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I have a DSD and am fed up.

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DSDFury · 27/07/2025 13:34

A DSD (Disorder/Difference of Sexual Development) is a congenital medical condition, usually resulting in sterility, as it does in my case. Broadly, it means there is chromosomal or other genetic anomaly which has resulted in the foetus not developing along typical lines for a male or female. Not all the resulting abnormalities are external, and we are certainly not hermaphrodites.

I am sick to death of DSDs being co-opted by the trans movement as "proof" that sex isn't binary. I am not some weird third sex, I am not part of a spectrum, and I don't feel the need to tell everyone about my condition.

I am sick to death of DSDs being misrepresented as an identity (looking at you, Fife NHS). It comes with some shitty elements such as infertility, but that is just one of many, many things that makes me who I am. I am a very ordinary middle-aged woman who shops in M&S and doesn't have blue hair.

I don't want to be in the sodding rainbow, I don't want to be on a flag and I absolutely don't want to be seen as synonymous with trans (looking at you, Women's Institute).

To (possibly) coin a phrase, I have "gender euphoria". I have never doubted for a second that I am female and I was delighted to finally go through puberty once I had been diagnosed. I don't believe that my spirit has been fortuitously put in the correct body or any such nonsense; I am female because I embody a body which has a womb and a vagina rather than a penis and testicles. I look, and sound, entirely female in every respect.

I do want our existence to be acknowledged, as in certain situations (mainly medical, but some legal) it is important to recognise this group of conditions. However I think conflating us with trans hinders this far, far more than helps, as it obfuscates the issue.

I am not particularly concerned about the implications of the Supreme Court ruling, certainly don't regard it as genocide (ridiculous hyperbole) and think it would have been insane for it to go any other way, although I fervently hope that anyone in charge of policy has sufficient knowledge of these conditions to be aware that there will be people whose chromosomes do not match their phenotype/appearance because of a medical condition rather than because they are trans.

People on the Feminism board seem to be extremely knowledgeable, but I bet a sizeable sector of the general population would be surprised by more than one thing I have written,

Thank you for reading.

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DSDFury · 01/08/2025 11:59

melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 11:47

Not everyone with a DSD being argued as biologically female has a uterus and a vagina. Those with CAIS don't have a uterus for example and their vagina is a blind pouch, requiring dialators. Would all those who have a DSD that requires HRT to induce puberty have an outwardly female phenotype without it? Probably not.

We all have different opinions on it hence it being discussed. You can't just say no one should discuss DSDs and accept your opinion that those with XY chromosomes should be called biologically female just because you consider yourself one and we can't comment our opinion because you don't want to disclose your particular DSD (fine!)

Ok, a vulva then. HRT doesn't create those either as far as I'm aware.

I didn't say DSDs should not be discussed. Again with the misrepresentation. I said I didn't want them used as proof that sex is a spectrum, I didn't want them represented as an identity and for that reason I don't want to be part of LGBTQ+.

If a particular DSD gives someone with a female phenotype (and probably therefore a female identity) a sporting advantage I completely agree that that would need careful consideration. But a Y chromosome in and of itself does not.

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melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 11:56

@DSDFury @ThatCyanCat I get the analogy but are you saying there is absolutely no difference between those with DSDs you want to class as biological females and those without a DSD that are biological female? There's nothing different in their physiology, life experiences, needs etc? There's absolutely no reason for them to be defined differently at all?

You can say the yeast isn't doing a thing in that analogy, but it doesn't mean it's irrelevant to the definition of what kind of bread it is.

ThatCyanCat · 01/08/2025 11:52

DSDFury · 01/08/2025 10:43

Another one so fed up of talking about DSDs so why click on a thread about them?

You seem to have a tendency of subtly misrepresenting people so it's not immediately obvious, just enough to wrong-foot someone and/or to make an argument. Like your claim that I said everyone on the forum was very knowledgeable about DSDs when I actually said people on the Feminism board were knowledgeable about trans issues.

The poster you're referring to said they were fed up of DSDs being used in the trans debate, not that she was fed up talking about them. Not the same thing.

You seem to have a tendency of subtly misrepresenting people so it's not immediately obvious,

Nothing subtle about it, just straight up misrepresentation and dishonesty to a very clear agenda. They always think they're being clever and they never are. The entire argument is based on misrepresentation, obfuscation and dishonesty so there is nowhere else to go.

Your baking analogy is very good, clear, accurate and easy to understand. Don't be surprised by the response it'll get.

melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 11:51

OldCrone · 01/08/2025 11:36

If nothing is outing on an anonymous forum, why don't you just post lots of personal information about yourself? Anything will do, your personal medical information, where you work, where your children go to school, that sort of thing? (Obviously I'm not expecting you to actually do this, just trying to explain to you more clearly how ridiculous your demands of the OP are.)

By the way, (and this time I would like a reply), you didn't reply to my question when I asked you if you identify as trans. So do you? Or do you have a close family member who does? Such as a child, sibling or spouse?

Because I'm not starting thread topic about myself? And again it's not asking for a bunch of info from OP it's asking her particularly DSD given she thinks she is biologically female with XY chromosomes. She doesn't want to share, fine, but otherwise was the OP just to tell people to stop discussing their opinions on DSDs but also accept that those with XY chromosomes are biologically female.

By the way, (and this time I would like a reply), you didn't reply to my question when I asked you if you identify as trans. So do you? Or do you have a close family member who does? Such as a child, sibling or spouse

I must have completely missed this as I only saw you ask my sex and if I have a DSD. And nope I'm not trans, and I've never met a trans person if I'm honest. I'm female (biologically although apparently that doesn't have a defined meaning anymore but what I mean by it is XX ..)

DSDFury · 01/08/2025 11:48

melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 11:35

If your anonymous username has outed you beyond the point of deniability to someone who already knows the very scant information you've shared in your post I still fail to understand the issue. You're not the only person in their mid 50s either.

I think you're just being deliberately obtuse now. Generally the reason people don't want to be outed is because they may say things and share views on MN that they wouldn't say in real life, or they don't want to be linked with other threads.

That isn't the case here, as it happens, and I have had similar discussions in person with the friend who recognised me, but mathematically if you refer to something unusual on MN there's a greater chance of being recognised/outed.

If you try to deny either of the above points it will be obvious you're just being provocative for the sake of it.

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melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 11:47

DSDFury · 01/08/2025 11:42

Well as if to prove my point, that has nothing to do with what I was saying in the post you quoted.

But regarding your post, HRT induces secondary sex characteristics, it doesn't induce a uterus or a vagina.

I don't really want to continuing arguing in ever decreasing circles. As has already been said: 1) phenotype is also biology and 2) a Y chromosome does not equal male if the SRY gene or androgen receptors are faulty. That's my understanding/opinion, and also appears to be the opinion of people who know a lot more than I do.

If I mix flour, water and yeast in a bowl I've got the ingredients for a loaf of bread, but if the yeast isn't activated I get an entirely different result. It's still there, but it may as well not be.

Not everyone with a DSD being argued as biologically female has a uterus and a vagina. Those with CAIS don't have a uterus for example and their vagina is a blind pouch, requiring dialators. Would all those who have a DSD that requires HRT to induce puberty have an outwardly female phenotype without it? Probably not.

We all have different opinions on it hence it being discussed. You can't just say no one should discuss DSDs and accept your opinion that those with XY chromosomes should be called biologically female just because you consider yourself one and we can't comment our opinion because you don't want to disclose your particular DSD (fine!)

ErrolTheDragon · 01/08/2025 11:45

DSDFury · 01/08/2025 11:42

Well as if to prove my point, that has nothing to do with what I was saying in the post you quoted.

But regarding your post, HRT induces secondary sex characteristics, it doesn't induce a uterus or a vagina.

I don't really want to continuing arguing in ever decreasing circles. As has already been said: 1) phenotype is also biology and 2) a Y chromosome does not equal male if the SRY gene or androgen receptors are faulty. That's my understanding/opinion, and also appears to be the opinion of people who know a lot more than I do.

If I mix flour, water and yeast in a bowl I've got the ingredients for a loaf of bread, but if the yeast isn't activated I get an entirely different result. It's still there, but it may as well not be.

Yes.
if someone has problems understanding that, the fault lies with them.

DSDFury · 01/08/2025 11:42

melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 11:05

And as I said before, this issue comes up when there are people with MALE DSDs also claiming to be defined as female biological sex because of their phenotype while having to use HRT to induce that. It would be one thing if you thought these were totally separate issues and thought your chromosomes made you male but you're a woman, but when you also want to spin it that DSDs that only affects male chromosomes are biologically female you surely must understand how it's messy and gets discussed?

Well as if to prove my point, that has nothing to do with what I was saying in the post you quoted.

But regarding your post, HRT induces secondary sex characteristics, it doesn't induce a uterus or a vagina.

I don't really want to continuing arguing in ever decreasing circles. As has already been said: 1) phenotype is also biology and 2) a Y chromosome does not equal male if the SRY gene or androgen receptors are faulty. That's my understanding/opinion, and also appears to be the opinion of people who know a lot more than I do.

If I mix flour, water and yeast in a bowl I've got the ingredients for a loaf of bread, but if the yeast isn't activated I get an entirely different result. It's still there, but it may as well not be.

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ErrolTheDragon · 01/08/2025 11:42

DSDFury · 01/08/2025 10:43

Another one so fed up of talking about DSDs so why click on a thread about them?

You seem to have a tendency of subtly misrepresenting people so it's not immediately obvious, just enough to wrong-foot someone and/or to make an argument. Like your claim that I said everyone on the forum was very knowledgeable about DSDs when I actually said people on the Feminism board were knowledgeable about trans issues.

The poster you're referring to said they were fed up of DSDs being used in the trans debate, not that she was fed up talking about them. Not the same thing.

sometimes threads remind me of that Monty Python sketch about people who just want to have an argument. I’ve had some of my posts not very subtly misrepresented too. Not always worth engaging further beyond that point, let them have the dubious pleasure of ‘the last word’. At this stage I’ve lost track of what point some posters are really trying to make anyway!

OldCrone · 01/08/2025 11:36

melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 10:52

What exactly is being outed if they knew you have a DSD? And wonder what about? That you're fed up of DSDs being discussed? Still not making any sense tbh

If nothing is outing on an anonymous forum, why don't you just post lots of personal information about yourself? Anything will do, your personal medical information, where you work, where your children go to school, that sort of thing? (Obviously I'm not expecting you to actually do this, just trying to explain to you more clearly how ridiculous your demands of the OP are.)

By the way, (and this time I would like a reply), you didn't reply to my question when I asked you if you identify as trans. So do you? Or do you have a close family member who does? Such as a child, sibling or spouse?

melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 11:35

DSDFury · 01/08/2025 11:29

You know perfectly well that being "outed" means someone recognising a poster as someone they know in real life.

If your anonymous username has outed you beyond the point of deniability to someone who already knows the very scant information you've shared in your post I still fail to understand the issue. You're not the only person in their mid 50s either.

DSDFury · 01/08/2025 11:29

melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 10:52

What exactly is being outed if they knew you have a DSD? And wonder what about? That you're fed up of DSDs being discussed? Still not making any sense tbh

You know perfectly well that being "outed" means someone recognising a poster as someone they know in real life.

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melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 11:05

DSDFury · 01/08/2025 10:43

Another one so fed up of talking about DSDs so why click on a thread about them?

You seem to have a tendency of subtly misrepresenting people so it's not immediately obvious, just enough to wrong-foot someone and/or to make an argument. Like your claim that I said everyone on the forum was very knowledgeable about DSDs when I actually said people on the Feminism board were knowledgeable about trans issues.

The poster you're referring to said they were fed up of DSDs being used in the trans debate, not that she was fed up talking about them. Not the same thing.

And as I said before, this issue comes up when there are people with MALE DSDs also claiming to be defined as female biological sex because of their phenotype while having to use HRT to induce that. It would be one thing if you thought these were totally separate issues and thought your chromosomes made you male but you're a woman, but when you also want to spin it that DSDs that only affects male chromosomes are biologically female you surely must understand how it's messy and gets discussed?

melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 10:52

DSDFury · 01/08/2025 10:36

The incidence rate of anything doesn't make it outting

Of course it does. If someone I know in real life (who knows I have a DSD) reads this they're far more likely to wonder if it's me than if they read about a poster whose hobby is cycling and happen to know some cyclists.

And in fact that is precisely what has happened.

What exactly is being outed if they knew you have a DSD? And wonder what about? That you're fed up of DSDs being discussed? Still not making any sense tbh

DSDFury · 01/08/2025 10:50

TempestTost · 01/08/2025 02:03

Why do you think the legal issue has anything to do with the biological issue? I suspect it's a pragmatic approach, in the same way that if you find out the father named on your birth certificate isn't your biological father, nothing changes legally unless someone takes steps to have that done. Your genetic test is still going to show you are unrelated though.

I'm not at all convinced by the "phenotypically female" argument, either, given that there is no uterus or ovaries, and the vagina is a blind canal, all of which can be ascertained by touch or visually.

Besides, you can't understand the medical history of the disorder from that perspective, it's completely incoherent.

Why it's being characterised as unkind to say such a thing is completely bizarre, there is really nothing wrong with having a male DSD, any more than any other genetic disorder. The push to soft soap it is very strange.

And this business about Down's syndrome - it's completely backwards. In the same way that a person with Down's is still 100% a human being, despite having an atypical number of chromosomes due to a cell division error, a person with a missing bit of the Y gene is still fundamentally male.

In day to day life of course they live and function as women, but that's a decision made by society to best fit an unusual situation. It works for the people affected but also doesn't have any real harms to others, so it makes sense as a pragmatic approach.

...a person with a missing bit of the Y gene is still fundamentally male.

Are they? If it's precisely that "missing bit" that is responsible for making a foetus male? For forming the Wolffian duct and the subsequent stages of development. I don't really understand the logic there.

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DSDFury · 01/08/2025 10:43

melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 10:26

We don't actually know, hence the speculation.
Swyers is also considered a male DSD, as is CAIS, despite others being of the opinion those with CAIS are "biologically female" and we don't all agree with that. That's why they're discussed. You can't shut down all discussion because people don't agree with you and insist anyone who feels they need discussing on this issue when we are trying to define female for the purpose of women's spaces is arguing for a dicks out free for all in women's spaces. In fact, some could feel you're doing that by insisting everyone should agree that certain people with MALE chromosomes are female regardless of how they look.
Another one so fed up of talking about DSDs so why click on a thread about them? Unlese you're just fed up of people not automatically agreeing with you or fed up that you haven't formed an opinion omyet on DSDs youre uneducated about so just shut down discussion as a TRA talking point.

Another one so fed up of talking about DSDs so why click on a thread about them?

You seem to have a tendency of subtly misrepresenting people so it's not immediately obvious, just enough to wrong-foot someone and/or to make an argument. Like your claim that I said everyone on the forum was very knowledgeable about DSDs when I actually said people on the Feminism board were knowledgeable about trans issues.

The poster you're referring to said they were fed up of DSDs being used in the trans debate, not that she was fed up talking about them. Not the same thing.

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DSDFury · 01/08/2025 10:36

melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 09:57

The incidence of Swyers is c.1:80,000, so it's potentially an awful lot more outing than stating your DH's hobby is cycling.

The incidence rate of anything doesn't make it outting (I mean you're alluding to being so feminine no would know you have a DSD plus it's not like there's some register of those with Swyers so this is a weird point!). Swyers in particular has been a relevant talking point given it's suspected Imane Khelif may have Swyers so no it's not a given that a particular DSD means everyone is in agreement that someone with Swyers belongs in women's sports or that they all look so feminine they should go unchallenged in single sex spaces. No need to reveal further info but I think your point that DSDs and the trans issue aren't connected still makes little sense and given you are lumping all DSDs in together is bizarre as only some are "dragged" into this debate and it's because they're relevant and you aren't even providing your opinion as someone with a DSD on their relevance in sports or spaces, your post is basically just saying you "pass" really well so none of it's an issue for you, which again clashes with whether we are basing SSS on how feminine someone looks.

Anyway you're fed up with DSDs being part of the discussion on trans issues so it makes total sense to start a discussion about them where we regularly discuss DSDs as part of the trans debate.

The incidence rate of anything doesn't make it outting

Of course it does. If someone I know in real life (who knows I have a DSD) reads this they're far more likely to wonder if it's me than if they read about a poster whose hobby is cycling and happen to know some cyclists.

And in fact that is precisely what has happened.

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melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 10:26

ThatCyanCat · 01/08/2025 10:09

it's suspected Imane Khelif may have Swyers

See? This is always where the "but DSDs" people are going. Khelif does not have Swyers, he has 46 ARD XY. It's a male condition. He's a man with a masculinised body and male athletic advantage. He was incorrectly thought to be female at birth because this DSD leads to unusual external genitalia (they often don't look female but there's a tendency to assume that if it looks "wrong" then it's got to be a girl rather than a boy) and that's his misfortune. But he's a man, his DSD affects only men, men with this DSD don't belong in women's sports and once again for the peanut gallery, it doesn't have anything to do with being trans and it's not an argument for a dicks-out free-for-all among women and little girls.

Not surprised OP is sick of it, I have no DSD and I've had it up to here with this.

We don't actually know, hence the speculation.
Swyers is also considered a male DSD, as is CAIS, despite others being of the opinion those with CAIS are "biologically female" and we don't all agree with that. That's why they're discussed. You can't shut down all discussion because people don't agree with you and insist anyone who feels they need discussing on this issue when we are trying to define female for the purpose of women's spaces is arguing for a dicks out free for all in women's spaces. In fact, some could feel you're doing that by insisting everyone should agree that certain people with MALE chromosomes are female regardless of how they look.
Another one so fed up of talking about DSDs so why click on a thread about them? Unlese you're just fed up of people not automatically agreeing with you or fed up that you haven't formed an opinion omyet on DSDs youre uneducated about so just shut down discussion as a TRA talking point.

ThatCyanCat · 01/08/2025 10:09

it's suspected Imane Khelif may have Swyers

See? This is always where the "but DSDs" people are going. Khelif does not have Swyers, he has 46 ARD XY. It's a male condition. He's a man with a masculinised body and male athletic advantage. He was incorrectly thought to be female at birth because this DSD leads to unusual external genitalia (they often don't look female but there's a tendency to assume that if it looks "wrong" then it's got to be a girl rather than a boy) and that's his misfortune. But he's a man, his DSD affects only men, men with this DSD don't belong in women's sports and once again for the peanut gallery, it doesn't have anything to do with being trans and it's not an argument for a dicks-out free-for-all among women and little girls.

Not surprised OP is sick of it, I have no DSD and I've had it up to here with this.

melonsandlemonsandpears · 01/08/2025 09:57

DSDFury · 31/07/2025 19:17

Quotes from @melonsandlemonsandpears in bold below.

"OP apparently wanted to talk about DSDs until it was time to be specific."

No, I wanted to talk about DSDs until you joined the thread and changed the entire tone of it. I am not prepared to be bullied into revealing any further information.

"It's an anonymous forum, declaring if she has swyers or another isn't outting at all, what it does do in clarify how relevant to the trans debate her DSD has been."

The incidence of Swyers is c.1:80,000, so it's potentially an awful lot more outing than stating your DH's hobby is cycling.

"I mirrored OPs strange language given she made a lot of posts agreeing that those with CAIS are female while her OP is annoyed at those with DSDs being dragged into the trans discussion by TRAs and that this forum is very knowledgeable about DSDs..."

I did not say that "this forum is very knowledgeable about DSDs," I said, "I've read a mixture of things both well-informed and uninformed, both respectful and insulting."

Granted I did say that, "People on the Feminism board seem to be extremely knowledgeable" but I was referring to people's grasp of trans issues in general rather than DSDs specifically.

"I have an interest in the conveniently timed thread and OP going down a CAIS rabbit hole or posters assuring her she is a biological female when she either doesn't have CAIS or very badly researched it before starting this thread."

I have only referenced CAIS in five or six of my 30 posts, and those comments were all in direct response to other posters. I did not refer to CAIS until other posters started to.

Thank you to the majority of posters who have been supportive and respectful.

The incidence of Swyers is c.1:80,000, so it's potentially an awful lot more outing than stating your DH's hobby is cycling.

The incidence rate of anything doesn't make it outting (I mean you're alluding to being so feminine no would know you have a DSD plus it's not like there's some register of those with Swyers so this is a weird point!). Swyers in particular has been a relevant talking point given it's suspected Imane Khelif may have Swyers so no it's not a given that a particular DSD means everyone is in agreement that someone with Swyers belongs in women's sports or that they all look so feminine they should go unchallenged in single sex spaces. No need to reveal further info but I think your point that DSDs and the trans issue aren't connected still makes little sense and given you are lumping all DSDs in together is bizarre as only some are "dragged" into this debate and it's because they're relevant and you aren't even providing your opinion as someone with a DSD on their relevance in sports or spaces, your post is basically just saying you "pass" really well so none of it's an issue for you, which again clashes with whether we are basing SSS on how feminine someone looks.

Anyway you're fed up with DSDs being part of the discussion on trans issues so it makes total sense to start a discussion about them where we regularly discuss DSDs as part of the trans debate.

Merrymouse · 01/08/2025 09:41

They used the example of defining life and death in the SP tribunal. Death can be confirmed using somatic, circulatory and neurological criteria.

However, that does not mean that death is a nebulous concept and I can apply for my granny's pension on behalf of her ghost.

TheGentleButFirmMadonna · 01/08/2025 09:05

I didn't get how physically the disorder represents, do you have a Penis and vagina or just missing womb

ThatCyanCat · 01/08/2025 08:07

People don’t seem to have such strong, conflicting opinions on gravity

Of course not, there's no way to exploit it as a scientifically illiterate way of arguing that men should be able to get their knobs out in the ladies' and smash women's heads in in boxing rings and take their medals, but I'm sure the TRAs are working on it. Principle is the same, though.

Teora · 01/08/2025 03:50

I'm not at all convinced by the "phenotypically female" argument, either, given that there is no uterus or ovaries, and the vagina is a blind canal, all of which can be ascertained by touch or visually.

Unless you’re the person themselves, only if you’re a gynaecologist or possibly an intimate partner…or if you have x-ray vision @TempestTost??

The analogy with Down syndrome doesn’t work. Of course people with this syndrome or any other trisomy are human. There aren’t two forms, there is no binary here.

There are two sexes however, and chromosomes are just one of the things that needs to be looked at in cases of DSD. This is not controversial among medical experts as far as I am aware.

I don’t know that ‘a person with a missing bit of a Y chromosome is still fundamentally male’. Depends on the missing bit, doesn’t it? (This is not what happens in CAIS anyway. It’s caused by a mutation on the X chromosome usually, one that affects signalling from Y and thus development.)

Some of this is just about semantics. Is ‘chromosomally male’ always the same as ‘male’ in the context of DSDs? Even if critical signalling from Y is non-functional? Personally, I would think not.

CAIS is a 46,XY DSD. You can call that a male DSD if you want, but it’s mostly women living with this condition.

TempestTost · 01/08/2025 02:16

ThatCyanCat · 31/07/2025 15:28

Chromosomes, or karyotypes, don't define sex, precisely because there are variations. In over 99% of cases, it's XX female and XY male, but there are rare cases, as in Swyer, where it's different. Which is why your karyotype is not your biological sex. What matters is whether your body is formed around producing large or small gametes.

The sex screening being used now for athletics will test for the SRY gene that switches on male development (ie, starts the development of testes which then produce testosterone to masculinise the body) and is attached to the Y chromosome but occasionally doesn't work, resulting in an XY female. Basically, women with XY karyotypes will be found to be just that, XY women. But it won't pass XY men with the DSD that Semenya, Khelif and all the others have, who are fully male, potentially even fertile, and just have unusual external genitalia.

And as ever, it's totally irrelevant to trans people with no DSD, which is pretty much all of them.

Are you saying that those with dsds like Sewyer's or CAIS, have bodies formed around producing female gametes? I'm not sure how you would conclude that.

As a few people have pointed out, there is some reason to think there can be a sporting advantage in some of these instances, although it's not well understood.