Schools toilet policy

Have you chased up the SLT member? It may have just slipped their mind or not be a priority (wrongly!)

You could ask for a meeting and/or you could copy in the safeguarding lead when you chase up.

Leaving aside the legalities and just commenting on the logic of their policy, if everyone is using the toilets of their choice, cis/afab/amab/trans is completely irrelevant, because they aren't asking people to choose toilets on any basis other than personal preference.

Completely fair, I just mean we could help with writing whatever official notice you need to write

So they are choosing not to follow the recommendations in the Cass report either?

Fantastic.

The school toilet policy needs to comply with the law.

Why is the school taking legal advice from teenagers?

This situation needs some adults to enter the room and take control, and you are an adult.

Fantastic. Are you able to share the full text of the policy here please? Or link to it?

Are you prepared to take this further personally?

Or do you need to do something anonymously?

If you feel it's unsafe career wise to point out the illegality, parental alienation and safeguarding breaching aspect of this nonsense OP, then suggest you leak it to the press. The Telegraph, Mail & Times are particularly hot on exposing institutions prioritising trans demands over their legal responsibilities to safeguard children - and as for lying to parents ....
If you'd like some names of journalists, just say.

What's your role here? Are you a teacher or a pupil or a parent? Are you on the Governors?

is the school an academy or local authority?

What is your standing to take this further?

But I just wanted to highlight the complete batshittery of this: "we are being instructed to use pronouns of the pupils choice even if the parents aren’t aware, unless parents are present in which case, we revert to what’s officially on record."

This is students telling the adults to lie to the student's parents.

The school should not be advocating that people in positions of trust tell lies.

The school should not be advocating that people in positions of trust lie to the people who have given them delegated authority to educate their children.

https://www.gov.uk/government/news/guidance-on-promoting-british-values-in-schools-published

Publishing the guidance today, Lord Nash said:

A key part of our plan for education is to ensure children become valuable and fully rounded members of society who treat others with respect and tolerance, regardless of background.

We want every school to promote the basic British values of democracy, the rule of law, individual liberty, and mutual respect and tolerance for those of different faiths and beliefs.

This ensures young people understand the importance of respect and leave school fully prepared for life in modern Britain.

Examples of the understanding and knowledge pupils are expected to learn include:

• an understanding of how citizens can influence decision-making through the democratic process
• an understanding that the freedom to hold other faiths and beliefs is protected in law
• an acceptance that people having different faiths or beliefs to oneself (or having none) should be accepted and tolerated, and should not be the cause of prejudicial or discriminatory behaviour
• an understanding of the importance of identifying and combatting discrimination

Find out who "lead" the student body.
I can pretty much guarantee it will be either a member of the SLT that has bought in completely or a member of staff that runs the LGBT etc. clubs.
You need to be pushing on this through safeguarding and even deep diving into which students "wrote" the policy as the student body must reflect the whole and not be cherry picked.

The toilets part is clearly illegal, and as others have said, it's crazy to have the students writing policy.

But I just wanted to highlight the complete batshittery of this: "we are being instructed to use pronouns of the pupils choice even if the parents aren’t aware, unless parents are present in which case, we revert to what’s officially on record."

So everyone has to go against their beliefs. People who don't believe in socially transing children have to lie and use the wrong-sex prounouns in front of the child. People who do believe in socially transing children have to use the correct-sex pronouns in front of the parents - which is probably also in front of the child, who will often be present.

(And isn't socially-transing children now frowned-upon anyway?)

Politely, in a rush dog walking, It’s not tricky and it’s not impossible to challenge. You have the law, facts and child safgeuardi g on your side. You can and indeed must challenge it.

Agreed. It's a very big job for one person to take on. I think alerting SLT to SC judgement and safeguarding concerns would be a start at least.

I am a (mercifully retired) member. Afaik the NEU is fully paid up TWAW.

The policy of automatic affirmation and not making parents aware comes from Welsh LAs and also the WG LGBTQ+ Action Plan. The Wales Centre for Public Policy produced, in January 2025, a Rapid Evidence Review to inform guidance for schools to support trans young people. It was based mainly on 'research' from the US and dismissed the Cass Review in one sentence. Affirmation all the way. Totally biased with no consideration of safeguarding or the requirements for single sex facilities which has since been emphasised by the Supreme Court judgement in April.
Well done for taking your concerns forward WelshMoth and good luck 💪

You have to put a stop to this NOW.

Toilets: The law is clear — schools must provide single-sex toilets for pupils over 8 (Education (School Premises) Regulations 1999; Welsh regs are the same). Gender-neutral toilets can be provided in addition, but not instead of single-sex. “Use whichever you like” is unlawful.

Pronouns / secrecy from parents: KCSIE (2024) is explicit — schools should not conceal information from parents unless there’s a clear safeguarding risk. Telling staff to use one set of pronouns with parents and another behind their back is not allowed.

Policy wording: “Cis/AFAB/AMAB” are contested political terms, not legal categories. Staff cannot be compelled to adopt them. Schools must remain politically impartial under the Education Act.

Stats about violence: Irrelevant to school toilets, and misleading when inserted into a safeguarding policy. The Equality Act protects everyone from bullying — no group gets special treatment outside the law.

Safeguarding: Mixing male and female pupils in toilets/changing rooms puts girls at risk of loss of dignity, privacy and safeguarding failures. This is the opposite of what KCSIE requires.

Staff signatures: Forcing staff to “sign” a student-written policy that contradicts the law has no legal basis. If anything, it puts staff personally at risk of breaching their statutory duties.

In short: keep the good parts (anti-bullying, inclusive families) but bin the illegal/unlawful clauses.

Not surprised from a Union unfortunately