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Is it safety or separation?

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OneFlakyMaker · 20/09/2025 05:54

When opposing transgender people in women's spaces, are you looking for safe spaces or separate spaces?

They may overlap but are not the same thing, and while a lot of the discussion is focused on safety, the tone and some arguments hint that addressing safety won't be enough for many people to feel comfortable. Instead, a place without males is sought.

I read one woman described it "At the club we used the women's bathroom to get a break from interacting with men".

OP posts:
Taztoy · 23/09/2025 09:14

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 09:12

There's his thing called 'individualism'. On what basis an individual defines oneself varies from individual to individual & is subjective.

The categorical error you are making is the characteristics that distinguish females from males being limited to reproductive ones when its clearly not by your own admission of sexual violence being more prevalent in men necessitating private spaces.

There’s this thing called “being a rape apologist”. You might want to bear it in mind.

TheKeatingFive · 23/09/2025 09:14

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 09:12

There's his thing called 'individualism'. On what basis an individual defines oneself varies from individual to individual & is subjective.

The categorical error you are making is the characteristics that distinguish females from males being limited to reproductive ones when its clearly not by your own admission of sexual violence being more prevalent in men necessitating private spaces.

We can't base laws and societal rules on subjective criteria like 'he feels he is woman'.

Taztoy · 23/09/2025 09:13

Datun · 23/09/2025 09:07

'Whoring' was, to my mind, inadvertent mask slipping. 'Karen' is totally deliberate.

Hows has no arguments and is clearly getting absolutely nowhere with any woman, so it's bait time.

Taztoy, hard though it might be, try and ignore his posts. We can all see what he's doing.

As long as everyone see what they did.

I’m appalled at their statements against women and girls being allowed to stand tbh.

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 09:12

Helleofabore · 23/09/2025 08:04

And do you see again why your claim that psychological, behavioural & cultural commonalities is meaningless as a tool to categorise the sex class of a human.

You just pointed it out here. If the sex class of a human was dependent on a changeable aspect of a human depending on a particular point in time, it renders it a meaningless tool for the purpose.

Humans don’t change sex no matter how much you wish to believe that you can change sex. You can’t.

There's his thing called 'individualism'. On what basis an individual defines oneself varies from individual to individual & is subjective.

The categorical error you are making is the characteristics that distinguish females from males being limited to reproductive ones when its clearly not by your own admission of sexual violence being more prevalent in men necessitating private spaces.

Taztoy · 23/09/2025 09:12

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 09:05

If you can't comprehend the irrelevancy of mapping psychopathic outliers onto the average person I can't help you.

Please tell me how my rape and as is my fault because I want to avail of my legal right to single sex spaces.

Because we can all see that’s what you said.

thanks.

Helleofabore · 23/09/2025 09:11

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 09:02

don't dehumanise & demonise trans people = "hostility towards the women and girls" 🤪

Ahhh. There it is. There is the emojis.

Care to now explain again how wanting single sex provisions is dehumanising and demonising trans people?

Care to include in your explanation that female single sex provisions that include female people with transgender identities is dehumanising and demonising trans people?

Have you got a concise explanation as to why it is considered demonising and dehumanising to have single sex provisions?

TheKeatingFive · 23/09/2025 09:10

I did not fully understand how much men hated women until this TRA nonsense raised its head.

I now do.

Datun · 23/09/2025 09:07

'Whoring' was, to my mind, inadvertent mask slipping. 'Karen' is totally deliberate.

Hows has no arguments and is clearly getting absolutely nowhere with any woman, so it's bait time.

Taztoy, hard though it might be, try and ignore his posts. We can all see what he's doing.

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 09:05

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 23/09/2025 07:45

I don't see any link between my question and your response.

Can you please try again? Which of those apparently feminine qualities do you think these violent male criminals have in common with women?

If you can't comprehend the irrelevancy of mapping psychopathic outliers onto the average person I can't help you.

Taztoy · 23/09/2025 09:05

Helleofabore · 23/09/2025 09:04

I hope you are ok. Taztoy

The post you refer to is DARVO. As you have picked up it really is victim blaming.

female people - we want to socialise away from male people.

male people - but then we won’t know how to treat you with respect. And you will be responsible for that.

female people - we need space to heal without you being there.

male people - then accept that we won’t treat you with respect and accept the consequences.

DARVO

Yip. Agree 💯.

And I’m going to keep calling it out.

Taztoy · 23/09/2025 09:04

Keep laughing at me @Howseitgoin I see you and you’re showing everyone else loud and clear.

The word is

NO

Helleofabore · 23/09/2025 09:04

I hope you are ok. Taztoy

The post you refer to is DARVO. As you have picked up it really is victim blaming.

female people - we want to socialise away from male people.

male people - but then we won’t know how to treat you with respect. And you will be responsible for that.

female people - we need space to heal without you being there.

male people - then accept that we won’t treat you with respect and accept the consequences.

DARVO

Taztoy · 23/09/2025 09:04

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 09:02

don't dehumanise & demonise trans people = "hostility towards the women and girls" 🤪

I’ve never dehumanised any trans person

A man dehumanised me though, when he raped and sexually assaulted me. When he strangled me so hard I pissed myself.

Taztoy · 23/09/2025 09:03

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 09:00

There's this thing called "physical attraction" that you don't necessarily need to 'act out' on others to prove you are.

But but but. You said my violent rape was my fault because of a lack of contact.

ive asked you to answer me. Please do.

ta.

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 09:02

Helleofabore · 23/09/2025 07:38

I don’t believe you can parse ‘anti-trans hysteria’ in any way that doesn’t ultimately end up showing hostility towards the women and girls that are asking that sex is prioritised above gender when sex matters.

Interesting that you try though. However, if that had been all that you had posted, you might have been able to make that excuse. I don’t think anyone who has been on threads with you could doubt your hostility towards any woman who disagrees with you.

don't dehumanise & demonise trans people = "hostility towards the women and girls" 🤪

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 09:00

KitWyn · 23/09/2025 07:34

If I say I am gay/lesbian I am telling you that I am same sex attracted. I could be, and remain, celibate, for any number of reasons. Still gay/lesbian!

What are these "homosexual behaviours" you speak of? Are there also "womaning behaviours"?

Please list them, that would be very helpful to better understand your argument.

There's this thing called "physical attraction" that you don't necessarily need to 'act out' on others to prove you are.

Taztoy · 23/09/2025 09:00

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 08:57

Avoiding the question? Makes sense….

I’ve not avoided any of your questions.

lets talk about how you say my rape and sa is my fault because women have single sex spaces. Go on. Let’s.

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 08:57

Helleofabore · 23/09/2025 07:26

That female people want to spend time with other female people sometimes is hardly a cause for concern that those female people are seeking ‘separatism’ as part of a movement.

And psychological, behavioural & cultural commonalities is a meaningless tool for categorising humans as to who has access to single sex spaces or single sex provisions. I think it is clear that you have tried across multiple threads to articulate your point but fail because your point is irrelevant for the premise you are trying to defend.

Avoiding the question? Makes sense….

Helleofabore · 23/09/2025 08:57

”now its become more acceptable that's why some are taking further steps to live their 'authenticity'.”

When I see sentences such as this one in relation to male people becoming ‘authentic’ women I really think authentic has become another one of those words that has been twisted to now mean the opposite to the intended and established meaning.

Taztoy · 23/09/2025 08:55

TheKeatingFive · 23/09/2025 08:51

❤️

I'm so sorry.

There are genuinely no depths to which these ghouls won't sink to

Honestly. It’s so stark.

It’s my fault I got raped because women have single sex spaces.

And they don’t even have the guts to answer me. Because they know they have no answer.

But. Every single person who reads their posts now is going to see me going. You’re the one who told me my rape was my fault because women have single sex spaces.

That’s not a statement I’m going to let pass.

TheKeatingFive · 23/09/2025 08:51

Taztoy · 23/09/2025 08:49

ive just been sick.

I can’t believe it’s ok for that person to state that my violent rape and sa is my fault because of a lack of contact.

im beyond upset that the post is standing.

this person it’s a thought experiment and some sort of game to say more and more outlandish and ridiculous word salad and they don’t care about the impact on real women. Collateral damage. That’s all I am.

I struggle enough with feelings of worthlessness and self blame after my rape. What did I didn’t I should I have done. But to make it my fault because I want SSS? That’s just beyond me.

❤️

I'm so sorry.

There are genuinely no depths to which these ghouls won't sink to

Taztoy · 23/09/2025 08:49

ive just been sick.

I can’t believe it’s ok for that person to state that my violent rape and sa is my fault because of a lack of contact.

im beyond upset that the post is standing.

this person it’s a thought experiment and some sort of game to say more and more outlandish and ridiculous word salad and they don’t care about the impact on real women. Collateral damage. That’s all I am.

I struggle enough with feelings of worthlessness and self blame after my rape. What did I didn’t I should I have done. But to make it my fault because I want SSS? That’s just beyond me.

BlackeyedSusan · 23/09/2025 08:46

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 20/09/2025 06:24

They may overlap but are not the same thing, and while a lot of the discussion is focused on safety, the tone and some arguments hint that addressing safety won't be enough for many people to feel comfortable. Instead, a place without males is sought.

A place without males is key to securing that safety for women.

We don't want male free spaces because we think boy have cooties.

It's because they commit 100% of rapes and over 98% of all sexual assaults.

It's because they can physically overpower us.

It's because we can't tell which ones are dangerous and which ones are not until we have already been harmed.

And it's because, if we have already been harmed by a man, just being in a space like that with a member of the opposite sex is enough to re-traumatise us even if they don't actually do anything other than be there.

But you're right, safety is not the be all and end all of the argument. Safety is a good enough reason to keep all male people out of women's spaces. But so is, "We just want female only spaces."

Why is this so difficult for some people to understand? Women saying "no" should have been the end of the discussion.

Thank you.

Helleofabore · 23/09/2025 08:46

“The movement from one state to another is socially living as the opposite gender by making changes to one's body & social status.”

People can have whatever ‘gender’ they want. They don’t move from one sex to another though. And if other people don’t want to recognise someone’s ‘gender’ there should be no enforcement of it.

Single sex provisions are not based on ‘gender’, they are based on the sex class that person belongs to. HTH

Shortshriftandlethal · 23/09/2025 08:46

Howseitgoin · 23/09/2025 07:48

De transitioners aren't changing 'back' in personality rather in how far they want to embrace/express certain aspects of it.

'Being a woman' is not an expressive option or performance style. A woman is an adult human female and the only thing she shares with all other women are the facts of her biology.