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All the eyerolls 🙄 they/them 'not Daddy!'

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lcakethereforeIam · 26/08/2025 11:39

What nurses have to put up with. His poor wife (although that word's not used*), his poor kids

I'm a non-binary parent but have had to accept being called 'Daddy' | Metro News https://share.google/CdGfmxVnizOeyxBbe

Admittedly, when we arrived at the delivery suite on Tuesday night I did tell the lead midwife that my pronouns are they/them

Of course he did.

The whole article is worth a read, simultaneously hilarious, jawdropping and troubling. I thought he could put it on stage at the next Fringe, it'd bring the house down. It's hard to believe it wasn't ghost written by Glinner as a pisstake.

*hopefully they're not married °so leaving this self obsessed bloke will be easier.

°how would that go anyway? 'I now pronoun you wife and....erm!'

I'm a non-binary parent but have had to accept being called 'Daddy'

I wish that society could be more inclusive towards trans and non-binary folks especially as it pertains to parenthood.

https://metro.co.uk/2025/08/21/im-a-non-binary-parent-accept-called-daddy-23938765/?_gl=1*1w8ogn9*_ga*SFNiMXdlR1ZMSElTQ05RU3ZxdUYxT0I2b3dRZHRUVmZNZE5vdGMzUVl4dkFjUE5zZmdiVzBxSGR1QUpXaFRNeQ..*_ga_MYFQ9GLWWV*MTc1NjIwMjkzMC40MS4xLjE3NTYyMDI5MzEuMC4wLjA.

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JurassicPark4Eva · 26/08/2025 13:50

Soooo at one of the most important moments in a human life, the birth of a baby, the person who presumably provided 50% of this baby's DNA is unhappy at being called the child's father?

He's going to be a terrible parent isn't he.

Funnywonder · 26/08/2025 13:48

I see he has a lot of pink going on. Just in case anyone might - ya know - mistake him for an ordinary man.

LeeshaPaper · 26/08/2025 13:47

And we never found out what he decided to use instead of Daddy which is why I ploughed on to the end

HaveYouActuallyDoneAnyWashingThisWeekMum · 26/08/2025 13:45

Oh sorry @ArabellaScott you beat me to it!!!

Iwasphotoframed · 26/08/2025 13:43

Me me me me me me me

HaveYouActuallyDoneAnyWashingThisWeekMum · 26/08/2025 13:43

Periperi2025 · 26/08/2025 13:23

"Mad" an amalgamation of Mum and Dad and quite fitting for this numpty!

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Oh this is genius

Or

Dum

??

Beowulfa · 26/08/2025 13:43

Surely this cringe bloke has just killed being an enby stone dead for all teenagers?

BuntyBeaufort · 26/08/2025 13:43

ArabellaScott · 26/08/2025 13:24

Mad or Dum.

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This would doubly appropriate for these parents. She must be barking too to even contemplate sharing the same space as this self-obsessed numpty, let alone his sperm.

LeeshaPaper · 26/08/2025 13:40

What a fucking dickhead

AlexandraLeaving · 26/08/2025 13:39

Kucinghitam · 26/08/2025 13:31

In Chinese it specifically means male parent. But perhaps there are other languages where it has a wider meaning?

Or maybe all these TRSOHers are full of cultural-appropriative crap 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Thank you. Yes, it is mostly in Chinese contexts I have encountered it - always, as you say, for the male parent. Have also encountered it in some Middle Eastern families (Arabic mother tongue, but from a number of different countries) - again, always for the male parent.

MagpiePi · 26/08/2025 13:39

What are the odds that those poor babies will turn out to be non binary or trans?

I don’t know about wiring his brain up to the national grid, my eyeballs could have powered a small town reading that.

What an absolute embarrassment.

Sleepthief · 26/08/2025 13:35

ArabellaScott · 26/08/2025 13:24

Mad or Dum.

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‘Faddy’ or ‘the Fad’ could also work 🤔

ErrolTheDragon · 26/08/2025 13:34

Introducing myself through the intercom to an over-stretched neonatal nurse as anything other than ‘father’ or ‘daddy’ would have been impractical and wasted a lot of time and energy for all of us. So, I tabled my own feelings, and focused on doing what I could for my partner and twins.

good. Just continue acting like a proper grownup parent.

Im pretty sure one of the many court cases (iirc related to maternity rights) clarified that in U.K. law ‘mother’ is a sexed term, rather than ‘gendered’. Maybe Tom would be happier by accepting being the male parent and that ‘daddy’ is the appropriate sexed (not ‘gendered’ ) term?

beyond that, parents can choose what terms are used within their own families. Quite a few prefer their kids to call them by their given name.

Tootingbec · 26/08/2025 13:32

Well he’s got (at minimum) another 11 years of being call “so and so’s Dad” by all and sundry at nursery, school, GP practice etc so thoughts and prayers people, thoughts and prayers!

Tootingbec · 26/08/2025 13:31

Well he’s got (at minimum) another 11 years of being call “so and so’s Dad” by all and sundry at nursery, school, GP practice etc so thoughts and prayers people, thoughts and prayers!

Kucinghitam · 26/08/2025 13:31

AlexandraLeaving · 26/08/2025 13:25

But he also managed to get in that it was a gender-neutral title. Is it? I have only ever come across it used for describing a male parent.

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In Chinese it specifically means male parent. But perhaps there are other languages where it has a wider meaning?

Or maybe all these TRSOHers are full of cultural-appropriative crap 🤷🏻‍♀️

NPET · 26/08/2025 13:30

OMG.
Surely if he's "produced" children, he must be one or the other?

GCAcademic · 26/08/2025 13:30

ArabellaScott · 26/08/2025 13:24

Mad or Dum.

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Thummy or Thaddy?

Tontostitis · 26/08/2025 13:30

I just read that to my husband and he said good one I almost thought that was real. What a self centered tosser how could any woman fancy that idiot

GCAcademic · 26/08/2025 13:29

ErrolTheDragon · 26/08/2025 13:18

hm, not sure about that - surely you’ve not forgotten Freddy? (Writes for the guardian, had one of the failed genderist court cases iirc re wanting to be officially the father rather than the mother of their child).

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Yes, I had forgotten Freddy! And I don't think you deserve any thanks for reminding me about, erm, <insert mad pronoun here>!

AlexandraLeaving · 26/08/2025 13:25

Sussexswain · 26/08/2025 12:55

I thought this had to be satire when talked about calling himself Baba but decided not to as it would be cultural appropriation

But he also managed to get in that it was a gender-neutral title. Is it? I have only ever come across it used for describing a male parent.

ArabellaScott · 26/08/2025 13:24

Periperi2025 · 26/08/2025 13:23

"Mad" an amalgamation of Mum and Dad and quite fitting for this numpty!

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Mad or Dum.

AppleCrumbleAndIScream · 26/08/2025 13:24

The medical notes written today must be so confusing. Imagine having to write they/them which implies more that one, instead of he/him. They said this, they said that. Who said what - him or them? Batshit crazy bonkers.🤪

Periperi2025 · 26/08/2025 13:23

ItsFineReally · 26/08/2025 12:25

I wish that we as a society had already established gender-neutral parent words which everyone is aware of.

You mean, like 'parent'? Which you use quite happily throughout the article.

"Mad" an amalgamation of Mum and Dad and quite fitting for this numpty!

AnastasiaCrumpet · 26/08/2025 13:19

Shmoigel · 26/08/2025 13:17

Its getting a right old roasting here!

www.reddit.com/r/stupidpol/comments/1myp78a/im_a_nonbinary_parent_but_have_had_to_accept/

We could just plug his brain directly into the grid, powering entire cities with the energy this guy wastes silently contemplating how to be more sensitive with respect to issues of language, gender and race

Ouch!

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