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Reasons for not moving right like young men

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Warmlight1 · 23/01/2026 21:21

Are women put off the right because of outright boorishness and right wing female Mps who are promoted withing a very constrained patriarchy and consequently end up not making sense? Is it also to do with the ingressing on women's right by the ultra religious?
Are public services more important to women than men? Was specifically female leadership significant in New Zealand during the pandemic and ultimately safer and was that about gender?
Or something else?
Brexit?
Why is there a difference of direction?

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RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 11/04/2026 00:36

PeachyDaisy · 10/04/2026 21:16

So there was no way for people to get changes unless taking their clothes off in front of each other? No cubicles at all? Sorry I just don't buy that, sounds like a HR violation if not a slam-dunk sexual harrassment claim.

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A small women's changing room with clothes hooks, lockers and a bench for DW's department I believe. Not all team members would be changing at the same time, but they wouldn't have a private space and often more than one woman would be changing at the same time.

TomPinch · 11/04/2026 00:05

Carla786 · 10/04/2026 23:52

Sorry..do you mean Clark or Ardern?

I mean Ardern.

I'm sure Helen Clark is perfectly nice but fundamentally she's an uncharismatic, unpolished, take-no-shit woman of a type that's quite common here. She faced misogyny too but on the other hand she won 3 general elections. Very keen on human rights but not in a "be kind" way.

Carla786 · 10/04/2026 23:52

TomPinch · 24/01/2026 18:01

She did indeed. But the real issue is that her government didn't do what she promised it would, she left a big structural deficit in the finances, and - worst of all - swanned off to international acclaim which Kiwis hate. "Be Kind" is now shorthand here for well-meaning incompetence.

Sorry..do you mean Clark or Ardern?

Carla786 · 10/04/2026 23:51

SionnachRuadh · 24/01/2026 21:22

I don't find Kemi as impressive as she finds herself (who does?) but she's clearly a talented woman. Her main problem is that nobody is interested in hearing from the Conservative Party right now.

The thing about tribal leftism among young women is something American pollsters have dug into. Married women are barely more left leaning than their husbands. The Democrat advantage with women comes specifically with unmarried women with no children, who vote Democrat by Putin-style margins.

One might put that down to the abortion issue, but you find a similar thing in the UK, where abortion really doesn't figure as a partisan issue. We're at the point where half of young women seem minded to vote for Zack Polanski, which just leads me to think that female socialisation is quite a drug.

Maybe a belief that Reform are sexist? I don't like Reform and I will only vote them reluctantly if Labour doesn't sort open borders out, crime etc and Tories continue to show few signs of being able to do so (I'm Gen Z FWIW)

But I don't think Reform as a whole are sexist. They may well have some sexist members but it's a bit hard for them to have Cunningham, Pochin, Kemkaran etc in prominent roles & then say that women should be in the kitchen (as some pps here seem to think they will do)

Carla786 · 10/04/2026 23:46

Shortshriftandlethal · 24/01/2026 10:54

With many prominent women on the Left ( maybe with the exception of Hillary Clinton in the U.S) and women such as Barbara Castle and Shirley Williams in the U.K - you get the impression they are partly in position just because they are female, whereas you don't get that impression so much with women who are prominent on the right. The rights seems to care more about whether the candidate shares and articulates the same vision and can hold her own than in their sex.

I mean, look at Kemi Badenoch or Condoleeza Rice, for example compared to Angela Raynor or Kamala Harris. They both are far more impressive, steely and able. Maybe because they are women who display more obvious' masculine' characteristics and have leadership qualities.

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Personally I think it's more that incompetent people are being promoted on the left, both men & women. Would you call Starmer a bold leader?

I like Shababa Mahmood. She doesn't seem wet to me. There are other female Labour MPs I like : Sarah Champion for one. Rosie Duffield too. The issue is that these are not the ones at the top.

There are some female Democrats who seem able - Marie Gluesenkamp Perez, Gretchen Whitmer, Elissa Slotkin, & others who make up the so-called 'Mod Squad'. The problem imo is ineffective people like Harris, AOC etc were the ones promoted. Just as Biden was hung on to even when he wasn't fit.

Kemi Badenoch doesn't seem particularly efficient to me, though I may be judging her too soon, she's not had the chance to be in power yet. It's all very well to be 'masculine' and make bold statements,,but there's got to be actual substance there.

I think it's a bit generalising to say Tory women across the board are stronger: would that include Liz Truss? Or Theresa May?

Carla786 · 10/04/2026 23:36

Shortshriftandlethal · 24/01/2026 10:36

I suppose that must depends on how you frame women's rights. Is 'women's rights' purely about the concept of 'equality' as it now tends to be understood - whereby women work alongside men in paid employment and recieve the same pay, and whereby men and women both share the exact same responsibilities, as they arise, in terms of the home and family etc?

Or can 'women's rights' also be framed within an acceptance of some of the innate, general, differences between the sexes such as a recognition that it is women who do the bulk of the childcare etc ( for obvious reasons, certainly when the child very small) and often want to be at home in the early years of a. child's life? If you are more accepting of the strengths families then you could maybe implement policies which support the family and the women within it.

You might also be more accepting of the right of female people to privacy and dignity in public spaces in which they may be undressed or engaged with biological function etc The left tends to want to flatten out or even deny differences between groups of people - in pursuit of 'equality'

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Good post. Overall though, I think privacy is pretty important to men too, even though mixed changing clearly doesn't pose the same risks to them.

Carla786 · 10/04/2026 23:34

SionnachRuadh · 24/01/2026 23:12

Yes, right of centre in the UK is almost entirely civnat.

This would be even more obvious if media stopped using Connor Tomlinson as a talking head, but I believe Connor is being quietly cancelled anyway.

Tommy is constantly on the grift, I don't see Advance going anywhere, and Homeland entertainingly imploded last year after Kenny Smith appointed a young lad to be Northern Ireland organiser with a Grindr profile who... well, let's just say if you live in Belfast and your key interest is black cock, I can't fault your optimism, but you might not be a good fit for a party that stands for white nationalism and against sexual deviancy.

Ethnats in the UK are a joke. They might have a bit more heft in the US, but in a country with a population of a third of a billion that doesn't say very much.

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Carla786 · 10/04/2026 23:30

Gretel346 · 24/01/2026 23:44

Historically, it's the left. Does that mean there aren't isolated instances of bad behaviour? No. But on balance the centre & centre left have a proven historical record because people that gravitate to the left generally believe in equality while those who gravitate to right believe in hierarchy. And that hierarchy is always the same: wealthy, white & male. They will try & pretend the hierarchy is about merit but its always the same demographic who happens to top it.

That they suddenly changed is preposterous.

I'm not a Tory but these statements are demonstrably untrue. If a woman or black or brown person can't top the Tories, how to you explain May, Leadsom, Braverman, Zahawi, Kwarteng, Sunak, Truss, Mordaunt etc?

Carla786 · 10/04/2026 23:27

SionnachRuadh · 24/01/2026 22:29

Damn those Islamophobic Muslims like Zia Yusuf and Laila Cunningham and Nadhim Zahawi...

Hilariously enough, Ben Habib's Advance UK, set up to oppose Reform as being too centrist, is literally led by a Pakistani immigrant.

"White nationalism" is really not a thing in UK politics. The Labour Party and trade union movement subcontracting out their "anti-racist" work to the SWP, in full knowledge of the SWP's long-term rape culture, is a thing. Do you have an issue with that?

Yes, it's ironic Habib, probably one of the most hard-line to the point of seemingly advocating leaving migrants to drown (!) is half-Pakistani. You can certainly criticise these figures but making out it's a straightforward white against black and brown people conflict is a hugely unhelpful simplification.

CassOle · 10/04/2026 23:09

One of these cases involved the alternative (for those who didn't want to change in front of a male) of a small room that didn't meet fire safety regulations IIRC.

So, you had a bloke swanning around in the ladies' changing room, and any woman who objected was pushed out and treated like crap.

Rightsraptor · 10/04/2026 23:07

I only worked in 3 London hospitals in the early 2000s, one of which has undergone a huge refurbishment and none of those had anywhere private for staff to change. They had a room with lockers and an open area where you changed. There were a few occasions when I would have really appreciated a shower but, even though there was theoretically one in the refurbished unit, it broke very quickly and someone took to storing her bike in it.

You'd expect to keep your underwear on, probably a T shirt or vest top on under the scrubs top, so not naked in the changing room but I wouldn't want any man seeing me like that

I've read of staff on neonatal units being forbidden to change into scrubs in toilet cubicles because of infection control. So although it might not be written in your contract 'female staff are required to change their clothes in the presence of male staff, should that male person claim to be really female', it's not difficult to see the problems created by this total disregard for female staff. It's Hobson's choice really.

Helleofabore · 10/04/2026 22:40

wasnt it a large cupboard that was offerred to the Nurses from Fife?

The changing room had toilets but it was discussed in the trial how that was unhygienic to change to go onto shift. The alternative was a cupboard, I think.

CassOle · 10/04/2026 21:35

Aah, you have made the classic mistake of assuming that the lanyard class in the NHS actually gave a flying fuck about the rights and needs of the female nurses.

No, they did not. Hence, the tribunals mentioned by Ophelia.

PeachyDaisy · 10/04/2026 21:16

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 10/04/2026 21:10

I'm afraid AI hasn't got a clue about this. It's just guessing what the situation is for nurses' changing rooms in UK hospitals. DW didn't have individual changing facilities in any of the many hospitals she worked in. Fortunately there were separate men's and women's changing rooms though.

So there was no way for people to get changes unless taking their clothes off in front of each other? No cubicles at all? Sorry I just don't buy that, sounds like a HR violation if not a slam-dunk sexual harrassment claim.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 10/04/2026 21:10

PeachyDaisy · 10/04/2026 09:21

You don't have to argue, the facts are clear...

Do nurses have to get undressed in front of other nurses in the uk changing rooms?

No — nurses in the UK are not required to undress in front of other nurses in changing rooms.

In NHS hospitals and most private healthcare settings, staff changing areas are typically designed with privacy in mind. What this looks like varies by hospital, but usually includes things like:

Individual changing cubicles or curtained areas
Lockers in shared rooms but separate spaces to change
Toilets or accessible private rooms you can use instead

In some older facilities, you might have a more open shared room, but even then, staff are generally expected to change discreetly (e.g., underclothing kept on, or using a towel/gown), not fully undress in front of others.
Importantly:

There is no policy requiring communal undressing
Staff can usually request privacy or use an alternative space if they’re uncomfortable

Employers have a duty under workplace health and safety and dignity policies to provide reasonable privacy
If someone did feel pressured to undress openly in front of colleagues, that would generally be considered inappropriate and something they could raise with a manager, union rep, or HR.

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I'm afraid AI hasn't got a clue about this. It's just guessing what the situation is for nurses' changing rooms in UK hospitals. DW didn't have individual changing facilities in any of the many hospitals she worked in. Fortunately there were separate men's and women's changing rooms though.

PeachyDaisy · 10/04/2026 09:21

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You don't have to argue, the facts are clear...

Do nurses have to get undressed in front of other nurses in the uk changing rooms?

No — nurses in the UK are not required to undress in front of other nurses in changing rooms.

In NHS hospitals and most private healthcare settings, staff changing areas are typically designed with privacy in mind. What this looks like varies by hospital, but usually includes things like:

Individual changing cubicles or curtained areas
Lockers in shared rooms but separate spaces to change
Toilets or accessible private rooms you can use instead

In some older facilities, you might have a more open shared room, but even then, staff are generally expected to change discreetly (e.g., underclothing kept on, or using a towel/gown), not fully undress in front of others.
Importantly:

There is no policy requiring communal undressing
Staff can usually request privacy or use an alternative space if they’re uncomfortable

Employers have a duty under workplace health and safety and dignity policies to provide reasonable privacy
If someone did feel pressured to undress openly in front of colleagues, that would generally be considered inappropriate and something they could raise with a manager, union rep, or HR.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 10/04/2026 09:17

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PeachyDaisy · 10/04/2026 08:54

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But they are not legally required to undress in front of other people. They can use a cubicle/curtain or something else. I can't imagine HR saying "No you have to take your clothes off in front of your coworkers"

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 10/04/2026 08:43

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PeachyDaisy · 10/04/2026 08:15

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I'm not British but is getting undressed in front of others really part of someone's job? Like I have lots of old self-harm scars on my leg so I honestly couldn't do that as career if I was required to undress in front of others (the trans issue aside)

PeachyDaisy · 10/04/2026 07:58

I might be an anomaly. I used to be super left wing but am now more centre-right. I think everyone has their own journey even if we can notice certain trends

In terms of why women are mostly gone to the left I think it is because the left prioritizes welfare services and women are bigger uses of those services.

Carla786 · 10/04/2026 07:08

TempestTost · 26/01/2026 21:36

I agree to a point but I would say you can see a similar effect in other places as well, where the policies weren't so pointed - I think it's more about the effects of dependency long term. I can't anywhere with long term dependency as the norm for a community where you don't see devastating effects on families.

Yes, Theodore Dalrymple would argue similar for the white underclass in 1990s Birimgham where he worked as a doctor, for one. I do think with some black conservatives there can be an element of almost conspiracy style thinking (it was all engineered to hurt black people) which links to wider conspiracy suspicions in the black community. It's fully understandable why these suspicions would develop but the fact it's a wider pattern suggests to me it's probably more an issue of bad policies than racially targeted ones

Carla786 · 10/04/2026 06:58

TempestTost · 26/01/2026 18:04

Yes, I think that is true, there is the perception for women, especially where men are not reliable, that state support increases their choices and independence.

OTOH, the conservative would say that what happens is that you end up with more unreliable men who don't feel that caring for their children, or those children's mothers, is really their primary responsibility, it's the job of the state. But the fact is that even if they give significant financial support, they can't replace a father and his role in the family.

This is a really typical argument of black conservatives in the US who see the welfare state as something that significantly destabilised black communities by causing a massive drop in single parent families, and interrupted what had been an upward trajectory for black families prior to that. Some think that was the point, to create a set of voters who will always vote dependants on the state.

But yes, it may explain some differences in voting patterns between men and women.

Apologies for bringing this thread up again but this is an interesting point that I've seen raised a lot recently, but I feel it's too simple an explanation re black families.

I've read this argument re black conservatives from Sowell and others but I think it's more complex that that. Authors from E Franklin Frazier to Abraham Kardiner to Kenneth Clark and others were reporting higher rates of disengaged fathers and full-on absent fathers in black families dating back to the 1930s.

Daniel Moyinhan wrote his famous report about black fathers and their absence un the early 1960s, and the LBJ welfare policies were in response to that. You can certainly criticise their effect, but on the other hand, if they created the problem, why the Moyinhan Report? Imo the evidence overall shows that the roots go deeper though the 1960s sexual revolution and welfare changes did escalate it.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 28/01/2026 15:47

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UtopiaPlanitia · 28/01/2026 15:46

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Bloody hell! With a closed mind like that she's bound to excel in what's currently Leftist politics where feelings are more important than actual facts 🤦‍♀️

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