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Girlguiding faces legal action from parent over trans policy

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Misla · 07/11/2025 16:11

Good. Well done that parent!

Charity is accused of failing to follow Supreme Court ruling on gender, leaving girls ‘exposed to harassment’

Girlguiding is facing legal action from a parent over its transgender policy which she claims discriminates against her seven-year-old daughter.

The claimant, who has asked to remain anonymous to protect her daughter’s identity, has alleged in a pre-action letter to Girlguiding that the organisation’s policy “exposes girls to harassment”.

Under the policy, trans girls — boys who identify as girls — are allowed to join Girlguiding, and trans women — adult males who identify as female — are permitted to undertake volunteer roles previously reserved for women.

“It constitutes and encourages unwanted conduct which violates their [girls’] dignity or creates an intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment,” the correspondence said.

“This includes, but is not limited to: sharing toilets, showers or changing facilities with boys, contact sports with boys, and sharing accommodation with boys, all without their prior knowledge or consent.”

The letter goes on to point out that Girlguiding operates “as a charity for the benefit of girls and young women”.

Girlguiding faces legal action from parent over trans policy

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spannasaurus · 08/11/2025 12:15

Girl Guides excludes boys (who don't identify as girls) on the basis of the single sex exemptions in the Equality Act. This means that to be compliant with the EA they must exclude boys who identify as girls or become a mixed sex organisation and let any boy join.

An organisation can't claim to be single sex and let some people of the opposite sex join

Mammamumma · 08/11/2025 12:11

Waitwhat23 · 08/11/2025 11:15

Girl Guiding portrays itself as a single sex organisation for females. It uses the exemptions for associations as detailed in the EQA2010 to restrict its membership to a single sex (female). But it is continuing to ignore the confirmation by the Supreme Court Judgement that single sex means biological sex by admitting males. While continuing to claim that they are 'girl only'. They have betrayed their own principles.

Many surveys of parents and girls in the units show that they wish GG to remain single sex. But it's not. So they are betraying girls for the feelings of boys. And you, in defending this, are centering boys at the expense of girls.

Your mention of lesbians, in an absurd attempt at conflation with the much higher sexual offending rates of males, is as offensive as it is predictable. Hence the bingo card.

The fact I'm having to explain this to ( I'm assuming) a grown adult is quite astonishing.

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I’m well aware of what the Supreme Court ruling says, and I’m also aware of what it doesn’t say. It clarified that “sex” in the Equality Act refers to biological sex for the purposes of that protected characteristic. It did not remove protection for trans people under the separate “gender reassignment” characteristic, nor did it make it unlawful for organisations to include trans people if they choose to.

That’s why Girlguiding and many other youth and community organisations are standing by their inclusive policies. They’re not “ignoring” the ruling; they’re interpreting it in line with the full Equality Act, which recognises more than one protected characteristic.

As for your point about “betrayal,” I see it differently. Girlguiding is, and always has been, about building confidence, belonging, and leadership skills for all girls — especially those who most need that support. Trans girls are not “boys in dresses”; they are children and young people navigating extraordinarily difficult social realities. Giving them access to a safe, affirming environment harms no one and helps them thrive.

Safeguarding applies equally to everyone, cis, trans, gay, straight and that’s exactly how it should be.

Datun · 08/11/2025 12:09

TheignT · 08/11/2025 11:59

I was a leader in Beavers and Cubs. I dislike the implication that we weren't a safe space for any child. The boys and girls I supported had fun and thrived and were definitely in a safe space.

Safeguarding isn't about individual people, tho, is it.

You don't base your safeguarding policy on one leader who says oh I'm fine.

TheignT · 08/11/2025 11:59

RobustPastry · 08/11/2025 08:14

This is boggling. So this charity agrees that a small number of parents should be able to enforce validation for their own parenting of their distressed and confused sons, at the direct expense of a safe space for girl children? And this charity wants to attract unsafe adult men to apply as volunteers by giving good new access to girls and women, that previously only adult women were allowed? When women are statistically so much safer than men?

It’s so clearly not in their remit to support the adult wish for child or adult male validation and/or to increase adult male access to child or adult female bodies. Why is this not immediately obvious to some people?
You can’t give one child a safe space by taking a safe space away from another child.

It shows how we are already living in a deeply sexist society.. because this policy only makes sense if men and boys inherently deserve more rights than women and girls do.

I was a leader in Beavers and Cubs. I dislike the implication that we weren't a safe space for any child. The boys and girls I supported had fun and thrived and were definitely in a safe space.

Waitwhat23 · 08/11/2025 11:49

a series of haikus for Guiding as was

You used to be great.
A real sisterhood of Guides
Links across the world.

Girls being leaders,
Girls being celebrated
Inspirational.

But it didn't last,
Boys centred took precedence.
Never mind the girls.

SusannaSpiderHands · 08/11/2025 11:33

Mammamumma · 08/11/2025 10:31

What astonishes me reading these posts is the ongoing conflation of sexuality (and by that I don't mean genetic sex) and gender... The truth is that most trans girls (and they are in a very small minority) have probably been through hell in their journey to express their gender identity and are desperately in need of a safe girl-only space in which they can be their true selves and find some solace away from the very same damaging patriarchal behaviour and mysogeny that the majority of posters on here are calling out. Its simply is NOT the case that a boy would put on girls clothes and live his every day life as a GIRL just so that he could infiltrate female only spaces - that makes absolutely no sense! And what about lesbian leaders? Are we saying they shouldn't have access to female only spaces? No. Because they've been through safeguarding checks - the same checks that a trans man or a cis man would go through. And queer girl-guides? What to do with them? Because that absolutely exists, but no-one seems to be worrying (quite rightly) about conduct in same sex spaces because there are standards that are upheld and safeguarding procedures in place to deal with issues and misconduct. We already have all of the tools, procedures and policies in place to welcome trans girls to girl-guiding, the only thing standing in the way is a broken ruling from the supreme court (which organisations have the freedom to interpret) and, yes, I'm sorry to say it, but transphobia and utter ignorance surrounding trans-identity from the majority of people posting on this thread. Go ahead and shoot me down. I stand by the fact that trans-girls are amongst the bravest, most vulnerable and most maligned, abused girls in our society and they deserve our support, not our hate

Even leaving out all the guff about feelings and marginalised boys and even not mentioning the risks to girls (and the lesbian comment is appalling).

Even with the best will in the world to be accepting and inclusive. The cold hard fact is that transgirls will still happily have sex with girls. It isn't practical or safe to accommodate them together, anyone who volunteers or works with teens knows this.

Datun · 08/11/2025 11:28

Waitwhat23 · 08/11/2025 11:22

It's the usual misogynistic bullshite where women and girls are seen as nothing more than human shields, a resource to be utilized, validation support, support humans, non character players.

And being espoused by the organisation which used to celebrate girls. It's utterly shameful.

And being espoused by the organisation which used to celebrate girls. It's utterly shameful.

It's positively Machiavellian.

An organisation set up to address the sexism inherent in society by forming a female only organisation, to help empower girls.

And the message they are sending is that we will even go as far as to break the bloody law, equality law no less, in order to make sure that you are providing a service to boys.

Datun · 08/11/2025 11:24

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 08/11/2025 07:48

FFS, the girl might be harassed by a female or a male. There will be no scouts or girl guides if this nonsense isn't stopped.

And not letting this one pass, either.

Men 98% of all sex crimes. Not women.

You're not just as likely to be the victim of a sex crime committed by a woman as a man.

Waitwhat23 · 08/11/2025 11:22

Datun · 08/11/2025 11:18

Good Lord. Who brought you up to believe that women and girls are nothing more than a resource for men and boys?

Support humans, denying their own name, space and feelings, just in order to validate the sex that you think is vastly more important.

Shocking, I know, but women and girls are human, and we operate independently. We're not just a service for males.

edited to add:

the only thing standing in the way is a broken ruling from the supreme court (which organisations have the freedom to interpret)

lol

Edited

It's the usual misogynistic bullshite where women and girls are seen as nothing more than human shields, a resource to be utilized, validation support, support humans, non character players.

And being espoused by the organisation which used to celebrate girls. It's utterly shameful.

Datun · 08/11/2025 11:21

The truth is that most trans girls (and they are in a very small minority) have probably been through hell in their journey to express their gender identity and are desperately in need of a safe girl-only space in which they can be their true selves and find some solace

Honestly. Sexism is so bloody ingrained, isn't it.

Datun · 08/11/2025 11:18

Mammamumma · 08/11/2025 10:31

What astonishes me reading these posts is the ongoing conflation of sexuality (and by that I don't mean genetic sex) and gender... The truth is that most trans girls (and they are in a very small minority) have probably been through hell in their journey to express their gender identity and are desperately in need of a safe girl-only space in which they can be their true selves and find some solace away from the very same damaging patriarchal behaviour and mysogeny that the majority of posters on here are calling out. Its simply is NOT the case that a boy would put on girls clothes and live his every day life as a GIRL just so that he could infiltrate female only spaces - that makes absolutely no sense! And what about lesbian leaders? Are we saying they shouldn't have access to female only spaces? No. Because they've been through safeguarding checks - the same checks that a trans man or a cis man would go through. And queer girl-guides? What to do with them? Because that absolutely exists, but no-one seems to be worrying (quite rightly) about conduct in same sex spaces because there are standards that are upheld and safeguarding procedures in place to deal with issues and misconduct. We already have all of the tools, procedures and policies in place to welcome trans girls to girl-guiding, the only thing standing in the way is a broken ruling from the supreme court (which organisations have the freedom to interpret) and, yes, I'm sorry to say it, but transphobia and utter ignorance surrounding trans-identity from the majority of people posting on this thread. Go ahead and shoot me down. I stand by the fact that trans-girls are amongst the bravest, most vulnerable and most maligned, abused girls in our society and they deserve our support, not our hate

Good Lord. Who brought you up to believe that women and girls are nothing more than a resource for men and boys?

Support humans, denying their own name, space and feelings, just in order to validate the sex that you think is vastly more important.

Shocking, I know, but women and girls are human, and we operate independently. We're not just a service for males.

edited to add:

the only thing standing in the way is a broken ruling from the supreme court (which organisations have the freedom to interpret)

lol

Waitwhat23 · 08/11/2025 11:15

Mammamumma · 08/11/2025 10:56

You're just reinforcing everything I've stated above without actually engaging in any type of meaningful exchange. Please enlighten me and explain how my post centres boys rights over the rights of girls and trans girls) and disparages lesbians. Id also be glad to hear your interpretation of the legal standing.

Girl Guiding portrays itself as a single sex organisation for females. It uses the exemptions for associations as detailed in the EQA2010 to restrict its membership to a single sex (female). But it is continuing to ignore the confirmation by the Supreme Court Judgement that single sex means biological sex by admitting males. While continuing to claim that they are 'girl only'. They have betrayed their own principles.

Many surveys of parents and girls in the units show that they wish GG to remain single sex. But it's not. So they are betraying girls for the feelings of boys. And you, in defending this, are centering boys at the expense of girls.

Your mention of lesbians, in an absurd attempt at conflation with the much higher sexual offending rates of males, is as offensive as it is predictable. Hence the bingo card.

The fact I'm having to explain this to ( I'm assuming) a grown adult is quite astonishing.

guinnessguzzler · 08/11/2025 11:14

@SusannaSpiderHands I have seen this for myself first hand and I want to thank you and others for sticking with it through all this nonsense. I know it's a real dilemma, to be on the outside of the tent pissing in or vice versa, but I really hope time will show you were right to carry on when GG are forced to follow the law and can then make a relatively quick recovery from this bullshit. Thank you for everything you do for all our girls.

weegielass · 08/11/2025 11:12

As its a letter before action, it might not proceed to legal action at all. Anyone know who the legal team are?

weegielass · 08/11/2025 11:00

When I worked for a charity, my team were approached by Scouts to provide one of our services to their young people. Virtual meetings incuded meetings with their advisory panel - lots of trans identifyiing people on the panel, with trans flags in the background. So very similar I believe to Girl Guiding. It makes me alarmed how young children have their safeguarding completely ignored.

spannasaurus · 08/11/2025 10:58

Mammamumma · 08/11/2025 10:56

You're just reinforcing everything I've stated above without actually engaging in any type of meaningful exchange. Please enlighten me and explain how my post centres boys rights over the rights of girls and trans girls) and disparages lesbians. Id also be glad to hear your interpretation of the legal standing.

"Transgirls" are boys so by wanting them to be able to join a girls group you are centering boys over girls

Mammamumma · 08/11/2025 10:56

Waitwhat23 · 08/11/2025 10:45

Rather a long winded way of stating that you believe that boys are more imponrtant than girls.

But I was able to tick off a few boxes on my TRA Guiding Bingo card!

Mention of lesbians - tick
Complete lack of understanding of the EQA2010 and the Supreme Court judgement - tick
Boys being 'bravest, most vulnerable and oppressed' - tick
Conflation of sex and gender (when referring to a single sex group) - tick

And so on and so on.

If 'trans boys' want validation, they can join the Scouts and pretend to be girls in an actual mixed sex organisation (though I feel rather sorry for the Scouting girls in that case).

You're just reinforcing everything I've stated above without actually engaging in any type of meaningful exchange. Please enlighten me and explain how my post centres boys rights over the rights of girls and trans girls) and disparages lesbians. Id also be glad to hear your interpretation of the legal standing.

sashh · 08/11/2025 10:56

Mammamumma · 08/11/2025 10:31

What astonishes me reading these posts is the ongoing conflation of sexuality (and by that I don't mean genetic sex) and gender... The truth is that most trans girls (and they are in a very small minority) have probably been through hell in their journey to express their gender identity and are desperately in need of a safe girl-only space in which they can be their true selves and find some solace away from the very same damaging patriarchal behaviour and mysogeny that the majority of posters on here are calling out. Its simply is NOT the case that a boy would put on girls clothes and live his every day life as a GIRL just so that he could infiltrate female only spaces - that makes absolutely no sense! And what about lesbian leaders? Are we saying they shouldn't have access to female only spaces? No. Because they've been through safeguarding checks - the same checks that a trans man or a cis man would go through. And queer girl-guides? What to do with them? Because that absolutely exists, but no-one seems to be worrying (quite rightly) about conduct in same sex spaces because there are standards that are upheld and safeguarding procedures in place to deal with issues and misconduct. We already have all of the tools, procedures and policies in place to welcome trans girls to girl-guiding, the only thing standing in the way is a broken ruling from the supreme court (which organisations have the freedom to interpret) and, yes, I'm sorry to say it, but transphobia and utter ignorance surrounding trans-identity from the majority of people posting on this thread. Go ahead and shoot me down. I stand by the fact that trans-girls are amongst the bravest, most vulnerable and most maligned, abused girls in our society and they deserve our support, not our hate

They are not girls, abused or otherwise. No they do not need access to single sex spaces for women and girls. And you have not provided any evidence

Sexuality does not come in to this. Why would you even introduce this?

No one is hating 'trans girls' just that they should not be welcome in a female only space, it stops that space being female only.

That impacts every girl guide and the leaders.

It also makes it harder / impossible for girls from a strict religious / cultural background to join. Growing up in northern town when I went to guides it was all white girls even though the area has a significant Muslim population.

Muslim parents are not going to send their daughter to camp with a boy in the tent. And if that girl goes to camp and it is only then that she realises there is a boy that can be culturally very difficult and the ramifications will include Muslim (possibly Jewish) and other 'sheltered' girls being withdrawn.

sashh · 08/11/2025 10:56

Mammamumma · 08/11/2025 10:31

What astonishes me reading these posts is the ongoing conflation of sexuality (and by that I don't mean genetic sex) and gender... The truth is that most trans girls (and they are in a very small minority) have probably been through hell in their journey to express their gender identity and are desperately in need of a safe girl-only space in which they can be their true selves and find some solace away from the very same damaging patriarchal behaviour and mysogeny that the majority of posters on here are calling out. Its simply is NOT the case that a boy would put on girls clothes and live his every day life as a GIRL just so that he could infiltrate female only spaces - that makes absolutely no sense! And what about lesbian leaders? Are we saying they shouldn't have access to female only spaces? No. Because they've been through safeguarding checks - the same checks that a trans man or a cis man would go through. And queer girl-guides? What to do with them? Because that absolutely exists, but no-one seems to be worrying (quite rightly) about conduct in same sex spaces because there are standards that are upheld and safeguarding procedures in place to deal with issues and misconduct. We already have all of the tools, procedures and policies in place to welcome trans girls to girl-guiding, the only thing standing in the way is a broken ruling from the supreme court (which organisations have the freedom to interpret) and, yes, I'm sorry to say it, but transphobia and utter ignorance surrounding trans-identity from the majority of people posting on this thread. Go ahead and shoot me down. I stand by the fact that trans-girls are amongst the bravest, most vulnerable and most maligned, abused girls in our society and they deserve our support, not our hate

They are not girls, abused or otherwise. No they do not need access to single sex spaces for women and girls. And you have not provided any evidence

Sexuality does not come in to this. Why would you even introduce this?

No one is hating 'trans girls' just that they should not be welcome in a female only space, it stops that space being female only.

That impacts every girl guide and the leaders.

It also makes it harder / impossible for girls from a strict religious / cultural background to join. Growing up in northern town when I went to guides it was all white girls even though the area has a significant Muslim population.

Muslim parents are not going to send their daughter to camp with a boy in the tent. And if that girl goes to camp and it is only then that she realises there is a boy that can be culturally very difficult and the ramifications will include Muslim (possibly Jewish) and other 'sheltered' girls being withdrawn.

Waitwhat23 · 08/11/2025 10:45

Mammamumma · 08/11/2025 10:31

What astonishes me reading these posts is the ongoing conflation of sexuality (and by that I don't mean genetic sex) and gender... The truth is that most trans girls (and they are in a very small minority) have probably been through hell in their journey to express their gender identity and are desperately in need of a safe girl-only space in which they can be their true selves and find some solace away from the very same damaging patriarchal behaviour and mysogeny that the majority of posters on here are calling out. Its simply is NOT the case that a boy would put on girls clothes and live his every day life as a GIRL just so that he could infiltrate female only spaces - that makes absolutely no sense! And what about lesbian leaders? Are we saying they shouldn't have access to female only spaces? No. Because they've been through safeguarding checks - the same checks that a trans man or a cis man would go through. And queer girl-guides? What to do with them? Because that absolutely exists, but no-one seems to be worrying (quite rightly) about conduct in same sex spaces because there are standards that are upheld and safeguarding procedures in place to deal with issues and misconduct. We already have all of the tools, procedures and policies in place to welcome trans girls to girl-guiding, the only thing standing in the way is a broken ruling from the supreme court (which organisations have the freedom to interpret) and, yes, I'm sorry to say it, but transphobia and utter ignorance surrounding trans-identity from the majority of people posting on this thread. Go ahead and shoot me down. I stand by the fact that trans-girls are amongst the bravest, most vulnerable and most maligned, abused girls in our society and they deserve our support, not our hate

Rather a long winded way of stating that you believe that boys are more imponrtant than girls.

But I was able to tick off a few boxes on my TRA Guiding Bingo card!

Mention of lesbians - tick
Complete lack of understanding of the EQA2010 and the Supreme Court judgement - tick
Boys being 'bravest, most vulnerable and oppressed' - tick
Conflation of sex and gender (when referring to a single sex group) - tick

And so on and so on.

If 'trans boys' want validation, they can join the Scouts and pretend to be girls in an actual mixed sex organisation (though I feel rather sorry for the Scouting girls in that case).

spannasaurus · 08/11/2025 10:36

It's not hateful to recognise sex and want to have a single sex organisation

A safe girl only space is one which excludes all males however they identify.

Lesbians are women so why would they be excluded from females spaces

Mammamumma · 08/11/2025 10:31

What astonishes me reading these posts is the ongoing conflation of sexuality (and by that I don't mean genetic sex) and gender... The truth is that most trans girls (and they are in a very small minority) have probably been through hell in their journey to express their gender identity and are desperately in need of a safe girl-only space in which they can be their true selves and find some solace away from the very same damaging patriarchal behaviour and mysogeny that the majority of posters on here are calling out. Its simply is NOT the case that a boy would put on girls clothes and live his every day life as a GIRL just so that he could infiltrate female only spaces - that makes absolutely no sense! And what about lesbian leaders? Are we saying they shouldn't have access to female only spaces? No. Because they've been through safeguarding checks - the same checks that a trans man or a cis man would go through. And queer girl-guides? What to do with them? Because that absolutely exists, but no-one seems to be worrying (quite rightly) about conduct in same sex spaces because there are standards that are upheld and safeguarding procedures in place to deal with issues and misconduct. We already have all of the tools, procedures and policies in place to welcome trans girls to girl-guiding, the only thing standing in the way is a broken ruling from the supreme court (which organisations have the freedom to interpret) and, yes, I'm sorry to say it, but transphobia and utter ignorance surrounding trans-identity from the majority of people posting on this thread. Go ahead and shoot me down. I stand by the fact that trans-girls are amongst the bravest, most vulnerable and most maligned, abused girls in our society and they deserve our support, not our hate

SusannaSpiderHands · 08/11/2025 10:28

Waitwhat23 · 08/11/2025 09:59

And what makes me so sad about the direction Girl Guiding has taken is that during my time in Guiding (and I was in every section - Rainbow to Guider), it was proudly pro female. It was acknowledged that having a girl only space (which they still claim to have until you really drill down in their policies) meant that girls could develop friendships, develop their skills and become strong leaders, unafraid to use their voice and challenge things in the knowledge that they weren't having to step aside for boys or having to diminish their achievements or to find themselves shouted down by boys (as we so often find in the workplace or in meetings etc). I was immensely proud to be part of that worldwide sisterhood of Guiding.

But because, despite there already being a mixed sex organisation in which boys who 'feel like girls' could join and be alongside girls and boys, boy's feelings are being prioritised over girls, girls lose out.

I would actually have more respect for GG if they just admitted that they have become a mixed sex organisation and dropped their pretense that they are 'proudly girl only'. But they don't want to drop their (deceptive) USP.

It still is proudly pro female and we are doing our best to keep it that way. What happens at HQ and what happens on the ground are two different things.

Insanityisnotastrategy · 08/11/2025 10:07

Very good news.

Waitwhat23 · 08/11/2025 10:06

We might have less of a struggle for leaders then too because we wouldn't be putting off dads/men.

Did have to laugh at this. I was a Guider and always intended to come back when I could give it the time it deserved.

But after seeing what happened to Katie Alcock? Not a chance.

And I'm not alone.

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