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Richard Coles embarrassing himself

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LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 17/08/2025 18:08

Why do these mediocre men need to keep speaking? You’d think this was written by a 12 year old, who uses the word ‘baddie’ ffs? 🤦‍♀️ It’s so full of virtue signalling, ‘look at me with all these young people showing them how cool I am’ it’s absolutely tragic.

Richard Coles embarrassing himself
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theilltemperedmaggotintheheartofthelaw · 17/08/2025 20:36

I just found out it was him who accidentally shopped his creepy brother, with a throwaway line in his autobiography. What a colourful life!

AlexandraLeaving · 17/08/2025 20:20

SadSadTimes · 17/08/2025 20:02

Ugh. He is a smug git

Different strokes for different folks. At least we won’t fight over him. 😜

CurlewKate · 17/08/2025 20:15

theilltemperedmaggotintheheartofthelaw · 17/08/2025 20:10

Richard Coles turns out to be Marmite. I did not see that coming.

I know! Maybe people haven’t heard him being quite tough mon social issues.

DuchessofReality · 17/08/2025 20:15

When I last read the comments on the article (sometime yesterday when I first saw it) the vast majority were choosing to comment on the piece in support of JKR. So that is good. I agree with those who think what he is meaning to say is that the young people think JKR is wrong in her views and that he disagrees with that.

theilltemperedmaggotintheheartofthelaw · 17/08/2025 20:10

Richard Coles turns out to be Marmite. I did not see that coming.

LastKnownSurvivor · 17/08/2025 20:10

CurlewKate · 17/08/2025 20:00

He’s also in a relationship with Richard Cant, son of Brian, for the older members of the group.

P L A Y, playaway, play, play away ...😆

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 17/08/2025 20:04

He tweeted about the podcast the witch trials of JK Rowling saying it was thoughtful and informative (or something like that). My favorite response was "No T vicar?" It made me chuckle.
I think he's just pointing out that differences don't need to be divisions.

SadSadTimes · 17/08/2025 20:02

AlexandraLeaving · 17/08/2025 19:27

I am hoping you are right. He is one of my favourites, and has been for 40 years.

Ugh. He is a smug git

CurlewKate · 17/08/2025 20:00

He’s also in a relationship with Richard Cant, son of Brian, for the older members of the group.

CurlewKate · 17/08/2025 19:57

theilltemperedmaggotintheheartofthelaw · 17/08/2025 19:40

What's weirder is that no-one would ever have known (apart from the friends involved at the time) if he hadn't revealed it in his autobiography. I would have been too mortified.

He talked a lot about his life, his mental health and his addictions. I thought it was honest and impressive. And his book about grief is also worth a read. His novels-less so, although they are quite pleasant to listen to while doing mindless housework. I think he is generally a good egg.

LastKnownSurvivor · 17/08/2025 19:56

A quick Google suggests Richard Coles likes JKR, so I think this is just a difference he's citing, alongside the film crew liking different music and drinking cans of pop (whereas presumably his generation would have been on the booze).

KatyPerimenopause · 17/08/2025 19:53

He's filming his sailing show, to be shown on more 4. He's just bigging up his crew there on Instagram, and pointing out that despite being old enough to be some of the crew's grandad that they get on regardless of the age gap.
He doesn't realise that baddie can mean badass for some. He uses the conjunction but which shows the disconnect between liking someone's work but not the artist...but nor does he say which side of the debate he falls (I would imagine live and let live tbh).
He's a pleasant enough chap and he did not have to include the hiv lie in his memoir. He lied about his status and says perhaps he was attention-seeking or that there was almost a glamour there. But in other interviews, he has spoken of being terrified and abstaining at the time, well before he became a priest.
I did a lot of research into hiv attitudes a few years ago (before It's A Sin) and whilst I do not condone the lie, I can understand it to a certain extent - it fits in with some of the interviews and work I read from others: so many men were being cut off in their prime that some men were reckless almost - in a I'm going to get this anyway so I may as well bareback/others were so hurt from the gay plague demonisation they were promiscuous/carpe diem, then there were those where their hiv status meant they were a tribe/in it together/activists fighting. Finally, you had some men who wanted to catch it illogically, out of survivors' guilt.
Richard may have had his own motives, one of his friends did not speak to him for a year over it, but humans are complex. Perhaps it was to still feel connected to those on the scene, who were positive, perhaps it was because he had lost lovers and felt guilty that he was negative, perhaps he wanted to make sure potential hook ups would use condoms. There could be a myriad of reasons.
I'm not going to judge him for something from three decades ago. His husband was an alcoholic and died from his addiction. Richard then received hate mail saying his partner's death was deserved, because they were gay.
He's been through enough. Leave him alone.

Frankenpug23 · 17/08/2025 19:47

Whats the issue? He is stating some facts about the people he is working with?

Dontbeme · 17/08/2025 19:44

Yep JKR is a baddie

https://www.merriam-webster.com/slang/baddie

theilltemperedmaggotintheheartofthelaw · 17/08/2025 19:40

PistachioTiramisuLimoncello · 17/08/2025 19:27

wtf

What's weirder is that no-one would ever have known (apart from the friends involved at the time) if he hadn't revealed it in his autobiography. I would have been too mortified.

Jumpthewaves · 17/08/2025 19:28

GoldThumb · 17/08/2025 19:27

lol, I was going to say baddie doesn’t mean what he thinks it does anymore!

It does in my house!😂

GoldThumb · 17/08/2025 19:27

AtomicBlondeRose · 17/08/2025 18:28

Baddie is a compliment in gen z slang!

lol, I was going to say baddie doesn’t mean what he thinks it does anymore!

PistachioTiramisuLimoncello · 17/08/2025 19:27

nauticant · 17/08/2025 18:29

During the AIDS crisis Richard Coles for some reason decided to pretend to be HIV positive.

wtf

AlexandraLeaving · 17/08/2025 19:27

LittleBitofBread · 17/08/2025 18:30

If anything I’m hearing a little bit of shade towards his younger companions; the word ‘baddie’ is quite childish and maybe implies that he thinks hating JKR for her views on women’s rights is itself childish and/or simplistic.

I am hoping you are right. He is one of my favourites, and has been for 40 years.

JacknDiane · 17/08/2025 19:25

I don't get the vitriol against him.

Theswiveleyeballsinthesky · 17/08/2025 19:24

CurlewKate · 17/08/2025 19:17

Can’t see the problem, frankly.

He’s talking about being with a group of young people who are part of the crew making a film out of his book and the difference in their experience. Explain what’s wrong with it, someone?

🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

theilltemperedmaggotintheheartofthelaw · 17/08/2025 19:21

CurlewKate · 17/08/2025 19:17

Can’t see the problem, frankly.

He’s talking about being with a group of young people who are part of the crew making a film out of his book and the difference in their experience. Explain what’s wrong with it, someone?

The prose is a little pedestrian - it's like the X equivalent of sending a postcard. I'm unable to deduce any of his opinions from it, so don't understand the virtue signalling reference.

KilkennyCats · 17/08/2025 19:18

LittleBitofBread · 17/08/2025 19:17

The issue here is middle aged women not knowing how the term ‘baddie’ is used these days
He says they know/like Harry Potter but think JKR is a baddie. ‘but’ is the operative word here. He’s using it in the sense most people on this thread have understood it.

Ah…

LittleBitofBread · 17/08/2025 19:17

HeronandChips · 17/08/2025 19:03

The issue here is middle aged women not knowing how the term ‘baddie’ is used these days 🤣

I like Richard. Seems like a nice chap. I probably wouldn’t waste time pulling this apart

The issue here is middle aged women not knowing how the term ‘baddie’ is used these days
He says they know/like Harry Potter but think JKR is a baddie. ‘but’ is the operative word here. He’s using it in the sense most people on this thread have understood it.

CurlewKate · 17/08/2025 19:17

Can’t see the problem, frankly.

He’s talking about being with a group of young people who are part of the crew making a film out of his book and the difference in their experience. Explain what’s wrong with it, someone?