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Pink digestives and LGBTQ+++

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WhatterySquash · 04/07/2025 15:13

I was just in Sainsbury's and there was a staff member with one of those little stalls where they give you samples to try. It was limited-edition digestives with pink raspberry icing. But as it was in the chilled / deli aisle, at first glance I thought it was some kind of ham (don't like ham), until I looked again and realised it was a digestive and stopped to have one.

So I was chatting about this to the guy "I almost gave them a miss, thought it was ham" etc and he said oh that's nothing, I've been getting grief because people think they are LGBTQ/queer/pride digestives. Apparently customers have been telling him they're sick of everything being "prided" and digestives don't need to be LGBT.

In fact they have nothing to do with pride, it's some kind of anniversary celebration and totally unrelated. But it seemed like such an indication that the general public are so sick of LGBTQ being bigged up and forced onto everything all the time. I don't think most people are homophobic and they probably have no issue with LGBT rights existing. But I think most people have a natural sense of fairness and don't get why this one thing is constantly being pushed above all else.

But there must be people who are doing the pushing, in every organisation and institution that does do things like this (aside from the fact that they actually weren't in this case) - why don't these people realise it's actually counterproductive and is really starting to piss people off? Even if you are the most enthusiastic TRA in the world, turning LGBT (or just T in some cases) rights into something that is constantly in everyone's face and is treated preferentially compared to other groups, isn't helping your cause.

Just wondering how long it will take for them to grasp this – or if maybe they don't care.

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MarieDeGournay · 05/07/2025 09:50

Wow. Just wow. I'm speechless - pink Jammie Dodgers [I see I've been misspelling it Jammy - obvs haven't paused to read the packaging before ripping it open with my teeth😄].

And a strawberry-flavoured jammy bit? I soooo prefer strawberry flavour to raspberry - is my one little reservation about JDs, the raspberry bit in the middle..

But are they available in Ireland? will I have to make trips up to Norn Iron like my feminist foremothers did in the 1970s - but they were only bringing back boring old contraceptives to challenge the restrictive laws in the Republic, I'd be travelling back with something much better: pink Jammie Dodgers.

You have changed the course of my life Fgfgfg!💕BiscuitGrin

SammyScrounge · 05/07/2025 02:41

TempestTost · 05/07/2025 01:14

I do think over-saturation is affecting how people feel about it.

And that's totally apart from any other more substantive complaints people have. I think any one cause, if it was pushed so heavily, would start to annoy people.

I also think a lot of people are more generally tired of unrelated moral causes being tagged on to unrelated or marginally related things like grocery shopping, buying razor blades, and so on. Because it seems to amount to moral lectures from big companies trying to sell us stuff, and why would anyone need any kind of moral lecture from those people.

And I think many people are feeling like maybe they don't want to think about political causes all their waking hours. Sometimes they would like to not be worried about things and just pick which jam they want.

It's like people going on about religion 24/7, even if you are interested somewhat, it's too much.

Good post
😘

MistyGreenAndBlue · 05/07/2025 01:27

GreenFriedTomato · 04/07/2025 23:35

Your husband is perfectly safe. And I don't share my Giant Jaffa's 😁 you can have the recipe though

suzannebakes.com/giant-jaffa-cake/#recipe

Thank you. I shall forward it to him.
😁

Whynotjustengageyourbrain · 05/07/2025 01:21

I'm clearly oblivious, I notice no abundance of pride things. I would assume special edition pink was in support of breast cancer!

simsbustinoutmimi · 05/07/2025 01:17

I agree wholeheartedly. Fed up of the constant festivals and some of the people who attend them in fetish gear and bring their kids. Also it’s not just pride month, the town I live in has another festival at the start of August and the local college is covered in rainbow flags all year long as a permanent fixture.

idgaf if people like D or V. Or neither. But there is no
need to go on and on about it.

TempestTost · 05/07/2025 01:14

I do think over-saturation is affecting how people feel about it.

And that's totally apart from any other more substantive complaints people have. I think any one cause, if it was pushed so heavily, would start to annoy people.

I also think a lot of people are more generally tired of unrelated moral causes being tagged on to unrelated or marginally related things like grocery shopping, buying razor blades, and so on. Because it seems to amount to moral lectures from big companies trying to sell us stuff, and why would anyone need any kind of moral lecture from those people.

And I think many people are feeling like maybe they don't want to think about political causes all their waking hours. Sometimes they would like to not be worried about things and just pick which jam they want.

It's like people going on about religion 24/7, even if you are interested somewhat, it's too much.

Enough4me · 04/07/2025 23:51

I'd be suspicious of pink or rainbow freebies at the moment because marketing makes shops money.
Valentines day, mother's day, pink rainbow month... kerching!
The difference with pink rainbow month is it goes on for too long. Also it is based on nonsense (no longer recognises inclusion and respect for homosexual people and instead gives control to special men)

GreenFriedTomato · 04/07/2025 23:35

Your husband is perfectly safe. And I don't share my Giant Jaffa's 😁 you can have the recipe though

suzannebakes.com/giant-jaffa-cake/#recipe

MistyGreenAndBlue · 04/07/2025 23:30

GreenFriedTomato · 04/07/2025 23:26

I love making my own giant Jaffa Cake Cakes 👍

Are you trying to steal my husband? 😂
I think that's probably his dream. A giant jaffa cake

DustyWindowsills · 04/07/2025 23:30

Needmorelego · 04/07/2025 23:20

Also the manufacturers turned up to court with a massive regular cake sized Jaffa Cake and said "still wanna insist it's a biscuit?"
Or words to that effect. Apparently 😂

In breaking news, the London Biscuit Museum (yes, there is one) has had to pull an exhibition on Jaffa Cakes, after receiving a letter from McVities. 😂

www.standard.co.uk/news/london/london-biscuit-museum-pulls-jaffa-cake-exhibit-mcvitie-b1236170.html

GreenFriedTomato · 04/07/2025 23:26

I love making my own giant Jaffa Cake Cakes 👍

MistyGreenAndBlue · 04/07/2025 23:24

Needmorelego · 04/07/2025 23:20

Also the manufacturers turned up to court with a massive regular cake sized Jaffa Cake and said "still wanna insist it's a biscuit?"
Or words to that effect. Apparently 😂

Ok. I didn't know THAT 😂

potpourree · 04/07/2025 23:22

I see rainbows on everything a bit like how I see Christmas stuff in late August... a cynical attempt at forced fun that sort of makes actually appreciating the message or enjoying the sentiment feel like a bit of a chore (yay gay rights, but then I'm reminded of all the homophobia that's done in the name of both gender stuff and religion and plain old hostility).

It's definitely worth fighting to have gay history and stories heard, as a reminder of where we've been, but having a set month where every corporation dutifully sells more plastic landfill for it means it just becomes background noise. Homophobes aren't going to have their minds changed by it - not that that's the sole point, of course but I wonder how things could be changed up.

youreactinglikeafunmum · 04/07/2025 23:22

Isnt that what everyone says about a group thats trending

Black lives matter
Gays
Transwomen
Now Palestinians

That's just the way people are, miserable, and think that no-one is talking about their particular suffering so why should they care

Edit - i thought you were talking about pink wafers 😭 which id see more as a lgbtq+ biscuit - and now I'm craving one

GreenFriedTomato · 04/07/2025 23:20

What a wonderful thread. I'll be heading to Sainsbury's soon to try out these lovely sounding biscuits. I also need to stock up on gay bacon (my dentist hates me!)

As it happens I was in Aldi yesterday and I spotted the section of tote bags under the till area. All other designs had sold out apart from a big pile of Pride edition tote bags (no takers? )
I found myself wondering if they had received complaints. Not from the general 'fed up of Pride' public but from T organisations. The design was just an old fashioned rainbow. Get with the times Aldi! It's supposed to be the all inclusive progress flag now

Needmorelego · 04/07/2025 23:20

MistyGreenAndBlue · 04/07/2025 23:05

Yes. The deciding factor was apparently that they start soft and go hard when stale. Like cakes do.
Biscuits do the opposite. 🍪

Also the manufacturers turned up to court with a massive regular cake sized Jaffa Cake and said "still wanna insist it's a biscuit?"
Or words to that effect. Apparently 😂

RedToothBrush · 04/07/2025 23:16

KateBAnd3 · 04/07/2025 16:16

That's interesting, since I think Sainburys has been particularly OTT with the Pride Month signage over the past few years. It's always struck me as extremely odd that someone's sexuality would be remotely relevant to where they chose to buy their groceries.

I even passed a new housing development the other day near where I live (rural Sussex) which had Pride colours and Pride-inclusive language on the advertising boards outside. I often wonder how members of the LGBTQ+ community feel about their identities being used in such a blatantly commercial way.

It's always struck me as extremely odd that someone's sexuality would be remotely relevant to where they chose to buy their groceries.

Sainsburys Regent Road, Salford. Known to some locals as 'Gay Sainsburys'. As in 'I'm just going up Gay Sainsburys to buy a pizza'.

Just saying...

MistyGreenAndBlue · 04/07/2025 23:05

Needmorelego · 04/07/2025 20:18

CAKE !
This was decided in a Court of Law.
Which is just so British 😂🇬🇧

Yes. The deciding factor was apparently that they start soft and go hard when stale. Like cakes do.
Biscuits do the opposite. 🍪

BertieBotts · 04/07/2025 22:54

I'm not saying that objecting or being fed up of rainbow flags is homophobic. (Although of course some people may object because of homophobia). I think my point is that the whole "LGBT is being forced into everything" is an idea which seems very driven by online algorithms/bots/culture war type ideas where there is no possible shade of grey, everyone has to be black and white on a side, we are normal/right and the other side is crazy/evil/stupid.

I'm no fan of corporate platitudes but I didn't get the sense that the post was about corporate platitudes specifically.

MarieDeGournay · 04/07/2025 22:39

Fourlegsandatail · 04/07/2025 18:20

Well a digestive was the first biscuit thrown at Stonewall….

This wins the internet today Fourlegsandatail - brilliant😂

MarieDeGournay · 04/07/2025 22:32

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 04/07/2025 18:10

You are kidding, @MarieDeGournay, right?!? How can you only just have discovered jammy dodgers?!?

Not kidding! I'm Irish and we didn't have them when I was a nipper. Sad but true. Still, youse didn't have Mikado biscuits, did you, so I suppose it all evens outBiscuit
Both Mikado and Jammy Dodgers allow for deconstruction and consumption of disparate elements independently of each other.
Aka 'playing with your food'😃

SpicedHerbalTea · 04/07/2025 22:30

I’ve found my people!

And yes I’m completely fed up of having the progress flag in my face every time I open my Tesco app.

TheCatsTongue · 04/07/2025 22:25

There is a backlash because it's now part of the establishment and the general feeling that governments are directing people to be part of it.

The rainbow was a symbol of fighting against authorities who kept on harassing gay establishments in New York (but not those owned by the mafia), now those in authority fly the flag and threaten punishment for people who take it down etc.

The counter-culture and anti-establishment thing to do now is to be against it. That's why many of the original gay activists rally against Pride today, because they're still going with the counter-culture.

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