Another male nursery worker

The problem is one bad actor is all it takes.

I just dont think men should be allowed to be midwives or nursery workers.
And I say that as someone who has NO doubt there are exceptionally good ones out there unfortunately their presence opens the door to this human detritus and frankly the good ones arent worth the trade off.

Interestingly on threads where mothers flag concerns about male nursery workers they are generally told they are pearl clutchers.

The reality is accepting nurseries with male workers means you are making a low risk but incredibly high impact choice.

Yes there are women who abuse children too but the numbers are much much lower and honestly they are aberations.

This is what the impact looks like. I cannot begin to imagine the absolute horror and guilt the parents of those children are going through, and how they will carry that with them and I can it imagine what it is like for those poor children. Its incredibly sad a huge betrayal of trust amd makes me very angry.

I work in childcare. One of the biggest problems generally, and one that affects this topic particularly, is that there just aren't enough people wanting to work with children. If a nursery needs a member of staff at the moment they're going to get 2 people apply and neither are great so they have to settle for the least bad option, even if they seem slightly dodgy. The other option would be to ask some parents to leave or to close a whole room. What we want is for 10 staff to apply so you can immediately turn down the suspect ones and pick the best out the rest.

If you only pay minimum wage you're not going to get great staff. Fund nurseries properly by increasing how much they get for the "free" hours.

Male teachers in primary schools and above are a positive thing, not so much in babycare.

But how are we supposed to teach our male children about equality and sharing the childcare etc if that's the attitude. So many posts on here about "useless" men not doing their share because they think it's women's work.
Having said that I do get why people are worried, yes, most, but not all, of the offenders are men, but I actually think it's good to have male role model for kids from families where the dad isn't present. Surely the problem is the nursery not picking up on this.

6 months. 6 months and that many assaults.

Given the statistical situation with men, we ought to be able to introduce measures to mitigate risk.

I agree, we don’t want all care to be seen as women’s work but perhaps intimate care of vulnerable people? The problem is, all measures I can think of also reduce the dignity of the person receiving care. Cameras in the area, teams of two etc.

I heard this reported last night. It stopped me in my tracks. The fact one of the boy’s parents’ concerns about his behaviour were sufficient to prompt a local authority safeguarding report by the nursery is concerning. Why weren’t the nursery picking this up sooner? When my children were in day nursery I had fleeting contact with staff at handovers. This man’s colleagues were with him all day. It’s awful. My heart breaks for the boys and their families.

There are plenty of men who manage to look after children without raping them. The problem, as ever, is that the ones who are inclined to raping children don’t come with a handy identifying mark on their foreheads so they can be identified & filtered out.

I don’t think males should be automatically filtered out of all childcare, but I do think we need nurseries and schools to make better use of CCTV and to actually USE their safeguarding protocols. Then they would also catch the rare woman who abuses children as well.

So many posters think that men in childcare settings are a Wonderful Thing. I think it's an odd choice of job for a male.

Yes. There was a thread on here where the OP argued that if male recruitment continued in nurseries then we are going to see a rapid increase in CSA purely because men make up 98 percent of the conviction rate. The sheer amount of people who defended ‘male rights’ to equality was astonishing. I mean who cares that a toddler may get raped as long as we don’t offend men.