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Has anyone left their spouse over GC views / pro-Islam stance

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PinkTreeFrog · 25/12/2025 13:47

Husband and I could never find common ground on gender critical views and his blindness to the harms of Islam to women. He has an inability to take in information that contradicts his world view. Has anyone left a spouse over this?

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Holluschickie · 25/12/2025 14:24

So neither of you are Muslim and he has no interest in making your dd wear a hijab? But you think Islam harms women and he thinks it doesn't?
No idea what a sanctuary city is.

nameobsessed · 25/12/2025 14:21

PinkTreeFrog · 25/12/2025 14:14

More information: I am gender critical, he is deep in the red/green alliance / pro-Palestine activism. We live in a sanctuary city in an area where hijabs are everywhere. I have a difficult time explaining it to our daughter in a balanced way.

Sorry, I clearly misunderstood the post. Regardless of the opinion I couldn’t stay with someone that doesn’t share the same fundamental values, it would just be constant hostility.

Social justice topics are quite heavy and very relevant today, a lot of them involve human rights and basic human dignity, however you look at it. I feel like you need to be on the same side for the most part.

nameobsessed · 25/12/2025 14:17

If a partner became actively Islamophobic (or any other phobic for that matter) I would leave in a heartbeat, same for friends or relatives- I have no time for intolerance of any kind. I would also leave if a partner was misogynistic, regardless of their religion/cultural beliefs.

GC views are a bit more complicated. I wouldn’t leave over the views themselves but if they a) went on about it or b) started being some kind of anti trans activist I would leave.

Thankfully not an issue as my partner is lovely, but others around me have been faced with this situation.

PinkTreeFrog · 25/12/2025 14:14

More information: I am gender critical, he is deep in the red/green alliance / pro-Palestine activism. We live in a sanctuary city in an area where hijabs are everywhere. I have a difficult time explaining it to our daughter in a balanced way.

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1984Now · 25/12/2025 14:13

I've learnt not to have too many tetchy politics discussions with my wife. She's genuinely angry about VAWG, stories like the Pelicot case, Taliban, Russell Brand, Harvey Weinstein, Andrew Tate, porn, industrial grade misogyny, Trump etc fuel her righteous indignation. At the same time, she's very nuanced on migration and the milder end of trans ideology (I'd call her a centre right Lib Dem type).
And I've learnt to leave politics, especially the culture wars of migration (illegal or otherwise) and trans alone.
But this also means I won't engage with her when she froths at the mouth over Trump and Musk, Farage, the Right's culture war.
If I'm gonna be impeded from talking thru politics from my PoV over the angriest period of the Left culture war (2016-2024), then I won't indulge her when she's most angry (Trump 2.0, Tate influence in young men, Musk ultra visible mouthiness, Farage/Reform rise and rise).
Just about works.

Holluschickie · 25/12/2025 14:10

Yeah more info needed.

MyThreeWords · 25/12/2025 14:07

Which of you is Muslim, if either? Is it literally your views on the harms of Islam to women that he finds challenging? Or does he mistrust your focus on this issue, as possibly a pretext for generalised hostility to Islam?

Holluschickie · 25/12/2025 14:01

Is he GC or you?

Greyskybluesky · 25/12/2025 14:00

Not just for the beliefs but for a refusal to consider other viewpoints

This. I couldn't be with someone who regarded women and girls as having lower status and made no attempt to understand the issues. If they refused to discuss other viewpoints, that would be the end of it for me.

Not glossing over the difficulty of LTB, but you only get one life.

Judgejudysno1fan · 25/12/2025 13:55

Is he muslim?

Worldgonecrazy · 25/12/2025 13:51

No but I would in a heartbeat. Not just for the beliefs but for a refusal to consider other viewpoints