You have to believe them, right? That's what the TRAs always seem to claim anyway. So when a man tells us he's actually a woman we have to tell "her" how stunning and brave she is, and how "she" is a much better woman than we will ever be. OK, a little bit of hyperbole there, but you get my drift. So why is it, that when we tell a TRA that we don't have a gender identity, and aren't CIS, do they tell us that we are wrong about ourselves. Why don't they believe that we know who we are just as much as their TW friends do?
I've just come back from what was meant to be a lovely, long overdue, few days away with my oldest friends. We've all known each other for 20-30+ years but haven't managed to all be together due to families, work etc for more than the odd meal.
Somehow the subject came onto trans-rights and so on. Turns out, I'm the only one who doesn't believe that TWAW, or that sex matters in some circumstances. I've been told that I am CIS, even when I tried to explain that I don't have a gender. Apparently the fact that I describe myself as a woman means I'm assigning a gender to myself. I was also told that sex is more complicated than we learn at school, and told that I am "technically intersex" because I have PCOS. According to the person who told me that intersex means I'm not actually male or female. How can I be cis then? (I'm aware that intersex is an outdated term, and that everyone IS male or female. There is no inbetween)
One friend, who is educated to a very high level, insists there is a lot of evidence out there that proves this, and also proves that trans kids commit suicide if not affirmed. When I asked for some links, I was told to google it. Oh, but if I found so called evidence that proved the opposite it was fake.
Also the Cass review was poorly done and transphobic. The ban on puberty blockers is transphobic. And one woman has allowed her 4 year old to socially transition. FFS.
I don't know what the point of this post is. I'm just sad.
PS have name changed as potentially outing, but have been around since the mouldies days.
TL:DR I've just lost my oldest and closest friends because I refuse to accept that I am a cis-intersex-person, or that humans can change sex.