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John Davison BAFTA Tourette’s incident and competing rights

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slet · 24/02/2026 15:39

It’s interesting how this is being discussed atm. I see Ash Sarkar has framed it as an example of competing rights between disabled people and victims of racism, forgetting about intersectionality. But there is a struggle from those on the extreme left to see how women’s rights are compromised by ceding to TRAs.

not expressing myself very well but thought it had some interesting parallels with the sex and gender debate.

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FrippEnos · 25/02/2026 23:36

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 25/02/2026 23:02

I’d prefer the N word died out completely. But I respect the right of others in the Black community to decide for themselves whether to reclaim it. These debates happen in most marginalised communities when it comes to slurs used against them.

I would say that it happens in all communities when slurs are used against them.
I am not going to gatekeep what words communities call themselves even if the some of the community disagree.

Its not my fight to have but like RedToothBrush I believe that it does muddy the waters.

But as I posted before, When in the classroom I (and any teacher) would not allow any pupil of any ethnicity to use slurs even if aimed at pupils of the same ethnicity. So there are exceptions.

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 25/02/2026 23:02

FrippEnos · 25/02/2026 21:48

But not all language change is good.
We all know words that started off being nice and are now used as slurs or to give offence.

Look at how scope had to change its name.

I’d prefer the N word died out completely. But I respect the right of others in the Black community to decide for themselves whether to reclaim it. These debates happen in most marginalised communities when it comes to slurs used against them.

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 25/02/2026 22:55

NotBadConsidering · 25/02/2026 21:42

It’s not about “reclamation” of the word. It’s about pointing out that the context of the word is relevant.

The only reason Jamie Foxx is saying “he meant that shit” is because of Foxx’s own ignorance of coprolalia. Well, Jamie, explain how he “meant that shit” and all the rappers and comedians who use it regularly don’t “mean that shit”.

Jamie Foxx is not all Black people.

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 25/02/2026 22:53

OtterlyAstounding · 25/02/2026 22:06

It's disappointing to see no other white commenters call that poster out. I don't expect people to engage in an ongoing fashion, because what's the point, but to just let it stand entirely unchallenged makes it seem acceptable/endorsed. It makes a thread feel weirdly racially hostile to me, fwiw.

That is exactly what went through my mind.

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 25/02/2026 22:50

RedToothBrush · 25/02/2026 21:53

Like I say I disagree that I want to control language.

I think we need shared understandings. Certain words changing means we lose an understanding as well as that meaning. They are about consensuses.

Words mean things. They provide definitions. They are shared experiences in some cases. If you lack the ability to describe something you lack the ability to share what that means. You destroy consensus.

We can create new definitions with new words and have complete control over them without having constant arguments or misunderstandings. We then persuade others of their worth and build consensus that way.

It's much healthier and has less pitfuls.

Like I say, I don’t want to control language.

I think we need shared understandings. When words change meaning, we lose consensus. Language depends on agreement.

What was the “shared understanding” of the N word built on? And who got to shape that consensus? Who is telling us they’re better placed to define a mutually agreed meaning now?

If meaning must be fixed by “shared understanding” and “consensus,” what shared experiences are you bringing to the table when it comes to the N word?

In no particular order (and with a few thrown in for our American cousins), a few shared meaning making experiences past and present.

Caribbean plantation slavery under British rule
Compensation paid to slave owners – a debt only recently finished
Colonial devastation across Africa and the Caribbean
Racial hierarchies of the British Empire
“Scientific” race theory taught in British institutions
“No Coloureds” housing and job discrimination
The Middle Passage
Slavery in the American South
Enforced breeding of enslaved women
Family separation through sale
Whipping, branding and mutilation
The Fugitive Slave Act
The KKK
Jim Crow segregation
Apartheid
SUS laws
The Windrush scandal
Over-policing
Maternal mortality disparities
The murder of Stephen Lawrence
Medical equipment not calibrated for Black and Brown skin
Limiting of pain relief
Adultification of Black children
The Liverpool Black childrens scandal
Henrietta Lacks
Structural racism
Tuskegee Syphilis Study

I could go on for pages.

One group had and has the power to define another as inferior. So reclaiming meaning isn’t “muddying the waters.” It’s challenging who got to write the meaning in the first place.

HeBeaverandSheBeaver · 25/02/2026 22:49

@RedToothBrush
thank you for the thoughtful and informative post. It’s refreshing to read a really balanced response.

PachacutisBadAuntie · 25/02/2026 22:26

Janice Turner's take in the Times

www.thetimes.com/article/d515724c-ad20-4914-8eab-aedb08f2ec85?shareToken=523fc85664586af5c42b6ae49d912f91

FrippEnos · 25/02/2026 22:21

OtterlyAstounding · 25/02/2026 22:12

My point stands.

So it has to be performative.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 25/02/2026 22:15

RedToothBrush · 25/02/2026 22:13

Wow.

Yep.

RedToothBrush · 25/02/2026 22:13

NewYearSameMe16 · 25/02/2026 22:09

It’s always funny when in accusing someone, a person inadvertently reveals their own point of view. It’s quite clear that it’s you that wants the two black men decentred and all the attention and sympathy on the white man. I have little doubt that if the races were reversed and a white slur had been shouted you would not be on here writing hundreds of paragraphs ‘educating’ people on Tourette’s or calling people upset at the situation ‘performative’. These situations always reveal true thoughts and it’s a sad reflection of where this country still is in 2026.

Wow.

NewYearSameMe16 · 25/02/2026 22:12

DuchessofStaffordshire · 25/02/2026 20:58

Ahhh, culturally created. How about we ban the N word completely then? That way nobody would have to be exposed to it. I don't think I've heard anyone in recent years use the N word outside of African American rap music.

Spend five minutes on social media or at any football match when a black player makes a mistake and report back.

OtterlyAstounding · 25/02/2026 22:12

FrippEnos · 25/02/2026 22:10

MN guidlines are not to engage but to report.

My point stands.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 25/02/2026 22:11

NewYearSameMe16 · 25/02/2026 22:09

It’s always funny when in accusing someone, a person inadvertently reveals their own point of view. It’s quite clear that it’s you that wants the two black men decentred and all the attention and sympathy on the white man. I have little doubt that if the races were reversed and a white slur had been shouted you would not be on here writing hundreds of paragraphs ‘educating’ people on Tourette’s or calling people upset at the situation ‘performative’. These situations always reveal true thoughts and it’s a sad reflection of where this country still is in 2026.

Hot air.

FrippEnos · 25/02/2026 22:10

OtterlyAstounding · 25/02/2026 22:06

It's disappointing to see no other white commenters call that poster out. I don't expect people to engage in an ongoing fashion, because what's the point, but to just let it stand entirely unchallenged makes it seem acceptable/endorsed. It makes a thread feel weirdly racially hostile to me, fwiw.

MN guidlines are not to engage but to report.

NewYearSameMe16 · 25/02/2026 22:09

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 25/02/2026 20:46

It’s like you and the other unhinged posters on the other thread are so annoyed that the two actors aren’t being front and centred over a white man. I understand how horrible it must’ve been to hear that offensive slur, I haven’t been living on the moon, I realise it’s an extremely offensive word to say to black people by white people. Noted. The fact that it was an involuntary tic meant with no malice (which hopefully all involved will have educated themselves on Tourette’s and Coprolalia) is also noted. They can co-exist, it’s not a race to the bottom. Both views are valid.

I can also see the horrific treatment and ignorance that’s been meted out to a man with a debilitating disability, which is still going. Comments on social media are horrific. The performative outrage/offence seeking is starting to wear thin though. The DEMANDS for an apology for something he had no control over, impact over intent or not. Pound of flesh seeking.

The issue is with Bafta and the BBC. If you’re still bothered that I appear ‘dismissive’ then I don’t really care to be honest. People are clutching at straws to shout racism as it is. I do think the man that’s going to come out worse in all of this is John Davidson.

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It’s always funny when in accusing someone, a person inadvertently reveals their own point of view. It’s quite clear that it’s you that wants the two black men decentred and all the attention and sympathy on the white man. I have little doubt that if the races were reversed and a white slur had been shouted you would not be on here writing hundreds of paragraphs ‘educating’ people on Tourette’s or calling people upset at the situation ‘performative’. These situations always reveal true thoughts and it’s a sad reflection of where this country still is in 2026.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 25/02/2026 22:08

NewYearSameMe16 · 25/02/2026 21:47

Two dismissive sentences among paragraphs and paragraphs of telling others they’re performative and beating them over the head with rhetoric around Tourette’s we’ve now heard ten thousand times. A well balanced view, cheers 👍

If you’d bothered to read all my posts on the thread you’d see there are a bit more the two ‘dismissive’ sentences. I’m dismissing most of your posts though as you are just blowing hot air and well balanced views seemed to have escaped you. Heard ten thousand times but understand none. 👍

OtterlyAstounding · 25/02/2026 22:06

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 25/02/2026 22:02

You have just been chatting shit about skin colour shades. That's as racist as hell.

It's disappointing to see no other white commenters call that poster out. I don't expect people to engage in an ongoing fashion, because what's the point, but to just let it stand entirely unchallenged makes it seem acceptable/endorsed. It makes a thread feel weirdly racially hostile to me, fwiw.

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 25/02/2026 22:02

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 25/02/2026 21:46

It’s been 24 hours and you’ve not told me one single racist thing I’ve said.

because

I’m not racist.

You have just been chatting shit about skin colour shades. That's as racist as hell.

BlushingBrightly · 25/02/2026 22:02

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I'm not at all angry. Bit bored if anything. Fortunately I have biscuits, and other more interesting posts to read. 😃

RedToothBrush · 25/02/2026 21:53

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 25/02/2026 21:44

Language changes, it always does. You just want control over that change.

What give you the right to decide how language changes over the people who were harmed by that language?

Like I say I disagree that I want to control language.

I think we need shared understandings. Certain words changing means we lose an understanding as well as that meaning. They are about consensuses.

Words mean things. They provide definitions. They are shared experiences in some cases. If you lack the ability to describe something you lack the ability to share what that means. You destroy consensus.

We can create new definitions with new words and have complete control over them without having constant arguments or misunderstandings. We then persuade others of their worth and build consensus that way.

It's much healthier and has less pitfuls.

NewYearSameMe16 · 25/02/2026 21:51

GrooveArmada · 25/02/2026 20:37

Did you mean to be so rude? So patronising? Fortunately that's your problem, not mine.

Arrogance is not a pretty trait, especially if you're wrong.

I absolutely meant to match your energy so if you consider it rude, you might need to check your tone. And you may disagree but I am definitely not ‘wrong’ about my own views so respectfully, get over yourself.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 25/02/2026 21:49

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FrippEnos · 25/02/2026 21:48

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 25/02/2026 21:44

Language changes, it always does. You just want control over that change.

What give you the right to decide how language changes over the people who were harmed by that language?

But not all language change is good.
We all know words that started off being nice and are now used as slurs or to give offence.

Look at how scope had to change its name.

NewYearSameMe16 · 25/02/2026 21:47

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 25/02/2026 20:25

Can people read? I’ve said I understand the impact on the actors of hearing the word. It’s literally in my post you quoted - ‘They were offended by an offensive involuntary tic. It’s not difficult to understand why. ‘

Wild.

Two dismissive sentences among paragraphs and paragraphs of telling others they’re performative and beating them over the head with rhetoric around Tourette’s we’ve now heard ten thousand times. A well balanced view, cheers 👍

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 25/02/2026 21:46

OtterlyAstounding · 25/02/2026 21:45

I don't feel like responding in good faith to someone who appears to be here purely to engage in racist trolling. That's all I have to say to you.

It’s been 24 hours and you’ve not told me one single racist thing I’ve said.

because

I’m not racist.