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Who‘s coming to FiLIA?

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lanadelgrey · 23/08/2025 10:33

I‘m starting to get excited.
Are there plans for a MN meetup?

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Shinyredbicycle · 18/10/2025 08:50

Thanks. So no need to report to the Charity Commission - FiLiA already contacted them.

YouveGotNoBloodyIdea · 18/10/2025 08:47

N0Tfunny · 18/10/2025 08:46

The message that Nicole posted above was sent to all attendees this morning .

yes - mine came in just after 8am uk time.

N0Tfunny · 18/10/2025 08:46

The message that Nicole posted above was sent to all attendees this morning .

CrocsNotDocs · 18/10/2025 08:33

Nicole Lampert posts that Filia has reported itself to the Charity Commission.

https://x.com/nicolelampert/status/1979449142754607236?s=61

Letter to Nicole as per Nicole’s X Post

“Dear Nicole,
The FiLiA Trustees have been reflecting since our conference finished six days ago, listening to the many Women affected and looking after our team, who have worked exceptionally hard over the last two years in preparation for our largest and 10th conference. It is clear there are multiple perspectives and experiences and we want to start by acknowledging that this statement won’t satisfy everyone but we hope it reassures Women that we have listened, will continue to listen and are responding to the issues that occurred last weekend.
We are glad to have put on our 10th conference, despite the many setbacks that we experienced before it even began. We have received lots of positive feedback about the majority of the conference and we thank our volunteers, speakers, facilitators and attendees for their contributions and commitment to the weekend.
However, we are devastated by some of the events and issues that occurred, particularly that a place for building sisterhood and solidarity has ended up with Women, including within the FiLiA team, feeling so hurt. Our priority now is to understand what has happened, take responsibility for all that we need to, and put in place the changes needed to prevent these issues happening again. We have already started work in several areas, as set out below.
Reporting to the Charity Commission
We want to make it clear that FiLiA completely distances itself from religious fundamentalism and extremism in all its forms, including Hamas and support for Hamas, and we condemn all violence against Women, in all its forms, everywhere. We are firmly anti-racist and condemn all forms of racism (whether based on real or perceived race and/or religion), harassment, prejudice and discrimination. We acknowledge that we missed some very important elements of due diligence, and we take this extremely seriously. We have contacted the Charity Commission and, with their guidance, will be reviewing our processes, including our due diligence process to ensure all future speakers, stallholders and materials are in line with FiLiA’s mission, reflect FiLiA’s values and are within the law.
Commissioning an independent investigation into our security and safeguarding processes
We are aware of the upset and anger caused by multiple issues at the Saturday nightparty.
The safety of attendees was our priority and this was central to our decision-making processes in assessing and addressing risk over the rest of the conference. We would like to invite anyone who wants to share their experience regarding specific behaviour towards them to please contact us by email to [email protected]. We are commissioning an independent, internal investigation into our security and safeguarding processes, plan and implementation for the Saturday night party. We are committed to learning and putting in place the changes required.
Convening a series of meetings to listen to Women and feminist organisations
FiLiA works with our speakers to agree on the framing of their topic of discussion within FiLiA’s existing stances and values. In most topics, our speakers are the experts but we try to ensure they understand FiLiA’s positions and trust them to deliver in line with those. We will be reviewing our communications and agreements with speakers and ensuring that everyone involved will come to FiLiA in the spirit of sisterhood and solidarity.
We recognise that underlying tensions were inflamed at the conference and have played out beyond it, and we apologise for our lack of foresight and preparation for this. We condemn the vile racist and misogynistic abuse that women have faced for speaking out.
FiLiA wants the spaces we create to be places where Women with differing opinions and beliefs can come together, learn from each other, disagree respectfully and unite in our shared vision of Women's liberation, everywhere. FiLiA is a place where Women come first, where Women are the priority.
We must stand up for all Women who are subjugated by men, in all the ways that they are, irrespective of geography, religion or ideology.
It is clear that some Women didn’t and don’t feel heard by and at FiLiA. We will be reaching out to Women and feminist organisations to actively listen to their perspectives, to learn lessons and guide the changes we need to make. It is our hope that we will be able to open dialogue between those with different views and forge a way forward for FiLiA that those committed to Women’s liberation can support.
Next steps
For the last 13 years, FiLiA has provided a space for Women all over the world to gather, learn and discuss. We are proud of the work we have done to amplify voices, particularly those less often heard, highlight new topics and challenge viewpoints respectfully, share campaigns and build solidarity – all to advance the global Women’s liberation movement.
Many Women have told us that it was an incredible conference – learning about campaigns and issues that were unknown to them, making new connections and revisiting old ones, and being part of a movement for change. We are extremely grateful and heartened to read these messages and hear these stories, and they have sustained us at an incredibly difficult time.
We are proud of the many successes achieved together with our sisters, but we also know this is a moment to pause, listen, reflect, review, and learn.
We have work to do, relationships to build and strengthen, and processes to fix. We are going to take the time and focus now to do that work carefully and well, to enable us to be stronger, clearer and more accountable as an organisation. This will mean that we are better able to deliver on our mission to build sisterhood and solidarity, defend Women’s human rights and amplify the voices of Women across the world, and contribute to building a Women’s liberation movement.
We will provide updates on the relevant outcomes of the investigations and other work if and when we are able to do so.
Thank you to those who came to FiLiA in the spirit of sisterhood and solidarity and for your continued support.
Sisterhood and Solidarity,”

Nicole Lampert (@nicolelampert) on X

For all those following the @FiLiA_charity row: the charity says it has referred itself to the Charity Commission for inviting literal Hamas fans to speak. It has promised to properly vet speakers in the future. It has also announced an investigation...

https://x.com/nicolelampert/status/1979449142754607236?s=61

Shinyredbicycle · 18/10/2025 08:26

UrsulasHerbBag I can't find the statement to disrupt. On the org's twitter account, I can see all the 'we're really excited to be coming to FiLiA'posts, and the statement from the editorial team saying that individual accounts are not speaking for the organisation, amongst all the anti-Zionist/Dworkin/Maoist/Marxist politics.

The 'I love Hamas' tweets I've seen being circulated were posted by an individual from the editorial team in October 2023. I can't find any more recently, though it may be that they're in replies or I've missed them.

Would you mind if I DMed you?

Shinyredbicycle · 18/10/2025 07:37

Thanks for that UrsulasHerbBag. I'd only glanced at their Twitter page post FiLiA - I'll take a look.

UrsulasHerbBag · 17/10/2025 21:59

@Shinyredbicycle i am keeping in mind our broad church where we do our hugs. Unfortunately what you said to whatwouldafeministdo isn’t true. Those women had posted in the week preceding the event that they were there to disrupt. They haven’t deleted. They have put out a full statement explaining their intentions. They have spent the last few days engaging and eschewing their Marxist/maoist (not joking) views. Unfortunately they have also publicised their connection with Lisa and that she personally invited them specifically “because of their pro hamas views”. Quote marks are because this is what they are saying. They might well be agitating because one of their aims is to bring FiLiA to their own views. They have caused more damage to FiLiA than any push and shove at a disco and unfortunately there is a case (which several Jewish women have raised) for the charity commission to look into. How shit is that. Here’s my hand raising you up, don’t just bite it but kick me when I’m down.

Shinyredbicycle · 17/10/2025 21:31

Right back at you, UrsulasHerbBag. The mindless tribalism that SM spawns is so harmful to us all, especially during difficult times.

I'm just sure that I should be congratulated about the amount of FiLiA-related content I've read this week tbh (!), but I'm pretty invested in continuing yo build a feminist movement. Whether that can be a broad tent, I'm not sure, but definitely talking to each other is the way forward.

whatwouldafeministdo, unsurprisingly, what actually happened seems to have been a bit less sensational than accounts that are circulating online. The group mentioned, or one representative of it, only started tweeting about loving Hamas online after being called Jew-haters and loads of people sharing images of the woman at the stall and a few pages from the Maoist anti-Zionist pamphlets they had on their stall. It was nasty stuff but I don't get the sense that anyone other than Feminist Dissent actually spoke to her.

The woman apologised the next day and said that FiLiA doesn't share all their views.

I don't believe that FiLiA knew what was in those pamphlets, and I do think they will address them with the group.

UrsulasHerbBag · 17/10/2025 20:55

@Shinyredbicycle please can I send you a cuddle through the ether? Urrgh unmumsnetty hugs even on FWR. I have honestly felt your genuine love and support for FiLiA and heard your discussion of your experiences. You have still taken the time to read both sub stacks and critique them honestly. Let’s do more of this! FiLiA need to come out now and say ok, things got rough, statement incoming but the lot of you are bloody well welcome! Some of us feel like we aren’t worthy or good enough! Just you reading both makes me feel like things can be overcome. Shall we start by saying we want a big broad tent to cover us all? I think we could start a good conversation just by the fact you took the time to read both, that means to me that lots of women are just like you, they might be cross an hurt by what’s happened but minds are open. Thank you.

whatwouldafeministdo · 17/10/2025 20:23

Goodness, is it true that a group openly supporting Hamas had their travel and accommodation paid for by Filia and were explicitly told they were allowed to state their views at the event?

It seems a bit much to accept registration fees from Jewish women if so, and to not let them know that fact before they decide to pay money to attend.

inkognitha · 17/10/2025 20:04

JH's blog
https://jeanhatchet.substack.com/p/filia-2025

Nothing from JCJ on X, seems the notion was too radical last weekend.

Aja should receive apologies/explanations from MH and Filia. She is the one I feel most sorry for, it really seems all she did was to start a conga.

But all the others (on both sides)? Not their finest hour.

Filia 2025

if you weren't banned were you really there at all?

https://jeanhatchet.substack.com/p/filia-2025

Talkinpeace · 17/10/2025 20:04

@whatwouldafeministdo
Please do not credit Trump with anything. The man does not read.
The cynics who really run the White House drove all of this.

If I'd jumped on the stage with a Stars and Stripes I'd have lasted seconds.
Milli is right that Filia need to professionalise.

Talkinpeace · 17/10/2025 20:00

I have met and spoken to all of them.

I know which one I'd go for a drink with.

whatwouldafeministdo · 17/10/2025 19:53

To be clear I do not know Aja at all personally but I have only seen positive actions from her. And sometimes she just hits the nail on the head like no-one else.

One of the tweets from Aja I think is great and that I use to peak people is this. It's about safeguarding instinct and the desire of many men and women to get particularly working class women and girls, who are more at risk generally, to talk themselves out of it.

https://x.com/AjaTheEmpress/status/1727745772970471686

A lot of the criticism of Aja does seem to be racism and classism. Not behaving as someone like her is supposed to. Insufficient tugging of forelocks perhaps? Good for her.

Talkinpeace · 17/10/2025 19:39

JCJ and JH love to pick fights

Aja is an utter sweetie who protects other women.

Milli needs to give her head a wobble.

whatwouldafeministdo · 17/10/2025 19:38

However, Milli was spot on about boundaries. Filia could have avoided a lot of the problems by stating that both Palestinian and Jewish women have suffered violence that is to be condemned and that the conference was not about the Israel / Palestine war and anyone who wanted to undertake activism about the war should do it elsewhere.

Interestingly, Trump appears to have done what many said could not be done (and lots of chanting and waving of flags hasn't achieved) and got the first step in a peace process underway. Funny how the activists aren't celebrating that. Almost as if the violence against women happening as a result of the war is less important than left and right wing politics.

Shinyredbicycle · 17/10/2025 19:35

That's a pretty disgraceful piece from Milli Hill imvho. The what appears to be racism and classism towards Aja, the me, me, me when there was shit, shit, shit going down for lots of people. Posting stills is completely out of order - aside from consent issues, stills are carefully curated to show what the editor wants them.

Neither Jean Hatchet nor Milli Hill have covered themselves in glory. JH shoved someone in an attempt to snatch her flag and Milli drops this about an organisation that have platformed her multiple times a couple of days afterwards.

For balance, the piece that JH has published holds no higher moral ground.

whatwouldafeministdo · 17/10/2025 19:34

RoyalCorgi · 17/10/2025 18:51

Don't know if this has already been shared, but Milli Hill has taken the paywall off her blogpost about FiLiA:

https://millihill.substack.com/p/my-thoughts-on-filia-2025

Still not completely clear what happened (I have read competing accounts) but the screen grabs show a very angry-looking Jean Hatchet.

A lot of this blog is reasonable. However, she totally lost me in naming and attempting, seemingly, to 'shame' Aja. Even by her own description, Aja did absolutely nothing wrong, Milli's NEVER EVEN MET HER and yet Milli still claims to fear her and then disingenuously waves it away as 'maybe just paranoia'. If you really think that it's paranoia and with no basis in truth why on earth would you write her name down on a blog, that's really unfair and manipulative.

Also, she lost me when she said that KJK, Birdie Rose and Aja are right wing because they've been at the same events as those who are 'right wing' which also seemed to be behind her irrational fear of Aja.

Right wing women (which none of these women are AFAIK) are women and human beings too. With women's rights and human rights. It's not very feminist to paint right wing women as monsters.

A lot of women with left wing leanings seem quite angry that Aja, a black lesbian woman, has some middle ground or right wing views, or views which most working class people hold, which - in a democratic society not a totalitarian state - she is free to hold.

I feel really sorry for Aja after reading this. Totally unfair.

UrsulasHerbBag · 17/10/2025 19:28

The week before their social media posts were about taking out the Zionist arm. This is why lots of us are at a loss as to why FiLiA haven’t made any kind of statement.

UrsulasHerbBag · 17/10/2025 19:27

Their statement is plastered everywhere. Including the bit where the CEO from FiLiA knew our politics and invited us because of it. These are not my words. These are direct from the women invited, platformed and if we believe them, paid for by FiLiA.

UrsulasHerbBag · 17/10/2025 19:24

@Thingybob yes.

Thingybob · 17/10/2025 19:19

and she wasn’t on her social media as a paid speaker, paid for and invited, threatening to destroy FiLiA

Did one of the young women from the states do that?

UrsulasHerbBag · 17/10/2025 19:02

No it isn’t completely clear. I know Jean hatchett is the big bad wolf in this but can we take a moment to remember what she’s done and what she’s been through? Jean is basically a hand grenade and she went for it in a disco. She wasn’t handing out anti Zionist pamphlets and she wasn’t on her social media as a paid speaker, paid for and invited, threatening to destroy FiLiA. Let’s all remember that.

RoyalCorgi · 17/10/2025 18:51

Don't know if this has already been shared, but Milli Hill has taken the paywall off her blogpost about FiLiA:

https://millihill.substack.com/p/my-thoughts-on-filia-2025

Still not completely clear what happened (I have read competing accounts) but the screen grabs show a very angry-looking Jean Hatchet.

My thoughts on FiLiA 2025

Who gains if we lose a Feminist event?

https://millihill.substack.com/p/my-thoughts-on-filia-2025

UrsulasHerbBag · 17/10/2025 18:22

I wanted to share that because I feel like I have been on a downer against FiLiA. I’m so not! I just want a place for us all to meet and feel we belong.