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Transman repeatedly platformed at work

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Stuckinlalaland · 23/02/2026 00:08

I work for a very large UK insurance company in their corporate office. We are one of the biggest UK insurance companies.

Last month someone did a talk, a trans speaker, to talk about ‘his story’. I didn’t attend but heard from others that it was a long sob story about their life, in which they shared the trauma they suffered in early life and their journey.

If you are at all educated about this, it sounded barbaric. Sharing in a corporate setting how they cut off their healthy breasts, about how they alienated themselves from their entire family etc.

And I’ve heard that they’re coming in AGAIN.

what can I do about this? I don’t want to put my head above the ground but it’s so dangerous.

I saw a post about it on X where someone has flagged the issue, but I don’t think it went anywhere.

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Aisha176 · 23/02/2026 07:24

TheMorgenmuffel · 23/02/2026 06:42

Are you obliged to attend?

She clearly isn't but can't bear the idea that other people would be interested &/ or be swayed to show mercy on such individuals hence the irrational grasping at ploys to sabotage them.

The only advice the OP really needs to hear is get a life for their own sanity.

Slimtoddy · 23/02/2026 07:15

Don't go to the talk. I know someone with a similar background which they share on a individual basis if it comes up naturally. I feel compassion for the person particularly as I feel they have been let down. I can't imagine them ever standing up and doing talk about it.

I think these talks are meant to open our eyes to other people's journeys but I don't think they should be forced on people.

oldtiredcyclist · 23/02/2026 07:02

That sounds highly inappropriate, listening to a random person's warts and all story of their life. What benefit is it going to have and what relevance has it got to the work environment. Would they invite a white, heterosexual person with two children to come in and explain their journey from squalor and poverty to where they are now?

Dgll · 23/02/2026 06:53

What does it matter? You didn't even attend. It sounds a lot more interesting than the boring health and safety talks that we have to sit through.

bluenova · 23/02/2026 06:47

Definitely check that the DEI policies are legal and don’t digress from the Equality Act.

TheMorgenmuffel · 23/02/2026 06:42

Are you obliged to attend?

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 23/02/2026 06:37

Work should be about work not about the employees.
I should imagine those who attended were just glad for the excuse to skive. If you spread the word that the 'talk' is an abysmal pity party, the employees might decide they'd rather work than skive.
So long as the employer doesn't make such things mandatory, I'm not sure there's anything to be done.

Aisha176 · 23/02/2026 02:15

Stuckinlalaland · 23/02/2026 00:08

I work for a very large UK insurance company in their corporate office. We are one of the biggest UK insurance companies.

Last month someone did a talk, a trans speaker, to talk about ‘his story’. I didn’t attend but heard from others that it was a long sob story about their life, in which they shared the trauma they suffered in early life and their journey.

If you are at all educated about this, it sounded barbaric. Sharing in a corporate setting how they cut off their healthy breasts, about how they alienated themselves from their entire family etc.

And I’ve heard that they’re coming in AGAIN.

what can I do about this? I don’t want to put my head above the ground but it’s so dangerous.

I saw a post about it on X where someone has flagged the issue, but I don’t think it went anywhere.

Lot's of corporate settings invite speakers to share their personal 'journey' usually for their employees to broaden their understanding of the experiences of others in the service of employee cohesion which certainly sounds like something you could benefit from.

Ignorance has long been recognised as cause for disunity.

POWNewcastleEastWallsend · 23/02/2026 00:51

Why are they inviting anyone in to talk to staff about their medical history, family breakdown, etc?

Are staff required to attend?

Is this person being invited in as a private individual or as a representative of an outside organisation?

GrimDamnFanjo · 23/02/2026 00:46

What do you feel you should do?
for me I’d be making sure that any staff related policies are legal.
i wouldn’t really seek to de platform someone. I’m sure that they will run out of interested listeners.

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