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Olivia Colman: “I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man.” 🙄

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NaysayerOrMeanie · 06/02/2026 23:29

Olivia Colman is currently on the press tour for her new film Jimpa and has come out with some absolute corkers in an interview with them "magazine" including:

"Throughout my whole life, I’ve had arguments with people where I've always felt sort of nonbinary. Don’t make that a big sort of title! But I’ve never felt massively feminine in my being female. I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man. And he goes, “Yeah, I get that.”"

Which I can only assume means he likes it when she pegs him.

And a dig at some undefined group of naysayers and haters and meanies:

"Most of the actors were from, particularly in the Dutch side of things, from the queer community there; I’ve never been part of a more welcoming group of people. For all those naysayers or haters or meanies, if [only] they could spend the time with the most welcoming, kind bunch of people. I kind of want everyone to just come and say hi and actually feel total love."

Jimpa stars Olivia Colman as Hannah, mother to the non-binary Frances (played by they/them, non-binary, queer, transgender daughter of the film's director, Aud Mason-Hyde) who go to Amsterdam to visit Hannah's gay HIV positive father (John Lithgow, currently simultaneously scorned by the queers for daring to be in the new Harry Potter series, any by the meanies for talking shit about JKR). I'm sure it will be a hoot.

Congratulations Olivia on your brave coming out as a queer, non-binary, gay man, spicy-straight woman. You're so late to the party all the cool kids will find your identity embarrassing now.

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Shortshriftandlethal · 07/02/2026 10:09

I understand what she is trying to explain. I used to feel like myself. Not as a persistent identity of any sort, but as an inner feeling and occasional sense of orientation.

Evoker · 07/02/2026 10:08

I really don't think that she should out her husband like that. He might not have wanted the general public to know he was gay. His time on the downlow is over it seems, poor guy.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 07/02/2026 10:08

It would be awesome. Go on Olivia, pitch it!

heathspeedwell · 07/02/2026 10:08

She sounds like a petulant toddler. "Oh it's mean to make me wear a seatbelt. Only meanies want single sex spaces."

Well sorry if us responsible adults are meanies, but seatbelts save lives, and single sex spaces are vital for our safety, privacy and dignity.

I bet she doesn't even realise that 62% of transwomen in prison in the UK have convictions for rape or sexual assault (compared to just 3% of women).

ForWildLemon · 07/02/2026 10:08

Eh. I have immense respect for OC’s acting abilities, but in the last few years whenever I’ve seen her on any talk show or interview etc I’ve been increasingly feeling like she’s basically getting a bit high off her own supply.

RedToothBrush · 07/02/2026 10:07

I'd love to see Olivia strutting her stuff as a gay man in the 1980s. We are talking proper ground breaking stuff here for diversity and inclusion. Yes, I think 50 something white female Olivia playing a gay, male in his 20s doing some graphic half naked sex scenes would make for award winning TV.

BRING IT ON.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 07/02/2026 10:06

OC is someone that everyone seems to like and find endearing, except me. That is not likely to change anytime soon.

CapacityBrown · 07/02/2026 10:03

Sounds like she's identifying as circumgender.

KittyWilkinson · 07/02/2026 10:01

As an aside, I think she looks very like Peggy Mount.
Who was an excellent actress and much respected.
Peggy Mount - British Comedy Guide

EmpressDomesticatednottamed · 07/02/2026 10:01

Always?
"Aaargh, uhh pant... and by the way....grrrraaaah....I'd like to make it clear....bbbbbbrrrrughhhh....that I always describe myself as a gay man.....yyyeeuuuurrghhhh pant puff...."

"But Olivia, I can see the head!"

PrimalScreaming · 07/02/2026 10:00

Olivia is my generation. Not sure what she was doing while I was in the closet... a teenager petrified of anybody noticing my sexuality. Or when I had to come out to (actually really supportive) parents in the 80s and have a strategy for if I was rejected by them. Clause 28, Olivia?
It's all performative bollocks which negates and belittles lived experience.

AnSolas · 07/02/2026 09:58

hholiday · 07/02/2026 08:07

Not really. She's a gay man, remember?

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SirChenjins · 07/02/2026 09:57

Agree. She's obviously an excellent actress - and her best role is the 'I'm mad, me <tinkly laugh, gurn gurn> ' one that she's carved out for herself.

RedToothBrush · 07/02/2026 09:56

I can't wait for Olivia's starring role in a TV production playing a gay man.

She's big enough to have a whole role written for her. Perhaps she can ask Russell T Davis to come up with the goods.

KittyWilkinson · 07/02/2026 09:55

mrstrickland · 07/02/2026 09:51

Olivia Coleman is fabulous and this thread is making all the naysayers sound like bitter, close minded fools

Hi Olivia.

SemperIdem · 07/02/2026 09:54

Olivia Colman is a good actress but in every interview I’ve ever seen, comes across as a nauseating luvvie for whom everything is dramatic and has little connection to what is happening in the real world.

Woodfiresareamazing · 07/02/2026 09:53

dreichluver · 07/02/2026 01:04

Imagine making up a 'queer' version of yourself just to garner attention for a film you're worried will bomb. Honestly I think the writing was on the wall as soon as the director cast her 'they/them' daughter.

And will gay men be charmed knowing that Olivia equates them to non-binary females? I think not.

I've always found her insufferable. A 'luvvie' of the highest order.

I can't think of any reason why I would pay to see this film. I can think of many why I won't be...

Theeyeballsinthesky · 07/02/2026 09:53

mrstrickland · 07/02/2026 09:51

Olivia Coleman is fabulous and this thread is making all the naysayers sound like bitter, close minded fools

Oh well that's me cut up the quick!

I shall immediately decide men can miraculously become women and that it isn't all offensive to gay men for a middle aged women to declare she feels like a gay man because she has short hair and doesn't feel feminine

mrstrickland · 07/02/2026 09:51

Olivia Coleman is fabulous and this thread is making all the naysayers sound like bitter, close minded fools

InconvenientlyMaterial · 07/02/2026 09:51

ZookeeperSE · 07/02/2026 08:54

This was my take away. I think they all have to, to some extent. And I haven’t yet decided if I feel slightly sorry for them or if I think they’re all tiny brained dickheads.

However, this:
But I’ve never felt massively feminine in my being female
I agree with. I’ve never found myself flouncing around thinking oh goodness I’m such a womanly woman, being all womanly doing my womanly things. I mean, who does? Ohhh…..

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Well yes. I agree with that too.

BUT the point is society doesn't give a fuck how womanly I feel. Rapists don't pause because their victim is wearing a male tracksuit; employers don't save the maternity discrimination for women with manicures; men who comment on the size of a woman's tits don't check her pronouns first.

Whilst declaring oneself NB in showbiz might be a clever move, the ideology does nothing to liberate women from patriarchy.

Woodfiresareamazing · 07/02/2026 09:50

Bertiebiscuit · 07/02/2026 00:33

These slebs just can't bear to be ordinary, they are so wrapped up in how talented, special and fabulous they are that they cannot possibly deal with only being heterosexual, even though most of them are. They probably also believe we care about the drivel they spout, they aren't geniuses or massive talents, they just happen to be fairly photogenic, got lucky and are good at pretending. Probably shocked that they can't walk on water.

"Good at pretending" - acting in a nutshell! Love it.

borntobequiet · 07/02/2026 09:50

SettingSunStillness · 07/02/2026 08:59

Maybe she wants to use her platform to be an ally.

Maybe she has a different view on this from you.

I think that's allowed. Even though she's a middle aged woman.

Or maybe she’s just daft and says silly things.

Woodfiresareamazing · 07/02/2026 09:46

Fizbosshoes · 06/02/2026 23:36

Is this a long winded way to explain she prefers her hair short?

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usedtobeaylis · 07/02/2026 09:46

She sounds like she opens her mouth and lets any old waffle out sometimes.

My daughter was 7 or 8 when she cottoned on that there were quite a lot of girl gamers saying they were non binary and connected it to conversations about sexism and stereotypes that we'd had precisely because wee boys were telling her girls couldn't be gamers. Olivia Colman isn't stupid either, she's just a daft waffler.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 07/02/2026 09:44

also "haters and meanies" does she also identity as 12 years old?