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Do you exist IRL?

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EdgeOfThirtySeven · 04/01/2026 17:11

It's just that I see so many TRAs stating that "nobody IRL cares about this stuff", so maybe we just all exist on Twitter/X and Mumsnet? Sort of disembodied AI? Not actual women in actual buildings, doing actual jobs and leading actual lives?

When Katy Colin Montgomery briefly returned to Twitter/X for his drunken pre- and post-Christmas rants, they centered on the idea that:

Man it's so weird looking at twitter and seeing GCs still going on and on about their nonsense ideology. Literally no one irl thinks about trans people at all. No one cares. If they got a hobby they'd be cured of their relentless insanity in an instant

...

Obviously I've not posted for ages because of, you know, the nazis and the bots and how authoritarian Elon has even censored the word cîs. But there's one thing I wanted to say: Gender Critical isn't real. No one irl gives a fuck AT ALL

I'm pretty sure that I exist IRL. My dog certainly relies on that. Oh, and my loving family, and friends 😆

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Waitwhat23 · 09/01/2026 21:51

Willy-wag Finch of
grandiose condescension,
Are you coming back?

Your list of failed and
Unsubstantiated links
Are uncorrected.

Helleofabore · 09/01/2026 19:37

JanesLittleGirl · 09/01/2026 19:26

I'm sure that there is an expression for what @QuickJadeFinch did. Willy wagging?

Oh my.... A Willy Wagtail is more of a fantail than a finch I think...

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 09/01/2026 19:31

JanesLittleGirl · 09/01/2026 19:26

I'm sure that there is an expression for what @QuickJadeFinch did. Willy wagging?

"Being a tedious man"

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JanesLittleGirl · 09/01/2026 19:26

Helleofabore · 09/01/2026 15:52

So.... @QuickJadeFinch doesn't want to correct all their failed links?

Well. That is a pity.

I'm sure that there is an expression for what @QuickJadeFinch did. Willy wagging?

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 09/01/2026 19:16

Helleofabore · 09/01/2026 15:52

So.... @QuickJadeFinch doesn't want to correct all their failed links?

Well. That is a pity.

Sad times.

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BezMills · 09/01/2026 19:01

I'm not surprised that a low value visiting scoldbot had so little of value to offer, notwithstanding their grandiose condescending. It's like deja vu that I've seen before.

Helleofabore · 09/01/2026 15:52

So.... @QuickJadeFinch doesn't want to correct all their failed links?

Well. That is a pity.

Fimofriend · 07/01/2026 16:42

BezMills · 06/01/2026 16:50

I got my first and possibly only Man Point of the year today, when I gave a crossfitter a jump start after the gym.

Okay so she used her own leads and did the actual connections, and we were supervised by a more manny man. But I knew how to open my bonnet and where my battery was, so I'm claiming my Man Point!

We ( DH and I) have an electric car. We went to a party where some very manly men discussed the car in front of me in a very patronizing way.

Since they were oh so clever and knew absolutely everything about our car, and I had wondered about something, I asked them about it: "Can I jump someone else's car using my car, and in that case, where do I place the leads?". They did not, in fact, know absolutely everything about our car.

Coatsoff42 · 07/01/2026 08:15

ResusciAnnie · 07/01/2026 08:05

I mean, I do agree that most people don’t think about trans people in their daily lives. It rarely comes up really. Doesn’t mean I’m not GC.

for sure, there’s lots of things people feel strongly about, but they don’t come up every day. The ozone layer, bear baiting, grooming gangs, people who fly tip…

ArabellaSaurus · 07/01/2026 08:11

ResusciAnnie · 07/01/2026 08:05

I mean, I do agree that most people don’t think about trans people in their daily lives. It rarely comes up really. Doesn’t mean I’m not GC.

Yes. The idea that women are focussed on 'transwomen', rather than on women and girls, is absurd.

We are focussed on women and girls because our daily lives are inescapably shaped by and affected by our sex.

Mostly, we just dont care about anyone's genderfeels. Its about as interesting as starsigns.

ResusciAnnie · 07/01/2026 08:05

I mean, I do agree that most people don’t think about trans people in their daily lives. It rarely comes up really. Doesn’t mean I’m not GC.

BezMills · 07/01/2026 08:04

the Dunning Krüger effect. The worst thing is, they all seem to think they're the first low value doughball to do this exact thing, far from it.

Hell mend them.

Waitwhat23 · 06/01/2026 20:45

Ah, I do enjoy an abstract/journal article behind a paywall dissection (or in this case, a failed link/completely irrelevant link dissection). It's so very predictable that the TRA in question hasn't actually read any of it, while displaying incredibly misplaced patronising superiority towards the intelligent (and well read) posters on here.

And yes, to answer the OP, the topic is absolutely being discussed in real life. By ordinary women having a chat. Despite the determined push to stop them through no debate, deplatforming, open and veiled threats etc etc.

Sorry lads!

EmpressDomesticatednottamed · 06/01/2026 19:08

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 06/01/2026 18:49

Why are there so many untalented grifters in the arts?

'Twas ever thus. But at least this particular grift is being more ridiculed than indulged, and there'll be less of it going forward as the money dries up.

And because when people are appointed with huge salaries or given monster funding with great praise and go on to be complete disasters and totally fuck up nobody has the courage to say they are crap at it and send them on their way.
There are a lot of freelance artists who work their arses off and do really good things with no acknowledgement at all. I married one, never had a paid holiday in our lives.

ThreeWordHarpy · 06/01/2026 19:02

I exist IRL.

i couldn’t give a stuff if someone (adult) has a gender identity. Dress as you like, live your best life etc. I really don’t care and I will interact with you in public in the same way I’d interact with any other stranger.

The only time I’ll have a problem with you is a) if you use a single sex facility or service that is not for your biological sex or b) you support/encourage medical treatment of gender distress in young people instead of psychological support.

Iamnotalemming · 06/01/2026 18:51

I had no idea about the origins of berk! Still seems appropriate here however 😀

EdgeOfThirtySeven · 06/01/2026 18:49

CassOle · 06/01/2026 18:44

Shovels are 'masculine coded'... huh... I have a huge suspicion that Jennifer - despite being a 'true and honest woman' (wink, wink) - has never been a pony mad girl. #SadTimes

Why are there so many untalented grifters in the arts?

Why are there so many untalented grifters in the arts?

'Twas ever thus. But at least this particular grift is being more ridiculed than indulged, and there'll be less of it going forward as the money dries up.

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CassOle · 06/01/2026 18:44

Shovels are 'masculine coded'... huh... I have a huge suspicion that Jennifer - despite being a 'true and honest woman' (wink, wink) - has never been a pony mad girl. #SadTimes

Why are there so many untalented grifters in the arts?

JanesLittleGirl · 06/01/2026 18:17

spannasaurus · 06/01/2026 18:11

I had the same thought about the pronunciation so I googled. It's the Berkeley Hunt not Berkshire

I stand corrected.

spannasaurus · 06/01/2026 18:11

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 06/01/2026 18:08

I had heard that...but wouldn't it be pronounced 'bark' in that case? 🤔

I had the same thought about the pronunciation so I googled. It's the Berkeley Hunt not Berkshire

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 06/01/2026 18:08

JanesLittleGirl · 06/01/2026 18:01

It's Cockney rhyming slang. Berkshire Hunt - something that rhymes with 'Hunt'.

I had heard that...but wouldn't it be pronounced 'bark' in that case? 🤔

JanesLittleGirl · 06/01/2026 18:01

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 06/01/2026 17:38

'Berk' needs to be brought back. Its a great insult.

It's Cockney rhyming slang. Berkshire Hunt - something that rhymes with 'Hunt'.

Helleofabore · 06/01/2026 17:46

I noticed that finch did not come back and explain the failings of their post on either thread they posted it on....

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 06/01/2026 17:38

Iamnotalemming · 05/01/2026 00:11

I LOL'd at "gender critical isn't real".
What a berk.

'Berk' needs to be brought back. Its a great insult.

NotAtMyAge · 06/01/2026 17:32

QuickJadeFinch · 05/01/2026 10:36

Since you clearly have an open, inquisitive and intellectually curious mind, here's a short list of relevant reading material for you to ponder:

Core Peer-Reviewed Papers on Non-Binary / Multi-Gender Identities
Richards et al. (2016) – Non-binary or genderqueer genders
International Review of Psychiatry
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26753630/
doi.org/10.3109/09540261.2015.1106446
Schudson & Morgenroth (2022) – Nonbinary gender identities
Current Opinion in Psychology
www.sciencedirect.com/.../pii/S2352250X22002202
doi.org/10.1016/j.copsyc.2022.101324
James et al. (2016) – The Report of the U.S. Transgender Survey
(Nationally representative dataset; includes non-binary genders)
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6830994/
Whyte, Brooks & Torgler (2018) – Man, woman, “other”
Archives of Sexual Behavior
link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-018-1261-2
doi.org/10.1007/s10508-018-1261-2
Clark et al. (2018) – Identities beyond the binary
Journal of Adolescent Health
www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X22002202
doi.org/10.1016/j.jadohealth.2018.03.027
Systematic Reviews & Meta-Analyses
Scandurra et al. (2019) – Health of non-binary and genderqueer people: A systematic review
International Journal of Transgenderism
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31293486/
doi.org/10.1080/15532739.2019.1652120
Lefevor et al. (2023) – Mental health disparities among non-binary individuals
Clinical Psychology Review
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39385290/
doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2023.102222
McNeil et al. (2021) – Experiences of non-binary people in healthcare
BMJ Open
bmjopen.bmj.com/content/11/7/e046872
doi.org/10.1136/bmjopen-2020-046872
Quantitative & Qualitative Empirical Studies
Hyde et al. (2019) – Gender nonconformity and identity diversity
American Psychologist
psycnet.apa.org/record/2019-17415-001
doi.org/10.1037/amp0000307
Thorne et al. (2018) – Gender diversity in childhood and adolescence
Journal of Adolescent Research
journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0743558418761994
Barr et al. (2016) – Gender as a continuum
Sex Roles
link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11199-015-0569-1
doi.org/10.1007/s11199-015-0569-1
Measurement & Methodology Research (Important Scientifically)
Westbrook & Saperstein (2015) – New categories are not enough
Gender & Society
journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0891243215584758
Morgenroth & Ryan (2020) – The effects of gender identification beyond the binary
European Journal of Social Psychology
onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/ejsp.2673
Lindqvist et al. (2021) – Gender beyond the binary: Measurement and classification
Psychology & Sexuality
www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/19419899.2020.1729847
Neuroscience, Development & Biological Context (Clarifying Sex vs Gender)
Joel et al. (2015) – Sex beyond the genitalia
Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS)
www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.1509654112
Fausto-Sterling (2012) – The dynamic development of sex and gender
Biology of Sex Differences
bsd.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/2042-6410-3-9
Major Peer-Reviewed Journals Publishing Ongoing Research
(All peer-reviewed)
Archives of Sexual Behavior
link.springer.com/journal/10508
International Journal of Transgender Health
www.tandfonline.com/toc/wijt21/current
Gender & Society
journals.sagepub.com/home/gas
Current Opinion in Psychology
https://www.sciencedirect.com/journal/current-opinion-in-psychology

I grew out of fairy stories about hidden identities and magical transformations when I was about six. I'm surprised you haven't.

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