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Prolapse OP denied whilst men are given plastic surgery for a mental illness

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Typicalwave · 08/08/2025 17:02

I’m 50. My bladder is hanging at my vaginal entrance. I can barely function. And I’m told my symptoms of extreme discomfort, Bach ache, bag ache, tingling, urinary incontinence, urgency, and no relief from needing the loo cant possibly be to do with the entire entrance of my vagina being blocked by a bulge frok my bladder. I can’t work, I can’t reliably walk my dog, I can’t even spend an hour cleaning without paying the price. Meanwhile mentally ill men are having HRT, and bottom surgery because they ‘feel’ uncomfortable.

Im fucking raging.

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Typicalwave · 08/08/2025 17:58

anyolddinosaur · 08/08/2025 17:46

Are you on a waiting list? If not paying for a private consultation may be worth the probably £300 or so it will cost you. They may offer to fit a vaginal pessary - has anyone discussed this with you? https://www.mkuh.nhs.uk/patient-information-leaflet/vaginal-pessary-for-prolapse-2

No. I’m not on a waiting list. NHS female consultant told me my symptoms are nothing to do with a ‘barely grade 1’ bladder prolapse (that is conpletely blocking my vagina just 1 bare finfer tip deep’ and do I’m not even a candidate for a prssary.

Im
on day 2 of feeling like I’m at yhd pushing stage of labour, Cobstantly needing yhd loo, the loo brings no relief, pain. And all of this happens every single time I far to be up on my feet for any length of time.

Waiting list is verboten for me. I’ve been told to go away and ask my Gp to explore other ‘conditions’

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anyolddinosaur · 08/08/2025 17:46

Are you on a waiting list? If not paying for a private consultation may be worth the probably £300 or so it will cost you. They may offer to fit a vaginal pessary - has anyone discussed this with you? https://www.mkuh.nhs.uk/patient-information-leaflet/vaginal-pessary-for-prolapse-2

OuterSpaceCadet · 08/08/2025 17:20

I'm raging for you OP.

It is disgustingly unfair.

Helleofabore · 08/08/2025 17:15

I am sorry to hear this OP.

Is there someone who can help you to advocate for your immediate needs?

Gettingbysomehow · 08/08/2025 17:12

You should be able to find the criteria for your op on your local ICB website OP. If it's not on there ring the integrated care board in your area and find out if they do special funding for it and if not whereabouts in the country it is available. I've managed to get several operations for my podiatry patients this way. One of them got the op 300 miles away and said the drive was worth it.
I agree though, why is this not a priority over an operation that is not only not a priority but damaging and unnecessary.

lcakethereforeIam · 08/08/2025 17:04

YANBU

I'm so sorry Flowers