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Waterside Arts Centre Sale clearly ignoring Supreme Court

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SigrunGard · 05/10/2025 13:52

i was at the Waterside last night with my partner. The Women’s was marked “women’s” but then written on the door in large letters was something to the effect of please feel free to use whichever facilities” match your gender identity or gender expression “. Mentioned it to my partner who said the same was on the door to the men’s ( he said someone asked a friend what that meant and the reply was apparently” some modern bollocks” - hard to argue!)

I rather feel I should email them and point out that this is not right- anyone got suggestions for wording that doesn’t just make me sound bigoted!?

thanks

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Bloobelly · 07/10/2025 20:35

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 07/10/2025 19:58

Keep up. Women crowdfunded the Supreme Court ruling and we will crowdfund to make sure it is complied with. As many court cases as it takes.

So… are you getting the wheels in motion against this arts centre ?@GargoylesofBeelzebub

SparklyPombears · 07/10/2025 20:34

Shortshriftandlethal · 07/10/2025 19:40

The venue I spoke of has created a male block of toilets, a female block of toilets, one single ocupancy 'gender neutral' toilet, as well as one single occupancy assessible toilet. It seems like a perfect solution. New build arts venue on a university campus. No fuss at all.

How are they policing who's using what?

It's pointless if anyone can go where they like.

MarieDeGournay · 07/10/2025 20:10

Shortshriftandlethal · 07/10/2025 19:40

The venue I spoke of has created a male block of toilets, a female block of toilets, one single ocupancy 'gender neutral' toilet, as well as one single occupancy assessible toilet. It seems like a perfect solution. New build arts venue on a university campus. No fuss at all.

That's the correct configuration under the current building regs, well done them!

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 07/10/2025 19:58

Doggybroc · 07/10/2025 15:26

What Is stopping you from following your suggestion on this then @sp ?

Keep up. Women crowdfunded the Supreme Court ruling and we will crowdfund to make sure it is complied with. As many court cases as it takes.

DuesToTheDirt · 07/10/2025 19:55

Shortshriftandlethal · 07/10/2025 19:40

The venue I spoke of has created a male block of toilets, a female block of toilets, one single ocupancy 'gender neutral' toilet, as well as one single occupancy assessible toilet. It seems like a perfect solution. New build arts venue on a university campus. No fuss at all.

Perfect. Why can't they all do that? (And enforce it, of course).

Shortshriftandlethal · 07/10/2025 19:41

Jallypally · 07/10/2025 14:24

There you go - that’s how to show bigotry. By accusing everyone who refuses to join in the visceral hatred of trans people of being abusers.

People here are viscerally attached to the dignity of women, rather. Males are not female. Female dignity and privacy matters.

Shortshriftandlethal · 07/10/2025 19:40

Londonmummy66 · 07/10/2025 16:45

Glyndebourne went down this route. Guess what they did. Converted a ladies loos to unisex which doesn't meet the building regs - the cubicles are not enclosed and the washbasins are in the main area not the cubicles. They are disgusting - wet floors and water splashed around the handbasins. Given its a venue where women often wear long dresses and carry clutch bags it means that what they've actually done is given a whole extra loo to the men (who didn't have to queue in the first place). When I complained I got a whole load of waffle.

The venue I spoke of has created a male block of toilets, a female block of toilets, one single ocupancy 'gender neutral' toilet, as well as one single occupancy assessible toilet. It seems like a perfect solution. New build arts venue on a university campus. No fuss at all.

SkyBlueOrange · 07/10/2025 16:48

Jallypally · 07/10/2025 14:24

There you go - that’s how to show bigotry. By accusing everyone who refuses to join in the visceral hatred of trans people of being abusers.

Nah dude.

No hate for trans people as a class.

Plenty of condemnation for abusive, boundary violating males and their enablers.

I accuse you of enabling abuse because you are advocating for safeguarding to be dismantled.

By smearing legitimate concern as bigotry against trans people, you imply that violating the boundaries of others is inherent to a trans identity. That's actually transphobic, so I'll accuse you of that too while we're here.

Londonmummy66 · 07/10/2025 16:45

Shortshriftandlethal · 06/10/2025 16:25

All of that wiffle waffle and you have not once considered or mentioned that women can have feelings of comfort and discomfort too, which is why we have single sex facilities in certain types of circumstance.

A better solution to pretending that women don't exist as a distinct social grouping with human rights and dignity would be to install what an arts venue in my city has done.....which is to create an additional 'gender neutral' facility for those that don't feel comfortable with using the facilities for their sex, This works perfectly well and meets everyone's needs for dignity and privacy.

What you are calling 'segregation' exists for the benefit of female people in circumstances in which the body and/or its biological function is paramount. Sex is real. No such thing as 'non binary'.

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Glyndebourne went down this route. Guess what they did. Converted a ladies loos to unisex which doesn't meet the building regs - the cubicles are not enclosed and the washbasins are in the main area not the cubicles. They are disgusting - wet floors and water splashed around the handbasins. Given its a venue where women often wear long dresses and carry clutch bags it means that what they've actually done is given a whole extra loo to the men (who didn't have to queue in the first place). When I complained I got a whole load of waffle.

Doggybroc · 07/10/2025 16:24

Jallypally · 07/10/2025 10:10

No, I can’t think of any wording that won’t seem bigoted. If you’re a bigot, why not just “own it” instead of trying to think of ways of gaslighting people that you’re not one?

Sweet you joined mumsnet or user name changed just to post on this thread

lcakethereforeIam · 07/10/2025 16:17

Jallypally · 07/10/2025 14:24

There you go - that’s how to show bigotry. By accusing everyone who refuses to join in the visceral hatred of trans people of being abusers.

There you go - that's how you show hypocrisy. By accusing everyone who refuses to compromise the rights of women and girls of being bigots.

Justme56 · 07/10/2025 16:11

I’d imagine it’s more along the lines of asking someone to leave, banning them from the place or even calling the police if they refuse. If a service provider discriminates on the basis of sex (whether it be toilet provision or something else), the user can take legal action through the county court. Hope that helps.

SerendipityJane · 07/10/2025 15:56

Who enforces not mugging people in the street? Burglary? Speeding?

Generally the police.

So what you are saying is the police need to be called here, and it ill all be sorted.

Glad to have cleared that up. What a ninny I can be at times !

Doggybroc · 07/10/2025 15:48

Theeyeballsinthesky · 07/10/2025 15:43

Just can't be arsed

men could try just obeying the law

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You didn’t need to edit!

Theeyeballsinthesky · 07/10/2025 15:43

Jallypally · 07/10/2025 14:24

There you go - that’s how to show bigotry. By accusing everyone who refuses to join in the visceral hatred of trans people of being abusers.

Just can't be arsed

men could try just obeying the law

Doggybroc · 07/10/2025 15:26

SparklyPombears · 07/10/2025 10:32

The law is the law and the Waterside Arts Centre needs a lesson in protecting women and girls. The only way to make these woke organisations understand is to hit them where it hurts - in the pocket.

What Is stopping you from following your suggestion on this then @sp ?

Doggybroc · 07/10/2025 15:24

SparklyPombears · 07/10/2025 06:53

  1. The OP can apply to JKR's fund set up to help fight gender ideology.
  2. She can run a crowdfunder, I'm sure everyone will be happy to do some gardening for the cause.

This is an embarrassing but also kind of numerous post 😆

FortheloveofPetethePlumber · 07/10/2025 15:22

Who enforces not mugging people in the street? Burglary? Speeding?

If you're saying that people will not respect the law then obviously penalties will have to be brought in, won't they? And breaking it will have to be made unpleasant enough to motivate those incapable of respecting others' rights by themselves.

Because you cannot just expect that people can't be buggered to let women have rights, and hope that society decides next that Jewish people, black people, gay people, trans people etc aren't entitled to their legal protections. Fgs. I know TRAs want an end to police, prisons, sanity, stuff like that, but really....

SerendipityJane · 07/10/2025 15:09

SparklyPombears · 07/10/2025 10:32

The law is the law and the Waterside Arts Centre needs a lesson in protecting women and girls. The only way to make these woke organisations understand is to hit them where it hurts - in the pocket.

fine words.

But who will enforce them ?

LittleBitofBread · 07/10/2025 14:44

Jallypally · 07/10/2025 14:24

There you go - that’s how to show bigotry. By accusing everyone who refuses to join in the visceral hatred of trans people of being abusers.

OK fine.
How about my post?
I'd be interested in your response to that.

FortheloveofPetethePlumber · 07/10/2025 14:31

If you participate in dismantling safeguarding then yes, you're going to have to take responsibility for it.

The consenting women are in the mixed sex spaces taking their clothes off. There is no need to compel the involvement of non consenting women or children, and the motives of anyone doing so are not innocent.

FortheloveofPetethePlumber · 07/10/2025 14:27

Not agreeing as a woman to get your kit off for a man because to not unconditionally pretend for him he isn't a man is 'bigoted'.

Yes. Absolutely. And lawnmowers from the planet Zargh are small teapots who run the civil service, and I'm King Canute.

Jallypally · 07/10/2025 14:24

There you go - that’s how to show bigotry. By accusing everyone who refuses to join in the visceral hatred of trans people of being abusers.

SkyBlueOrange · 07/10/2025 13:26

Jallypally · 07/10/2025 10:10

No, I can’t think of any wording that won’t seem bigoted. If you’re a bigot, why not just “own it” instead of trying to think of ways of gaslighting people that you’re not one?

You're essentially saying here that safeguarding is bigoted. Is that what you meant to imply? Because it's the opinion of an abuser or an enabler of abuse.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 07/10/2025 11:53

Jallypally · 07/10/2025 10:10

No, I can’t think of any wording that won’t seem bigoted. If you’re a bigot, why not just “own it” instead of trying to think of ways of gaslighting people that you’re not one?

The law is not bigoted. There are good reasons why we have separate male and female facilities. Those reasons apply to transwomen as equally as they do other males.

Companies need to be following the law.