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Would a biological woman identifying as a trans woman be accepted in the trans community?

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quickquestion12345 · 07/11/2025 18:54

Just curious really if this is something that happens. And if not, what the argument (by trans people) would be against it. Sorry if it’s been covered before. Just been working through some stuff in my head and started to wonder about this!

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kimonok · 10/11/2025 17:53

quickquestion12345 · 07/11/2025 19:00

I guess I’m thinking of it because if sex doesn’t matter why would it matter here? I can kind of imagine a woman identifying as trans. I’ve struggled with fertility problems and facial hair and various things that have made me feel less of a woman. I am old enough now to know that that experience in itself was fundamentally female, but for many years I just thought I was not a very good woman. Am rambling slightly. Thoughts aren’t formed really am just cogitating!

If you feel you are male then you could identify as a man - i.e. become a trans man. However, I don't think that is what you are saying.

Being a woman who identifies as a man who identifies as a woman doesn't make sense and just seems a bit tongue in cheek to the whole concept of being trans.

Namelessnelly · 10/11/2025 17:44

Coconutter24 · 10/11/2025 13:11

In my opinion no that would not make you trans. A stereotype is just basically just an idea of what something is or should be.

If you are a biological woman that likes cars and you say your gender is male then yes you’re trans but you’re not trans if you’re a biological woman who just happens to like cars.

But how would I know my gender was male? If I’m not male, how would I know I was male? What would I be basing such a claim on?

minipie · 10/11/2025 13:21

MaggieBsBoat · 09/11/2025 12:00

If a dude can say he’s a woman. Then a woman can say she’s a transwoman.

The point of it is the fact that words are meaningless.

Indeed.

If the word “woman” can be reinvented to mean whatever the hell it means this week, then the word “trans” can be reinvented too. No reason a woman can’t be a transwoman if she wants.

Or are only some words up for reinvention?

Coconutter24 · 10/11/2025 13:11

Namelessnelly · 10/11/2025 07:47

I know that. But isn’t a woman liking cars against gender stereotypes? So would I still be a “cis” woman or not? That’s the question? Because obviously my “gender” does not align with my sex. So would I be trans?

In my opinion no that would not make you trans. A stereotype is just basically just an idea of what something is or should be.

If you are a biological woman that likes cars and you say your gender is male then yes you’re trans but you’re not trans if you’re a biological woman who just happens to like cars.

Coconutter24 · 10/11/2025 11:06

YouCantProveIt · 10/11/2025 07:44

Yes and if you’re a man who likes dresses and changing in the ladies you’re still a man

You keep coming back like I’m disagreeing with you?

Namelessnelly · 10/11/2025 07:47

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 18:18

If you’re a woman who likes make up and also likes cars… you’re still a woman

I know that. But isn’t a woman liking cars against gender stereotypes? So would I still be a “cis” woman or not? That’s the question? Because obviously my “gender” does not align with my sex. So would I be trans?

YouCantProveIt · 10/11/2025 07:44

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 18:18

If you’re a woman who likes make up and also likes cars… you’re still a woman

Yes and if you’re a man who likes dresses and changing in the ladies you’re still a man

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 18:18

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 18:14

But what if you think gender is a load of outdated, sexist tropes and stereotypes? I mean, without that load of old cobblers, what exactly is gender? There is no way to define it without them is there? So therefore ”cis” means a person who follows those sexist, outdated stereotypes? But to what extent? How strict do you have to follow them to be called “cis”. What if you’re a woman who likes makeup but also likes cars? Are you “cis”?

If you’re a woman who likes make up and also likes cars… you’re still a woman

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 18:14

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 16:24

A woman. I don’t know why people don’t just say a woman and need to add ‘cis’ to it. It means someone who’s gender matches their sex

But what if you think gender is a load of outdated, sexist tropes and stereotypes? I mean, without that load of old cobblers, what exactly is gender? There is no way to define it without them is there? So therefore ”cis” means a person who follows those sexist, outdated stereotypes? But to what extent? How strict do you have to follow them to be called “cis”. What if you’re a woman who likes makeup but also likes cars? Are you “cis”?

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 18:13

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 18:10

Where did I suggest a trans female isn’t a gender identity?

Where did I say people can’t identify as what they like?

’my’ definition isn’t my definition it’s what comes up when you search the definition of transition.

It’s tongue in cheek.

It’s all incapable of any logic or legal definition.

So anyone can be anything without bounds in theory.

Except the truth is is simple.

Transwomen are men. They aren’t and never can be women.

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 18:10

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 17:54

As I women I have short hair and wear jeans.

I identify as a man with gender dysphoria. It’s a different sex to which I was born into.

I permanently adopt long hair and dresses.

I have completed my transition. How dare you suggest trans female isn’t a gender identity?

I can identify as I like.

Self identification is a thought experiment.

Permanetly adopting the outward characteristics that match a gender I identify with is a thought experiment. I can make up a gender identity and its characteristics. Your ‘definition’ isn’t clear in law.

You can acquire a gender recognition certificate of your male gender while having penis in vagina sex and birthing babies while wearing dresses.

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Where did I suggest a trans female isn’t a gender identity?

Where did I say people can’t identify as what they like?

’my’ definition isn’t my definition it’s what comes up when you search the definition of transition.

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 17:54

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 16:22

Transition by definition is
the process that a transgender person permanently adopts the outward or physical characteristics that match the gender they identify as opposed to the sex they were born

So a man having breast implants or a woman having surgery to remove breasts would be a transition. Biologically they are still the same sex they were born as.

As I women I have short hair and wear jeans.

I identify as a man with gender dysphoria. It’s a different sex to which I was born into.

I permanently adopt long hair and dresses.

I have completed my transition. How dare you suggest trans female isn’t a gender identity?

I can identify as I like.

Self identification is a thought experiment.

Permanetly adopting the outward characteristics that match a gender I identify with is a thought experiment. I can make up a gender identity and its characteristics. Your ‘definition’ isn’t clear in law.

You can acquire a gender recognition certificate of your male gender while having penis in vagina sex and birthing babies while wearing dresses.

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 17:43

JanesLittleGirl · 09/11/2025 16:43

I think that it means a woman who comes from the Italian side of the Alps.

It’s a woman with a lisp.

So transwomen with lisps may identify as cis women.

Illegally18 · 09/11/2025 17:04

Lostthebubblewand · 07/11/2025 19:07

It’s strange but I met a biological woman who was transitioning into a man once. Their whole personality/ tone/ manner/ look was like a caricature of a camp gay man. I Thought if I was a gay man I would have been really offended by their interpretation of masculinity. It was like a bad impression/ pantomime. Plus they were attracted to men, so they went from heterosexual woman to gay man. I wonder how common that is. It is hard to think of the mental gymnastics. Feeling born in the wrong body but identifying not as a straight man but as a feminine man who enjoys face cream/ masks/ pedicures/ ‘women’s films’/ clothes/ make up. If we are told these things define our gender, then why not just stay a heterosexual woman?
I wonder if that’s too straightforward and boring? There’s no opportunity to feel marginalised.

There’s no opportunity to feel marginalised. I think you've hit the nail on the head...

JanesLittleGirl · 09/11/2025 16:43

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 16:15

What’s a cis woman? I mean I know a “transwoman” is a male claiming a trans identity, so what is a “cis” woman?

I think that it means a woman who comes from the Italian side of the Alps.

Coatsoff42 · 09/11/2025 16:24

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 14:54

Define any transition - what does it mean? Who decides what it is?

Transition in most cases is a thought experiment. No one transitions - because a man who wants to identify in another gender does not transition.

Trans identifying men are a distinct group.

They are biological men who think they are women.

Say I am a biological woman. I can think I am a man who thinks they are a women. It’s different to being a woman as it’s actually being a man with a diagnosis of gender dysphoria. And why not? It’s all a thought experiment.

No one actually transitions to anything else. Men are men. Women are women. Transitions are a thought experiment.

Well exactly, that’s what a judge said in the tribunal recently, what is the definition of the start and finish of the transition.
What is the process of transition?
How does an organisation say the transition is complete, for admin purposes? Or that the transition has begun?

It’s all very airy fairy, unlike maternity leave, no right to privacy on mat leave.

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 16:24

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 16:15

What’s a cis woman? I mean I know a “transwoman” is a male claiming a trans identity, so what is a “cis” woman?

A woman. I don’t know why people don’t just say a woman and need to add ‘cis’ to it. It means someone who’s gender matches their sex

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 16:22

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 16:16

But it’s also meaningless in the case of a man wanting to be a woman.

I know

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 16:22

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 14:54

Define any transition - what does it mean? Who decides what it is?

Transition in most cases is a thought experiment. No one transitions - because a man who wants to identify in another gender does not transition.

Trans identifying men are a distinct group.

They are biological men who think they are women.

Say I am a biological woman. I can think I am a man who thinks they are a women. It’s different to being a woman as it’s actually being a man with a diagnosis of gender dysphoria. And why not? It’s all a thought experiment.

No one actually transitions to anything else. Men are men. Women are women. Transitions are a thought experiment.

Transition by definition is
the process that a transgender person permanently adopts the outward or physical characteristics that match the gender they identify as opposed to the sex they were born

So a man having breast implants or a woman having surgery to remove breasts would be a transition. Biologically they are still the same sex they were born as.

Coffeeishot · 09/11/2025 16:21

Lostthebubblewand · 07/11/2025 19:07

It’s strange but I met a biological woman who was transitioning into a man once. Their whole personality/ tone/ manner/ look was like a caricature of a camp gay man. I Thought if I was a gay man I would have been really offended by their interpretation of masculinity. It was like a bad impression/ pantomime. Plus they were attracted to men, so they went from heterosexual woman to gay man. I wonder how common that is. It is hard to think of the mental gymnastics. Feeling born in the wrong body but identifying not as a straight man but as a feminine man who enjoys face cream/ masks/ pedicures/ ‘women’s films’/ clothes/ make up. If we are told these things define our gender, then why not just stay a heterosexual woman?
I wonder if that’s too straightforward and boring? There’s no opportunity to feel marginalised.

There is a an American"drag queen" who is a trans man who identifies as a "gay man" surely thats a woman who just has a gay man fantasy ?

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 16:16

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 14:37

You say transition is meaningless but that’s what I’m saying in the case of a biological woman wanting to be a trans woman

But it’s also meaningless in the case of a man wanting to be a woman.

Namelessnelly · 09/11/2025 16:15

Slightyamusedandsilly · 09/11/2025 14:24

Of course. Because cis women are women and so are trans women. So they're all just women.

What’s a cis woman? I mean I know a “transwoman” is a male claiming a trans identity, so what is a “cis” woman?

ginasevern · 09/11/2025 14:56

@quickquestion12345 "So within this framework, presumably biological women can discuss and campaign on issues that affect only them as a sub category of women? And set their own boundaries? "

Sub categories would be a dangerous precedent. Would anyone advocate for sub-categories of African, Asian or European? And can you imagine men supporting sub-categories of their sex? In any event, it has been argued ad nauseam that transwomen should have their own spaces/agencies/facilities and likewise women. But the trans community are (too often) violently opposed to the idea as it invalidates them as "real women".

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 14:54

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 14:37

You say transition is meaningless but that’s what I’m saying in the case of a biological woman wanting to be a trans woman

Define any transition - what does it mean? Who decides what it is?

Transition in most cases is a thought experiment. No one transitions - because a man who wants to identify in another gender does not transition.

Trans identifying men are a distinct group.

They are biological men who think they are women.

Say I am a biological woman. I can think I am a man who thinks they are a women. It’s different to being a woman as it’s actually being a man with a diagnosis of gender dysphoria. And why not? It’s all a thought experiment.

No one actually transitions to anything else. Men are men. Women are women. Transitions are a thought experiment.

Coconutter24 · 09/11/2025 14:37

YouCantProveIt · 09/11/2025 13:04

Your absolute word salad paragraph just goes to show the utter nonsensical status of the debate around this.

If a biological man = transwoman = woman

Then biological woman = transman = man = transwoman = woman

You can no more transition from a woman to a woman as a man to a woman

Transition is meaningless.

Define transition?

You say transition is meaningless but that’s what I’m saying in the case of a biological woman wanting to be a trans woman

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