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Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 11:31

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 15/09/2025 11:24

Are you calling my daughter a liar? Or her class mates?

This school allows males into female changing spaces, right now, with no more info than they say they are. Please read the discussion links I provided.

Also read the inclusion kit.

No I’m not calling her her liar, I just don’t believe she won’t have been provided with an alternative space where she can feel comfortable. It’s a nuanced topic and no one’s feelings, safety or dignity should be denied in the process of figuring out the best route forward to inclusion. Because trans people do exist, and the vast majority are trying to do just that - exist, safely, just like your daughter.

Llamasarellovely · 15/09/2025 11:31

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2025 11:24

Sorry, what is a RINO? I’ve seen it before but don’t actually know what it stands for. Republican something?

Republican In Name Only

MarieDeGournay · 15/09/2025 11:31

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2025 11:24

Sorry, what is a RINO? I’ve seen it before but don’t actually know what it stands for. Republican something?

RINO=Republican in name only

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2025 11:25

I wouldn’t waste too much of your time explaining further@SingleSexSpacesInSchools- the pp can read your thread if they want.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2025 11:24

LeaningOnTheEverlastingArms · 15/09/2025 11:19

Interestingly, to get back to Utah, in 2022 Governor Cox vetoed HB11 which would have banned transgender youth from participating in high school sports.

Also interestingly Charlie Kirk had publicly spoken out against Governor Cox in this regard.

I’ve noticed many Americans online stating they regard him as a RINO.

Sorry, what is a RINO? I’ve seen it before but don’t actually know what it stands for. Republican something?

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 15/09/2025 11:24

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 11:22

Fair enough, I’d be very surprised if what they are proposing aren’t single sex spaces AND neutral spaces as well as accessible changing/toileting that can be used by anyone that is uncomfortable for any reason

Are you calling my daughter a liar? Or her class mates?

This school allows males into female changing spaces, right now, with no more info than they say they are. Please read the discussion links I provided.

Also read the inclusion kit.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2025 11:23

Well I’m sure she knows her own children’s school better than random posters on Mumsnet.

spannasaurus · 15/09/2025 11:23

LeaningOnTheEverlastingArms · 15/09/2025 11:19

Interestingly, to get back to Utah, in 2022 Governor Cox vetoed HB11 which would have banned transgender youth from participating in high school sports.

Also interestingly Charlie Kirk had publicly spoken out against Governor Cox in this regard.

I’ve noticed many Americans online stating they regard him as a RINO.

Were transgender youth being banned from high school sports or just being banned from the opposite sex teams and leagues

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 11:22

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 15/09/2025 11:18

Not without outing the school no and given the legal situation, I can;t . However you can read the trans inclusion toolkit all brighton schools follow

https://www.brighton-hove.gov.uk/schools-and-learning/support-school/trans-inclusion-schools-toolkit-2024

It's clearly a safeguarding issue

Fair enough, I’d be very surprised if what they are proposing aren’t single sex spaces AND neutral spaces as well as accessible changing/toileting that can be used by anyone that is uncomfortable for any reason

spannasaurus · 15/09/2025 11:20

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 11:12

I just can’t think of a single real world example of when my privacy, safety or dignity have been jeopardised by a trans person. There’s a lot of buzz words that I can see would make me very angry if I subscribed to the belief that trans people are less than or if I was generally a more vulnerable and fearful person, which is where I think this debate falls apart. The fight seems to be had under the guise of a reasonable request and with the assertion that this is very regularly denied in the real world - it’s not, nor is there an actual real thread of it being, so I think we can probably just leave trans people alone

Do you think the safety of female prisoners is jeopardised by male rapists being placed in womens prisons?

LeaningOnTheEverlastingArms · 15/09/2025 11:19

Interestingly, to get back to Utah, in 2022 Governor Cox vetoed HB11 which would have banned transgender youth from participating in high school sports.

Also interestingly Charlie Kirk had publicly spoken out against Governor Cox in this regard.

I’ve noticed many Americans online stating they regard him as a RINO.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 15/09/2025 11:18

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 11:14

Could you signpost me towards the schools written policy on this?

Not without outing the school no and given the legal situation, I can;t . However you can read the trans inclusion toolkit all brighton schools follow

https://www.brighton-hove.gov.uk/schools-and-learning/support-school/trans-inclusion-schools-toolkit-2024

It's clearly a safeguarding issue

Trans Inclusion Schools Toolkit 2024

A guide to supporting trans children and young people in education settings.

https://www.brighton-hove.gov.uk/schools-and-learning/support-school/trans-inclusion-schools-toolkit-2024

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2025 11:15

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 11:12

I just can’t think of a single real world example of when my privacy, safety or dignity have been jeopardised by a trans person. There’s a lot of buzz words that I can see would make me very angry if I subscribed to the belief that trans people are less than or if I was generally a more vulnerable and fearful person, which is where I think this debate falls apart. The fight seems to be had under the guise of a reasonable request and with the assertion that this is very regularly denied in the real world - it’s not, nor is there an actual real thread of it being, so I think we can probably just leave trans people alone

You do you, but stop telling men women are ok with them in our spaces. The majority of us are not.

Merrymouse · 15/09/2025 11:15

For example
I don’t understand what’s been done
to ensure that boundaries aren’t blurred between protecting single sex spaces and demonising trans people, it seems like the former can only be achieved by latter and that is where I fundamentally disagree.

They are no more demonised than I am if I am refused a blue badge because I don’t have a disability or a state pension because I am 37.

You can certainly argue for adequate provision of specialist and/or mixed sex services.

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 11:14

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 15/09/2025 11:13

Edited

Could you signpost me towards the schools written policy on this?

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 15/09/2025 11:13

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 11:12

I just can’t think of a single real world example of when my privacy, safety or dignity have been jeopardised by a trans person. There’s a lot of buzz words that I can see would make me very angry if I subscribed to the belief that trans people are less than or if I was generally a more vulnerable and fearful person, which is where I think this debate falls apart. The fight seems to be had under the guise of a reasonable request and with the assertion that this is very regularly denied in the real world - it’s not, nor is there an actual real thread of it being, so I think we can probably just leave trans people alone

My daughter's changing rooms. Today. Secondary school.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5404868-single-sex-changing-spaces-in-a-brighton-secondary-school-new-school-year-new-thread?page=1

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 11:12

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2025 11:08

What discussions can we have that “leave people out of it”? Trans women are men, people keep telling us they are welcome in women’s spaces. But they aren’t. The idea that men’s feelings and “identity” are more important than women’s privacy, safety and dignity are your fringe belief, I’m afraid @Waitingforthecold

I just can’t think of a single real world example of when my privacy, safety or dignity have been jeopardised by a trans person. There’s a lot of buzz words that I can see would make me very angry if I subscribed to the belief that trans people are less than or if I was generally a more vulnerable and fearful person, which is where I think this debate falls apart. The fight seems to be had under the guise of a reasonable request and with the assertion that this is very regularly denied in the real world - it’s not, nor is there an actual real thread of it being, so I think we can probably just leave trans people alone

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2025 11:10

Most women would want to be in the female only spaces, rather than in the ones with men in them, but you feel free to accompany your male friends to the men’s ones, if it makes you and them feel better. The men can decide whether they’re comfortable with you in there. Men are not welcome in women’s spaces.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 15/09/2025 11:09

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 11:04

I don’t fundamentally disagree with what you’re saying in principle. But I do disagree with demonising trans people (which is what this thread is essentially doing). I would think you can have your discussions and largely leave trans people out of it. You want ‘people who were born with female chromosome spaces’, is there seriously a lot of pushback on that? I would just assume that woman like me and trans women wouldn’t want to be in those spaces anyway but I can’t imagine many people actually have issue with them existing.

The issues is that this discussion never happens without being hateful towards trans people and largely denying their existence.

I am surprised you have not seen the tens of thousands of trans identified males forcing themselves into female spaces. I am sure better people than me can give links...

However, I am fighting to keep my daughters changing space free of males at school. She's 14.

I'm demonising people who ignore safeguarding, who de value females, who think womanhood is a costume you put on like a nice long dress and a handbag.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2025 11:08

What discussions can we have that “leave people out of it”? Trans women are men, people keep telling us they are welcome in women’s spaces. But they aren’t. The idea that men’s feelings and “identity” are more important than women’s privacy, safety and dignity are your fringe belief, I’m afraid @Waitingforthecold

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/09/2025 11:05

This thread is reporting on a current news story.

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 11:04

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 15/09/2025 10:58

Trans women are male
Trans men are female

Trans identified people should not be accommodated at the expense of dignity and privacy for females (or indeed males).

Case closed.

(For clarity, sex is binary and immutable, saying these things is not hate. or hateful. The discourse has changed the last 24 months)

Edited

I don’t fundamentally disagree with what you’re saying in principle. But I do disagree with demonising trans people (which is what this thread is essentially doing). I would think you can have your discussions and largely leave trans people out of it. You want ‘people who were born with female chromosome spaces’, is there seriously a lot of pushback on that? I would just assume that woman like me and trans women wouldn’t want to be in those spaces anyway but I can’t imagine many people actually have issue with them existing.

The issues is that this discussion never happens without being hateful towards trans people and largely denying their existence.

Merrymouse · 15/09/2025 11:04

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 10:51

The original comment I responded to literally stated that trans people are MEN - that undeniably portrays very little understanding of the topic, whether or not that’s true. If you’re posting on a public forum where your views are going to end up in a very generic trending section then you cannot assume that everyone reading your comments is part of your group and capable of reading between the lines.

what the poster clearly meant was that the trans people your cause takes issue with are all men - what I don’t understand is how this rhetoric runs smoothly alongside the idea that people can present however they wants. For example
I don’t understand what’s been done
to ensure that boundaries aren’t blurred between protecting single sex spaces and demonising trans people, it seems like the former can only be achieved by latter and that is where I fundamentally disagree.

comment I responded to literally stated that trans people are MEN

It didn’t.

you misread the comment.

ThatBlackCat · 15/09/2025 11:02

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 10:55

I didn’t realise I was a ‘newbie’ stumbling across a well established group - this is not clear when your threads appear in the trending section.

I’m not going to apologise for protecting trans people - I appreciate now how my comment is out of place - it’s impossible to understand your original comment unless you move in the same circles as you do.

I think you’re blurring the lines between having something you want to protect and being hateful as a way to protect it, I don’t think that’s right, regardless of the cause.

A. You don't need to abuse and attack posters to protect trans people.
B. Please show me just once instance where I had been hateful.

All the evidence shows you are the one being hateful.

ThatBlackCat · 15/09/2025 11:00

Waitingforthecold · 15/09/2025 10:51

The original comment I responded to literally stated that trans people are MEN - that undeniably portrays very little understanding of the topic, whether or not that’s true. If you’re posting on a public forum where your views are going to end up in a very generic trending section then you cannot assume that everyone reading your comments is part of your group and capable of reading between the lines.

what the poster clearly meant was that the trans people your cause takes issue with are all men - what I don’t understand is how this rhetoric runs smoothly alongside the idea that people can present however they wants. For example
I don’t understand what’s been done
to ensure that boundaries aren’t blurred between protecting single sex spaces and demonising trans people, it seems like the former can only be achieved by latter and that is where I fundamentally disagree.

The original comment I responded to literally stated that trans people are MEN

Generally on this board when we talk about trans people, we (or at least I) are almost exclusively or at least mainly talking about men, meaning the male sex. I was addressing the regulars I guess. In our general (in house?) way of talking. You could have asked nicely if you wanted clarification, I would have given it to you. You didn't have to accuse me of being 'hateful'. I don't hate anyone. I don't want anyone to be hurt. I hope you've learned from this. Don't rush in to an established group and accuse the regulars of being 'hateful' if you don't understand the culture of the board (or section). Anyway I have to go and get some stuff done offline.

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