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Olivia Colman: “I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man.” 🙄

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NaysayerOrMeanie · 06/02/2026 23:29

Olivia Colman is currently on the press tour for her new film Jimpa and has come out with some absolute corkers in an interview with them "magazine" including:

"Throughout my whole life, I’ve had arguments with people where I've always felt sort of nonbinary. Don’t make that a big sort of title! But I’ve never felt massively feminine in my being female. I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man. And he goes, “Yeah, I get that.”"

Which I can only assume means he likes it when she pegs him.

And a dig at some undefined group of naysayers and haters and meanies:

"Most of the actors were from, particularly in the Dutch side of things, from the queer community there; I’ve never been part of a more welcoming group of people. For all those naysayers or haters or meanies, if [only] they could spend the time with the most welcoming, kind bunch of people. I kind of want everyone to just come and say hi and actually feel total love."

Jimpa stars Olivia Colman as Hannah, mother to the non-binary Frances (played by they/them, non-binary, queer, transgender daughter of the film's director, Aud Mason-Hyde) who go to Amsterdam to visit Hannah's gay HIV positive father (John Lithgow, currently simultaneously scorned by the queers for daring to be in the new Harry Potter series, any by the meanies for talking shit about JKR). I'm sure it will be a hoot.

Congratulations Olivia on your brave coming out as a queer, non-binary, gay man, spicy-straight woman. You're so late to the party all the cool kids will find your identity embarrassing now.

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thirdfiddle · 07/02/2026 08:28

Unless ... she's playing her own quiet game of "doesn't it sound silly when the grown ups do it too". I'd like to think that. Haven't heard enough of her interviews to know whether she has the sense of humour.

AMouseWithValour · 07/02/2026 08:21

I wonder when this film was developed/written and filmed? I presume it takes a good couple of years for a film to go from development to the cinema. Anyone any idea?

if so, it was probably green lit at a time when there was less push back against anyone questioning non-binary nonsense.

From what I’ve seen in real life and heard in the media, a lot of teens are turning away from hating anything vaguely GC on princlple.

I think there is still a massive problem but I wonder if the film would do better if it had been realised in 2023. Still, if it’s
a great film, it will do OK.

I won’t see it as it sounds bloody awful, Are the reviews in? I bet Mark Kermode loves it. 😀

borntobequiet · 07/02/2026 08:20

To me she does what all British “national treasure” thespians do, which is play a thinly disguised version of herself in every role, so while I agree she’s an idiot, I don’t agree that she’s a good actress.

TheKeatingFive · 07/02/2026 08:16

Heggettypeg · 07/02/2026 08:14

I suppose there will always be people who want to be special, or are keen to shed a tarnished or unfashionable identity. If they don't have an obvious trump card to play, they will reach rather desperately for anything at all.

For example:

Middle class people trying to make out they are actually working class. (And vice versa in circles where the snobbery is direct rather than inverted.)

White guilt people scratching around in their family trees for an ancestor that might possibly have been Native American or Black. Or just outright lying about their antecedents, especially if it might get them a job they wouldn't otherwise have got.

The sort of English person who is desperate not to be English and considers themself "Celtic" on the basis of vague or imagined family connections to Scotland, Ireland or Wales, or "feeling a spiritual connection".

People who are sucker for anything at all, positive or negative, that will put them in a rare or superior category. Or if they are irredeemably ordinary, they must have a special sort of child. YouTube is full of stuff that panders to that kind of thing. Rare blood group, eye colour, "cool" (or dark-and-therefore-sexy) psychological trait... you name it.

It's a human constant, but the desired or disdained categories change with the times and vary in different social settings. Currently "cisheteronormative" is a dirty word in certain circles, so...

These are very good comparisons

KimberleyMilkado · 07/02/2026 08:16

How naive of her to think that every one would be treated the same as her!

And what does she mean about getting into arguments with people where she felt non binary?

Magnoliasunrise · 07/02/2026 08:15

Nooooooooo I love her as an actress, didn't know she talks so much bollocks.

Coincidentally watched her in an episode of Jimmy McGoverns Accused series with Anne Marie Duff last night, over 10 years old but absolutely superb from both of them.

Lifelover16 · 07/02/2026 08:15

I really don’t care about her sexuality or gender, and feel like this is a misguided attempt by a luvvie who is pandering to the readers of “them” magazine, and drumming up publicity for a new film.

TheKeatingFive · 07/02/2026 08:15

Superhansrantowindsor · 07/02/2026 08:14

Still can’t get my head round using queer. It was always such a horrible insult when I was brought up. I don’t feel comfortable using that word.

Yes me too. I find it utterly gross

KatsPJs · 07/02/2026 08:14

Ladamesansmerci · 07/02/2026 00:15

I'm a lesbian and this just isn't it. She isn't a gay man.

It's disrespectful to the fact that for most people, coming out is a stressful and anxiety inducing experience. It's disrespectful to the fact that in some places around the world, it remains dangerous to come out. As though being gay is easy or something quirky, and not an integral part of your identity.

Annoying AF when people act like they have any clue what it is like to live as a gay person when they aren't gay.

This. I’m a lesbian and I literally couldn’t go to my grandad’s funeral last year as I was concerned for my safety. It’s not a fucking joke and I’m so tired of the bullshit spouted by these people.

Heggettypeg · 07/02/2026 08:14

I suppose there will always be people who want to be special, or are keen to shed a tarnished or unfashionable identity. If they don't have an obvious trump card to play, they will reach rather desperately for anything at all.

For example:

Middle class people trying to make out they are actually working class. (And vice versa in circles where the snobbery is direct rather than inverted.)

White guilt people scratching around in their family trees for an ancestor that might possibly have been Native American or Black. Or just outright lying about their antecedents, especially if it might get them a job they wouldn't otherwise have got.

The sort of English person who is desperate not to be English and considers themself "Celtic" on the basis of vague or imagined family connections to Scotland, Ireland or Wales, or "feeling a spiritual connection".

People who are sucker for anything at all, positive or negative, that will put them in a rare or superior category. Or if they are irredeemably ordinary, they must have a special sort of child. YouTube is full of stuff that panders to that kind of thing. Rare blood group, eye colour, "cool" (or dark-and-therefore-sexy) psychological trait... you name it.

It's a human constant, but the desired or disdained categories change with the times and vary in different social settings. Currently "cisheteronormative" is a dirty word in certain circles, so...

Superhansrantowindsor · 07/02/2026 08:14

Still can’t get my head round using queer. It was always such a horrible insult when I was brought up. I don’t feel comfortable using that word.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 07/02/2026 08:14

I expect this thread will soon be full of ppl telling us we are huge meanies btw usually by posters why mysteriously can never find the many many threads detailing the real life damaging impact this ridiculous ideology has on women and girls

BettyBooper · 07/02/2026 08:14

dylexicdementor11 · 07/02/2026 08:10

What a disgusting post. There is more than enough hatefulness in the world. There is no need to willfully contribute to it.

And yet here you are....

TheKeatingFive · 07/02/2026 08:13

dylexicdementor11 · 07/02/2026 08:10

What a disgusting post. There is more than enough hatefulness in the world. There is no need to willfully contribute to it.

What precisely do you think is 'hateful'?

dylexicdementor11 · 07/02/2026 08:10

What a disgusting post. There is more than enough hatefulness in the world. There is no need to willfully contribute to it.

KittyWilkinson · 07/02/2026 08:09

Privileged overpaid gurner talks through they's unpegged arse.

deadpan · 07/02/2026 08:08

Can't say as I'm surprised, disappointed but not surprised.
She's always struck me as a Tim, nice but dim and she's proving that with her surface analogy of "get to know them and then you won't hate them". We don't hate them Olivia, we just don't want them in the next cubicle.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 07/02/2026 08:08

Oh god I'm so effing bored of privileged female actors (also looking at you Emma Corrin) claiming to be NB or Demi sexual or whatever the fuck else just because they've got short hair and an eclectic dress sense

she has no fucking idea the impact this pernicious ideology has on women and girls not in ger enormously privileged position

and yes as PP said, it's not like she needs to tout for work, she's in bloody everything!!!

savoycocktail · 07/02/2026 08:08

ThatCyanCat · 07/02/2026 07:08

Did she say "he's enby"? Lol.

Yeah. I said ‘huh?’ because I thought I misheard.

hholiday · 07/02/2026 08:07

Dreamingpeanuts · 07/02/2026 06:07

wow, what a deeply misogynistic and hate filled thread.

Not really. She's a gay man, remember?

TheKeatingFive · 07/02/2026 08:07

That Ricky Gervais speech at the Golden Globes(?) nailed these idiots so perfectly.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 07/02/2026 08:05

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nauticant · 07/02/2026 08:03

My guess is that the financial backers looked at the reviews the film was getting and got the message through to Colman that she had to say something attention-grabbing to drum up interest in the film.

Dollymylove · 07/02/2026 08:03

Cant stand this woman. Any time i see her mug on TV I have to switch off 🤢

TheKeatingFive · 07/02/2026 08:02

She's a blithering idiot.

Though some of her acting work is superb.

I find it odd the way actors have been raised up in our society as some kind of moral arbiters. Why?

We don't care what talented footballers or racing car drivers think about anything outside their area. Why would we care about Colman's views?

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