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Olivia Colman: “I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man.” 🙄

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NaysayerOrMeanie · 06/02/2026 23:29

Olivia Colman is currently on the press tour for her new film Jimpa and has come out with some absolute corkers in an interview with them "magazine" including:

"Throughout my whole life, I’ve had arguments with people where I've always felt sort of nonbinary. Don’t make that a big sort of title! But I’ve never felt massively feminine in my being female. I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man. And he goes, “Yeah, I get that.”"

Which I can only assume means he likes it when she pegs him.

And a dig at some undefined group of naysayers and haters and meanies:

"Most of the actors were from, particularly in the Dutch side of things, from the queer community there; I’ve never been part of a more welcoming group of people. For all those naysayers or haters or meanies, if [only] they could spend the time with the most welcoming, kind bunch of people. I kind of want everyone to just come and say hi and actually feel total love."

Jimpa stars Olivia Colman as Hannah, mother to the non-binary Frances (played by they/them, non-binary, queer, transgender daughter of the film's director, Aud Mason-Hyde) who go to Amsterdam to visit Hannah's gay HIV positive father (John Lithgow, currently simultaneously scorned by the queers for daring to be in the new Harry Potter series, any by the meanies for talking shit about JKR). I'm sure it will be a hoot.

Congratulations Olivia on your brave coming out as a queer, non-binary, gay man, spicy-straight woman. You're so late to the party all the cool kids will find your identity embarrassing now.

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SionnachRuadh · 12/02/2026 14:46

SirChenjins · 12/02/2026 14:41

Loves shopping? Keeps an obsessively clean house? Listens to Kylie, Lady Gaga and Abba on repeat? Watches Strictly and all the spinoffs? The narrow, rigid, boringly predictable stereotypes are endless really.

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Don't forget the old Private Eye cartoon of the couple arriving home to discover they've had gay burglars - the furniture has been rearranged and there's a quiche in the oven.

It never fails to amaze me how much people who make a big deal of being right on rely on very old fashioned stereotypes.

midgetastic · 12/02/2026 14:44

Well I am highly tempted to describe myself as a a gay man should I ever have to sit down with some of my 100% captured friends

i am hoping they will try to explain why that isn’t so. My betting is they will try to persuade me I am obviously female.

I mean how do I know I amn’t?

SirChenjins · 12/02/2026 14:41

ThatCyanCat · 12/02/2026 13:03

How does a woman "do something" as a gay man?

Loves shopping? Keeps an obsessively clean house? Listens to Kylie, Lady Gaga and Abba on repeat? Watches Strictly and all the spinoffs? The narrow, rigid, boringly predictable stereotypes are endless really.

SionnachRuadh · 12/02/2026 14:11

That Guardian piece... good grief.

I don't really watch Woody Allen films these days, but I just flashed back to the scene in Bananas where Woody's character is on trial, and a black woman takes the witness stand claiming to be J Edgar Hoover.

ThatCyanCat · 12/02/2026 13:03

MsGreying · 12/02/2026 13:00

Maybe it's not how she looks, but how she does something?

How does a woman "do something" as a gay man?

TheKeatingFive · 12/02/2026 13:02

MsGreying · 12/02/2026 13:00

Maybe it's not how she looks, but how she does something?

Does what?

MsGreying · 12/02/2026 13:00

Maybe it's not how she looks, but how she does something?

HRTQueen · 12/02/2026 10:58

what is it with a group of our population that are middle class, white and have lead charmed lives that have success that have life long privilege need to inform the world that they have struggled to because they too are different

its so tedious

BlueEyedBogWitch · 11/02/2026 22:24

I wish the interviewer had pressed her a bit on what she said. I would have asked her exactly what it was about her that she thought was the same as a gay man? I’d have pressed for specifics and let her dig herself a hole with her own bare tongue.

It’s all just so flippant and reductive and insulting.

AnSolas · 11/02/2026 21:01

thirdfiddle · 11/02/2026 19:57

Gay men are completely different from women. I very much doubt that heterosexual women would feel at home among extreme sexual activity in a sauna.

Knowing this lot they'd probably get in then complain that the gay men were not being trans inclusive enough by behaving in ways that made them feel uncomfortable.

Tbf the majority of transmen are far less likely to intrude on men's spaces than TW on women's. Maybe it's the female socialisation. Or maybe it's self-preservation, it's themselves they'd be putting at risk in men's spaces.

On Twitter there were a large group of gay TWAW so TMAM men untill they came out with the not M for dating and got labled as transphobic.

They got educated by TRA and it was funny to watch them try to defend penis in womens spaces = fine & vulva in Their spaces = homophobia

thirdfiddle · 11/02/2026 19:57

Gay men are completely different from women. I very much doubt that heterosexual women would feel at home among extreme sexual activity in a sauna.

Knowing this lot they'd probably get in then complain that the gay men were not being trans inclusive enough by behaving in ways that made them feel uncomfortable.

Tbf the majority of transmen are far less likely to intrude on men's spaces than TW on women's. Maybe it's the female socialisation. Or maybe it's self-preservation, it's themselves they'd be putting at risk in men's spaces.

shuggles · 11/02/2026 19:47

I'm a bit surprised as to how many women seem to be completely unaware that there's a lot more to gay men than being effeminate and being attracted to men.

Gay men are completely different from women. I very much doubt that heterosexual women would feel at home among extreme sexual activity in a sauna.

Illegally18 · 11/02/2026 15:53

SidewaysOtter · 10/02/2026 22:39

I think Owls&Penguins was being ironic.

You think?!!!

Szygy · 11/02/2026 09:58

ArabellaScott · 11/02/2026 09:52

Did you try Google? With 'mumsnet' as a search term. Works better than MNs search function.

Yes, I spent hours on that and still nothing!

AnSolas · 11/02/2026 09:57

lcakethereforeIam · 10/02/2026 22:19

Julie Bindel's twopennarth in Unherd

https://archive.ph/SQQlw

https://unherd.com/newsroom/olivia-colman-joins-the-non-binary-celebrity-club/

The cognitive dissonance

It’s really important to tell everybody’s story and to do it from an empathetic point of view,” Colman has claimed in a new interview. “But then someone who is anti-trans and against trans rights is someone who… I don’t know how you explain to them what understanding and kindness is and love.”

Perhaps Colperson might try applying empathy to to someone who thinks differently to her. Ffs, I thought that was part of being an actor. She should try stepping outside her own bigotry for a moment and consider that not agreeing that twaw =/= anti-trans. To accuse people of lacking kindness and love. People she, ironically, has smugly made no effort to understand. Blinding herself with the shine of her tatty halo.

Come on Lovie step out from NAMALT

Lets both stand at the bottom of Rapist Gender Hill.

Lovie can explain the whole of "what understanding and kindness is and love.” is when the State are saying women can be forced to provide companionship to a male rapist or where women are obliged to search him as part of their job just because he wants it.

Or why the State is paying a male who would expect medical staff to ignore Lovies direct stated request to have a female medic and bring him in to treat her.

ArabellaScott · 11/02/2026 09:52

Szygy · 10/02/2026 15:34

Thanks Betty - that’s it and I'm positive there was a thread about it but after exhaustive searches I've come up with zilch. Weird.

Did you try Google? With 'mumsnet' as a search term. Works better than MNs search function.

AnSolas · 11/02/2026 09:47

Illegally18 · 10/02/2026 20:02

I can't see why you find it insulting. I wasn't talking about you. Anyway, having been to Dublin twice and and loving Guinness doesn't make you Irish. How do you know that you're definitely Celtic? What are the signs?

Emmm. 99% sure that was to be read as funny take on your post?

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 10/02/2026 23:56

Blinding herself with the shine of her tatty halo.

Ooo 🔥

SidewaysOtter · 10/02/2026 22:39

Illegally18 · 10/02/2026 20:02

I can't see why you find it insulting. I wasn't talking about you. Anyway, having been to Dublin twice and and loving Guinness doesn't make you Irish. How do you know that you're definitely Celtic? What are the signs?

I think Owls&Penguins was being ironic.

lcakethereforeIam · 10/02/2026 22:19

Julie Bindel's twopennarth in Unherd

https://archive.ph/SQQlw

https://unherd.com/newsroom/olivia-colman-joins-the-non-binary-celebrity-club/

The cognitive dissonance

It’s really important to tell everybody’s story and to do it from an empathetic point of view,” Colman has claimed in a new interview. “But then someone who is anti-trans and against trans rights is someone who… I don’t know how you explain to them what understanding and kindness is and love.”

Perhaps Colperson might try applying empathy to to someone who thinks differently to her. Ffs, I thought that was part of being an actor. She should try stepping outside her own bigotry for a moment and consider that not agreeing that twaw =/= anti-trans. To accuse people of lacking kindness and love. People she, ironically, has smugly made no effort to understand. Blinding herself with the shine of her tatty halo.

Olivia Colman joins the non-binary celebrity club

Transmitting straight from luvvie land, the actress Olivia Colman has taken it upon herself to hold forth on trans rights. It’s a necessary intervention, given that no one else in Hollywood ever talks about the subject. “It’s really important to tell e...

https://unherd.com/newsroom/olivia-colman-joins-the-non-binary-celebrity-club/

Illegally18 · 10/02/2026 20:02

IloveOwlsandPenguins · 08/02/2026 02:11

I find that pretty insulting. Who are you calling an insufferable prat ?
I was extremely close to my great grandmother ( born 1889 ) who wasn’t quite sure but reckoned HER Mum might have been born in Cork . I myself have been to Dublin ( twice ) . Love Guinness . Am deffo Celtic .

I can't see why you find it insulting. I wasn't talking about you. Anyway, having been to Dublin twice and and loving Guinness doesn't make you Irish. How do you know that you're definitely Celtic? What are the signs?

BettyBooper · 10/02/2026 16:46

Szygy · 10/02/2026 15:34

Thanks Betty - that’s it and I'm positive there was a thread about it but after exhaustive searches I've come up with zilch. Weird.

I couldn't find anything either 🤨.

I really think there needs to be more scrutiny of these groups

TheActualQueen · 10/02/2026 16:19

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 10/02/2026 13:10

Ikwym but that makes me respect her less, not more.

What you seem to be saying is 'she doesn't really necessarily think those things but she has to say then or she may not be able to maintain her privileged lifestyle'

Well boo hoo.

Im sure she could have made positive noises about the 'lovely' trans people she'd met on set without claiming to be 'a gay man' and 'a bit non binary'.

If she does believe what she's said, she's an idiot. If she doesn't, she's got no integrity whatsoever.

Exactly

FFSMaureen · 10/02/2026 15:45

Ah, I didn't think it was that one, despite all the she/her BS.