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How did we get here?

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StormyPotatoes · 09/10/2025 20:36

I like to hope with the Supreme Court ruling and public opinion changing rapidly we are finally moving into a new period where women’s rights and concerns matter, and biology prevails. But I don’t really understand how we got here to begin with and I really hope some knowledgeable posters can provide some background on this.

I am mid-to-late 30s. Femboi-emo kids were cute when I was a teen. I had a very huge crush on Brian Molko. Most of my male friends (and my now husband) wore eyeliner. Nobody in my year came out as gay whilst at school as the taboo still existed, but interestingly 3 girls in my mixed sex class of 30 came out as lesbians away from school (yes, they are all actual women - not men).

My exposure whilst a teenage to transsexuals was Hayley Cropper, the sympathetic and kind transwoman-played by an actual woman in Coronation Street; and Nadia, the winner of season 5 big brother, who I had forgotten all about in all honesty and was only reminded about due to current BB. It’s now occurred to me that the gender recognition act passed in the same year Nadia won BB.

At that time trans was unusual - I remember cross dressing being a thing and named, as we know, as transvestism. And I also remember, back then, so many of the historic and well documented serial killers had proclivities in cross dressing, which seems to now be downplayed.

So what happened between then and now? Why did very, very few men manage to influence the change in the Equality Act? Where did this sharp increase of trans people suddenly come from (we know it can’t be the GRA because most didn’t apply for it)?

And I think more importantly - why did both governments and media suddenly become so afraid to call a man a man? And worse, seek to punish a woman who dares to call a man a man. The GRA is one thing, but so many of the men who have been actively labelled as women by both politicians and journalists don’t hold a GRA. Where is the political and journalistic integrity they are supposed to uphold?

What happened? Not so much the boom in trans people but why they became a law of their own?

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/10/2025 08:34

PencilsInSpace · 10/10/2025 01:50

Bumping this excellent list of resources.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/10/2025 08:32

Me too @Theeyeballsinthesky

Theeyeballsinthesky · 12/10/2025 08:32

personally I'd be ignoring an Australian bloke who knows nothing about how we got here in the UK because he's a man and he doesn't live here so has nothing of value to add but that's just me....

Theeyeballsinthesky · 12/10/2025 08:31

SisterTeatime · 12/10/2025 07:49

Purely anecdotal but I used to do quite a lot of freelance work at the EHRC in the mid-2000s. Although I’d describe myself as a second wave feminist and had read The Whole Woman by Germaine Greer, which IIRC planted the seed of mistrust, I basically thought transwomen were seeking something that would enable them to live their lives in peace etc. I was only present for one or two GRA related meetings but remember how ‘professional’, well organised, forceful and determined the transwomen (no transmen!) who attended were. Way more forceful than most of the disabled people and disability organisations I primarily worked for at the time. I think, looking back, there was cognitive dissonance because they absolutely didn’t behave like women. And used the Ladies.

So I think there was a chasm between general, vague public perception of timid, probably gay, socially bottom-of-the-pile transsexuals who needed our kindness and the reality of actually quite powerful, well-connected men laser-focused on getting exactly what they wanted.

I had a friend who was asked by her company doesn't surprise me at all.

to take on the "trans thing" a few years ago because she was a lesbian and would understand apparently 🙄

i remember her saying at the beginning the TW were aggressive & belligerent sending her email after email of demands while the token TM was very quiet. We agreed it was cos socialisation and you can't take away the male socialisation

sadly after a few months she became a rabid TRA campaigner - we're not friends anymore.

you don't get to be as successful as the TRA campaigners circa 2010 - 2020 have been without being smart, focused abd determined. They must be furious at the absolute lunatics that they've enabled which has blown it all apart.

plus of course they never counted on women being actual humans with rights they would defend

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 08:28

eatfigs · 12/10/2025 08:20

You misunderstand what sex is and how biologists understand it.

No you do ….& wilfully by conflating the sexual reproductive system with sex traits. They aren't as mutually exclusive as you would wish them to be.

Helleofabore · 12/10/2025 08:27

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 08:16

Yes, I said 'sex' was bi/multimodal & that it was a scientific consensus amongst biologists. Are you seriously suggesting that ‘sex’ doesn't comprise of multiple traits, with variable distributions? That individuals don't possess different combinations of chromosome type, gamete size, hormone level, morphology, and social roles?

What's the relevance of the "equation" here?

I believe you posted this:

In any case that's irrelevant to the initial point of:
"rather ‘Sex’ is often semantically flattened into a binary model, for which individuals are classified as either ‘female’ or ‘male.’ A more expansive definition of sex is bimodal—with most individuals falling within one of two peaks of a trait distribution.

You are the poster declaring that sex is bimodal. Rather than two sexes with a very wide range of variation within each sex.

eatfigs · 12/10/2025 08:20

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 08:16

Yes, I said 'sex' was bi/multimodal & that it was a scientific consensus amongst biologists. Are you seriously suggesting that ‘sex’ doesn't comprise of multiple traits, with variable distributions? That individuals don't possess different combinations of chromosome type, gamete size, hormone level, morphology, and social roles?

What's the relevance of the "equation" here?

You misunderstand what sex is and how biologists understand it.

Helleofabore · 12/10/2025 08:19

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 08:05

UMMMM, you implied it was an issue when society at large doesn't seem to care:

"How is that definitive list of male and female behaviours that allows accurate categorisation of humans coming along? The list of behaviours that never change from birth to death so that categorisation for access to single sex provisions can be done?"

Edited

Ummmmm…. The opinion polls across multiple countries show that actually the public does care about who accesses single sex provisions. Particularly sport.

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 08:16

Helleofabore · 12/10/2025 07:49

You were the one that told us that sex was bimodal.

I asked you at the time for the equations for the bimodal model and what the labels for each axis was.

Or is this another thing you forgot you said? I did recommend that you kept a diary of what you had said and posted on MN to help you. Because you seem to forget between posts.

Yes, I said 'sex' was bi/multimodal & that it was a scientific consensus amongst biologists. Are you seriously suggesting that ‘sex’ doesn't comprise of multiple traits, with variable distributions? That individuals don't possess different combinations of chromosome type, gamete size, hormone level, morphology, and social roles?

What's the relevance of the "equation" here?

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 08:05

Helleofabore · 12/10/2025 07:54

“Um, doesn't seem to be an electoral issue any where except for one particular jurisdiction where a manufactured moral panic ensued”

Umm, what elections are you talking about and ummm, why are those elections relevant to the categorisation of sex class of humans?

UMMMM, you implied it was an issue when society at large doesn't seem to care:

"How is that definitive list of male and female behaviours that allows accurate categorisation of humans coming along? The list of behaviours that never change from birth to death so that categorisation for access to single sex provisions can be done?"

Helleofabore · 12/10/2025 08:01

SisterTeatime · 12/10/2025 07:49

Purely anecdotal but I used to do quite a lot of freelance work at the EHRC in the mid-2000s. Although I’d describe myself as a second wave feminist and had read The Whole Woman by Germaine Greer, which IIRC planted the seed of mistrust, I basically thought transwomen were seeking something that would enable them to live their lives in peace etc. I was only present for one or two GRA related meetings but remember how ‘professional’, well organised, forceful and determined the transwomen (no transmen!) who attended were. Way more forceful than most of the disabled people and disability organisations I primarily worked for at the time. I think, looking back, there was cognitive dissonance because they absolutely didn’t behave like women. And used the Ladies.

So I think there was a chasm between general, vague public perception of timid, probably gay, socially bottom-of-the-pile transsexuals who needed our kindness and the reality of actually quite powerful, well-connected men laser-focused on getting exactly what they wanted.

I can imagine there was great determination there. It is interesting to read Wintermute’s experience. Where he had been convinced by the vulnerability aspect, if I remember correctly, and then sometimes after Yogyakarta understood that women and girls were exposed to harm by the changes he supported.

deedeemegadoodoo · 12/10/2025 07:56

SisterTeatime · 12/10/2025 07:49

Purely anecdotal but I used to do quite a lot of freelance work at the EHRC in the mid-2000s. Although I’d describe myself as a second wave feminist and had read The Whole Woman by Germaine Greer, which IIRC planted the seed of mistrust, I basically thought transwomen were seeking something that would enable them to live their lives in peace etc. I was only present for one or two GRA related meetings but remember how ‘professional’, well organised, forceful and determined the transwomen (no transmen!) who attended were. Way more forceful than most of the disabled people and disability organisations I primarily worked for at the time. I think, looking back, there was cognitive dissonance because they absolutely didn’t behave like women. And used the Ladies.

So I think there was a chasm between general, vague public perception of timid, probably gay, socially bottom-of-the-pile transsexuals who needed our kindness and the reality of actually quite powerful, well-connected men laser-focused on getting exactly what they wanted.

this is really interesting. I remember reading about The Beaumont Society in Marie Claire in the 90s and I wonder if that group started to organise into the TRA we know now but planning to ‘infiltrate’ organisations quietly’e.g. NHS, prison service etc. They were in there before people caught on.

Helleofabore · 12/10/2025 07:54

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 07:22

"How is that definitive list of male and female behaviours that allows accurate categorisation of humans coming along? The list of behaviours that never change from birth to death so that categorisation for access to single sex provisions can be done?"

Um, doesn't seem to be an electoral issue any where except for one particular jurisdiction where a manufactured moral panic ensued….

"And can we please please please have the BIMODAL SEX model you talked about? With the axes marked clearly."

What on earth are you ranting about?

“Um, doesn't seem to be an electoral issue any where except for one particular jurisdiction where a manufactured moral panic ensued”

Umm, what elections are you talking about and ummm, why are those elections relevant to the categorisation of sex class of humans?

SisterTeatime · 12/10/2025 07:49

Purely anecdotal but I used to do quite a lot of freelance work at the EHRC in the mid-2000s. Although I’d describe myself as a second wave feminist and had read The Whole Woman by Germaine Greer, which IIRC planted the seed of mistrust, I basically thought transwomen were seeking something that would enable them to live their lives in peace etc. I was only present for one or two GRA related meetings but remember how ‘professional’, well organised, forceful and determined the transwomen (no transmen!) who attended were. Way more forceful than most of the disabled people and disability organisations I primarily worked for at the time. I think, looking back, there was cognitive dissonance because they absolutely didn’t behave like women. And used the Ladies.

So I think there was a chasm between general, vague public perception of timid, probably gay, socially bottom-of-the-pile transsexuals who needed our kindness and the reality of actually quite powerful, well-connected men laser-focused on getting exactly what they wanted.

Helleofabore · 12/10/2025 07:49

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 07:22

"How is that definitive list of male and female behaviours that allows accurate categorisation of humans coming along? The list of behaviours that never change from birth to death so that categorisation for access to single sex provisions can be done?"

Um, doesn't seem to be an electoral issue any where except for one particular jurisdiction where a manufactured moral panic ensued….

"And can we please please please have the BIMODAL SEX model you talked about? With the axes marked clearly."

What on earth are you ranting about?

You were the one that told us that sex was bimodal.

I asked you at the time for the equations for the bimodal model and what the labels for each axis was.

Or is this another thing you forgot you said? I did recommend that you kept a diary of what you had said and posted on MN to help you. Because you seem to forget between posts.

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 07:36

Namelessnelly · 12/10/2025 07:35

What are you ranting about now. Of course biology is real. There’s a whole science plus sub categories. It was just the garbled nature of your post is very confusing. Have another coffee and try again.

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hall of fame game missed the point GIF
Namelessnelly · 12/10/2025 07:35

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 07:28

Whaaat? Biology isn't 'real' when inconvenient?….😫

What are you ranting about now. Of course biology is real. There’s a whole science plus sub categories. It was just the garbled nature of your post is very confusing. Have another coffee and try again.

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 07:28

Namelessnelly · 12/10/2025 07:26

chat gpt is going downhill fast. The words are even more jumbled than ever. Have you tried a different one? It may help. Your post sounds garbeled. Did you put it through Google translate as well?

Whaaat? Biology isn't 'real' when inconvenient?….😫

Namelessnelly · 12/10/2025 07:26

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 06:11

How did we get here? IE the point where females & males freely express their shared personality traits?

Biological evolution.

Whilst males & females have distinctive biological functions that result in on average distinctive behaviours, behaviours also overlap because as it turns out adaptability is necessary for survival. IE different environmental pressures call for different approaches that our shared capabilities can adapt to.

Cue feminism. Given certain environmental pressures were 'relieved' meant people were more at liberty to express whatever their individual organic personal inclinations were that didn't always align with previous social expectations of gendered roles because of shared personality traits.

All this is to say that the idea that gender expression is purely a learned phenomena is false. Rather its a an organic phenomena to express masculinity or femininity.

'But that doesn't mean you can change biological sex' people say. True, but given society has associated typical behaviours to specific sexes its accurate to say on the level of societal categorisations, behaviour is a sex distinction.

Gender critical feminists whilst correct to be concerned by how patriarchal expectations continue to pressure behaviour, don't account for how the overwhelming majority of that behaviour is a free choice powered by natural inclinations that was millions of years in the making which is now reflected in societal acceptance.

Edited

chat gpt is going downhill fast. The words are even more jumbled than ever. Have you tried a different one? It may help. Your post sounds garbeled. Did you put it through Google translate as well?

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 07:22

Helleofabore · 12/10/2025 07:16

“given society has associated typical behaviours to specific sexes its accurate to say on the level of societal categorisations, behaviour is a sex distinction.”

How is that definitive list of male and female behaviours that allows accurate categorisation of humans coming along? The list of behaviours that never change from birth to death so that categorisation for access to single sex provisions can be done?

And can we please please please have the BIMODAL SEX model you talked about? With the axes marked clearly.

"How is that definitive list of male and female behaviours that allows accurate categorisation of humans coming along? The list of behaviours that never change from birth to death so that categorisation for access to single sex provisions can be done?"

Um, doesn't seem to be an electoral issue any where except for one particular jurisdiction where a manufactured moral panic ensued….

"And can we please please please have the BIMODAL SEX model you talked about? With the axes marked clearly."

What on earth are you ranting about?

Helleofabore · 12/10/2025 07:16

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 06:11

How did we get here? IE the point where females & males freely express their shared personality traits?

Biological evolution.

Whilst males & females have distinctive biological functions that result in on average distinctive behaviours, behaviours also overlap because as it turns out adaptability is necessary for survival. IE different environmental pressures call for different approaches that our shared capabilities can adapt to.

Cue feminism. Given certain environmental pressures were 'relieved' meant people were more at liberty to express whatever their individual organic personal inclinations were that didn't always align with previous social expectations of gendered roles because of shared personality traits.

All this is to say that the idea that gender expression is purely a learned phenomena is false. Rather its a an organic phenomena to express masculinity or femininity.

'But that doesn't mean you can change biological sex' people say. True, but given society has associated typical behaviours to specific sexes its accurate to say on the level of societal categorisations, behaviour is a sex distinction.

Gender critical feminists whilst correct to be concerned by how patriarchal expectations continue to pressure behaviour, don't account for how the overwhelming majority of that behaviour is a free choice powered by natural inclinations that was millions of years in the making which is now reflected in societal acceptance.

Edited

“given society has associated typical behaviours to specific sexes its accurate to say on the level of societal categorisations, behaviour is a sex distinction.”

How is that definitive list of male and female behaviours that allows accurate categorisation of humans coming along? The list of behaviours that never change from birth to death so that categorisation for access to single sex provisions can be done?

And can we please please please have the BIMODAL SEX model you talked about? With the axes marked clearly.

Howseitgoin · 12/10/2025 06:11

StormyPotatoes · 09/10/2025 20:36

I like to hope with the Supreme Court ruling and public opinion changing rapidly we are finally moving into a new period where women’s rights and concerns matter, and biology prevails. But I don’t really understand how we got here to begin with and I really hope some knowledgeable posters can provide some background on this.

I am mid-to-late 30s. Femboi-emo kids were cute when I was a teen. I had a very huge crush on Brian Molko. Most of my male friends (and my now husband) wore eyeliner. Nobody in my year came out as gay whilst at school as the taboo still existed, but interestingly 3 girls in my mixed sex class of 30 came out as lesbians away from school (yes, they are all actual women - not men).

My exposure whilst a teenage to transsexuals was Hayley Cropper, the sympathetic and kind transwoman-played by an actual woman in Coronation Street; and Nadia, the winner of season 5 big brother, who I had forgotten all about in all honesty and was only reminded about due to current BB. It’s now occurred to me that the gender recognition act passed in the same year Nadia won BB.

At that time trans was unusual - I remember cross dressing being a thing and named, as we know, as transvestism. And I also remember, back then, so many of the historic and well documented serial killers had proclivities in cross dressing, which seems to now be downplayed.

So what happened between then and now? Why did very, very few men manage to influence the change in the Equality Act? Where did this sharp increase of trans people suddenly come from (we know it can’t be the GRA because most didn’t apply for it)?

And I think more importantly - why did both governments and media suddenly become so afraid to call a man a man? And worse, seek to punish a woman who dares to call a man a man. The GRA is one thing, but so many of the men who have been actively labelled as women by both politicians and journalists don’t hold a GRA. Where is the political and journalistic integrity they are supposed to uphold?

What happened? Not so much the boom in trans people but why they became a law of their own?

How did we get here? IE the point where females & males freely express their shared personality traits?

Biological evolution.

Whilst males & females have distinctive biological functions that result in on average distinctive behaviours, behaviours also overlap because as it turns out adaptability is necessary for survival. IE different environmental pressures call for different approaches that our shared capabilities can adapt to.

Cue feminism. Given certain environmental pressures were 'relieved' meant people were more at liberty to express whatever their individual organic personal inclinations were that didn't always align with previous social expectations of gendered roles because of shared personality traits.

All this is to say that the idea that gender expression is purely a learned phenomena is false. Rather its a an organic phenomena to express masculinity or femininity.

'But that doesn't mean you can change biological sex' people say. True, but given society has associated typical behaviours to specific sexes its accurate to say on the level of societal categorisations, behaviour is a sex distinction.

Gender critical feminists whilst correct to be concerned by how patriarchal expectations continue to pressure behaviour, don't account for how the overwhelming majority of that behaviour is a free choice powered by natural inclinations that was millions of years in the making which is now reflected in societal acceptance.

TempestTost · 12/10/2025 03:28

Helleofabore · 10/10/2025 22:31

I wonder though whether it was sports that provided the evidence about fhe retenfion of power in male bodies. That power differentiation proof was not ‘unknown’ but we had do go to the effort of proving it.

that then worked with other aspects which was based on moral ground which some people deny or twist to suit themselves.

I also think people just have more experience around sports.

People think the idea of men in women's prisons is bad - expect when they are being told, by people in the prison service, that this is right for transwomen and there is no risk because they are actually more vulnerable than women.

So they assume the experts know what they are talking about and also would not do something crazy like put eal men in with women. (They also tend to assume more transwomen are gay men, as in, interested sexually in other men.)

Sports are differernt. Many people have lots of personal experience playing sports, and as soon as they see examples of males in women's sports, they can see, with their own eyes, that it is not on.

TempestTost · 12/10/2025 03:22

potpourree · 10/10/2025 21:07

I said that biological sex is more than just genitals. You have to consider the way hormones affect behaviour

What behaviour do I exhibit as a woman because of my hormones?

Are you very young?

Because I can tell you, as a woman who has had four children and am in the throes of menopause, that plenty of behaviour is hormone driven. Fuck - my thoughts are hormone driven a lot of the time.

The same is true of other mammals so no surprise really.

TempestTost · 12/10/2025 03:15

OldCrone · 10/10/2025 09:53

Notably, the idea that there was no serious difference between men and women, apart from genital configuration, was wholly accepted. Physical, mental, emotional, whatever.

All of these idea, when they become part of the background assumptions people hold, and when they aren't ever interrogated, imo tend to leave people with a sense that sex, as in biological sex, has no real significance. So all that is left of it is the social performance.

These two statements seem to contradict each other and I don't see how they can be used to promote transgenderism.

The first one says there's no difference between the sexes except for genitals, the second that the genitals (and other biological differences) have no significance, and only the nonphysical differences are important. What are these nonphysical differences when the first statement says that they don't exist?

The first statement can hardly be used to promote the idea of being "born in the wrong body" or a man having a ladybrain, if the only difference between men and women is their genitals and their brains and emotions are the same. So a person with a penis transitions to a person with a vagina for what reason exactly? A different sexual experience?

The second one says that the biological body doesn't matter, so you can be a person who acts/dresses etc in a certain way regardless of what sort of genitals you have. So what would be the point of transition?

I think the answer is because that's not how ideas work. They often aren't thought out and discrete over time.

This is why it's so bloody foolish to think we can tear down taboos and pass laws thinking that safeguards of some kind or another will stop them from being misused. New ideas change the way people view the world, often without them really knowing it.

As you have young women growing up in the 70s and 80s and 90s, with this idea that men and women are basically interchangable and the same, comfortably taking for granted the technology that makes it possible for them to believe that, what develops along side it is a new kind of sense of what it is to be a man or woman.

And the new sense isn't a person who becomes pregnant, or impregnates, or who could be a mother or a father, because those aren't seen as integral to the definition, in fact they are regressive ideas. The new sense is that it's about some abstract idea of being womanly or manly. The socially accepted trappings of masculinity or femininity.

Of course if it were really true there were no differernce masculinity and femininity wouldn't survive, but we aren't talking about a systematic rational system. It's just people's sense of things, fairly unexamined, which develops when they accept certain socially popular beliefs.