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Reasons for not moving right like young men

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Warmlight1 · 23/01/2026 21:21

Are women put off the right because of outright boorishness and right wing female Mps who are promoted withing a very constrained patriarchy and consequently end up not making sense? Is it also to do with the ingressing on women's right by the ultra religious?
Are public services more important to women than men? Was specifically female leadership significant in New Zealand during the pandemic and ultimately safer and was that about gender?
Or something else?
Brexit?
Why is there a difference of direction?

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ScholesPanda · 24/01/2026 16:04

Women benefit more obviously from the state and public services than men do, even if most men also benefit from them.

More men than women are self employed I believe, so improvements in workers rights benefit women more than men, as women are more likely to be employees. Anecdotally, I also find amongst TU members that men often prioritise pay rises and maybe extra annual leave; whereas women are more likely to prioritise more flexible working rights, more ability to WFH etc, possibly fringe benefits like dental if it also covers their children.

Women still do most of the childcare in this country, so they see the benefit first hand of childrens centres, NHS services for children, flexible working rights, childcare provision that allows them to keep their careers, schools etc. Men also benefit from these things, and will see them if in a relationship, but it probably doesn't hit them in quite the same way.

When you throw relatively high rates of divorce/family breakdown into the mix, men usually see even less of this than they do in married couples. Also, a woman with children can usually access more welfare benefits, social housing etc. Whereas the ex-husband non-resident parent may end up in a bedsit or HMO, often unable to claim anything should they become sick etc.

Older women without children at home often earn less and have smaller pensions thanks to years spent undertaking childcare, particularly if their relationship broke down and they were the resident parent. So they will be more reliant on the NHS and the state pension in old age.

All this is before you get to the 'red pill' and incel cultures and their influence on men.

Shortshriftandlethal · 24/01/2026 13:05

Warmlight1 · 24/01/2026 12:35

I think feminism is about all these things and it's also about women as active agents rather than subjects of policy. There's no getting away from the cost of living and the material conditions of women and children's lives

We're all subjects of policy, though, whether we be male or female. You cannot live in a society and not be. The question is more what policies can best support people's various interests and how you can balance that with accommodataing the rights of different indidviduals and groups. There will never be a perfect solution, though.

1984Now · 24/01/2026 12:54

Look at the left also not promoting their best. Are we really saying that Kate Forbes or Ash Regan are inferior in any way to Humza Yousaf and John Swinney?
Why was Sturgeon considered so highly? Because she had a laser focus on language as applied to IndyRef. That "attribute" became a massive negative first in her mismanagement of COVID lockdowns, and then her pitching in with TRA.
Do left leaning women in here really want Rayner as PM, with her radical TWAW views and author of the (un)Employment Bill that will swell the dole queues?

1984Now · 24/01/2026 12:47

Warmlight1 · 24/01/2026 11:19

There's nothing wrong with women in the conservative party per se- but the oddest seem to be promoted. Well I'm thinking both historically and now. So Anne Widdecombe as home secretary for example and William Hague's odd matron thing. Theresa May and the ' hostile environment' and more recently Andrea Jenkins who was Education secretary - gesticulating at the public, - and now sitting as a reform Mayor alongside Tice and Farage whilst they dis send children - this is a very odd position to take. That Reform MP what's her name going on about Burkhas- she could have asked any questions and she picked that.
There are many moderate conservative women who could have been picked as leader but they picked Liz Truss, and a short conversation would tell you there was a lack of competance. They deliberately put her there to crash in my opinion. So it doesn't look like a good place for women.

Well, I guess we could have had Penny Mordaunt as leader with Maria Miller as her Deputy, and Self ID would have been law for over 7 years now.

Warmlight1 · 24/01/2026 12:35

Shortshriftandlethal · 24/01/2026 10:36

I suppose that must depends on how you frame women's rights. Is 'women's rights' purely about the concept of 'equality' as it now tends to be understood - whereby women work alongside men in paid employment and recieve the same pay, and whereby men and women both share the exact same responsibilities, as they arise, in terms of the home and family etc?

Or can 'women's rights' also be framed within an acceptance of some of the innate, general, differences between the sexes such as a recognition that it is women who do the bulk of the childcare etc ( for obvious reasons, certainly when the child very small) and often want to be at home in the early years of a. child's life? If you are more accepting of the strengths families then you could maybe implement policies which support the family and the women within it.

You might also be more accepting of the right of female people to privacy and dignity in public spaces in which they may be undressed or engaged with biological function etc The left tends to want to flatten out or even deny differences between groups of people - in pursuit of 'equality'

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I think feminism is about all these things and it's also about women as active agents rather than subjects of policy. There's no getting away from the cost of living and the material conditions of women and children's lives

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Sausagenbacon · 24/01/2026 12:18

How about Phillipson then, OP?
Shall we start with an mp who is in power now, detailed with helping women, yet ignores them?
Or do still you prefer to cherry pick over the past?
There was a wonderful set of memes , of Left Wing MPs and what they had to say about Women's Rights. Perhaps someone could do us rhe favour of posting them.

inkognitha · 24/01/2026 12:10

KB needs a bit more stature and to engage with young women at some point, but she has lots of potential to incarnate a strong image of female leadership imho.

Warmlight1 · 24/01/2026 11:19

1984Now · 24/01/2026 11:00

What exactly is wrong for women in the Tory Party today? This castigating of the right is as preposterous as the old mantra that the working class, non whites and gays don't belong on the right.

There's nothing wrong with women in the conservative party per se- but the oddest seem to be promoted. Well I'm thinking both historically and now. So Anne Widdecombe as home secretary for example and William Hague's odd matron thing. Theresa May and the ' hostile environment' and more recently Andrea Jenkins who was Education secretary - gesticulating at the public, - and now sitting as a reform Mayor alongside Tice and Farage whilst they dis send children - this is a very odd position to take. That Reform MP what's her name going on about Burkhas- she could have asked any questions and she picked that.
There are many moderate conservative women who could have been picked as leader but they picked Liz Truss, and a short conversation would tell you there was a lack of competance. They deliberately put her there to crash in my opinion. So it doesn't look like a good place for women.

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1984Now · 24/01/2026 11:00

Warmlight1 · 24/01/2026 10:22

Yes I can see that's a mantra. I'm not sure if you are talking to me or about me since you have done both.
But you'd think that prominent women on the right would be more impressive if the right were such a great place to be.
Do you have an opinion on the specific issues I've mentioned?

What exactly is wrong for women in the Tory Party today? This castigating of the right is as preposterous as the old mantra that the working class, non whites and gays don't belong on the right.

Shortshriftandlethal · 24/01/2026 10:54

With many prominent women on the Left ( maybe with the exception of Hillary Clinton in the U.S) and women such as Barbara Castle and Shirley Williams in the U.K - you get the impression they are partly in position just because they are female, whereas you don't get that impression so much with women who are prominent on the right. The rights seems to care more about whether the candidate shares and articulates the same vision and can hold her own than in their sex.

I mean, look at Kemi Badenoch or Condoleeza Rice, for example compared to Angela Raynor or Kamala Harris. They both are far more impressive, steely and able. Maybe because they are women who display more obvious' masculine' characteristics and have leadership qualities.

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Shortshriftandlethal · 24/01/2026 10:39

TomPinch · 24/01/2026 07:17

I will make a quick comment about Jacinda Ardern as I lived in NZ through the pandemic, and because the attitude to her in NZ isn't very well understood elsewhere. She faced misogyny, it's true, but her charisma disguises that she didn't lead a very effective government. There's no reason to believe the NZ government would have done a worse job regarding the pandemic had Bill English (National Party) been PM instead. I miss Helen Clark, the PM from 1999 to 2008. Grumpy, uncharismatic and effective and and a lot of people would have her back in a heartbeat I suspect.

Didn't she also typify that 'be kind', wet type of politics, which some might see as overly feminised?

Shortshriftandlethal · 24/01/2026 10:36

Gretel346 · 24/01/2026 04:37

The Right aren't & have never been interested in women's rights.

I suppose that must depends on how you frame women's rights. Is 'women's rights' purely about the concept of 'equality' as it now tends to be understood - whereby women work alongside men in paid employment and recieve the same pay, and whereby men and women both share the exact same responsibilities, as they arise, in terms of the home and family etc?

Or can 'women's rights' also be framed within an acceptance of some of the innate, general, differences between the sexes such as a recognition that it is women who do the bulk of the childcare etc ( for obvious reasons, certainly when the child very small) and often want to be at home in the early years of a. child's life? If you are more accepting of the strengths families then you could maybe implement policies which support the family and the women within it.

You might also be more accepting of the right of female people to privacy and dignity in public spaces in which they may be undressed or engaged with biological function etc The left tends to want to flatten out or even deny differences between groups of people - in pursuit of 'equality'

Sausagenbacon · 24/01/2026 10:29

But you'd think that prominent women on the right would be more impressive if the right were such a great place to be
actually, I find Badenoch a lot more impressive than any of the women on the left - especially Phillipson, who has cynically kicked the findings of the SC into the long grass.
The rest of it? No, I can't be bothered.

Warmlight1 · 24/01/2026 10:22

Sausagenbacon · 24/01/2026 10:08

I think the op must be the most inarticulate i've read on mn.
And the UK is not the USA, so no, i'm not concerned about what is happening over there.
You can blame Reform supporters however you like, but you can't get away from the simple fact that it is the Left who are shafting women's rights.

Yes I can see that's a mantra. I'm not sure if you are talking to me or about me since you have done both.
But you'd think that prominent women on the right would be more impressive if the right were such a great place to be.
Do you have an opinion on the specific issues I've mentioned?

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Sausagenbacon · 24/01/2026 10:08

I think the op must be the most inarticulate i've read on mn.
And the UK is not the USA, so no, i'm not concerned about what is happening over there.
You can blame Reform supporters however you like, but you can't get away from the simple fact that it is the Left who are shafting women's rights.

RingoJuice · 24/01/2026 08:45

Yes nontraditional families will probably be more likely to vote left, but I have a feeling that good schools, safe neighborhoods will still be important for this cohort. I’m not aware of any statistics on this however.

Warmlight1 · 24/01/2026 08:17

IwantToRetire · 24/01/2026 02:31

Forgot to add the link to thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5479340-a-fissure-between-men-and-women-is-reshaping-british-politics

I haven't been following what has been said because as seems standard know on FWR Farage bots turn out to propogandise on behalf of their leader, and discussion disappears.

But has had a lot of posts, although again in FWR it probably means it has been derailed.

But as I say it isn't a new topic, there have been articles about it for years. Some of the stories from Japan are scarey.

I dont think men saying they think women should stay home and not go out to work, is particulary right wing. I think that some men who say they are left, know that they cant say that out loud.

I dont think we should be trapped into discussing it as a left right issue.

The issue is why are so many men blaming women for being left behind, failing to adapt to a new / different society and not for instances organising themselves to find a way to change.

Instead of just sulking and blaming women.

That's really interesting- I agree that left/ right can be reductive in discussion but the current reality is our choices aren't nuanced. We get one vote and one government. It's quite binary and it's quite either or. Surely the more discussion of that the better?

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Warmlight1 · 24/01/2026 08:10

Agree the pay gap matters a lot- cost of living is fundamental

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Warmlight1 · 24/01/2026 08:07

RingoJuice · 24/01/2026 05:16

I think the abortion issue is a huge reason why young women in America have not moved rightward.

The trend seems to be that women shift rightward once they get married, because other concerns tend to arise: good schools,
safe neighborhoods, future jobs for their growing family, stable employment for their themselves and their partner. Unmarried women tend to vote as left as ever, probably
because their concerns don’t change as drastically.

Increasing unmarried and separated mothers nowadays some of whom who coparent- so that upends it a bit- less investment in the traditional model- slightly different policies most likely apply- they forge their own social structures..

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Warmlight1 · 24/01/2026 08:03

Cando6 · 24/01/2026 05:03

I think a lot of the move to the right is precisely because people think women’s rights are the root of all evil and if we only go back to being modest helpmeets all will be right in the world again. It’s pretty transparent.
Read an interesting NYT article about why right wing men reserve their greatest fury for women.
Left wing men aren’t much better though. Union and Billy Bragg types.
So many men just want us to be in the background serving them and shut up.

Definitely agree - there are a lot of men who want that. And it's often unconscious.

But 70% of Unison members for example are women. That's more than enough vocal.women to balance it in the context of Unison. This activism translating as more of women MPs than ever in parliament. . But there isn't a right wing equivalent. What would that be?

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Warmlight1 · 24/01/2026 07:49

1984Now · 23/01/2026 22:38

How about the boorishness of left wing Russel Lloyd Moyle to Rosie Duffield?
Bad behavior is apolitical.

I think though - I'm familiar with Rosie Duffield obviously but I've never heard of Russell Lloyd Moyle. Isn't it about what is promoted? Within Reform for example the demonisation by the leadership of the victim of one Reform MPs domestic assault. The bullIng in plain sight of children wearing ear defenders. Pretending to know people who have died for a few quid. Sticking your finger up to the public, as education secretary. That's a very peculiarly Reform thing. So yes bad behaviour can be everywhere but the political tolerance of it varies enormously and in fact it's been adopted by reform as a political strategy. Meanwhile Andrew Gwynn a very good example of awful behaviour by the established left- is suspended and now investigated by parliament. The mantra all parties are the same just isn't true. Leaders of Reform have consistently promoted poor and degraded behaviour.

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TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 24/01/2026 07:39

IwantToRetire · 24/01/2026 02:31

Forgot to add the link to thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5479340-a-fissure-between-men-and-women-is-reshaping-british-politics

I haven't been following what has been said because as seems standard know on FWR Farage bots turn out to propogandise on behalf of their leader, and discussion disappears.

But has had a lot of posts, although again in FWR it probably means it has been derailed.

But as I say it isn't a new topic, there have been articles about it for years. Some of the stories from Japan are scarey.

I dont think men saying they think women should stay home and not go out to work, is particulary right wing. I think that some men who say they are left, know that they cant say that out loud.

I dont think we should be trapped into discussing it as a left right issue.

The issue is why are so many men blaming women for being left behind, failing to adapt to a new / different society and not for instances organising themselves to find a way to change.

Instead of just sulking and blaming women.

Oh dear are the comments on 'your' thread not to your liking, have you stropped off to some else's thread instead. 😂

TomPinch · 24/01/2026 07:17

I will make a quick comment about Jacinda Ardern as I lived in NZ through the pandemic, and because the attitude to her in NZ isn't very well understood elsewhere. She faced misogyny, it's true, but her charisma disguises that she didn't lead a very effective government. There's no reason to believe the NZ government would have done a worse job regarding the pandemic had Bill English (National Party) been PM instead. I miss Helen Clark, the PM from 1999 to 2008. Grumpy, uncharismatic and effective and and a lot of people would have her back in a heartbeat I suspect.

Dgll · 24/01/2026 05:56

Men are generally wealthier than women which makes them less likely to vote for high tax/ high spend governments.

Left wing and liberal are often mixed up but they are not the same thing.

All people can be equally obnoxious regardless of their political leanings.

I have no idea why the left has a kinder reputation as left wing regimes are not kind at all.

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