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Girls Using Walking Sticks

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Arran2024 · 08/07/2025 18:57

I saw a post about this on X this morning. Apparently it is a trend.

Anyway, I went into town this afternoon and sure enough, I saw a number of young women with walking sticks. None of them looked like they were leaning hard on their stick, just kind of walking along like it was a big umbrella.

Is anyone else seeing this?

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AnotherAngryAcademic · 08/07/2025 20:52

EDS is a genetic disorder, and the diagnostic criteria were tightened in 2017. One cannot simply self diagnose a genetic disorder.

POTs/MCAS are being diagnosed more often, and mostly in women, since 2020. They are common post viral sequelae of Covid-19 infection. (And, frankly, the consequences of Covid-19 will continue to increase as long as public health policy continues to ignore it.) They are real and debilitating.

I think it would be very unfortunate if prominent GC commentators start to pass comment on disabled people, especially at the moment when disabled people are under significant pressure due to discussions about disability benefits and cuts. Disabled women in particular have been central to the campaign for single sex spaces.

DOI I use a walking stick. (I do not, however, have any self ID diagnoses, and I don't have POTS or similar.)

Teenybub · 08/07/2025 20:50

We’ve had a couple in the school I work at, it tends to be the “quirky” students. In one case we were under the impression that Mum was trying to find something wrong with her child for what we can only imagine was a benefits scam, during school hours she couldn’t walk without it but out of school she played sport absolutely fine at a competitive level and had no problems running about. The other had always been quite attention seeking and had been caught out exaggerating and making up stories about her life and health repeatedly. Other than this I’ve not seen any other girls with walking sticks.

Coatsoff42 · 08/07/2025 20:44

Arran2024 · 08/07/2025 19:12

No. It is about young girls using a disability aid as a coping strategy when they go out. Why are they doing this? Maybe it gives them a weapon too?

I thought maybe it was for the swagger. Like in a cabaret with a top hat and some fish net tights.

Toseland · 08/07/2025 20:38

Funny trends these days... walking sticks... asexuality... I wonder who actually are the trendsetters....

RaininSummer · 08/07/2025 20:24

I haven't seen this trend in my area. I work with young people, many of who are autistic and some are on the self identifying route but none have had sticks yet.

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 08/07/2025 20:15

BedlingtonWillow · 08/07/2025 20:06

They’re not but maybe they don’t have to tut because surely they must know invisible disability is a thing.

Also plain rudeness is a bigger thing.

Keeptoiletssafe · 08/07/2025 20:14

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 08/07/2025 20:13

My point stands.

So does mine.

TimeForTeaAndToast · 08/07/2025 20:14

Isn't it caused by women taking testosterone? It's really bad for their bones?

DamsonGoldfinch · 08/07/2025 20:14

holysmokee · 08/07/2025 20:13

As someone with a physical disability affecting my joints, who has used sticks in the past, I do not understand this at all but I think it’s better than when I was growing up at least.

I hated using any mobility aids, showing any signs of being different and now it’s not only acceptable but praised? I think there’s something positive about that in a twisted way.

Pretending you have a disability doesn’t do any favours for disabled people

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 08/07/2025 20:13

Keeptoiletssafe · 08/07/2025 20:09

Epilepsy is a disability. It doesn’t need the sarcastic quote marks.

My point stands.

holysmokee · 08/07/2025 20:13

As someone with a physical disability affecting my joints, who has used sticks in the past, I do not understand this at all but I think it’s better than when I was growing up at least.

I hated using any mobility aids, showing any signs of being different and now it’s not only acceptable but praised? I think there’s something positive about that in a twisted way.

limescale · 08/07/2025 20:13

BedlingtonWillow · 08/07/2025 20:06

They’re not but maybe they don’t have to tut because surely they must know invisible disability is a thing.

As is rude people pushing in the bus queue to get a seat.
It’s not at all common for someone to need a seat at the back of the bus.

MaloryJones · 08/07/2025 20:12

Well fancy that ..
I am bang on Trend . .
Started to use a walking stick due to foot drop mainly .. Its a dark red one.

NoviceScoutMum · 08/07/2025 20:12

My sibling is 25 and uses a stick. Was diagnosed with arthritis in both knees and ankles at 4 yeses old. Is that sufficient? I'll be sure to let them know they're on trend.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 08/07/2025 20:11

PatienceTried · 08/07/2025 19:13

right. I’m getting one. That’ll knock the trend on the head where I live

I actually have a cane that I don't use. I might start using it now 😂

Keeptoiletssafe · 08/07/2025 20:09

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Epilepsy is a disability. It doesn’t need the sarcastic quote marks.

DustyWindowsills · 08/07/2025 20:09

GirlOverboard123 · 08/07/2025 20:03

Yeah, it's the whole chronically ill/neurodivergent trend that's been big for the last few years. You see a lot of these people on TikTok. They usually have at least four or five of the following:

Walking stick, sunflower lanyard, POTS, fibromyalgia, ADHD, non-binary, EDS, autism, C-PTSD, emotional support dog, PIP, dungarees, brightly dyed hair, misophonia.

Of course not every young person with a walking stick is a spoonie, before anyone jumps on me.

OMG I do actually have misophonia! Now I need to get a sturdy walking stick, so I can savagely beat anybody who dares to munch an apple in my presence.

BedlingtonWillow · 08/07/2025 20:06

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They’re not but maybe they don’t have to tut because surely they must know invisible disability is a thing.

GirlOverboard123 · 08/07/2025 20:03

Yeah, it's the whole chronically ill/neurodivergent trend that's been big for the last few years. You see a lot of these people on TikTok. They usually have at least four or five of the following:

Walking stick, sunflower lanyard, POTS, fibromyalgia, ADHD, non-binary, EDS, autism, C-PTSD, emotional support dog, PIP, dungarees, brightly dyed hair, misophonia.

Of course not every young person with a walking stick is a spoonie, before anyone jumps on me.

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 08/07/2025 19:56

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borntobequiet · 08/07/2025 19:56

PatienceTried · 08/07/2025 19:13

right. I’m getting one. That’ll knock the trend on the head where I live

I’ve been using one for years now, always ahead of the curve, me. (Osteoarthritis 🙁).

I did see off a herd of curious bullocks with it while out walking, though, very useful in that respect.

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 08/07/2025 19:55

Girls want to be different from the rest.
Girls copy other girls.
It was always like this.

TheMemoryOfLiseYates · 08/07/2025 19:38

I had to start using a walking stick in the last 2 years due to an injury leading to a diagnosed disability (not POTS). I do need to lean on it heavily after just a few minutes of standing and walking. Being ‘too young’ to need a mobility aid, I’ve had a few encounters with disbelieving people when in public. Other young people I know who have need of a stick are afraid to use one because of this recent stereotype.

zanahoria · 08/07/2025 19:38

PatienceTried · 08/07/2025 19:13

right. I’m getting one. That’ll knock the trend on the head where I live

I am going straight for the walking frame

Kimwestonhelpless · 08/07/2025 19:26

What's pots please?