Looking at men differently now I know too much?

No, it's not the same. Having more testosterone is innate. It can't be helped. Whilst doing all the childcare is sometimes a result of facilitating/enabling a lazy bastard who thinks he doesn't have to do anything to help because he was at work today.

"More violent because testosterone" isn't the same as "does over ten times more childcare in the first year" and you know it.

Not really, I'm just talking in the same vein as the people on here!

I'm not. I'm saying that I don't see men as my enemy.

That's pretty melodramatic language to use! 😉

"They have three hearts: a false one in their mouths for all the world to see, another within their breasts only for their friends, and the third in the depths of their hearts, reserved for themselves alone and never manifested to anybody" Father João Rodrigues

Don't get me started on Israel vs 'Palestine'. That is something I have strong views about, but this isn't the CITME board, so I won't state them here.

I'm not. I'm saying that I don't see men as my enemy.

“Freedom is the sure possession only of those who have the courage to defend it “ Pericles

Not really, no. More a counsel of staying in my lane and not thinking I have something in common with all women just because I am a woman. I just don't see the world in such melodramatic terms.

So why are you in this thread criticizing women who are fighting for dignity and equality?

You're right, I don't. I have reached a certain point in life by a combination of luck and hard work, like so many people have. I do a certain amount of 'giving back' and support certain causes, so I'm not entirely self involved. However, I don't identify with contemporary feminism and prefer to devote my energies elsewhere. Hope that's clearer.

So I should stop using it bc you don't like it?

I'm not using it to shut down debate. I'm pointing out that your position seems to have come about bc you've been lucky enough to not have to worry about dignity or equality in your own life and don't seem to care at all about those who are not so lucky. Feel free to respond to that if you're so bothered by the term.

I am so sick of the term 'privileged'. It's just a way of shutting down all debate, and ironically is used a great deal by TRAs!

Don't get me started on Israel vs 'Palestine'. That is something I have strong views about, but this isn't the CITME board, so I won't state them here.

I just don't see the world in such melodramatic terms.

...thereby favouring more illogical terms instead?, like:

not thinking I have something in common with all women just because I am a woman.

Are Israelis and Palestinians similarly melodramatic for recognising a kinship with, and defending, their respective "kinds"? Or is it just women (who are dying in even greater numbers for something far more fundamental than the construct of ethnic/religious/national identity)?

That's a very privileged and entitled position.

Not really, no. More a counsel of staying in my lane and not thinking I have something in common with all women just because I am a woman. I just don't see the world in such melodramatic terms.

Not really, no. More a counsel of staying in my lane and not thinking I have something in common with all women just because I am a woman. I just don't see the world in such melodramatic terms.

I have equality and dignity in my own life, which is all I can ask.

To me, equality and dignity are worth fighting for. Sorry if there is nothing in your life that you think is worth fighting for.

Why 'fight for' anything at all?

Well, there's a counsel of despair...

Why 'fight for' anything at all? I don't. I'm friends with people I like, and I cut off people I don't. Regardless of sex.

I can think 90% of men are rubbish without idealizing women. My own mum sided with my rapist over me. Think about that. It doesn't leave me with a high opinion of women. Almost everyone I know who was sexually abused as a child had the same thing - when their mum found out, it was too difficult or painful to leave their husband or turn their son into the police. I'd still rather take my chances in a locked darkened room full of 50 women I don't know than 50 men I don't know.

“Feminism is a political practice of fighting male supremacy in behalf of women as a class, including all the women you don't like, including all the women you don't want to be around, including all the women who used to be your best friends whom you don't want anything to do with anymore. It doesn't matter who the individual women are. They all have the same vulnerability to rape, to battery, as children to incest. Poorer women have more vulnerability to prostitution, which is basically a form of sexual exploitation that is intolerable in an egalitarian society, which is the society we are fighting for.”
Andrea Dworkin

Feminists are not saying all women are wonderful.