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Olivia Colman: “I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man.” 🙄

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NaysayerOrMeanie · 06/02/2026 23:29

Olivia Colman is currently on the press tour for her new film Jimpa and has come out with some absolute corkers in an interview with them "magazine" including:

"Throughout my whole life, I’ve had arguments with people where I've always felt sort of nonbinary. Don’t make that a big sort of title! But I’ve never felt massively feminine in my being female. I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man. And he goes, “Yeah, I get that.”"

Which I can only assume means he likes it when she pegs him.

And a dig at some undefined group of naysayers and haters and meanies:

"Most of the actors were from, particularly in the Dutch side of things, from the queer community there; I’ve never been part of a more welcoming group of people. For all those naysayers or haters or meanies, if [only] they could spend the time with the most welcoming, kind bunch of people. I kind of want everyone to just come and say hi and actually feel total love."

Jimpa stars Olivia Colman as Hannah, mother to the non-binary Frances (played by they/them, non-binary, queer, transgender daughter of the film's director, Aud Mason-Hyde) who go to Amsterdam to visit Hannah's gay HIV positive father (John Lithgow, currently simultaneously scorned by the queers for daring to be in the new Harry Potter series, any by the meanies for talking shit about JKR). I'm sure it will be a hoot.

Congratulations Olivia on your brave coming out as a queer, non-binary, gay man, spicy-straight woman. You're so late to the party all the cool kids will find your identity embarrassing now.

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MarieDeGournay · 08/02/2026 10:45

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 01:49

Honestly, if Olivia Colman had said she'd always told her husband she was a gerbil, I would have approved much more...!

😄
Have you been to The Bluestocking Women's Pub, Carla786?
It's staffed by gerbils - maybe OC did a few shifts there between roles?

Olivia Colman: “I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man.” 🙄
SionnachRuadh · 08/02/2026 10:43

InconvenientlyMaterial · 08/02/2026 10:29

I enjoy Le Carre on audio book where some have essays he wrote far more recently as a post script. He's genuinely interesting.

But I've not come across a decent female character yet. The novels are all massive bromances. Whilst some women fare better than others, they're invariably described as quite pathetic, needy characters and are never the main focus.

That said, I liked the ambiguity of Jed in the novel. Pine found her highly irritating at first, and he didn't know she wasn't fully colluding with Roper. The TV series (which I mostly loved) did the book a disservice by clunkily ensuring viewers knew Jed was a Good Person.

I find the same thing. The Looking Glass War is one of my favourites - it's underappreciated because it's about a doomed mission launched by an incompetent agency, but I like it as a dark comedy because I've worked in organisations exactly like that. But I've never been comfortable with the passages about Avery feeling oppressed by his needy wife, because it's painfully obvious Le Carre wrote it when his first marriage was breaking down.

Adam Sisman's follow up volume to his biography makes it very plain that his female characters were mostly based on whoever his mistress of the moment was. A close reader of the books would probably have guessed that anyway.

Charlie in The Little Drummer Girl is the exception for me, but that's probably because he drew heavily on his sister Charlotte Cornwell (an interesting woman in her own right who's not as well known as she should be) and that gives Charlie three dimensions where most of his women don't get beyond two.

Americano75 · 08/02/2026 10:42

'I find it so upsetting and so mystifying that there is such hatred towards any group of people. But clearly, hatred can only come from people that just don't know any of these people, because I don't know how you could hate people that are so kind and lovely.'

Oh my actual God. What is she, 5?

InconvenientlyMaterial · 08/02/2026 10:29

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 01:23

Re Le Carre- my family loves him but I haven't got round to him yet. However, I thought some of his female characters are supposed to be quite good? Maybe The Night Manager is not the best example.

I enjoy Le Carre on audio book where some have essays he wrote far more recently as a post script. He's genuinely interesting.

But I've not come across a decent female character yet. The novels are all massive bromances. Whilst some women fare better than others, they're invariably described as quite pathetic, needy characters and are never the main focus.

That said, I liked the ambiguity of Jed in the novel. Pine found her highly irritating at first, and he didn't know she wasn't fully colluding with Roper. The TV series (which I mostly loved) did the book a disservice by clunkily ensuring viewers knew Jed was a Good Person.

FrancoiseFrambroise · 08/02/2026 10:15

Carla786 · 07/02/2026 19:44

I liked her most in Broadchurch. Also like her in Rev. I wonder if it's non-coincidental that I prefer her pre-star work? She was well-known before,, of course, but not to the level she is now

I adored Rev and her in it. Like you, also Broadchurch. I don’t think I’ve ever seen anything of hers that I haven’t been quite mesmerised by her.

Another poster also mentioned The Accused. She was also in Tyranossaur. I loved her in the dance scene with Paul Mescal in The Lost Daughter.

I think she is utterly stunning and has such an interesting expressive face and a gorgeous voice. I don’t think she is the same in everything she’s in. I suppose this is me loving her as an actor, but I can’t help but be disappointed by the real life spouting of such nonsense.

SionnachRuadh · 08/02/2026 10:11

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 01:30

I don't think most public figures- from actors to novelists to journalists to polticians- should be assumed to have common sense...unfortunately!

Some actors definitely do. However, imo character/working actors are more likely to. Celebrities of any kind, not just actors, often seem to lose touch with reality. I see that with novelists & film directors too : after becoming famous, getting a lot of money & prizes etc their work & interviews often seem less good & less self-aware.

It's the old Dire Straits problem. Mark Knopfler used to base a lot of his songs on ordinary people he encountered. When he became rich and famous, he had a lot less material to work with.

SionnachRuadh · 08/02/2026 10:06

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 01:23

Re Le Carre- my family loves him but I haven't got round to him yet. However, I thought some of his female characters are supposed to be quite good? Maybe The Night Manager is not the best example.

Not one that I would start with, definitely not if you're allergic to slow paced stories as there's about 200 pages of setup before you get into the main story.

The Little Drummer Girl is exceptional in having a female lead. The miniseries with Florence Pugh is excellent.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 08/02/2026 10:00

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Slimtoddy · 08/02/2026 09:56

This kinda reminds me of the scene in Father Ted -I hear you're a racist now, Father? Should we all be racist now? What's the Church's position? I'm so busy down on the farm I won't have much time for the ol' racism.

Insert non binary - I hear you're a non binary now, Father? Should we all be non binary now? What's the Church's position? I'm so busy down on the farm I won't have much time for the ol' non binarism.

DiaAssolellat · 08/02/2026 09:11

PMSL at “feeling sort of non-binary”. Vagueness on top of nonsense = empty meaningless statement in attempt to earn Brownie points with whoever on the cast is part of the alphabet mafia.

Olivia, you’re an established actress in your 50s. Have some self respect. Please.

Sophomore · 08/02/2026 08:10

Olivia, you’re a straight woman, and that’s fine. All that other stuff about “feeling sort of non-binary” etc is just you having a personality.

PermanentTemporary · 08/02/2026 08:04

And yet here we are discussing OC instead of the latest interview with a scientist. Publications that go too lose money, unfortunately. Tbh most of them lose money at the moment.

Piglet89 · 08/02/2026 07:59

Jesus Christ. Luvvies, man.

RedToothBrush · 08/02/2026 07:56

cherrymauve · 07/02/2026 20:31

She’s entitled to say how she feels about herself. Not that it’s relevant to her art or career. Leave the woman alone. An admirable personal admission from OC. But not for us to judge.

She's a public figure spouting casual homophobia and sexism to promote herself and her new film for her own interests. That's commercial gain.

Promoting this shit has an impact on a lot of women. It's entrenches sexism rather than breaking new ground.

She's a 52 year old woman who is trying to stay relevant to a younger audience whilst the older 40-60 year old female audience remains invisible and secondary.

Yes of course we are allowed to say this isn't cool.

You don't get to tell us to shut up either. Who do you think you are saying we shouldn't judge? It's fair and reasonable comment.

JacknDiane · 08/02/2026 07:35

minipie · 07/02/2026 22:47

TBH I’ve never understood why there are so many interviews with actors, singers, TV personalities and other celebrities - rather than scientists, campaigners, charity leaders and other people who might have more useful and interesting things to say.

This is a very good point. Im interested in real people and what they have to say.
Not actors or slebs who appear on Jonathan Ross. They've had enough exposure.

JacknDiane · 08/02/2026 07:27

I've never got the Olivia Coleman love. It feels like a very English middle class thing. Its like Terry Wogan back in the day told her she was a national treasure. And she believed it. And now she thinks we are all interested in her twitterings.

Tedious is the right word.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/02/2026 07:18

Thank you!

Carla786 · 08/02/2026 06:45

Re his Jewishness : his father is Jewish but not his mother (so he's not Jewish according to Jewish law) and he was raised Russian Orthodox. So I suppose maybe he distances himself a bit, mentally, from being Jewish, when reading fascist stuff maybe? Otoh Mussolini and even Hitler did have a few Jewish supporters.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/02/2026 05:17

I didn’t get that reference either! Intrigued.

Heggettypeg · 08/02/2026 05:14

I'm still scratching my head over the "gay Jewish nerds pretending to be pagan fascist bodybuilders" .
(Sorry. I don't want to start a whole derail, but couldn't resist a mention. It's so completely WTAF.)

Pleasantsort2 · 08/02/2026 04:53

SidewaysOtter · 07/02/2026 07:53

That’s just it, isn’t it? It’s reinforcing regressive standards and trying to force women back into a box, helped along by the likes of Coleman who are trying so desperately hard to be “right on” that they can’t see the harm they do.

As for her claims to be a gay man, it’s shades of Robbie Williams claiming to be “49% gay” (IIRC). What he seemed to mean was “I don’t actually shag men, but I see myself as fulfilling every other stereotype of a gay man” Hmm”

" And hopefully, try and get into the Pink Pound sales" . Sorry Robbie , yer twink looking days are long over.

2021x · 08/02/2026 02:37

Ahhhhh... she is trying to make her PR relatable and exciting aligning herself with something she sees as exotic. What else can she say - I have a husband that loves me very much and a pretty nice family.

Its along the same lines as " I was a cleaner... look at me now" Oscar speech - it makes a much more exciting story than "I had a priviledged upbringing and even went to two top-fee paying schools.... look at me now".

She is like that ridiculous Mirian Margoyles, she spins a good yarn and is entertaining.

dreichluver · 08/02/2026 02:25

SionnachRuadh · 07/02/2026 15:06

Sometimes the amount of nonsense going round in the culture is hard to keep track of. Especially the stuff that originates in the Very Online bits of American culture and then seeps into the very different British context.

15 years ago I would not have predicted a subculture of gay Jewish nerds pretending to be pagan fascist bodybuilders, but there's no other way to describe the Bronze Age Pervert and his network.

And if the American Right has its quota of gay people pretending to be straight, the American Left has a much bigger quota of straight people pretending to be gay.

And when America sneezes Europe catches cold; and mix that into luvvies' well known propensity for being utterly ridiculous.

I haven't seen anyone being unkind about OC's appearance. She's an attractive woman; if she weren't she wouldn't have been nearly so successful as an actor. She's a very feminine woman. If we're going to define femininity as "looking like Margot Robbie", then hardly any women qualify, probably not even Margot Robbie before she's spent hours in makeup.

The basic problem with actors is that they get their jobs because they're good at pretending. Often the characters they pretend to be have heroic qualities or intellectual depth, and the actors either wish they were like that or believe they actually are like that. George Clooney has spent so many films playing the one honest man standing up to corrupt institutions that I think he's come to believe he is his character. No wonder actors are suckers for con artists like L Ron Hubbard or Gerry Healy.

And if the American Right has its quota of gay people pretending to be straight, the American Left has a much bigger quota of straight people pretending to be gay.

😂No lies detected.

IloveOwlsandPenguins · 08/02/2026 02:11

Illegally18 · 08/02/2026 00:04

There are quite a few people who wang on about their supposed 'Irishness', I've met a few in my time. And they tend to be insufferable prats.

I find that pretty insulting. Who are you calling an insufferable prat ?
I was extremely close to my great grandmother ( born 1889 ) who wasn’t quite sure but reckoned HER Mum might have been born in Cork . I myself have been to Dublin ( twice ) . Love Guinness . Am deffo Celtic .

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