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selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 02:05

There's suddenly been an uptick in unfamilar usernames using transactivist posting styles in FWR, either posting JAQ-off threads or posting in existing threads about relatively trivial matters, like pronouns at work or butch-looking women being challenged in the loos.

I wonder what they are trying to distract us from?

I wonder which thread they are trying to push down the Active list and off FWR's first page?

@OverlyFragrant May I suggest that you ask MNHQ to change the thread title to something like "Trans-identifying woman raped on men's psych ward" so that it's obvious what it's about?

ProfessorBinturong · 15/01/2026 01:40

Intensive care, and I think HDU, is except from the single sex ward regulations because patients aren't mobile or using loos and showers, because staffing ratios are much higher so they're never unobserved, and because both the staff and equipment are too specialist to make it feasible to double up.

WearyAuldWumman · 15/01/2026 01:28

Datun · 14/01/2026 22:59

It's the wording, in that case. It would've been preferable if they said when it is unavoidable due to medical needs.

Edited

Agreed.

I recall that when my husband had his triple bypass, both Intensive Care and the High Dependency Unit were mixed sex.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 01:11

AnSolas · 14/01/2026 13:24

You claim to not know NHS policy on gender and sex?

Yet to have managed to make up a whole theory about how management have hired a trained psychiatric medic to work on the Psychiatric Ward who set out to have female patient raped by men on the male ward.

Wow just wow.

Before your theory runs wild you could try checking what the policy was for that hospital. And FYI unit staff dont write policy so the ethical ownership of how she ended up on a male ward with no extra safeguarding lies with each and every member of the senior management and the board.

Do we know which trust? Because Mumsnetters did an EDI audit of every NHS trust recently...

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 00:57

RedToothBrush · 15/01/2026 00:44

I wasn't meaning it to be answered. It was a rhetorical question.

Ah, as in the sarcastic form of "transactivists keep saying that people can't tell, but they can".

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 00:56

Citrusbergamia · 14/01/2026 08:56

It's absolutely sickening.

But. This is the risk (potential outcome) when TRA's ABSOLUTELY INSIST that a women who believes she is a man and a man who believes he is a woman are placed in the sex spaces of their ideology and not placed in sex spaces based on their biological sex.

And this will continue ad infinitum whilst all the TRA's and their supporters insist that a man can be a woman and woman can be a man. It won't ever change until this ideology is called out for what it is.

I feel so sorry for that poor woman who was raped. The safe guarding appears to have been non existent and the fact that whom ever it was who sanctioned her being placed with biological men, could be thinking one of three things:

a) clearly believes that a woman can be a man and a man can be a woman or was completely sucked into her belief. A TRA or a supporter of.

b) 'yep, place her with the men...this'll teach her to think she can change sex...'.

c) 'fine, [sigh] if you think you're a bloke,...put her in with the men'...

Whichever one it is, it's utterly appalling as safe guarding has completely gone out of the window in all 3 scenarios.

You missed the fourth, and IMO most likely, scenario:
d) "I can see she's a woman, but she says she's a man, and if I go against the policy and she complains, I'll get disciplined and fired".

Aka people weighing up the risk to their jobs from safeguarding her versus the risk to her from not safeguarding her, and choosing their jobs because a clear conscience doesn't pay the rent.

RedToothBrush · 15/01/2026 00:44

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 00:08

It's in the report: "No adam's apple, no adam's apple".

I wasn't meaning it to be answered. It was a rhetorical question.

RedToothBrush · 15/01/2026 00:44

Datun · 14/01/2026 19:36

There are some times when you may have to share accommodation or bathroom/toilets with members of the opposite sex but this only happens when it is in your best interest to do so'

What the ever loving fuck does that mean?

Can a middle-aged man be housed on the children's ward, if it's in his best interest to do so???

What about the teeny tiny issue of the other fucking people on the ward!

It means if you have a condition which is perhaps less common and there is less specialist provision, they will put you in that ward.

For example you have a serious neurological condition and need to be cared for by neurological specialists, but there's only demand for a ward of six patients and there's not enough demand to open a male and female ward safely they'll shove you in together. The 'best interests' basically means they can't afford to operate two specialist female /male rrwards but you need specialist car.

I have had a lengthy conversation about the matter with BIL who high in the NHS food chain over the issue.

Unfortunately this is being used as an excuse to provide adequate and appropriate services in some cases too.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 00:08

RedToothBrush · 14/01/2026 00:04

How did the men tell she was female?

It's in the report: "No adam's apple, no adam's apple".

Datun · 14/01/2026 22:59

ProfessorBinturong · 14/01/2026 22:54

There are some examples in the single sex wards guidance, I think (which is really quite a sensible document apart from Annex B undermining the entire thing).

If someone needs to be on specialist ward - for example they need particular equipment that's not generally available - and there's no space in the specialist ward for their sex but is in the opposite-sex ward, then it would be in their best interests to ensure they have the optimum medical treatment. That would be an allowable exception, rather than prioritising single-sex accommodation and therefore putting them at higher medical risk.

[Edit] The intention was for this to be very much the exception, and to be a reportable incident even if justified.

Edited

It's the wording, in that case. It would've been preferable if they said when it is unavoidable due to medical needs.

ProfessorBinturong · 14/01/2026 22:54

Datun · 14/01/2026 19:36

There are some times when you may have to share accommodation or bathroom/toilets with members of the opposite sex but this only happens when it is in your best interest to do so'

What the ever loving fuck does that mean?

Can a middle-aged man be housed on the children's ward, if it's in his best interest to do so???

What about the teeny tiny issue of the other fucking people on the ward!

There are some examples in the single sex wards guidance, I think (which is really quite a sensible document apart from Annex B undermining the entire thing).

If someone needs to be on specialist ward - for example they need particular equipment that's not generally available - and there's no space in the specialist ward for their sex but is in the opposite-sex ward, then it would be in their best interests to ensure they have the optimum medical treatment. That would be an allowable exception, rather than prioritising single-sex accommodation and therefore putting them at higher medical risk.

[Edit] The intention was for this to be very much the exception, and to be a reportable incident even if justified.

Grammarnut · 14/01/2026 22:52

SpiritAdder · 13/01/2026 23:48

It is in the US. I referred specifically to US prisons in my first post.
Our rape laws are more up to date than yours.

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How is saying women can commit rape more up to date, pray? Most of the world see rape as penetration with a penis of the vagina, anus or mouth. And penis havers (aka men) are the only perpetrators of this crime.

Grammarnut · 14/01/2026 22:43

SpiritAdder · 13/01/2026 23:25

Prison rape is a huge systemic long standing problem in men’s prisons.
They rape each other all the time. During the AIDS epidemic, if you as a man got sent to a US prison, you had a 1 in 4 chance of catching HIV from being raped there.

Prison rape happens in women’s prisons too, although it is usually done with objects or fists.

The government does not care. They think criminals deserve it.

I am not sure what you are saying here. Are you suggesting that because men rape each other in prison it is understandable or ok for rape to happen in a psychiatric ward?
(NB in the UK women cannot be charged with rape, only sexual assault or with aiding rape. Rape requires a penis.)

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 20:21

We, quite rightly, know nothing of these men’s medical conditions.

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 20:14

xSnowFairyx · 14/01/2026 20:07

There is absolutely nothing in the article that suggests these males who committed the crime lacked mental capacity.

I’ll repeat myself from an earlier post, I work in NHS mental health (In England, which is where this crime took place) just because a patient is detained under the Mental Health Act- does NOT mean that they do not have mental capacity.

Men usually aren’t detained under the Mental Health Act for “sexualised behaviour”. People are detained under the MHA and admitted to secure units because there is a significant risk to themselves/others due to a severe mental health condition. Most are usually on a Section 2, which patients can be detained up to 28 days for assessment and acute treatment.

I never said I was referring to these men and sexualised behaviour can be part of someone’s presentation.

xSnowFairyx · 14/01/2026 20:07

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 19:39

At the risk of sounding like ‘what about the menz???’ Male patients in a secure unit lacking capacity should also be protected from being able to commit a criminal
offence. Some may be there for sexualised behaviour or other dangerous behaviours. The harm to a man without capacity committing rape is quite clearly very very different from that experienced by their victim but may still include prolonged incarceration, additional medication, criminal trial, personal guilt and depression. If they are deemed unable to make their own decisions then the psychiatric hospital should be protecting them from making poor ones in their own right (as well as quite clearly for the sake of potential victims). Putting a woman in their midst is a bit like handing matches to a pyromaniac.

There is absolutely nothing in the article that suggests these males who committed the crime lacked mental capacity.

I’ll repeat myself from an earlier post, I work in NHS mental health (In England, which is where this crime took place) just because a patient is detained under the Mental Health Act- does NOT mean that they do not have mental capacity.

Men usually aren’t detained under the Mental Health Act for “sexualised behaviour”. People are detained under the MHA and admitted to secure units because there is a significant risk to themselves/others due to a severe mental health condition. Most are usually on a Section 2, which patients can be detained up to 28 days for assessment and acute treatment.

FarriersGirl · 14/01/2026 20:05

A report on the news tonight about Nottinghamshire Healthcare NHS [ the top of the tree for the most batshit set of policies I have read] who were castigated for failures in the care of a patient who killed 3 people in a knife attack in Nottingham in June 2023. Not only have they failed to improve and still in special measures but are continuing to accommodating patients in dormitory style accommodation despite being told by the CQC to stop this in 2022!! FFS 😡

news.sky.com/story/families-of-nottingham-attack-victims-fear-further-disasters-are-inevitable-after-cqc-report-into-killer-valdo-calocane-13494176

Shedmistress · 14/01/2026 19:46

spannasaurus · 14/01/2026 18:26

I wasn't suggesting that she should have been sent to prison. I was pointing out that the default for female prisoners who identify as men is to place them in a women's prison.ļ

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That we know of so far...

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 19:39

At the risk of sounding like ‘what about the menz???’ Male patients in a secure unit lacking capacity should also be protected from being able to commit a criminal
offence. Some may be there for sexualised behaviour or other dangerous behaviours. The harm to a man without capacity committing rape is quite clearly very very different from that experienced by their victim but may still include prolonged incarceration, additional medication, criminal trial, personal guilt and depression. If they are deemed unable to make their own decisions then the psychiatric hospital should be protecting them from making poor ones in their own right (as well as quite clearly for the sake of potential victims). Putting a woman in their midst is a bit like handing matches to a pyromaniac.

Datun · 14/01/2026 19:36

ArabellaScott · 14/01/2026 17:49

https://slam.nhs.uk/same-sex-accommodation

'Most of our wards are male only or female only. But, if you are admitted into a mixed sex ward then we will place you into a same sex section of the ward and you will either have an ensuite bathroom or same sex bathroom and toilets will be available close by.

Times when patients of different sexes have to be mixed

There are some times when you may have to share accommodation or bathroom/toilets with members of the opposite sex but this only happens when it is in your best interest to do so'

Edited

There are some times when you may have to share accommodation or bathroom/toilets with members of the opposite sex but this only happens when it is in your best interest to do so'

What the ever loving fuck does that mean?

Can a middle-aged man be housed on the children's ward, if it's in his best interest to do so???

What about the teeny tiny issue of the other fucking people on the ward!

Forester1 · 14/01/2026 18:38

I also wonder how many of the staff members involved in her admission behind the scenes were even aware that they were dealing with a woman if her file states male. (Obviously I don’t know if it says male or female)

Forester1 · 14/01/2026 18:36

FarriersGirl · 14/01/2026 17:09

Sadly I think that this is very unlikely to be an isolated incident and it is rare that a case like this gets as far as court and into the public arena. As one of the NHS auditor crew I can testify that the NHS trusts that run these psychiatric units sit on the extreme end of the spectrum when it comes to policies that deify all things trans to the detriment of pretty much everyone else. South London and Maudsley NHS Trust has just such a policy that runs to 41 pages and is full of allyships, rainbow lanyards and affirmation of a trans identity with no consideration of the consequences.

I hadn’t thought about the fact that the only reason we’re aware of this is because it’s got to court.

spannasaurus · 14/01/2026 18:26

xSnowFairyx · 14/01/2026 18:23

No she wouldn’t.

She was sectioned under the Mental Health Act. Her medical needs, supervision and observations would not have been met in a prison. Even a women’s prison. Do you have any idea of the rates of suicide in prison?

This patient needed to be detained to a female-only secure inpatient ward.

I wasn't suggesting that she should have been sent to prison. I was pointing out that the default for female prisoners who identify as men is to place them in a women's prison.ļ

xSnowFairyx · 14/01/2026 18:23

spannasaurus · 14/01/2026 11:03

She would have been safer if she was being sent to prison as she would have been sent to a women's prison.

No she wouldn’t.

She was sectioned under the Mental Health Act. Her medical needs, supervision and observations would not have been met in a prison. Even a women’s prison. Do you have any idea of the rates of suicide in prison?

This patient needed to be detained to a female-only secure inpatient ward.

ArabellaScott · 14/01/2026 17:49

https://slam.nhs.uk/same-sex-accommodation

'Most of our wards are male only or female only. But, if you are admitted into a mixed sex ward then we will place you into a same sex section of the ward and you will either have an ensuite bathroom or same sex bathroom and toilets will be available close by.

Times when patients of different sexes have to be mixed

There are some times when you may have to share accommodation or bathroom/toilets with members of the opposite sex but this only happens when it is in your best interest to do so'

Same sex accommodation - South London and Maudsley

https://slam.nhs.uk/same-sex-accommodation

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