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Charity rejects disabled child for mother's GC views

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PaddingtonSwear · 31/08/2025 08:22

Archive link here: https://archive.ph/zGGCc

Pretty shocking but it seems they think they're right.

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OldCrone · 31/08/2025 13:14

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 12:54

I don't believe that children raised with healthy views about the diversity among men and women would fall victim to this ideology, frankly. I do think it always stems from how their parents and early agencies of socialisation taught them about gender, sexuality and relationships.

You'd be surprised, then, at how widespread this ideology has become. I think you're about 50 years behind the times - your view is quite in keeping with what used to happen and the reasons people like Stephen Whittle transitioned, but it's not the 1970s any more.

SouthWamses · 31/08/2025 13:13

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:06

Likely because the ward list said there were only females and nobody checked beyond that. I see that more like someone saying that it was an Irish man but as everyone listed was born in England, they assumed there was nobody Irish on the ward and ignored the fact that someone had emigrated to Ireland as a child.

They knew. You don’t have men on a hospital ward without being aware he is a man.

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:13

AnSolas · 31/08/2025 13:12

No "we" dont have pronouns.

You have your language choices.

You can choose to use a word which inducates to the listner that you have sexed a person animal or object in one of sex class.

For the human you can choose to mis-sex her/him. When this happens when safeguarding is needed it is a safeguarding fail.

You can't choose my pronouns. I'll stop talking to you if you do.

NotBadConsidering · 31/08/2025 13:12

It’s the same logic. The man on the NHS ward claimed he was of the female sex. The victim was told that there was only those of the female sex on the ward. This debunks the ‘"Told the sex" doesn't leave much room for lies’ nonsense.

Ihavetoask you condone deliberately hiding the truth about the sex of other students and staff from children. You’re trying to avoid saying you do, but you do. If you didn’t you would clearly come out and say “I believe the actual biological true sex of people should not be hidden from children or their parents as it presents a safeguarding risk”. But you haven’t. You’re a safeguarding loophole of you’re own.

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:12

BettyBooper · 31/08/2025 13:10

No, what you do is challenge it yourself before the child goes to the camp and is put in that situation.

Which is what the mother here did.

I'd have simply asked about logistics by phone or email. I wouldn't have put an inappropriate and irrelevant response on a form. But I tend to want effectivity over volume.

AnSolas · 31/08/2025 13:12

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 12:40

Well we do have pronouns that are appropriate for us and those may need clarifying at times. Especially today, in the ways we communicate, it may not always be clear whether someone is male or female. Such as right now online.

If someone was referring to me and said "he said", it would be fine for me to say that those aren't my pronouns because I am a woman.

No "we" dont have pronouns.

You have your language choices.

You can choose to use a word which inducates to the listner that you have sexed a person animal or object in one of sex class.

For the human you can choose to mis-sex her/him. When this happens when safeguarding is needed it is a safeguarding fail.

BettyBooper · 31/08/2025 13:11

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:10

Can't read it but unless it says that they knew there was someone with a penis present and lied about that, then it doesn't disprove what Im saying. The issue was that the person was likely listed as female so on first glance, no men were present.

They did. That is exactly what happened.

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:11

Theswiveleyeballsinthesky · 31/08/2025 13:09

You seem strangely unshocked by this story if you're hearing it fir the first time

I mean a women was raped, the hospital knew a man was on the ward and lied about it to the police

that doesnt shock you?

No, when it comes to the depths of depravity in humanity coupled with the incompetence of our systems, I am quite unshockable
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BettyBooper · 31/08/2025 13:10

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:07

Yes tbh. At a camp where they are there to do activities, it isn't appropriate for my child to confront this. We can discuss when they get home. I wouldn't encourage my child to openly disobey what the adults and child tell them.

No, what you do is challenge it yourself before the child goes to the camp and is put in that situation.

Which is what the mother here did.

OldCrone · 31/08/2025 13:10

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 12:50

I think a child should be told the sex of a person and accept it, regardless of what they "see". I think that makes my views clear enough.

So if a crossdressing man tells a child that he is a woman, the child should just accept it?

Seriously, can you not see any problems with this?

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:10

MrsOvertonsWindow · 31/08/2025 13:08

You're getting desperate now. This case has been well documented:

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2022/03/17/hospital-told-police-patient-not-raped-alleged-attacker-transgender/

Edited to add archive link for the Telegraph article:

archive.ph/IPdUX

Edited

Can't read it but unless it says that they knew there was someone with a penis present and lied about that, then it doesn't disprove what Im saying. The issue was that the person was likely listed as female so on first glance, no men were present.

Theswiveleyeballsinthesky · 31/08/2025 13:09

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:06

Likely because the ward list said there were only females and nobody checked beyond that. I see that more like someone saying that it was an Irish man but as everyone listed was born in England, they assumed there was nobody Irish on the ward and ignored the fact that someone had emigrated to Ireland as a child.

You seem strangely unshocked by this story if you're hearing it fir the first time

I mean a women was raped, the hospital knew a man was on the ward and lied about it to the police

that doesnt shock you?

BettyBooper · 31/08/2025 13:08

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 12:59

It's on us as voters to ensure that someone who is a man isn't in those changing rooms.

And it is our responsibility as parents to ensure that gender ideology is not pushed on children.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 31/08/2025 13:08

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:06

Likely because the ward list said there were only females and nobody checked beyond that. I see that more like someone saying that it was an Irish man but as everyone listed was born in England, they assumed there was nobody Irish on the ward and ignored the fact that someone had emigrated to Ireland as a child.

You're getting desperate now. This case has been well documented:

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2022/03/17/hospital-told-police-patient-not-raped-alleged-attacker-transgender/

Edited to add archive link for the Telegraph article:

archive.ph/IPdUX

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:07

BettyBooper · 31/08/2025 12:58

If mum had not raised the issue and child had gone to camp...

Child sees a girl and staff tell child 'that's a boy'.

You are saying that the child should unquestioningly accept what the adults tell him rather than his own eyes.

This could actually have been the situation if the mum had not raised the issue.

The child is not the problem here.

Yes tbh. At a camp where they are there to do activities, it isn't appropriate for my child to confront this. We can discuss when they get home. I wouldn't encourage my child to openly disobey what the adults and child tell them.

AstonUniversityPotholeDepartment · 31/08/2025 13:06

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:00

Dont make these sort of illogical leaps. It insults us all.

It's not an illogical leap, it's a reference to an actual situation that occurred on an NHS hospital ward. That was the claim made by hospital management, which stymied the investigation into the victim's report until a member of the House of Lords intervened.

I will assume you were unaware of that.

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:06

MrsOvertonsWindow · 31/08/2025 13:03

That's not an illogical leap - it was what staff in an NHS hospital told a woman (and the police) who'd been raped by a trans identifying man. That there was no man on the ward. They lied and covered up a rape on a hospital ward until the police discovered the truth from CCTV.

Likely because the ward list said there were only females and nobody checked beyond that. I see that more like someone saying that it was an Irish man but as everyone listed was born in England, they assumed there was nobody Irish on the ward and ignored the fact that someone had emigrated to Ireland as a child.

cigarsmokingwoman · 31/08/2025 13:05

I've heard about this charity before as I'm Scottish and they are extremely woke.

Even if they didn't agree with the mother's views, they didn't have to phone her up and question her. They could have just shrugged their shoulders and accepted the application anyway. So they initiated the argument imo

Its not clear to me if the mum is just complaining or taking actual legal action?

MrsOvertonsWindow · 31/08/2025 13:05

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:03

I'm arguing from what I have seen around me. You never see a trans child come from a home where they don't associate personality traits and interests with gender.

Ah. So you work for a trans lobby group that targets children?

SouthWamses · 31/08/2025 13:03

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:00

Dont make these sort of illogical leaps. It insults us all.

What illogical leaps? A rape victim was gaslit for a year with this very statement.

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:03

MrsOvertonsWindow · 31/08/2025 13:00

Maybe read the Cass Review, the work of Jonathan Haidt, have a look at sites like Transgender Trend, Bayswater to educate yourself about the impact of social media and social contagion in all this. There's now a wealth of evidence about the roots of all this.

You don't seem to be arguing from a position of knowledge to be honest.

I'm arguing from what I have seen around me. You never see a trans child come from a home where they don't associate personality traits and interests with gender.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 31/08/2025 13:03

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:00

Dont make these sort of illogical leaps. It insults us all.

That's not an illogical leap - it was what staff in an NHS hospital told a woman (and the police) who'd been raped by a trans identifying man. That there was no man on the ward. They lied and covered up a rape on a hospital ward until the police discovered the truth from CCTV.

NotBadConsidering · 31/08/2025 13:02

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:01

I've answered that more than once. Children should be told the sex of other people.

But you haven’t confirmed you think that means their actual sex, not their claimed sex. Do you think children should be told that the teacher or student may claim a female identity, but is actually male?

BettyBooper · 31/08/2025 13:01

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 12:56

"Told the sex" doesnt leave much room for lies. I am not advocating for lies. I'm advocating for factual truth. I am just saying that children need to accept the factual truth, irrespective of what their parents, family or church have told them about men and women.

When adults stop lying to children, I will start worrying about children accepting 'factual truth' from adults.

You can't demand the latter before the former.

Ihavetoask · 31/08/2025 13:01

NotBadConsidering · 31/08/2025 13:00

So can you answer my follow up question? Should children be told the truth about the actual sex of trans identifying staff and other students?

I've answered that more than once. Children should be told the sex of other people.