She/hers everyhere on event programme i'm attending, what do I do?

Pronouns are very important to people who exist outside the western invented binary system that was created to keep women like chattel. If you don’t agree with it, the best you can do is just keep your prejudice to yourself, your opinion isn’t warranted and is also offensive to those whose identity differs from the status quo.

its fine, take a litter tray with you whip it out and let loose in the middle of the keynote speech

Ooh I have a ready-made reply which I’ve never had to use - you can have mine!

“I am strongly opposed to universal public pronouns. I think they put young people under intolerable pressure to make a public statement. You would never dream of doing that with sexuality”.

And then watch them implode. I mean all of that from a GC standpoint but even if I was a true believer, I would still think that because just like with sexuality, it’s up to people how much they share.

My pronouns are your majesty/empress of the Universe. Thats what I identify as and that's what I shall be referred to at any given opportunity.. its even on my facebook profile. :-)

You have no reason to feel silly about wanting to talk about it on here.

You said you work at home in a male-dominated industry. You wanted some perspective from women on here. That's absolutely fine.

I hope it's an interesting conference anyway.

I was going to say it wont be a problem as usually for an event like this you are asked for your pronouns when registering, and that is what gets printed on your badge. There is generally an option for prefer not to say, and then you get a badge with just your name on it and nobody notices or cares.

However the issue is that if your relative has paid they have probably said what your pronouns are and so you will get pronouns on your badge.

And someone will watch which toilet you use! They have many ways of discovering your secret gender identity. 🙂

Your perspective and approach is more controlled, measured and arguably mature than mine!

What a load of waffle over nothing. Just don’t bloody go if you’re so against pronouns.

Personally I’d just lose the name badge - easily done.

Just gone through the programme and everyone has pronouns

Remember that they will have been told to have pronouns. Not everyone will agree with that, but they've gone along with it because work etc.

The organisers think it looks progressive in the programme. They don't realise that having forced pronouns is rapidly losing popularity.

Presumably as a pp said they won't have the badges pre-printed with pronouns as how would they possibly know what they are? I'd politely decline to have mine added. Or I like to think I would - in the moment I might just run away instead.
You can always use the "displayed pronouns could be outing people" argument if you are not bold enough to go with "this is nonsense".

It won't come up in conversation.

Gender ideology is 100% destructive. Surely by definition anything said in contradiction to it is constructive?

You don't make it at all clear whether you have any professional links to the content of the conference, or are you going there purely to support the relative?

I can't make a scene as its her event but everyone will have name badges including me and it didn't even occur to me that this would come up.

On that basis I would cancel / feign illness.

I could not attend something like this without saying at reception (for example) "I am sorry, I cannot wear that name badge which is announcing a third party pronoun demand that I am making to everyone I meet... partly because it is stupid and authoritarian, and partly because I am afraid people might see me and I might lose massive amounts of credibility as a result". But I say that as someone who - to a very large extent - would rather lose my career than go along with this nonsense, and can probablly just about get away with it financially if the worst happened.

Whats worse it that my relative is a big TRA supported, manages to shoehorn it into most conversations.

You don't say what relation this relative is to you. But again, a bit like my career, however much I love my family and don't want to ruin relationships, I could not spend time with a TRA without telling them EXACTLY how stupid and evil I believe their insane beliefs are. Obviously there is a risk of a fall out, but the alternative is to never see them again so I am not forced to tell them what I think of their bigoted, childhood destroying beliefs.