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nicepotoftea · 24/02/2026 14:49

ThatZanyFatball · 24/02/2026 14:30

Yeah but people need lung and kidney transplants bc otherwise they'll die. A woman won't die if she doesn't give birth to a child it is purely a wish fulfillment thing, like plastic surgery. There are many children in need of good homes throughout the world why put all this effort, expense, and energy into a non life-saving procedure when there are so many alternatives for people to start a family?

What alternatives in this situation?

whoTFismadelaine · 24/02/2026 14:46

SatinPajamas · 24/02/2026 14:41

Ah the old "Don't have fertility treatment adopt!" trope 🙄

Funny how no one ever admonishes fertile women for wanting their own children when there are so many just waiting to adopt isn't it? No one ever berates pregnant women for making more kids when there are so many unloved ones do they!?

If a family had a long list of genetic issues that meant their child would have a very hard life or never be able to procreate and they deliberately set about creating such a child for their own sense of "wellbeing" I certainly would judge them.

SatinPajamas · 24/02/2026 14:41

ThatZanyFatball · 24/02/2026 14:30

Yeah but people need lung and kidney transplants bc otherwise they'll die. A woman won't die if she doesn't give birth to a child it is purely a wish fulfillment thing, like plastic surgery. There are many children in need of good homes throughout the world why put all this effort, expense, and energy into a non life-saving procedure when there are so many alternatives for people to start a family?

Ah the old "Don't have fertility treatment adopt!" trope 🙄

Funny how no one ever admonishes fertile women for wanting their own children when there are so many just waiting to adopt isn't it? No one ever berates pregnant women for making more kids when there are so many unloved ones do they!?

ThatZanyFatball · 24/02/2026 14:31

Franjipanl8r · 24/02/2026 01:24

I don’t have any issues taking a donor organ if I needed one and someone else was willing to donate. It’s no different to a lung or kidney transplant IMO.

No one ever "needs" a womb transplant. That's the difference.

Cheese55 · 24/02/2026 14:30

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 14:12

' it seems to be felt that the majority would consent to organ donation'

What is this feeling based on, I wonder?

Because most would consent to an organ transplant if needed. You can't have one without the other.

ThatZanyFatball · 24/02/2026 14:30

Franjipanl8r · 24/02/2026 01:24

I don’t have any issues taking a donor organ if I needed one and someone else was willing to donate. It’s no different to a lung or kidney transplant IMO.

Yeah but people need lung and kidney transplants bc otherwise they'll die. A woman won't die if she doesn't give birth to a child it is purely a wish fulfillment thing, like plastic surgery. There are many children in need of good homes throughout the world why put all this effort, expense, and energy into a non life-saving procedure when there are so many alternatives for people to start a family?

Needspaceforlego · 24/02/2026 14:27

Mithral · 24/02/2026 14:22

It will definitely have been the subject of surveys - have a google.

One of the reasons for the opt out was that when asked a much larger % of people saying they want to donate than have registered to do so. This suggests a lot of lost donations due to inertia which is a shame. The argument was that people who feel strongly will opt out people who don't care either way will be happy to donate.

There were also lots of people who'd accept a donor organ who didn't have donor cards.

It was also to make it easier to have the conversation with families for Doctors.

There is actually very few people who are able to donate. Basically you need to be on lifesupport free of cancer and infection. So essentially its people who have had accidents that are able to donate.

Mithral · 24/02/2026 14:22

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 14:12

' it seems to be felt that the majority would consent to organ donation'

What is this feeling based on, I wonder?

It will definitely have been the subject of surveys - have a google.

One of the reasons for the opt out was that when asked a much larger % of people saying they want to donate than have registered to do so. This suggests a lot of lost donations due to inertia which is a shame. The argument was that people who feel strongly will opt out people who don't care either way will be happy to donate.

MsGreying · 24/02/2026 14:14

A womb is not a hip, or a lung or a kidney.

You will live without a womb.
It's hard to live with one not working right.

Endometriosis affects approximately 10% (around 190 million) of women and girls of reproductive age globally.

I think we should concentrate research on to improving their lives.

And if this Womb charity don't currently plan to put them in men, rest assured someone else is planning to do just that.

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 14:12

' it seems to be felt that the majority would consent to organ donation'

What is this feeling based on, I wonder?

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 14:11

Bagsintheboot · 24/02/2026 14:06

Consent is not a simple matter when it comes to medical ethics.

In many cases, active consent is dismissed in favour of presumed consent where it is considered to be in the best medical interests of the patient, or in this case, patients multiple.

It's a debate that could be had endlessly and never come to a true resolution - is it better to assume consent and save another life or lives, or does the principle of individual consent override all? Which is more ethical?

I don't wish to derail the thread, because we could get into numerous detailed "what if" scenarios, but suffice to say that there is no one "right" answer, we have to have some kind of system (which is always going to be considered unethical by some, regardless of what it is), and presently it seems to be felt that the majority would consent to organ donation and so here we are.

Thank you for directly engaging with my points. I dont see it as a derail, tbh, as the consent issue seems fundamental.

Bagsintheboot · 24/02/2026 14:06

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:47

A reasonable first point, thank you.

So some situations assume consent.

I dont think this de facto broadens out to assumed consent being a 'simple' matter.

I dont think everyone is aware of the need to opt out. If someone is not aware, its not reasonable to assume consent.

Consent is not a simple matter when it comes to medical ethics.

In many cases, active consent is dismissed in favour of presumed consent where it is considered to be in the best medical interests of the patient, or in this case, patients multiple.

It's a debate that could be had endlessly and never come to a true resolution - is it better to assume consent and save another life or lives, or does the principle of individual consent override all? Which is more ethical?

I don't wish to derail the thread, because we could get into numerous detailed "what if" scenarios, but suffice to say that there is no one "right" answer, we have to have some kind of system (which is always going to be considered unethical by some, regardless of what it is), and presently it seems to be felt that the majority would consent to organ donation and so here we are.

PachacutisBadAuntie · 24/02/2026 14:05

It was David Lammy's 'transwoman's cervix' that prompted me to opt out of the organ donor register. I realised that it would only take one ambitious surgeon to decide that a set of female reproductive organs would be just the thing to implant in their male patient who 'feels like a woman' for it to be tried eventually. Functionality wouldn't necessarily be required. Given the horrors the NHS has already happily visited on trans people, and their general attitude to women, I can't see anyone stopping it.

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 14:04

There used to be campaigns and stands, and you filled in your details and carried a card. That was a good system.

What next? Seeking blood donors is too much of a faff? Kidney donors hard to find? Pass a bill, assume consent, problem solved!

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:59

whatsgoingoninmybrain · 24/02/2026 13:56

Still not applicable here.

It is well signposted on every hospital notice board. It was very well publicised.

'Hospital noticeboards' are not sufficient to inform a population. If its so important, the NHS could ask everyone for consent directly.

whatsgoingoninmybrain · 24/02/2026 13:56

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:17

Did someone say ' manufacture of consent'?

Still not applicable here.

It is well signposted on every hospital notice board. It was very well publicised.

Shortshriftandlethal · 24/02/2026 13:47

TheOchreJoker · 24/02/2026 13:36

My inability to have children is NOT a disability, What a bizarre thing for you to say..

You can only speak for yourself. Others may feel differently.

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:47

Bagsintheboot · 24/02/2026 13:33

Consent should absolutely be assumed in certain situations. If someone is wheeled into A&E, unconscious and bleeding out, you assume their consent to treatment, for example.

The organ donation point is very simple - if you don't consent, you can opt out. Just like if you don't consent to be resuscitated you can put a DNACPR in place.

A reasonable first point, thank you.

So some situations assume consent.

I dont think this de facto broadens out to assumed consent being a 'simple' matter.

I dont think everyone is aware of the need to opt out. If someone is not aware, its not reasonable to assume consent.

TheOchreJoker · 24/02/2026 13:36

dragonfruit8 · 24/02/2026 02:46

The involuntarily childless would probably disagree with you.

My inability to have children is NOT a disability, What a bizarre thing for you to say..

Random321 · 24/02/2026 13:34

JoeSikoraTommysStory · 24/02/2026 02:42

For all the pps saying it’s no different to other transplants it actually is; other transplants are to save lives.
This is not a life saving operation it’s fucking ridiculous.

That's incorrect.

Eye/cornea transplants for one. Rarely life saving but definetely life changing.

Bagsintheboot · 24/02/2026 13:33

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 12:28

Consent should never be assumed.

Consent should absolutely be assumed in certain situations. If someone is wheeled into A&E, unconscious and bleeding out, you assume their consent to treatment, for example.

The organ donation point is very simple - if you don't consent, you can opt out. Just like if you don't consent to be resuscitated you can put a DNACPR in place.

Shortshriftandlethal · 24/02/2026 13:25

I've noticed a few threads, such as this one, seem to have been moved onto this board, and I'm wondering why? Is the 'feminist general chat' thread no longer a thing?

Cheese55 · 24/02/2026 13:24

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:16

Jibes like this are exactly what I was talking about. Why the need to be personal?

I took that as them offering helpful advice as you seem worried about it.

AuntieAgnesPoodle · 24/02/2026 13:20

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 07:27

Well, if the donor had consented its one thing.

Of course the UK now assumes consent.

The womb is not on the list of organs a person can agree to donate. In the article it says that permission was sought from the family, after the woman died. She had already agreed to donate other organs.

ArabellaScott · 24/02/2026 13:17

Did someone say ' manufacture of consent'?