics include racial slurs, over time I might be able to mitigate some of the impact because it’s no longer unexpected and I understand their condition. But that tolerance doesn’t mean the impact disappears completely. If I’ve had a day where I have experienced overt racism or microaggressions (sadly still normal) I may not have the bandwidth to rationalise a tic in that moment. So just as someone with Tourette’s can have worse days, there will be days when my resilience is likely to be lower too.

Assigning involuntary responses to one group only is not helpful. It's more nuanced than that. Judgement free space has to exist for both those with tic and those with trauma responses because understanding that someone cannot control a tic doesn’t mean it won’t still cause hurt.

NewYearSameMe16 · 26/02/2026 23:07

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 22:12

Nope. I said context was important. Which you absolutely agreed with in your post.

Let’s take it back to the word bitch shall we? Seeing as we both find that pretty offensive. Do I buy songs where the word bitch appears and maybe sing along to them? Yes. Does that traumatise me? Not especially but I don’t like it.

Is that the same as my friend calling me bitch in a jokey way because I snagged the last discount? No.

Is it the same as a man walking past me on the street and snarling it in my face? Also no.

Is it the same as me standing on a stage presenting an award and someone shouting it out from the audience? Also no.

Context is key. Did you watch that video by the young black American woman I posted earlier? You should.

So is your point that the N word should be received differently by the actors in this context because JD said it unintentionally due to his disability? That may be the case once the situation has been fully processed and understood but it cannot be applied to that live moment where two black men are stood onstage in front of millions hearing that word yelled at them. It goes back to the two things being true at once; they can still be triggered and upset by what they experienced in the moment while also understanding it wasn’t intentional or racist.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 26/02/2026 22:22

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 18:11

While I appreciate that this slur was the only one that was broadcast, Davidson made a load of slurs. I can’t really understand why the impact on these two guys was so much worse than anyone else who had abuse shouted at them. None of them knew which if any made it to the broadcast. Knowing that was the only slur left in the BBC recording was horrible for them but that’s on the BBC (why?), not on him.

One black woman’s take.

https://x.com/kiyahwillis/status/2026843758634172653?s=61&t=gd6tu0Iz6JpyKXGLWMLGjg

Edited

I hadn’t watched this earlier but she articulates it perfectly.

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 22:12

OtterlyAstounding · 26/02/2026 22:04

Also, you said:

"Because you seem to be saying that black people are unable to understand context or that this single word is traumatic whatever the context. And we know that can’t be true because there would be a huge outcry from the black community every time the word is used in a song or in a film."

That was an attempt to dismiss and minimise black people's potential reactions to the word when shouted by a white man unexpectedly. You're essentially saying, "Oh, come on now, you're not incapable of understanding context, black people! You don't fuss and cry every time DMX uses it, after all. So why are you choosing to get so upset over this??"

It's incredibly patronising and disrespectful. And it fails to understand that when something hits certain triggers (eg. white man, randomly shouting n---r at an awards ceremony), sometimes the body may react before the mitigating context can be explained.

Nope. I said context was important. Which you absolutely agreed with in your post.

Let’s take it back to the word bitch shall we? Seeing as we both find that pretty offensive. Do I buy songs where the word bitch appears and maybe sing along to them? Yes. Does that traumatise me? Not especially but I don’t like it.

Is that the same as my friend calling me bitch in a jokey way because I snagged the last discount? No.

Is it the same as a man walking past me on the street and snarling it in my face? Also no.

Is it the same as me standing on a stage presenting an award and someone shouting it out from the audience? Also no.

Context is key. Did you watch that video by the young black American woman I posted earlier? You should.

OtterlyAstounding · 26/02/2026 22:06

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 22:03

But you literally explained that the context in which you hear the word has a direct impact on your emotional reaction. Which was exactly my point.

You may have meant to make a totally different point but those weren’t the words you typed.

I feel you're being deliberately obtuse.

Some usages (say, by a woman, in my example, or on a television where it's obviously not real) don't trigger a trauma response, so the body doesn't react.

Other usages (say, a man shouting it, in person) do trigger a trauma response, regardless of the wider context that the man has Tourette's.

OtterlyAstounding · 26/02/2026 22:04

Also, you said:

"Because you seem to be saying that black people are unable to understand context or that this single word is traumatic whatever the context. And we know that can’t be true because there would be a huge outcry from the black community every time the word is used in a song or in a film."

That was an attempt to dismiss and minimise black people's potential reactions to the word when shouted by a white man unexpectedly. You're essentially saying, "Oh, come on now, you're not incapable of understanding context, black people! You don't fuss and cry every time DMX uses it, after all. So why are you choosing to get so upset over this??"

It's incredibly patronising and disrespectful. And it fails to understand that when something hits certain triggers (eg. white man, randomly shouting n---r at an awards ceremony), sometimes the body may react before the mitigating context can be explained.

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 22:03

OtterlyAstounding · 26/02/2026 21:59

My point was pretty much the opposite of that, actually, so I don't think you've understood at all.

My point was that the body doesn't understand all the nuances of context - if something hits a trigger by virtue of being said by a male, or a white man, or being shouted out in person, etc, the body will react without checking for wider 'context' and the impact of that reaction will remain even after the context is intellectually explained.

But you literally explained that the context in which you hear the word has a direct impact on your emotional reaction. Which was exactly my point.

You may have meant to make a totally different point but those weren’t the words you typed.

OtterlyAstounding · 26/02/2026 21:59

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 21:55

Yes. Because as a woman with a history of male violence, I understand exactly what you mean. Thank you for making my point for me. While we may react to words we find distressing, context is everything.

My point was pretty much the opposite of that, actually, so I don't think you've understood at all.

My point was that the body doesn't understand all the nuances of context - if something hits a trigger by virtue of being said by a male, or a white man, or being shouted out in person, etc, the body will react without checking for wider 'context' and the impact of that reaction will remain even after the context is intellectually explained.

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 21:55

OtterlyAstounding · 26/02/2026 21:51

It’s not the same thing, but from my perspective as someone who is waiting on an autism assessment, and has trauma from a history of male violence:

If I hear a woman say ‘bitch’ as in, ‘hey bitch’ to a friend of hers, I cringe, but it’s another woman and it’s not aimed at me so it doesn't cause a reaction.

If I hear someone casually use ‘bitch’ without real anger in a film or TV show, I also cringe, and find that it makes me feel involuntarily tense if it’s a man saying it.

If I hear it in a film or a TV show in anger, when said by a man, it will evoke a physical reaction in terms of my heart rate increasing, feeling tense and on edge. (I will often choose to avoid films and shows that use many misogynistic slurs and threats, or violence against women, because of that.)

If ‘bitch’ was shouted at me by a man, in person, that physiological stress response will be markedly heightened. Again, to break it down beyond, ‘it makes me feel stressed’ – I'm flooded with adrenaline, my heart rate will increase, my perspiration will increase, my breathing becomes shallower and faster, and I feel tense, on edge, and vulnerable – prepared for an attack, essentially. It takes time for the adrenaline to leave my system, and for me to feel emotionally regulated again.

And ‘bitch’ isn’t even a particular trigger for me. It doesn’t throw me into a full blown trauma response I can’t control, it just stresses me out when used in anger by a man, because of my history. My body doesn’t ask, ‘hang on, is this a Tourette’s tic?’ before it reacts. It just reacts. And that physiological response doesn’t evaporate on the spot because someone says, ‘it’s Tourette’s’ – it takes time for my system to regulate again.

I can imagine that many black people may have a similar response to the n word, in terms of the body having a fight/flight or trauma-type response.

Does that explain it, at all?

Yes. Because as a woman with a history of male violence, I understand exactly what you mean. Thank you for making my point for me. While we may react to words we find distressing, context is everything.

OtterlyAstounding · 26/02/2026 21:51

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 21:02

So when you talk about the trauma response @Socrateswasrightaboutvoting do you mean that’s the same if a black person hears the N word:
from another black friend
in a song
from someone aggressively saying it as a racial slur
from a disabled person saying it becuase they’re disabled?

Because you seem to be saying that black people are unable to understand context or that this single word is traumatic whatever the context. And we know that can’t be true because there would be a huge outcry from the black community every time the word is used in a song or in a film.

I’m not denying the word is horrible. But context is important.

It’s not the same thing, but from my perspective as someone who is waiting on an autism assessment, and has trauma from a history of male violence:

If I hear a woman say ‘bitch’ as in, ‘hey bitch’ to a friend of hers, I cringe, but it’s another woman and it’s not aimed at me so it doesn't cause a reaction.

If I hear someone casually use ‘bitch’ without real anger in a film or TV show, I also cringe, and find that it makes me feel involuntarily tense if it’s a man saying it.

If I hear it in a film or a TV show in anger, when said by a man, it will evoke a physical reaction in terms of my heart rate increasing, feeling tense and on edge. (I will often choose to avoid films and shows that use many misogynistic slurs and threats, or violence against women, because of that.)

If ‘bitch’ was shouted at me by a man, in person, that physiological stress response will be markedly heightened. Again, to break it down beyond, ‘it makes me feel stressed’ – I'm flooded with adrenaline, my heart rate will increase, my perspiration will increase, my breathing becomes shallower and faster, and I feel tense, on edge, and vulnerable – prepared for an attack, essentially. It takes time for the adrenaline to leave my system, and for me to feel emotionally regulated again.

And ‘bitch’ isn’t even a particular trigger for me. It doesn’t throw me into a full blown trauma response I can’t control, it just stresses me out when used in anger by a man, because of my history. My body doesn’t ask, ‘hang on, is this a Tourette’s tic?’ before it reacts. It just reacts. And that physiological response doesn’t evaporate on the spot because someone says, ‘it’s Tourette’s’ – it takes time for my system to regulate again.

I can imagine that many black people may have a similar response to the n word, in terms of the body having a fight/flight or trauma-type response.

Does that explain it, at all?

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 26/02/2026 21:05

OtterlyAstounding · 26/02/2026 19:42

Absolutely agree with all of this.

I have to say that the minimisation of trauma responses feels like bad faith to me, precisely because posters on this topic understand the impact of them when it comes to the trans issue.

On thread odd thread that I have seen on the Feminists board posters will vociferously dispute the trauma that Black and Brown women experience. With that and Trans women comparing their own 'struggle' to racism, I don't often engage.

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 21:02

So when you talk about the trauma response @Socrateswasrightaboutvoting do you mean that’s the same if a black person hears the N word:
from another black friend
in a song
from someone aggressively saying it as a racial slur
from a disabled person saying it becuase they’re disabled?

Because you seem to be saying that black people are unable to understand context or that this single word is traumatic whatever the context. And we know that can’t be true because there would be a huge outcry from the black community every time the word is used in a song or in a film.

I’m not denying the word is horrible. But context is important.

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 26/02/2026 20:51

GenderlessVoid · 26/02/2026 19:15

@Socrateswasrightaboutvoting

So Black people should regulate their involuntary trauma response to protect the person with Tourette’s? What about our employment, economic, social and mental health?

We should be asking how do we get to a place where the involuntary neurological responses of people with Tourette’s can coexist with the involuntary trauma responses shaped by lived and historical racial harm.

Thank you for saying this. Watching people who claim to be arguing for people with disabilities minimize trauma responses and suggest that it was just words has seemed unreal to me. Trauma responses are a disability. How are you advocating disabled people by suggesting that trauma responses, which are just as physiological as Tourettes, aren't as important or that people should rise above them? It's basically saying that one disability is worth more or is more important than another.

I'm also upset by those who act like John is somehow responsible for his tics bc he knows that the n word or other things he shouted (pedo, etc) are vile and likely to upset people. Of course he knows that but he can't control what he shouts. Many times, when I shout something I don't even know I was going to say anything, much less what I was going to say or that I was going to shout it. I'm as surprised as everyone else.

The minimization of trauma responses seems especially odd on FWR bc it's a big reason many women don't want to share loos and other single sex facilities with transwomen. Doing so triggers a trauma response for many. It makes me so angry that policy makers didn't seem to even consider that many women have this problem. (To be clear, that's not the only reason for SSS but it is a common one and one that I think people on this forum would be aware of and care about.)

This thread is so frustrating and textbook whataboutery.

I can't imagine what it must be like having to navigate the world with Tourettes and PTSD. I can only hope the film spreads awareness and forces more productive discussions than this one.

I really don't understand why accepting that trauma is real and involuntary is so difficult. It takes nothing away from the devastation of Tourette’s. The suggestion that a trauma response - whatever caused it - is something that can just be “risen above", or exists to infringe on the rights of others, is absurd. Who would choose trauma? It’s physiological, involuntary, and no less real than a tic.

I agree that attacking JD for something he cannot control, or suggesting he should shut himself away, is appalling and should be challenged. That’s not a solution either. It’s not hard to see that some of the loudest voices seem less interested in Tourette’s itself and more focused on using this moment to deliberately deflect attention from the harm caused to Black people.

FWR is a funny old place.

OtterlyAstounding · 26/02/2026 19:42

GenderlessVoid · 26/02/2026 19:15

@Socrateswasrightaboutvoting

So Black people should regulate their involuntary trauma response to protect the person with Tourette’s? What about our employment, economic, social and mental health?

We should be asking how do we get to a place where the involuntary neurological responses of people with Tourette’s can coexist with the involuntary trauma responses shaped by lived and historical racial harm.

Thank you for saying this. Watching people who claim to be arguing for people with disabilities minimize trauma responses and suggest that it was just words has seemed unreal to me. Trauma responses are a disability. How are you advocating disabled people by suggesting that trauma responses, which are just as physiological as Tourettes, aren't as important or that people should rise above them? It's basically saying that one disability is worth more or is more important than another.

I'm also upset by those who act like John is somehow responsible for his tics bc he knows that the n word or other things he shouted (pedo, etc) are vile and likely to upset people. Of course he knows that but he can't control what he shouts. Many times, when I shout something I don't even know I was going to say anything, much less what I was going to say or that I was going to shout it. I'm as surprised as everyone else.

The minimization of trauma responses seems especially odd on FWR bc it's a big reason many women don't want to share loos and other single sex facilities with transwomen. Doing so triggers a trauma response for many. It makes me so angry that policy makers didn't seem to even consider that many women have this problem. (To be clear, that's not the only reason for SSS but it is a common one and one that I think people on this forum would be aware of and care about.)

Absolutely agree with all of this.

I have to say that the minimisation of trauma responses feels like bad faith to me, precisely because posters on this topic understand the impact of them when it comes to the trans issue.

OtterlyAstounding · 26/02/2026 19:39

"Everyone has a right not to be abused or singled out. They have a right to not be harassed. This all rests on that point of intent. Someone with Tourettes isn't being abusive. They maybe saying something offensive but it's not abusive and I think this is where it does get kinda sticky."

I feel like this massive focus on intent over all else, and this insistence that intent is what defines impact, is unrealistic. I understand that legally, it's pointless to hold someone accountable for something they have no control over and aren't doing with intent, but that doesn't mean it doesn't have a negative impact on the recipient.

We can see that in the example of a man with dementia groping women. A woman might feel less violated, knowing that he has dementia, but she equally may not, and she absolutely may still feel violated and notably impacted. And the man should not be permitted to be in places where he can do that.

"Someone in the work place has a right to have a workplace which isn't hostile and they don't feel degraded."

Now, of course, words have lower impact than physical touch, so they're a much less severe situation than groping. But should a person of colour really be expected to listen to racial slur tics on a daily basis, if someone's Tourette's is severe? And if the person is kept apart from people of colour because of that, then what about the others they may be around?

Should a woman be expected to have to listen to someone call her a 'fat whore' every day? Does the lack of intent really mean someone shouldn't be bothered by a work environment that is filled with slurs? Hearing that over and over, whether meant or not, could be depressing and degrading, and it is unreasonable to say a person shouldn't be bothered. Especially considering some of the people someone with Tourette's may be working with could have their own conditions or trauma that mean the tics have more impact.

Obviously people with Tourette's should ideally be able to have jobs, but equally I don't think it's fair to demand that employees put up with antisocial tics if they're constant, day in and day out. It's great if they are fine with them, but I don't think they should be blamed or called ableist if they aren't comfortable with that.

Some people with severe Tourette's might be better suited to roles that don't have constant close contact with co workers or the public, to minimise impact, much like people with social anxiety might be better working in non-customer facing roles. Sometimes our abilities or disabilities do impact the work we can do, although employers should try to make every possible adjustment.

NewYearSameMe16 · 26/02/2026 19:33

DamsonGoldfinch · 26/02/2026 18:11

While I appreciate that this slur was the only one that was broadcast, Davidson made a load of slurs. I can’t really understand why the impact on these two guys was so much worse than anyone else who had abuse shouted at them. None of them knew which if any made it to the broadcast. Knowing that was the only slur left in the BBC recording was horrible for them but that’s on the BBC (why?), not on him.

One black woman’s take.

https://x.com/kiyahwillis/status/2026843758634172653?s=61&t=gd6tu0Iz6JpyKXGLWMLGjg

Edited

When he shouted ‘shut the fuck up’ at the BAFTA president or yelled ‘paedo’ at Alan Cumming, how do you think they felt? Probably a bit shocked and thrown off. But ultimately it’d be the same for anyone hearing those words as there’s no historical significance or personal connection to them.

Delroy Lindo however, has probably experienced someone actually yelling that at him in his 73 years on earth. MBJ may have heard stories of people shouting that word while one of his ancestors was lynched. After coming from nothing, working for decades in the industry, they make it to a room and stage like the BAFTAs and they hear that word? As others have said, in that moment they probably felt like whatever we do, wherever we go, we’re still just seen as n**rs. Do you see the difference? The word carries so much historical and lived pain that it was horrible to watch them experience this.

That linked video underlines what a lot are saying which is that we know John isn’t racist, that’s not the point at all. The point is it's possible to suitably acknowledge the absence of intent and the presence of harm at the same time.

GenderlessVoid · 26/02/2026 19:15

@Socrateswasrightaboutvoting

So Black people should regulate their involuntary trauma response to protect the person with Tourette’s? What about our employment, economic, social and mental health?

We should be asking how do we get to a place where the involuntary neurological responses of people with Tourette’s can coexist with the involuntary trauma responses shaped by lived and historical racial harm.

Thank you for saying this. Watching people who claim to be arguing for people with disabilities minimize trauma responses and suggest that it was just words has seemed unreal to me. Trauma responses are a disability. How are you advocating disabled people by suggesting that trauma responses, which are just as physiological as Tourettes, aren't as important or that people should rise above them? It's basically saying that one disability is worth more or is more important than another.

I'm also upset by those who act like John is somehow responsible for his tics bc he knows that the n word or other things he shouted (pedo, etc) are vile and likely to upset people. Of course he knows that but he can't control what he shouts. Many times, when I shout something I don't even know I was going to say anything, much less what I was going to say or that I was going to shout it. I'm as surprised as everyone else.

The minimization of trauma responses seems especially odd on FWR bc it's a big reason many women don't want to share loos and other single sex facilities with transwomen. Doing so triggers a trauma response for many. It makes me so angry that policy makers didn't seem to even consider that many women have this problem. (To be clear, that's not the only reason for SSS but it is a common one and one that I think people on this forum would be aware of and care about.)

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 26/02/2026 19:05

frenchnoodle · 26/02/2026 19:04

Out of curiosity if red said she understood how you felt, would you get angry?

Because that's impossible isn't it?
What response are you expecting?

Can you elaborate on what you are asking?

frenchnoodle · 26/02/2026 19:04

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 26/02/2026 18:35

My involuntary physiological response to your last paragraph was rage. Your posts seem balanced and reasonable but they always end with your foot on the neck of Black people.

How can Black people discuss what we want as outcomes with people who expect us to understand the involuntary nature of Tourette’s, yet dismiss our own involuntary trauma responses to racial slurs - intended or not?

This goes back to our discussion about consensus and meaning-making.
You have eloquently written paragraph after paragraph about what people with Tourette’s go through, your empathy for them is clear. Yet my comment on the historical and ongoing nature of racial trauma is sidestepped. You ask questions but you are not really interested in the answers because you think you already have the answers. You believe you are arbiter of what counts as consensus, how meaning is made, what constitutes harm, and what is a fair trade-off. From that position, you have consistently dismissed Black trauma responses rooted in lived and historical experience. When we ask for safety and inclusion, your framed as one-sided or selfish or about 'rights over'. For you, this is a conflict between able-bodied people and disabled people.

You asked:

And that's the question I would ask those saying about considering black people, what do you want the outcomes to look like and what do you think you are losing out on in terms of rights? How can those rights be upheld without hugely impacting the employment, economic, social and mental health of someone with Tourettes?

So Black people should regulate their involuntary trauma response to protect the person with Tourette’s? What about our employment, economic, social and mental health?

We should be asking how do we get to a place where the involuntary neurological responses of people with Tourette’s can coexist with the involuntary trauma responses shaped by lived and historical racial harm.

Out of curiosity if red said she understood how you felt, would you get angry?

Because that's impossible isn't it?
What response are you expecting?

GenderlessVoid · 26/02/2026 19:00

(As I said earlier ITT, I have more control over my tics than my PTSD bc I can sometimes redirect my tics. I have no control over my trauma response.)

Just to clarify since there is some misunderstanding about redirection, I can't redirect my tics for several hours, like I might have to for an awards show. Most people I know who can suppress or redirect their tics can only do it for a short time (a few minutes to maybe half an hour) and it takes a lot of effort. But many people with Tourettes can do it for a short time.