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“Heated Rivalry” author Rachel Reid on J. K. Rowling - “the bar is pretty high in how evil you have to be,” “ I’m extremely the opposite of everything she believes”

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YankSplaining · 23/02/2026 17:20

Well, this is disappointing.

”[Reid] has a keen desire not to disappoint her fans, especially when they’re sending her photos of freshly inked tattoos of her words on their skin. ‘I know of another author that a lot of people got tattoos of but then wanted them gone. Like, J. K. Rowling,’ she says. ‘The bar is pretty high for how evil you have to be, but I don’t want to let a single person down.’ I ask if she’s a TERF. ‘No, I’m extremely the opposite of everything she believes,’ she replies.”

Well, too late, she let me down. “Extremely the opposite of everything she believes,” huh? I guess Rachel Reid thinks teenage girls should be forced to undress after PE in front of naked male classmates who gawp as their dicks get hard. Or that female inmates should be locked in cells with male inmates serving time for serial rape.

I don’t expect Reid to agree with Rowling on trans issues. It’s the monstering of Rowling that I take issue with - the “evil,” and the framing of Rowling as so extreme that Reid feels the need to be extremely the opposite of everything she believes.

Edit: title should read “on how evil you have to be”

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Greyskybluesky · 25/02/2026 00:16

onepostwonder · 25/02/2026 00:09

I don’t disagree that there is considerable interest in isolating and even removing trans people from life (In reference to reducing the number of trans people, Helen Joyce proclaimed “…two reasons – one of them is that every one of those people is a person who’s been damaged. But the second one is every one of those people is basically, you know, a huge problem to a sane world").

Removing trans people from the world will not address any of the endemic male violence against women in the world.

Many trans people won’t survive the sex realist project due to cruelty, despair and/or violence.

The world has moved forward these past few hundreds of years towards inclusion and diversity rather than insularism and biologic determinism. The UK will see trans people living as fully embodied people once again some day.

You've quoted Helen Joyce out of context.

Greyskybluesky · 25/02/2026 00:14

onepostwonder · 25/02/2026 00:13

I apologise for not paying attention to the sentries stationed at the doorway.

Care to clarify?

onepostwonder · 25/02/2026 00:13

Greyskybluesky · 25/02/2026 00:12

Bizarre to you. Of course.

Women's facilities and needs have always been political. Women's bodies and existence have always been political.
There is no "suddenly" for women.
Trans identifying men seem to think they're the first group of people to have their lives put under the political spotlight. They are not. Women have been dealing with this forever.

I apologise for not paying attention to the sentries stationed at the doorway.

Greyskybluesky · 25/02/2026 00:12

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:40

Personally, I never gave change rooms or toilets any thought. It seems bizarre that they are so suddenly political.

Bizarre to you. Of course.

Women's facilities and needs have always been political. Women's bodies and existence have always been political.
There is no "suddenly" for women.
Trans identifying men seem to think they're the first group of people to have their lives put under the political spotlight. They are not. Women have been dealing with this forever.

onepostwonder · 25/02/2026 00:09

Helleofabore · 25/02/2026 00:02

And yet, we have have two significant court judgements that have confirmed that any male people entering a female single sex provision make that provision mixed sex.

Like GLP, you can declare that there is an alternative interpretation that is lawful, but I dare say you will be very disappointed. As Bridget Phillipson says, there is no need to wait for the guidance the law is clear.

And safety, privacy and dignity for female people is indeed the very basis of safeguarding. If you understood safeguarding and consent, you would know this.

I don’t disagree that there is considerable interest in isolating and even removing trans people from life (In reference to reducing the number of trans people, Helen Joyce proclaimed “…two reasons – one of them is that every one of those people is a person who’s been damaged. But the second one is every one of those people is basically, you know, a huge problem to a sane world").

Removing trans people from the world will not address any of the endemic male violence against women in the world.

Many trans people won’t survive the sex realist project due to cruelty, despair and/or violence.

The world has moved forward these past few hundreds of years towards inclusion and diversity rather than insularism and biologic determinism. The UK will see trans people living as fully embodied people once again some day.

onepostwonder · 25/02/2026 00:07

Helleofabore · 25/02/2026 00:04

And yet, you are a male person and your experiences are not that of a female person. Your denial doesn’t change the material reality of those facts.

You are correct. Your words here have no affect on my material reality.

onepostwonder · 25/02/2026 00:07

MyAmpleSheep · 24/02/2026 23:59

I think, for the avoidance of doubt, the limitation to women only in women only toilets is justified by being necessaary to maintain women's safety, privacy and propriety. Those are the de-facto legitimate aims, the proportionate means are to exclude men and provide them alternative bathroom facilities.

All three go out of the window as soon as any man - such as yourself - steps foot across the threshold to use that toilet.

That's the legal position in the UK.

Trans people have been using the facilities they use for decades. These are, for the most part, publicly shared spaces. I believe enforcement of sex realist goals for safety, privacy and propriety will be uncivil and far more dangerous for people.

Helleofabore · 25/02/2026 00:04

onepostwonder · 25/02/2026 00:02

My material reality is shaped by the people I share space with and opportunities provided to me/us. I've over 40 years to repeatedly absorb that objective interpretation of my experience does not exist within opportunities or allowances of a male person.

And yet, you are a male person and your experiences are not that of a female person. Your denial doesn’t change the material reality of those facts.

Helleofabore · 25/02/2026 00:02

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:53

Luckily for trans people, your beliefs of safety, privacy, dignity and proportionate are not the sole influence upon law.

And yet, we have have two significant court judgements that have confirmed that any male people entering a female single sex provision make that provision mixed sex.

Like GLP, you can declare that there is an alternative interpretation that is lawful, but I dare say you will be very disappointed. As Bridget Phillipson says, there is no need to wait for the guidance the law is clear.

And safety, privacy and dignity for female people is indeed the very basis of safeguarding. If you understood safeguarding and consent, you would know this.

onepostwonder · 25/02/2026 00:02

Helleofabore · 24/02/2026 23:56

Your identity is based on you saying what sex you are and then acting as if that belief is material rather than purely subjective.

Your identity seems to be purely based on that very subjective reality you have claimed through your subjective interpretation of experiences. The material reality of your experiences is that they are of a male person, never a female person.

My material reality is shaped by the people I share space with and opportunities provided to me/us. I've over 40 years to repeatedly absorb that objective interpretation of my experience does not exist within opportunities or allowances of a male person.

MyAmpleSheep · 24/02/2026 23:59

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:49

That is one interpretation. There is another interpretation that requires such a limitation to be based on a "proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim" in the context of gender exclusion.

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I think, for the avoidance of doubt, the limitation to women only in women only toilets is justified by being necessaary to maintain women's safety, privacy and propriety. Those are the de-facto legitimate aims, the proportionate means are to exclude men and provide them alternative bathroom facilities.

All three go out of the window as soon as any man - such as yourself - steps foot across the threshold to use that toilet.

That's the legal position in the UK.

nicepotoftea · 24/02/2026 23:57

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:54

No one is preventing women from using women's single sex services in the UK.

They are preventing men from using women's single sex services, and from what you have said, under UK law, you are a man. If you enter a woman's single sex space it ceases to be a single sex space.

Greyskybluesky · 24/02/2026 23:57

Heggettypeg · 24/02/2026 23:53

It's not new. Toilets for women were political (in the sense that women had to fight to be allowed to have them at all) right from the outset. If you Google "history of women's toilets UK", there's an article on Historic UK that gives that early history.

Thanks Heggetty.

People sometimes don't realise that women had to fight for what they've got. It wasn't just handed to them.

Just to add: little wonder we're so fiercely protective of our spaces

Helleofabore · 24/02/2026 23:56

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:51

There is no philosophy. You have no ability to understand my experience. You are very anti-my experience as it is.

Your identity is based on you saying what sex you are and then acting as if that belief is material rather than purely subjective.

Your identity seems to be purely based on that very subjective reality you have claimed through your subjective interpretation of experiences. The material reality of your experiences is that they are of a male person, never a female person.

nicepotoftea · 24/02/2026 23:54

Heggettypeg · 24/02/2026 23:53

It's not new. Toilets for women were political (in the sense that women had to fight to be allowed to have them at all) right from the outset. If you Google "history of women's toilets UK", there's an article on Historic UK that gives that early history.

The idea that one wouldn't need a private place for a wee is about the most male thing I can think of.

Greyskybluesky · 24/02/2026 23:54

pottydimley · 24/02/2026 23:52

Who is she? I’ve never heard of her.

Me neither. But I think she's a Canadian author making a bit of a fool of herself?

There's a lot of it about.

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:54

nicepotoftea · 24/02/2026 23:53

So you understand that you have no right to use women's single sex services in the UK?

No one is preventing women from using women's single sex services in the UK.

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:53

Helleofabore · 24/02/2026 23:51

And that aim is for female people’s safety and privacy and dignity. The exclusion is proportionate.

Luckily for trans people, your beliefs of safety, privacy, dignity and proportionate are not the sole influence upon law.

nicepotoftea · 24/02/2026 23:53

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:52

Indeed.

So you understand that you have no right to use women's single sex services in the UK?

Heggettypeg · 24/02/2026 23:53

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:40

Personally, I never gave change rooms or toilets any thought. It seems bizarre that they are so suddenly political.

It's not new. Toilets for women were political (in the sense that women had to fight to be allowed to have them at all) right from the outset. If you Google "history of women's toilets UK", there's an article on Historic UK that gives that early history.

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:52

nicepotoftea · 24/02/2026 23:51

Similarly on some days I really feel like retiring and claiming my state pension and on other days a young person's rail card would be really useful, but I am not entitled to either. Age and sex are just objective facts.

Indeed.

nicepotoftea · 24/02/2026 23:52

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:51

There is no philosophy. You have no ability to understand my experience. You are very anti-my experience as it is.

I have no idea what your experience is. I just know it doesn't change your sex.

pottydimley · 24/02/2026 23:52

Who is she? I’ve never heard of her.

Helleofabore · 24/02/2026 23:51

onepostwonder · 24/02/2026 23:49

That is one interpretation. There is another interpretation that requires such a limitation to be based on a "proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim" in the context of gender exclusion.

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And that aim is for female people’s safety and privacy and dignity. The exclusion is proportionate.

nicepotoftea · 24/02/2026 23:51

Similarly on some days I really feel like retiring and claiming my state pension and on other days a young person's rail card would be really useful, but I am not entitled to either. Age and sex are just objective facts.