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Men in women’s groups.

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gingangirly · 19/09/2025 10:43

Really unsure if I’m being unreasonable, but what do others think?

I belong to a FB group for women over 65 in my town. They have lots of get togethers, at least a couple a week. A few months ago there was a vote after a man requested to join. The overwhelming majority said no. If they want a similar group, start their own. Fair enough.

However there is a trans woman that has been welcomed with open arms. He would NOT pass as a woman, not quite a bloke in a wig but certainly you would know he was trans.

What do people think about this? Acceptable or not? I’m am totally the ‘live and let live’ but seems a bit disingenuous to ban men but not trans women?

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TeenToTwenties · 19/09/2025 11:11

Maddy70 · 19/09/2025 11:09

Sorry .... Every woman's opinion counts ... Women shutting other women down for their opinions is not feminism

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No. In a group you wouldn't yourself choose to join as you don't like single sex groups, your opinion as to whether it should stay single sex does not count.

I wouldn't join a football group. I therefore have no say in how a football group should or shouldn't operate.

Maddy70 · 19/09/2025 11:09

TeenToTwenties · 19/09/2025 10:52

But if you reject it you wouldn't have joined the single sex group in the first place, so your opinion wouldn't really count.

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Sorry .... Every woman's opinion counts ... Women shutting other women down for their opinions is not feminism

moggly · 19/09/2025 11:08

What are you going to do if the first man pops on some lippy and wears an ill-fitting dress, will he be allowed in then?

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gingangirly · 19/09/2025 11:07

I might stick around to see how this pans out, but I might not be able to keep my feelings hidden. I might be the one to get drummed out. Which wouldn’t bother me unduly.

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Anchorage56 · 19/09/2025 10:56

If they joined because they see themselves as a woman and wish to have more female friends then it wouldnt bother me.

CrocsNotDocs · 19/09/2025 10:56

Leave now. He will destroy the group and make it all about him. He will control what can and cannot be discussed. Some members will pander to him and will turn on members who don’t do the same. He specifically chose a woman only group on purpose so he can get his lady feelz validation. He probably goes home and has validation wanks.

It took 3 weeks for my 10 year plus local women only group to implode when a TIM joined.

Dumbo12 · 19/09/2025 10:55

You voted to keep men out, but have accepted a man, the man you said no to has been discriminated against. The group need to make their mind up

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gingangirly · 19/09/2025 10:55

But as it’s a FB group, does that make a difference? It’s not like a club you pay to belong to (like the WI with subs).

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TeenToTwenties · 19/09/2025 10:52

Maddy70 · 19/09/2025 10:50

As someone who rejects anything women only (or men only) I would have no issue with it

But if you reject it you wouldn't have joined the single sex group in the first place, so your opinion wouldn't really count.

ThreeB · 19/09/2025 10:50

Legally you’ve now created a mixed sex group and will have to permit men also

Maddy70 · 19/09/2025 10:50

As someone who rejects anything women only (or men only) I would have no issue with it

FlippinFumin · 19/09/2025 10:50

I think the EA 2010 may have something to say. Trans identifying males are still males, and if you let them in you are discriminating against other men you refuse to let in.

AnSolas · 19/09/2025 10:47

The group has already let a man join.