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Glimmer: do you think this is acceptable?

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SpryReader · 13/10/2025 21:42

A 17 year old committed suicide and this is his response. Does this sit right with you?

Glimmer: do you think this is acceptable?
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ArabellaSaurus · 16/10/2025 07:54

SundayAfternoonTea · 15/10/2025 17:19

There are issue with cross NHS department working - I'm aware of one with someone with an eating disorder.

Children and Adolescent Mental Health Service (CAMHS) can be reluctant to take on low mood cases with other complex mental health diagnosis be that eating disorders, gender etc. They feel they don't have the expertise.

Not to go into too much detail here but behind suicidal thoughts are often a mistaken beliefs someone's problems are intractable and unsolvable. Here exacerbated by pro suicide websites which are really, really dangerous.

Unfortunately then the gender services often see the "solution" to be transitioning without considering other comorbidities.

I also feel some of the doom mongering falsehoods I see on trans websites dangerous i.e. that "we" want to eradicate trans / trans have no future in this country etc.

Which is probably one reason why coroner cited long wait times specifically rather than gender distress.

All in all the NHS needs to do better. Mental health services are not fit for purpose.

Yes, and there are reports of GPs being wary of treating anyone with declared dysphoria or gender issues, which could also mean mental health issues go unaddressed.

Long waiting times should absolutely be addressed; but its also essential that the diagnosis is 'holistic', as Cass noted, and any comorbidities treated. Speeding up gender service appointments may not have much positive impact on mental health or low mood if these remain untreated. And the evidence does show that MH outcomes worsen post surgery.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/10/2025 23:20

SundayAfternoonTea · 15/10/2025 17:19

There are issue with cross NHS department working - I'm aware of one with someone with an eating disorder.

Children and Adolescent Mental Health Service (CAMHS) can be reluctant to take on low mood cases with other complex mental health diagnosis be that eating disorders, gender etc. They feel they don't have the expertise.

Not to go into too much detail here but behind suicidal thoughts are often a mistaken beliefs someone's problems are intractable and unsolvable. Here exacerbated by pro suicide websites which are really, really dangerous.

Unfortunately then the gender services often see the "solution" to be transitioning without considering other comorbidities.

I also feel some of the doom mongering falsehoods I see on trans websites dangerous i.e. that "we" want to eradicate trans / trans have no future in this country etc.

Which is probably one reason why coroner cited long wait times specifically rather than gender distress.

All in all the NHS needs to do better. Mental health services are not fit for purpose.

This is the actual failing. Children get no support whilst each service claims that the child is too complex to treat. Each region should have one mental health service for children that has all the specialisms in it.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/10/2025 23:07

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 03:57

Tens of thousands of children have been given puberty blockers, cross sex hormones and surgeries. To suggest this has been beneficial to mental health outcomes is to suggest that these tens of thousands of children would have otherwise committed suicide. It’s a lie.

And millions of children have been given mental health drugs. To suggest this has been beneficial to mental health outcomes is to suggest that these millions of children would have otherwise committed suicide.

See where this bogus logic goes?

"Yet there is no data to back up this claim, in fact there’s the opposite."

Social acceptability is a broadly accepted suicide risk for the general population Are you seriously suggesting trans people are socially broadly acceptable? Hate crime rates would beg to differ.

"Yes. I hear someone who won’t take the good news that children don’t kill themselves and instead wants to twist it into a requirement to sterilise children.
That you’re willing to crank up a fake suicide risk to suit your narrative at the expense of unnecessarily medicalising children is very telling."

A consensus of medical experts globally disagree.

Edited

And millions of children have been given mental health drugs. To suggest this has been beneficial to mental health outcomes is to suggest that these millions of children would have otherwise committed suicide.

Given https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6493906/ and similar research indicating that suicide rates in youth can increase on antidepressants, this isn't the convincing analogy that you think it is.

Antidepressant‐Induced Suicidality: An Update - PMC

Evidence suggests that antidepressant treatment may in some cases result in worsening depression and increased risk of suicidality in pediatric and adolescent patients. The United States Food and Drug Administration requires that antidepressants ...

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6493906/

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/10/2025 22:58

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 03:48

Are you even a parent?

How would you feel if it had been your child who was discussed in such an egregious fashion just to score political points?

Or is heinous political point scoring over the death of children excused when they don't meet your standards of acceptability?

He was't discussing the child. He was discussing the PN article.

SundayAfternoonTea · 15/10/2025 17:19

ArabellaSaurus · 14/10/2025 14:01

https://archive.is/xqh4F

Coroner's report.

This sounds a tragic case, poor child. There certainly needs to be better help for children with depressive illnesses and possible mental health conditions.

'Leia reported intermittent low mood in 2024 which may have been a sign of a more serious underlying depressive illness and gender dysphoria which itself can contribute to low mood and be a symptom of a more serious mental health condition. '

It's unclear why the GP didn't investigate further or treat Leia's possible depressive illness and possible mental health condition.

This could be a sign of a grave issue which has been warned about repeatedly - comorbidities are often overlooked by children who are identifying as having gender dysphoria.

Does GIDS treat depressive illness?

There are issue with cross NHS department working - I'm aware of one with someone with an eating disorder.

Children and Adolescent Mental Health Service (CAMHS) can be reluctant to take on low mood cases with other complex mental health diagnosis be that eating disorders, gender etc. They feel they don't have the expertise.

Not to go into too much detail here but behind suicidal thoughts are often a mistaken beliefs someone's problems are intractable and unsolvable. Here exacerbated by pro suicide websites which are really, really dangerous.

Unfortunately then the gender services often see the "solution" to be transitioning without considering other comorbidities.

I also feel some of the doom mongering falsehoods I see on trans websites dangerous i.e. that "we" want to eradicate trans / trans have no future in this country etc.

Which is probably one reason why coroner cited long wait times specifically rather than gender distress.

All in all the NHS needs to do better. Mental health services are not fit for purpose.

Notsofastnow · 15/10/2025 08:50

OuterSpaceCadet · 13/10/2025 21:55

It's in quotation marks.

He's paraphrasing the Prick News article.

The offensive material is contained within the Prick News article.

It’s not paraphrasing the article at all.

Nowhere in that article is surgical intervention mentioned either directly or implied.

”The offensive material” is invented hyperbole being used to justify a post so offensive that even Glinner felt it ought to be deleted.

ArabellaSaurus · 15/10/2025 08:47

Accessing specialist gender services can help young people navigate their mental health and figure out, with help, what’s best for them

Unfortunately this has very much not been the case. Cass and others reported that gender services overlooked and neglected possible comorbidities and tended to assume all dysphoria was due to gender incongruence.

Namelessnelly · 15/10/2025 06:12

Notsofastnow · 14/10/2025 22:51

Assuming this is in reply to my post, no, that’s not what I mean, and it’s also not what the article says or implies.

Accessing specialist gender services can help young people navigate their mental health and figure out, with help, what’s best for them. Pink News reports that the coroner concluded the delay in accessing specialist treatment services contributed to their death, and that reducing wait times would be a positive step in response.

There’s nothing I can see in that article promoting or encouraging sterilisation. If you genuinely think there is, quote it here rather than inventing things.

But arent we told bodies don’t affirm gender? So why would he need gender affirming treatment?

Enough4me · 15/10/2025 00:55

If young people had better mental health support and education that they are in the right body, their authentic self doesn't need modification, this may not have happened. Even now some of the posts are written to wrongly suggest mutilation is treatment.

Coffeelovr · 15/10/2025 00:37

OuterSpaceCadet · 13/10/2025 21:55

It's in quotation marks.

He's paraphrasing the Prick News article.

The offensive material is contained within the Prick News article.

This.

Notsofastnow · 14/10/2025 22:51

JellySaurus · 14/10/2025 22:39

By ‘specialist treatment’ do you affirmation? Because affirmation is not treatment. Affirmation leads to irreversible harms such as sterilisation, destruction of sexual function, prevention of mental maturation, and makes it extremely hard for the person to come to terms with reality.

This boy was failed by the lack of proper, good-quality, compassionate, mental health care.

Assuming this is in reply to my post, no, that’s not what I mean, and it’s also not what the article says or implies.

Accessing specialist gender services can help young people navigate their mental health and figure out, with help, what’s best for them. Pink News reports that the coroner concluded the delay in accessing specialist treatment services contributed to their death, and that reducing wait times would be a positive step in response.

There’s nothing I can see in that article promoting or encouraging sterilisation. If you genuinely think there is, quote it here rather than inventing things.

JellySaurus · 14/10/2025 22:39

By ‘specialist treatment’ do you affirmation? Because affirmation is not treatment. Affirmation leads to irreversible harms such as sterilisation, destruction of sexual function, prevention of mental maturation, and makes it extremely hard for the person to come to terms with reality.

This boy was failed by the lack of proper, good-quality, compassionate, mental health care.

Sazzasez · 14/10/2025 19:07

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 03:48

Are you even a parent?

How would you feel if it had been your child who was discussed in such an egregious fashion just to score political points?

Or is heinous political point scoring over the death of children excused when they don't meet your standards of acceptability?

How would you feel if it was your child whose death was weaponised by Pink News?

How would you feel if it was your child whose death & Glinner’s swiftly (and rightly) deleted reaction to it was being plastered all over MumsNet?

By people like you who profess to care.

HPFA · 14/10/2025 17:55

TempestTost · 13/10/2025 22:03

it's stark, and I think his point is solid, but no, I don't think it was a great idea to post it.

Although arguably, it's not a conversation with his parents or in his community, it's part of an online discourse, and maybe that is the place for some stark statements.

I think sometimes the people who feel most strongly about an issue aren"t the best at persuading other people.

I once saw Glinner on a programme talking about the issue and he spent most of the time talking about individuals with whom he was in conflict and whom most people would have never heard of. It wasn't the way to reach the undecided.

OnAShooglyPeg · 14/10/2025 17:29

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 08:19

Thanks for providing Google's AI summary... Others have already responded regarding some of these (WPATH, really?!) and so I won't repeat, but an AI summary isn't what I was asking for, nor what you were proposing to evidence.

Notsofastnow · 14/10/2025 17:09

JellySaurus · 13/10/2025 22:06

Prick News are implying that the boy would not have committed suicide had the NHS been in more of a hurry to emasculate him.

Glinner is right to point that out. You may not like the language or the style he has chosen to use. You don’t have to. But sometimes the truth is harsh, no matter how you state it.

I think a lot of people in this thread are extrapolating heavily from what the pink news article actually says so they can justify Glinner’s post.

It doesn’t mention, or imply, and support of surgical treatment for any trans people, let alone for under 18s. The references are to the waiting time to be seen by the gender clinic at all, for a first appointment to get specialist treatment.

I agree the headline and subheading a not OK as they attribute cause to specifically the wait time, when the coroner states it as one of a set of causes.

There is a full warning of content on suicide before the main article begins - but the headlines should be edited in my view as they’re misleading.

But there is not one single direct or implied reference to any physical treatment, including surgical.

But Glinner’s post was not in any way justified as a response to what’s written in the article. It was a truly horrible, brutal and nasty thing to write about a child who has died.

And deleting it doesn’t make it go away - as plenty of trans activists have found with the extensive memory and archiving off briefly public posts to bring them up again and again as proof of how bad that side of things can get.

If he’d posted to say the headlines were not Ok because the coroner verdict has it as preventable due to a set of causes including the wait times, then that’s fair criticism. But what he posted was not.

Those poor parents have enough to grieve over without trolling like that from a public figure with a massive and very active audience.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 14/10/2025 14:08

JellySaurus · 13/10/2025 22:06

Prick News are implying that the boy would not have committed suicide had the NHS been in more of a hurry to emasculate him.

Glinner is right to point that out. You may not like the language or the style he has chosen to use. You don’t have to. But sometimes the truth is harsh, no matter how you state it.

I agree with this. Much of the success of the gender self-ID lobby has come from using cutesy language to disguise what is actually happening. Here are two:

Top surgery - double mastectomy performed on teenage girls and young women
Bottom surgery - surgery on the genitals with poor success rates and high infection risk

Plain language is better here.

ArabellaSaurus · 14/10/2025 14:01

https://archive.is/xqh4F

Coroner's report.

This sounds a tragic case, poor child. There certainly needs to be better help for children with depressive illnesses and possible mental health conditions.

'Leia reported intermittent low mood in 2024 which may have been a sign of a more serious underlying depressive illness and gender dysphoria which itself can contribute to low mood and be a symptom of a more serious mental health condition. '

It's unclear why the GP didn't investigate further or treat Leia's possible depressive illness and possible mental health condition.

This could be a sign of a grave issue which has been warned about repeatedly - comorbidities are often overlooked by children who are identifying as having gender dysphoria.

Does GIDS treat depressive illness?

PolkaDotPorridge · 14/10/2025 13:12

That is awful. He has missed the mark terribly with this comment.

ArabellaSaurus · 14/10/2025 13:09

https://di.aerzteblatt.de/int/archive/article/239563

German Study - 'Gender Identity Disorders Among Young People in Germany: Prevalence and Trends, 2013–2022'

'In the longitudinal cohort (n = 7885, 47.1% in the age group 20–24 years; 37.7% male), only 36.4% still had a confirmed F64 diagnosis after five years and diagnosis persistence was below 50% in all age groups* (range 27.3% [15–19-year-old females] to 49.7% [20–24-year-old males])'

In other words, most desist.

*coded psychiatric ICD-10 diagnosis F64 “gender identity disorders“ (transsexualism [F64.0], dual-role transvestism [F64.1], gender identity disorder of childhood [F64.2], other gender identity disorders [F64.8], gender identity disorder, unspecified [F64.9])

Gender Identity Disorders Among Young People in Germany: Prevalence and Trends, 2013–2022 (31.05.2024)

Despite the fact that gender identity disorders (wording according to ICD-10; ICD-11: gender incongruence) have attracted significantly more public and scientific attention in recent years, especially in the context of transsexuality in adolescents...

https://di.aerzteblatt.de/int/archive/article/239563

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 13:07

JellySaurus · 14/10/2025 06:56

That would be mental health support, not mutilating surgery and deception.

The disgrace is double: that this young person did not receive the mental health treatment that they so clearly needed, and that Prick News use this tragedy to promote harming distressed individuals.

I’d argue that the first step towards this boy’s distress was the affirmation from the adults around him that yes, he was in fact a girl if he said so and he could receive medical treatment to make him more like a girl. Teachers, parents, friends, doctors, TRAs online…

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 13:01

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 11:19

Tell us why you believe you're qualified to know better? A degree in 'facebook' research?

Hahaha! First of all, I’m not deluded.

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 11:31

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 10:41

The systematic review you’ve linked doesn't say what you think it does. One thing that stands out is the following:
However, there is high subjectivity in the assessment of regret and lack of standardized questionnaires, which highlight the importance of developing validated questionnaires in this population
Study Selection. A total of 74 articles were identified in the search, and 2 additional records were identified through other sources. After the first-step screening process, 39 articles were relevant based on the information provided in their titles and abstracts. After the second-step process, a total of 27 articles were included in the systematic review and metanalysis (Fig. 1).
Quality Assessment. Based on the NIH quality assessment tool, the majority of article ranged between “poor” and “fair” categories

It sounds similar to the findings of the Cass report: there were very few clinical reviews / follow ups of good quality to show that drug / surgical interventions reduced suicidal ideations or indicate the true picture of regret.

Uh huh, & the Cass recommendations don't say what you think they do.

She kept it all going under 'research' conditions. Seems a few tweaks was all it took to back off political interference.

Surveys are notorious for not being ideal in terms of accuracy but are still roundly accepted as indicators in general & not just for gender affirming care. The point is the more you have the more solid the conclusions are likely to be.

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 11:19

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 10:46

Oh dear, quoting WPATH et al has exposed you for the TRA you are. Tell us why you believe it to be ok to castrate young males?

Tell us why you believe you're qualified to know better? A degree in 'facebook' research?

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 10:46

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 08:19

Oh dear, quoting WPATH et al has exposed you for the TRA you are. Tell us why you believe it to be ok to castrate young males?

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