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Peggie case: controversial opinion

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SecretNameforMN · 22/07/2025 11:57

I realise I will probably be lambasted for this and be forced to change my username, but I am going to say it anyway because I genuinely believe it.

I've been a feminist for over 50 years; my entire adult life, in fact.

I am posting because I want to discover whether any other woman, even just ONE, agrees with me.

I have followed the Peggie case very closely and am struck my the fact that it is WOMEN who have taken sides with Upton and against Peggie, who coddled him and suspended her and are now beclowning themselves during their court testimony, as well as exposing their anti-female bias. AFAIK everyone who has given testimony against her is, sadly, female. It horrifies me of course to see women in power siding with men against other women.

I have come to suspect that this debacle would not be happening if all the people in power (those who enabled Upton to use the nurse's changing rooms and those who suspended and who have publicly turned against Sandie Peggie) had been male instead of female.

I suspect if all these positions had been held by males they would not have been driven by the social conditioning to "be kind" to a man who, having had no surgery and not even bothering to get a GRC was in effect just a cross-dresser. I suspect they would have worried about the optics of being men punishing a woman for not wanting to undress in front of someone they knew to be a heterosexual, genitally intact male. I suspect they would have checked the legal position more thoroughly, and, lastly, I don't think a married man with a senior position in the NHS would stand up in court and say he didn't know if he was male or female.

Please don't respond if you are just going to pile on an avalanche of vitriol onto me. I am not looking for that: I am just wanting to find out if there are any other women on here who suspect there may be even a modicum of possiblity that my suspicions may have good cause.

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orangegato · 23/07/2025 13:18

I agree OP, it’s depressing but true. Nothing like a determined handmaiden. Males struggle to win arguments on this as they can’t claim to understand a woman’s perspective of being alarmed at male presence in private spaces, but these women are fully captured and determined in their disgusting disregard for their fellow ACTUAL woman.

CapeGooseberry · 23/07/2025 12:59

I suspect if all these positions had been held by males

Males like Dr Upton?

hamstersarse · 23/07/2025 12:32

VoulezVouz · 23/07/2025 02:09

Interesting way to stereotype women on a feminist board.

Indeed, it is interesting that this stereotype exists

Women cannot be immune from criticism just for being women

brusselsprout5 · 23/07/2025 10:11

I think you’re spot on!

Teribus21 · 23/07/2025 08:52

Dumbo12 · 22/07/2025 18:22

Bring back girl only schools, girls are then educated that their intellect matters, that they matter, that their worth is not dependent on pleasing men. The biggest disservice to women and girls was the insistence on mixed sex secondary schools, imo.

I agree. Girls are having to put up with far too much in mixed sex schools and are increasingly unsafe. I believe there has been research showing that girls do better in single sex while boys do better in mixed sex so no prizes for guessing why we have mixed sex. I was lucky enough to go to a girls’ school and I thank my lucky stars I didn’t have to deal with the exposure to porn, assaults and general misogyny from young boys prevalent in schools today.

NebulousSupportPostcard · 23/07/2025 08:27

Fife has notably not sent any men apart from Upton to give evidence on the substantive issues. (There will be a man from IT appearing in court, but that seems to be someone from Information Security to verify that the search and disclosure process was thorough.)

We've heard the names of senior male staff involved but they have put mainly women up to answer for the debacle.

TomPinch · 23/07/2025 07:11

SecretNameforMN · 22/07/2025 15:30

I'm wondering how it would have panned out if Nurse Peggie had approached a male administrator, who, by dint of his senior position, won't have been a woke teenager but an ordinary sort of managerial, perhaps mid-40s, married-with-kids sort of bloke, and told him there's a man in my changing room.

If he had replied that Dr Upton was allowed to be there, she could them have put him on the spot by asking him if HE would consider it acceptable to go into a female change room and watch women undress. How about a male getting his wife or daughter alone in such a room? He would immediately have seen the absurdity and maybe things would not have progressed to a confrontation, suspension and court case.

Maybe.

He would probably have had to abide by the guidance that would have been issued by HR, which itself would have been based on advice, presumably legal advice, that BU was entitled to use the room, on the basis that it was the changing room for women, ie anyone who identified as one.

I would love to know what lawyers have been advising about the Equality Act all this time.

GeneralPeter · 23/07/2025 04:32

I’m not a woman but I do agree with you.

If I may add a controversial opinion of my own: it’s a cop out to say “social conditioning made us do it”.

Yes, but just like violence in men, social conditioning is not the only cause. There are deep-seated differences in trait distribution between men and women that have been evolved into us over hundreds of thousands of years.

Plenty of the harms of the trans issue come from male-typical and female-typical behaviour. The violence and entitlement of males and the social enforcement of females.

miraxxx · 23/07/2025 03:17

SamiSnail · 22/07/2025 17:48

I haven't RTFT but it's a little more complex than that. Females are socialised as children that they should prioritise males. And because of men ruling the world and controlling the narrative, women and girls feel indebted. Blaming women for this is like victim-blaming. Women and girls are brainwashed. Brainwashed to be on their hands and knees for men. The most violently hatefully toxic and aggressive advocates of trans ideology from experience, have been males. And when you have that around you, as a female, it's hard to break out of that. Especially if you want to survive.

I do not quite agree with this facile explanation that is rolled out all too often. Trans Ideology has taken root not with the most oppressed women of the world but the most privileged in the west who often pride themselves as the most openminded and progressive. It was led by feminist organisations and some of the most well known intellectuals of the feminist movement in the affluent west where women are least likely to be subjugated and brainwashed. Most of the feminist organisations in western universities and NGOs are in thrall to the trans cause, as are female unionists and political party leaders. The women fighting back were and still are a minority of the elite feminist leadership and a lot are less well-known and less-credentialed ordinary women. When social contagions take place, women, especially young women, play a prominent role in spreading them. Many of the GC women were peaked when they saw the huge numbers of young girls transing, a social phenomenon unknown before 2010. Social contagions acquire momentum when first elites adopt new ideas or trends and then a critical "mass" follow. Western feminism itself with its slogans and gender theory has played a part in this mess.

VoulezVouz · 23/07/2025 02:09

hamstersarse · 22/07/2025 12:53

I have developed a disdain for the 'progressive professional woman'

They are very left wing moralisers about a lot of topics that do not impact them directly and use the issues to make themselves appear 'kind' - which of course they can afford to do because as above, these issues have no direct impact on them personally

Trans
Climate Change
Palestine
Ukraine
BLM

Interesting way to stereotype women on a feminist board.

TempestTost · 23/07/2025 00:53

PollyNomial · 23/07/2025 00:04

Potentially a very brave accusation to make about many posters here...

This is a statistical error, you can make a true statement about a group, but can't just apply that same statement to individuals in the group.

TempestTost · 23/07/2025 00:40

ArabellaScott · 22/07/2025 18:46

Many men see it as 'not their issue'. That can sometimes be from a shrugging 'don't care, doesn't affect me', but I'd say it's also often from a 'women's issue, not getting involved' standpoint.

Given the state of men who call themselves feminists, I'm not sure that's all that surprising, either.

However, if I were a man, I would be looking at it from the standpoint of authoritarianism, freedom of speech, institutional coercion, social cohesion, absurdity, and yes, probably from considering the women in my life and children.

I can say this with great confidence because I'm non binary, which means my brain has womanly parts and manly parts, so I can ask it things.

It's interesting that this is in fact the direction a lot of the men who have become involved with opposing gender ideology started from.

It's also the direction I started from, probably because I'm non-binary too😜.

TempestTost · 23/07/2025 00:38

SionnachRuadh · 22/07/2025 18:39

Well, the male style when you've got a problem with someone is direct confrontation. Which may or may not mean physical aggression, but it brings the issue to a head.

The female style is covert undermining, ostracism and mobbing. Let's add on women trying to win social capital by proving how nice they are when they shun the sinner.

I've known men who would have a shouting match, blow off steam and resolve their differences. I've known women who would be nice as pie to your face while covertly undermining you for literally years.

You can't really adopt the male confrontational style in a modern professional setting, especially not in a female-dominated professional setting. Which means, if you're not careful, that the female undermining style can become the default.

Also there's a huge class element to this, which is arguably just as important as the sex difference.

Re the class element, I suspect the number one correlation for adherence to gender ideology is university education.

And these days more women go to university than men. And in particular, in the humanities and social sciences which are where this crap is promulgated.

Though that doesn't tell us whether women are picking this stuff up from the universities, or the universities are prone to it because they have such a preponderance of women.

oldnurseretirednow · 23/07/2025 00:13

I think if you haven't worked in the NHS you wouldn't realise that bullying and power games that have always existed. There are more things that can be used to bully people now, and gender ideology is one that offers opportunities. and social media raises awareness. The nursing hierarchy perpetuates this culture, midwives are even worse IME ( I was harangued in the middle of the labour ward for having the temerity to take time off sick following a miscarriage at 13 weeks). Then there has always been the Drs vs nurses culture which usually means nurses get blamed for everything.
Having spoken to friends and relatives working in Teaching, Civil Service, Local Government, the work environment seems to be exactly the same.

ErrolTheDragon · 23/07/2025 00:10

PollyNomial · 23/07/2025 00:04

Potentially a very brave accusation to make about many posters here...

What, that we’re prone to groupthink or that many of us are contrarian old trouts?
nah… we’re not all old.

PollyNomial · 23/07/2025 00:04

DustyWindowsills · 22/07/2025 13:57

In my experience, women are prone to groupthink for the sake of social acceptance. I see it as a tendency that occurs in certain contexts, e.g. school friendship groups, workplaces, etc., and it's not true of all women. Like many here at MN, I'm a miserable old contrarian trout.

The men in my life are less eager to conform, so are less prone to this. On the other hand, men often don't understand why gender issues are such a big deal for women.

Potentially a very brave accusation to make about many posters here...

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 23/07/2025 00:03

A lot of it was to do with status in my opinion ... backing a consultant over a nurse. I think also, they had no clue, of what to do in this situation.

ErrolTheDragon · 22/07/2025 23:56

TempestTost · 22/07/2025 23:52

I don't think there are as many men supporting it. Any polls etc I've seen suggest not.

It’s a somewhat lower percentage but there’s quite a lot of vociferous male supporters, many in influential positions.

TempestTost · 22/07/2025 23:52

Grammarnut · 22/07/2025 23:20

I think you might have a point except that evidence is against you. There are as many men supporting this junk as women - though possibly from a different standpoint, that of male entitlement.
Many, many women are standing against this regressive ideology. Those who call themselves feminists and support it are deluding themselves.

I don't think there are as many men supporting it. Any polls etc I've seen suggest not.

SunshinePlease24 · 22/07/2025 23:32

I agree OP.

Two words. Nicola Sturgeon.

A prime example.

Grammarnut · 22/07/2025 23:20

I think you might have a point except that evidence is against you. There are as many men supporting this junk as women - though possibly from a different standpoint, that of male entitlement.
Many, many women are standing against this regressive ideology. Those who call themselves feminists and support it are deluding themselves.

TempestTost · 22/07/2025 23:14

DustyWindowsills · 22/07/2025 22:43

Try to imagine a heterosexual man presenting as a heterosexual man who acquires this weird harem-like collection of women ...

I knew one of those decades ago when I was a student. The most toxic person I've ever met. Even as an undergraduate, he had the lecturers (male and female) wrapped around his little finger. He went on to have a glittering career in academia.

I've met a few people like that. Very charismatic, and in one case, absolutely a genius. But very damaged and damaging people.

TempestTost · 22/07/2025 23:12

I do think that men seem less likely to fall prey to gender ideology, and less inclined in general to try and enforce social conformity.

Certainly my own experience has been in my last two employments (same sector), a female boss of about 32 massively into anything identity politics and especially gender ideology, who subjected us all to things like anti-bias training, and currently a 60ish man where I have no ideas about his thought on any of it but he hasn't done any of the things that makes me think he does, now does he seem to have any desire to dictate what staff think.

I will say one horrifically generalised and controversial thing, which is that ime a lot of workplaces with nurses can be kind of socially toxic, in a high school kind of way. ANd of course a lot of nurses are women. There is the chicken and egg question there, but it's something i've noticed enough to take note.

DustyWindowsills · 22/07/2025 23:03

SionnachRuadh · 22/07/2025 22:49

Yeah, I think a man presenting as a man would need to have some extraordinary charisma to get away with this.

A man presenting as a woman seems to acquire it ex officio.

The only thing I can think of is, it's like those women who collect gay male friends who they treat as purse puppies, but with the power dynamic reversed. And those women are much less likely to bring it into the workplace.

Yes, I think presenting as a woman gives them an extra glamour - in the archaic sense of the word.

SecretNameforMN · 22/07/2025 22:58

SamiSnail · 22/07/2025 17:48

I haven't RTFT but it's a little more complex than that. Females are socialised as children that they should prioritise males. And because of men ruling the world and controlling the narrative, women and girls feel indebted. Blaming women for this is like victim-blaming. Women and girls are brainwashed. Brainwashed to be on their hands and knees for men. The most violently hatefully toxic and aggressive advocates of trans ideology from experience, have been males. And when you have that around you, as a female, it's hard to break out of that. Especially if you want to survive.

In that case women should not be placed in positions of authority.

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