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Richard Coles embarrassing himself

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LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 17/08/2025 18:08

Why do these mediocre men need to keep speaking? You’d think this was written by a 12 year old, who uses the word ‘baddie’ ffs? 🤦‍♀️ It’s so full of virtue signalling, ‘look at me with all these young people showing them how cool I am’ it’s absolutely tragic.

Richard Coles embarrassing himself
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Lins77 · 21/08/2025 13:07

My daughter uses "baddie" to mean "attractive young man" 😄

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LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 20/08/2025 16:36

ArabellaScott · 20/08/2025 14:30

He what, now?

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Yep, he pretended for years to have AIDS for attention apparently. He said even though he knew many people that had died from it, pretending he had it gave him ‘a weird glamour’. I just don’t know how sick you have to be to do that, it’s reprehensible.

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zanahoria · 20/08/2025 15:52

ArabellaScott · 20/08/2025 14:35

Oh, right. The one nobody remembers from the Communards. As you were.

The geeky one behind the keyboards in an 80s synth pop duo.

I wonder what Chris from the Pet Shop Boys or Dave from Soft Cell thinks of all this

Nitgel · 20/08/2025 14:49

he was a bore on saturday morning radio 4. i was glad they took him off, waffling on and on. likes the sound of his own voice.

ArabellaScott · 20/08/2025 14:35

Oh, right. The one nobody remembers from the Communards. As you were.

ArabellaScott · 20/08/2025 14:31

CurlewKate · 18/08/2025 10:32

You’re a little late to the party!

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I'm even later, I'm going to have to start from the very beginning.

Who the fuck is Richard Coles?

ArabellaScott · 20/08/2025 14:30

nauticant · 17/08/2025 18:29

During the AIDS crisis Richard Coles for some reason decided to pretend to be HIV positive.

He what, now?

brewshaw · 20/08/2025 14:09

Total cringe, he doesn't give a fuck about women.

zanahoria · 20/08/2025 01:23

Perhaps Jesus cured his HiV

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 18/08/2025 11:12

You’re a little late to the party!

I know!! 🤯

Pleasantsort · 18/08/2025 10:58

nauticant · 17/08/2025 18:29

During the AIDS crisis Richard Coles for some reason decided to pretend to be HIV positive.

Yep, totally remember reading that! I think Jimmy Sommerville fell out with him for lying about that as they had both lost mutual friends. What a thing to lie about !

derxa · 18/08/2025 10:33

CurlewKate · 17/08/2025 20:00

He’s also in a relationship with Richard Cant, son of Brian, for the older members of the group.

I looked him up and discovered he played Elizabeth Sprigg’s son in an episode of Midsomer Murder. They were hilarious in a very sinister way.

CurlewKate · 18/08/2025 10:32

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 18/08/2025 10:25

Just found out this about Richard Coles this morning. 🤯🤯 Don't think he has any right to be calling others "baddies".

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/reverend-richard-coles-hiv-aids-b2562557.html

You’re a little late to the party!

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 18/08/2025 10:25

Just found out this about Richard Coles this morning. 🤯🤯 Don't think he has any right to be calling others "baddies".

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/reverend-richard-coles-hiv-aids-b2562557.html

HappyNewTaxYear · 18/08/2025 10:21

HeronandChips · 17/08/2025 19:03

The issue here is middle aged women not knowing how the term ‘baddie’ is used these days 🤣

I like Richard. Seems like a nice chap. I probably wouldn’t waste time pulling this apart

I doubt that Richard Coles has any more idea than ‘middle-aged women’ (do I detect a note of derision?) of what ‘baddie’ means.

He’s just another self-serving gay man who doesn’t give a shit about women.

Cynic17 · 18/08/2025 10:06

I like Richard Coles - he's an interesting speaker and writer. Read his first autobiography and it is fascinating about the move from 80s pop star to CofE priest.
His book about bereavement is also worth a read - life with David wasn't easy.
I miss him on Saturday Live.
I don't necessarily agree with every view he holds, but that's fine because I don't agree with cancelling people just because I may not like everything they say.
He is absolutely not responsible for the behaviour or actions of his brother.

hihelenhi · 18/08/2025 09:55

Menopausalsourpuss · 17/08/2025 21:49

This is all kinds of wrong. For a start gay men weren't treated badly durng the 80s (I was there). You sound like you get your "facts" from BBC dramas. And most people see JKR as able to tell truth to power because she is so rich that she can't be cancelled unlike other more lowly women. I have seen her being rude to India willoughby on X but he is pretty nasty himself to women like KJK. So horses for courses.

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To be fair, a great many gay men WERE treated very badly in the 80s, esp outside of big cities, I was also there at the time.Marching against Section 28, and on Pride alongside gay freiends when it was an actual protest march.

But "trans" is not the new gay rights. And for many of us who remember the way that the deeply conservative middle aged "trans" people (who weren't called that then, there were transsexuals and transvestites) spoke about gay people at the time, well, let's just say, "trans' had WAY more in common with the "far right" and Christians than so-called "terfs" ever did.

Edit: And Willoughby is a classic example. What a 70s throwback. It's like he never got past the Bernard Manning sentiments and doesn't realise society has moved on. Racist, homophobic, misogynistic, he's got it all. Not to mention the delusions...

hihelenhi · 18/08/2025 09:44

Tunnocksmallow · 17/08/2025 21:28

Aww, thanks for that.
Why answer in such a fired up way? What I wrote in my post didn’t really deserve such vitriol.

You seem to have a lot of anger/derision towards people that don’t follow your view/opinion, and the views of JKR. Are you ok?

Im asking because yes, I find her views hateful. She sends out dog whistles so people pile on those she doesn’t like. She walks that very very fine line of saying just the right things so people pick up exactly what she is putting down.
And she is loving watching all her minions getting stirred up every time she puts her finger on a keyboard. She just sits back and watches, laughing. She could not give less of a shit about women’s rights.
in 40 years we will look back, horrified at how we treated other humans just for being different and be ashamed at the suffering we caused. Exactly how we look back now at how people treated gay men during the AIDS crisis.

But honestly, you don’t need to punch low about ethics and intelligence if someone says something about your Queen; because that says more about you than me.

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Because what you said about her being a "hateful woman" in such a throwaway way was absolutely vile. Can you honestly not understand how it comes across? There's been years of it. Other people have every right to comment on your sentiments however they wish. I really don't care what you think of my tone. The woman has been sent multiple death and rape threats, as have other women and has been lied about constantly. It is absolutely unhinged. And it is fed by people who lazily believe anything they've been told and are happy to enable the dysfunction.

And thanks, but I'm not a "minion." I don't have a "leader". There are multiple women who've been bullied and hounded because of this rubbish and because of lazy groupthink. Women who've lost their livelihoods, had their mental health destroyed. It's disgusting and those who continue to enable it are not good people. And too bloody right they make me angry.

Sux2buthen · 18/08/2025 09:16

Doesn’t agree with you, must be male 😂struggling to find your wit today.
I hope you find something more fulfilling to do with your life than trying to invent indignance over an innocuous post from a man living his life. Good luck, you’ve got this 💪🏻 I believe in you

Currently waiting to leave for holiday, hope your week improves

rurbane · 18/08/2025 09:14

I read it as 'We're all different, we live in such turbulent times that even young people are conflicted, but we can all get along.'

I'm gender critical with young adult children. On this, I agree with him.

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LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 18/08/2025 08:57

Sux2buthen · 18/08/2025 08:23

@LadyBracknellsHandbaggoh hush your gums

Another drive by male scold, surely you have ‘something better to do’ 😂

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Violetparis · 18/08/2025 08:31

Can't stand him, smug, twee and creepy.

Sux2buthen · 18/08/2025 08:23

@LadyBracknellsHandbaggoh hush your gums

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LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 18/08/2025 07:41

Waitwhat23 · 17/08/2025 21:53

She could not give less of a shit about women’s rights

'In Scotland, Multiple Sclerosis (MS) is more prevalent in women than men, with a national female-to-male ratio of 2.3:1. Scotland also has one of the highest rates of MS diagnoses in the world'. JKR funds Scotland to be a world leader in MS research -

https://clinical-brain-sciences.ed.ac.uk/news-archive-2014-2021/news-jul-dec-2019/jk-rowling-donates-further-ps15m-multiple-sclerosis

Funds the only single sex rape crisis service in Edinburgh and the Lothians (totally. Down to the teabags)

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-edinburgh-east-fife-63943766.amp

Helped to fund a rescue mission to get women lawyers out of Afghanistan -

https://www.sundaypost.com/fp/harry-potter-author-jk-rowling-helped-afghan-lawyers-flee-the-taliban/

And there's Volent - https://volanttrust.org/
'Helping to alleviate social deprivation primarily across Scotland, particularly supporting women, children and young people at risk.'
And Lumos -

https://www.wearelumos.org/

'We shed light on the root causes of family separation – poverty, conflict and discrimination. We press and support governments to reform care systems and show how children can be safely united with families.'

But yeah, because she supports women's legal right to single sex services (as per the EQA2010), she's the devil.

I'm not rolling my eyes, honestly...

There’s no point in telling people what JKR has achieved in terms of women’s rights, they’re not interested unless it centres men. They’re much happier to comment on threads telling women who understand the material reality of biological sex that we ‘have too much time on our hands’ or ‘it’s just middle aged women frothing’ or ‘you should find something better to do’, all very male and patronising and predictable, and something that we’ve heard a million times before, so they’re not even original.

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Shedmistress · 18/08/2025 07:40

Tunnocksmallow · 17/08/2025 21:28

Aww, thanks for that.
Why answer in such a fired up way? What I wrote in my post didn’t really deserve such vitriol.

You seem to have a lot of anger/derision towards people that don’t follow your view/opinion, and the views of JKR. Are you ok?

Im asking because yes, I find her views hateful. She sends out dog whistles so people pile on those she doesn’t like. She walks that very very fine line of saying just the right things so people pick up exactly what she is putting down.
And she is loving watching all her minions getting stirred up every time she puts her finger on a keyboard. She just sits back and watches, laughing. She could not give less of a shit about women’s rights.
in 40 years we will look back, horrified at how we treated other humans just for being different and be ashamed at the suffering we caused. Exactly how we look back now at how people treated gay men during the AIDS crisis.

But honestly, you don’t need to punch low about ethics and intelligence if someone says something about your Queen; because that says more about you than me.

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Im asking because yes, I find her views hateful

Which views are hateful?

Anyway I saw this and wondered why he even mentioned her at all if not to rage bait for clicks. There was literally no other reason for it.