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Mumsnet is now backing Reform UK - survey

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IwantToRetire · 05/01/2026 17:24

The ladies are for turning after all – as a new survey reveals that one in five of the politically engaged mothers on the social networking site are ready to pledge allegiance to Nigel Farage

https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/mumsnet-labour-reform-school-gates-keir-starmer-b2894524.html

Also in full at https://archive.is/V5P6n

If Mumsnet is now backing Reform UK, it’s over for Starmer’s Labour

The ladies are for turning after all – as a new survey reveals that one in five of the politically engaged mothers on the social networking site are ready to pledge allegiance to Nigel Farage, Victoria Richards warns it is the PM’s final death knell

https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/mumsnet-labour-reform-school-gates-keir-starmer-b2894524.html

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IwantToRetire · 06/01/2026 19:11

I am actually suprised at many of the comment just being the same old click bait that the media churns out, none of which deals with the reality.

So for instance today it was announced that for the first time in the past year fewer children were born then people who died.

Many of the problems we have as a country are that after decades the UK got fat on the exploitation of other countries resources and labour.

This meant we created a society that relied on a leval of wealth creation that we no longer have because we are no longer an empire, as well as other newer "empires" are better placed to create international deals that improves their economy.

Not forgetting the economic disaster of Brexit.

All these parties are doing is re-arranging the deck chairs on the Titanic.

So instead of saying the truth which is that we are as a country going to have to accept a lower level of living, people just latch onto which ever party reflects their prejudices against whichever social group they can blame.

Instead of blaming the politicians who lie to us, let alone those who are taken in by the bullshit.

As long as we go on being so immature, and some how thinking that somehow people who have no real experience will effortlessly create an economic miracle we will just lurch from one crisis to another.

And never blaming ourselves, but willing to point the finger at other groups as being the cause of the problems.

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whatwouldafeministdo · 06/01/2026 15:13

UtopiaPlanitia · 06/01/2026 14:09

Labour don't run candidates in N Ireland and, apart from the DUP and Aontú and possibly UUP, most of the parties here have adopted TWAW as a way of distinguishing themselves from GB parties (virtue signalling in the manner of Scottish and Welsh parties). So I also won't vote for an NI party that supports Labour in Westminster.

I find myself thinking that I've had enough of spoiling my ballot and that I would vote Tory before I'd vote Reform. That is a huge head-melting thought for me who has always been a Lefty.

I have become a voter who votes based on parties' policies affecting women's rights, free speech, and reducing illegal immigration and halting authoritarian legislation like the introduction of ID cards and widespread facial recognition technology. If the SDP ran candidates over here, I'd vote for them.

I have had enough of the managerial, lanyard class politics but it doesn't mean I want to give protest parties like Reform my vote. On the issues I've mentioned above, I like the arguments coming from Badenoch and Jenrick enough to take them seriously - from what I've seen of them they seem to be temperamentally different from previous managerialist Tory leaders.

I agree with you on Badenoch and Jenrick. The problem is the media - which as we've seen with the BBC is incredibly biased and with an agenda - seem to be against them. Perhaps because they are quite boring and effective and don't make for good headlines nor go along with the BBC lanyard class ideologies (especially Kemi who spoke to detransitioners even when the civil service didn't want her to - the heresy!).

It's such a shame as I've been impressed with the substance from them so far. However, on the other hand, I think large numbers of ordinary people are rather fed up of the media class telling them what to think so the fact the media are against them doesn't necessarily mean the electorate will be.

GlomOfNit · 06/01/2026 14:50

Transparently misleading bollocks. Though it's certainly true that over the last decade MN has 'diversified' and I find myself coming across one hell of a lot more rightwingers across the whole site, one in five supporting Reform is hardly 'turning to Reform'! 😂

Sadly (because I loathe Reform and virtually everything it stands for) I think this is just representative of UK society across the board. I'm seeing it all over.

For the record, I care very deeply about feminist issues and about safeguarding women and girls, but I won't be swapping my vote over to the extreme right end of the UK political spectrum on that one issue. I care about a lot of issues, and frankly our lives with a profoundly autistic son who desperately needs his special school, additional provisions and will need appropriate college/residential care as DH and I get older, will be unliveable if Reform get in.

UtopiaPlanitia · 06/01/2026 14:09

Labour don't run candidates in N Ireland and, apart from the DUP and Aontú and possibly UUP, most of the parties here have adopted TWAW as a way of distinguishing themselves from GB parties (virtue signalling in the manner of Scottish and Welsh parties). So I also won't vote for an NI party that supports Labour in Westminster.

I find myself thinking that I've had enough of spoiling my ballot and that I would vote Tory before I'd vote Reform. That is a huge head-melting thought for me who has always been a Lefty.

I have become a voter who votes based on parties' policies affecting women's rights, free speech, and reducing illegal immigration and halting authoritarian legislation like the introduction of ID cards and widespread facial recognition technology. If the SDP ran candidates over here, I'd vote for them.

I have had enough of the managerial, lanyard class politics but it doesn't mean I want to give protest parties like Reform my vote. On the issues I've mentioned above, I like the arguments coming from Badenoch and Jenrick enough to take them seriously - from what I've seen of them they seem to be temperamentally different from previous managerialist Tory leaders.

DrBlackbird · 06/01/2026 13:48

nicepotoftea · 06/01/2026 10:19

Honestly, I think Reform's main asset is that they haven't been in power so they can promise people anything. They are just the Green Party, but with different vibes.

Plus, people know very little about their actual policies beyond the headlines.

When they used to be UKIP, their policies were very pro employer and anti worker. Yet, at that time, their biggest supporters were working class men. Turkey’s voting for Christmas came to mind.

If only there was a political party willing to recognise that immigration is a problem for many voters without also trying to make it more divisive an issue than it already is.

DrBlackbird · 06/01/2026 13:17

borntobequiet · 06/01/2026 09:26

I live in a conservative area that could potentially swing Reform. So for the first time in my life, I’d consider voting Tory as a tactical vote.

Me too, especially as my Tory MP is actually a very good constituency MP. Reform round here are idiots. One is a neighbour of mine.

I’m pretty sure I filled in that survey. I’d have indicated don’t know/undecided. I was previously an active LD for decades.

I was also a LD voter a few elections ago, but wouldn’t vote for them now their focus is virtue signalling on everything apart from protecting women’s rights.

And same my Tory MP actually seems sensible.

The world is so topsy turvy. One crazy theory would be Putin engineered the LBGTQ+++ revolution precisely to bring about the downfall of politically progressive parties in the West. Sadly, it’s just the fatal combo of older men with a fetish, social media algorithms, and a middle class seemingly incapable of joining the dots.

ShowMeTheSea · 06/01/2026 13:15

PluckyChancer · 05/01/2026 17:27

Reform??? As if…. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

This.
Not. A. Chance.

usedtobeaylis · 06/01/2026 13:14

I'm not voting Reform. Its not and never will be on the table. Some of the justifications people give are, while their own business, fucking stupid. They're friends to nobody.

whatwouldafeministdo · 06/01/2026 13:11

TellerUlam · 06/01/2026 10:53

I think that has always been the case, but Labour came in promising to deliver so much, with both Starmer and Reeves facing accusations of lying, coupled with the Rayner and Mandy scandals, the backbench rebellion, the u-turns, the WFA and farmers IHT, the public sector pay deals, the budget leaks, the rumoured leadership challenges, the freebies, the delayed local elections, the digital ID, immigration...

Not all of which can be blamed on the previous 14 years - it doesn’t wash with much of the electorate.

Agree. I'd add to that the grooming gangs failure of accountability or even appearing to give a tiny shit if working class girls are raped and tortured on an industrial scale. They are morally bankrupt. They clearly don't care about safety of women or children at all.

It was mostly Labour councils where this happened and the Police and Social Services were complicit in horrendous crimes against children. No-one has lost their job (many of those who let it happen knowingly have been promoted) and the miniscule number of rapists actually investigated, charged (usually after a ridiculous number of years - meanwhile out on the streets free to abuse) and sent to prison have not been given adequate sentences and the survivors have been given little to no support . It's appalling.

Before the whataboutery many Tories haven't been great on this either but I do think Kemi Badenoch personally HAS been good on women and girls' safety and has supported the Grooming gangs survivors. And yes, reform are a hell of a lot better on this than Labour too.

Edited: Tried to include a link to the triggernometry interview with Grooming gang survivor Jade and Maggie Oliver which is shocking but it didn't work.

tramtracks · 06/01/2026 12:44

nicepotoftea · 06/01/2026 09:37

Probably self employed and not in a union, so I don't know how they fit into Labour's understanding of the world - but how many union members work in traditional industrial and manufacturing jobs now?

They weren’t self employed. They were all employees if a small local flooring business. But almost certainly not in a union.

WanOvaryKenobi · 06/01/2026 11:55

I'm tempted to vote Reform. As is my husband.

He's working class, went to university, and is a high earner. I'm middle class, went to university, and my wages have stagnated. I am now on the process of setting up my own company after being made redundant.

Meanwhile, his peer group who have done nothing with their lives are being given ever increasing hand outs for knocking out kids they can't afford, bigger new build houses in lovely areas with nice schools, all without any of the stress of a mortgage or keeping a job.

People talk about quality of life, but at this point we have just been able to afford our own nice house in a nice area after delaying having children because we wanted to get on the property ladder. There is no help if you actually want to achieve anything. We simply cannot afford three children while I stay at home, somehow his mates on benefits can.

I'm tired of the erosion of the middle class to pay an ever increasing welfare bill, for both wealthy pensioners and the feckless. Some people cannot work and should be supported. But I have seen too many perfectly capable people decide to do nothing because what is supposed to be a safety net has become a way of life. I will be voting for whichever party leaves my family better off.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/01/2026 11:10

Pingponghavoc · 06/01/2026 11:03

These figures are from August and September, greens increase in popularity is after that, in polls in October and November.

Fair enough but I still think they were seen as an acceptable protest vote before then. That’s how they got 3 more MPs after all.

nameychangey99 · 06/01/2026 11:04

When the time comes, I would consider voting for Reform locally if that would oust my women-hating Green MP. Reform know women exist, they just don't care that much about us. The Green Party deny that women exist at all.

Pingponghavoc · 06/01/2026 11:03

These figures are from August and September, greens increase in popularity is after that, in polls in October and November.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/01/2026 10:54

nicepotoftea · 06/01/2026 10:19

Honestly, I think Reform's main asset is that they haven't been in power so they can promise people anything. They are just the Green Party, but with different vibes.

Agree with this too, which is why I think it’s very interesting that the “other” category including the Green protest vote, has had less support on MN.

TellerUlam · 06/01/2026 10:53

Slothtoes · 06/01/2026 10:23

I agree. It’s a great time to be in opposition and a very hard place to be in government at the moment

I think that has always been the case, but Labour came in promising to deliver so much, with both Starmer and Reeves facing accusations of lying, coupled with the Rayner and Mandy scandals, the backbench rebellion, the u-turns, the WFA and farmers IHT, the public sector pay deals, the budget leaks, the rumoured leadership challenges, the freebies, the delayed local elections, the digital ID, immigration...

Not all of which can be blamed on the previous 14 years - it doesn’t wash with much of the electorate.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/01/2026 10:50

Beowulfa · 06/01/2026 09:41

There are many things that left leaning middle class people don't understand:

-non-urban issues esp rural poverty & crime
-stuff that is popular with the working classes such as football and the royal family
-non-office jobs
-patriotism

Crucially too many of them are not interested in understanding.

I'm politically homeless and I genuinely don't want to have to keep spoiling my ballot.

💯

MrsOvertonsWindow · 06/01/2026 10:27

Slothtoes · 06/01/2026 10:23

I agree. It’s a great time to be in opposition and a very hard place to be in government at the moment

Which is what Labour had - years in opposition watching a car crash of a government mired in corruption, ideology and incompetence - and what did they learn from that?
An entry into government mired in revelations of financial freebies and greed, in thrall to ideological movements causing great harm to society etc etc.
Depressing,

Slothtoes · 06/01/2026 10:23

I agree. It’s a great time to be in opposition and a very hard place to be in government at the moment

nicepotoftea · 06/01/2026 10:19

Pingponghavoc · 06/01/2026 10:10

Michael Goves interview with Dominic Cummings was interesting. Cumming said that in focus groups, conservatives were seen as irrelevant, labour hopeless, and while no one thought they would actual do anything, were willing to consider reform.

Cummings stated the obvious - that our brightest aren't in policics anymore. But if reform could attract people with relevant skills and talent, and with the right policies, they could make changes.

Honestly, I think Reform's main asset is that they haven't been in power so they can promise people anything. They are just the Green Party, but with different vibes.

Pingponghavoc · 06/01/2026 10:10

Michael Goves interview with Dominic Cummings was interesting. Cumming said that in focus groups, conservatives were seen as irrelevant, labour hopeless, and while no one thought they would actual do anything, were willing to consider reform.

Cummings stated the obvious - that our brightest aren't in policics anymore. But if reform could attract people with relevant skills and talent, and with the right policies, they could make changes.

Slothtoes · 06/01/2026 09:47

Absolutely fuck no would I ever turn to Reform.

Farage the pub bore racist windbag might gather a few fans while he’s in a minor party in opposition (much like Corbyn did) but put him in charge of anything serious like running a whole country and he’d crumble and get bored instantly. They can’t even run local councils! Not a serious political party.
They’re just constantly blowing off and othering other people because that’s literally all they have to bring.

Especially dumb for anyone to be voting Reform at the moment because in the UK we have to look to much much closer ties with Europe for our own protection given the strongman bullies who are running America, Russia and China.

All of reform and Kemi Badenoch and the Tories are still guffing on about Brexit, which has caused an appalling economic car crash which they will never admit because it’s what they exist for. And so they are calling for yet more separation from the EU countries,

Yeah more separation from our biggest trading partners is a great idea Hmm. While the UK desperately needs economic growth after the stagnation and decay that the Tories presided over.

Anyone who gives a shit about the UK now should be campaigning to rejoin the EU. We all need serious grown ups to vote for, because we live in very serious grown up times.

Beowulfa · 06/01/2026 09:41

Ereshkigalangcleg · 05/01/2026 23:21

I think a lot of left leaning middle class people don’t understand that traditionally Labour voters, particularly in the north, could swing to Reform. They seem to think it’s just Tories swinging to Reform. Like it or not, a lot of working class (and some middle class people as this is probably showing) people are totally fed up of both Labour and the Tories, and just want change.

There are many things that left leaning middle class people don't understand:

-non-urban issues esp rural poverty & crime
-stuff that is popular with the working classes such as football and the royal family
-non-office jobs
-patriotism

Crucially too many of them are not interested in understanding.

I'm politically homeless and I genuinely don't want to have to keep spoiling my ballot.

nicepotoftea · 06/01/2026 09:37

tramtracks · 06/01/2026 09:29

Exactly this.
Labour have lost their traditional voting cohort of young working class men. I had 3 workmen over the other month (ages were around 23, 25 and 30) - and overheard them chatting about the budget, all of them were voting reform and were nightly hacked off about paying for people ‘who choose not to work’ - in their words. It’s a fundamental shift in voting.

They don’t feel better off and the narrative is that benefit claimants are better off - they don’t have children yet. I’m not sure 3 people are a good representative of course. TBH - they were lovely guys - hard working, funny and just normal lads. The sort of voter that should be voting labour and that labour should represent.

Probably self employed and not in a union, so I don't know how they fit into Labour's understanding of the world - but how many union members work in traditional industrial and manufacturing jobs now?

tramtracks · 06/01/2026 09:29

Ereshkigalangcleg · 05/01/2026 23:21

I think a lot of left leaning middle class people don’t understand that traditionally Labour voters, particularly in the north, could swing to Reform. They seem to think it’s just Tories swinging to Reform. Like it or not, a lot of working class (and some middle class people as this is probably showing) people are totally fed up of both Labour and the Tories, and just want change.

Exactly this.
Labour have lost their traditional voting cohort of young working class men. I had 3 workmen over the other month (ages were around 23, 25 and 30) - and overheard them chatting about the budget, all of them were voting reform and were nightly hacked off about paying for people ‘who choose not to work’ - in their words. It’s a fundamental shift in voting.

They don’t feel better off and the narrative is that benefit claimants are better off - they don’t have children yet. I’m not sure 3 people are a good representative of course. TBH - they were lovely guys - hard working, funny and just normal lads. The sort of voter that should be voting labour and that labour should represent.